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What Constitutes A Great Kiss?

PassionTraveler posted on Nov 28, 2007 | views: 685 | Tags: kissing, kisses, kiss, love, passion, romance, hoping
A few weeks ago, I had a date with a man who thought his writhing snake-like tongue rammed down my throat was sexy. (Shivers with uncontrollable willies).

But last night, I may have had one of the most passionate kisses on record from someone who has just moved into first place as the best kisser to date in my experience. My knees are still quivering.

So I want to hear from the rest of you, man and woman alike...

What makes a kiss memorable?

What do you consider to be proper technique to be a good kisser? I want the good, the bad and the noteworthy. I also would love to know how important the kiss is for each of you in relation to other aspects of relationships, sex and romance.


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  • PassionTraveler said on Nov 28, 2007....
    My answer as to what I personally think makes a great kiss and the techniques that make for a great kisser to come later. :P

    PT
  • silverwhisper said on Nov 28, 2007....
    for me, a kiss, like any other passionate act, is an expression of what you're thinking/feeling. so there are really 2 ways in which a kiss is great to me: most loving and most sexy. :>

    accordingly, for me, it's hard to generalize about technique. um...no slobbering, i guess? :>

    ed
  • destinydiva said on Nov 28, 2007....
    I am possibly addicted to first kisses....  you know the kind like in the film...where you hover... kinda do you dont you moment ...then kiss..... hmmmmmmmmmmm

    I am in a strange relationship right now, we are really good friends but occassionally we slip in to dating mode...so those kinda kisses occur everytime :-)

    oooohh so do we get to hear details of mr number 1 kisser???  :-) xx
  • PassionTraveler said on Nov 28, 2007....
    :) Soon destiny, soon. But not just yet! ;)

    I'm still swooning and want to savor it for a bit. I will say it was a marathon make out session... a good several hours of kissing and a bit of groping. But the specs to come later. :P

    Ed, I do agree. I love that feverish hunger that comes from a really passionate kiss... or any passionate act for that matter.

    PT
  • anonymous said on Nov 28, 2007....
    i would say that the long, slow, wet, lingering kiss of passion is my favorite, but since it's been such a long time since i tried my lips out, i really don't know anymore. it still sounds good though :-) oh, this was about you pt, sorry, YOU GO GIRL!
  • travelr712 said on Nov 28, 2007....
    pt - that last comment was by me. i don't know why sc stuck it in as anon! sc has been going a little whacky lately, hasn't it?
  • evil_twin said on Nov 28, 2007....
    I like slow kisses, where you really use your lips. There is nothing less hot to me than a chick who just opens her mouth and starts licking my tonsils. I feel like she's trying to swallow my face. That's not to say a little tongue isn't necessary. But you have to know how to use it.

    -evil_twin LA
  • travelr712 said on Nov 28, 2007....
    et - i agree, i always like a woman who knows how to use her tongue... ;-)
  • lampshade said on Nov 28, 2007....
    I have so little experience, so to me, any kiss is good.  I'm enjoying reading what everyone else is saying...I need to learn this stuff.
  • PassionTraveler said on Nov 28, 2007....
    I love it... every last one of your posts... Okay, as promised, here's what made my kiss last night so great!

    • ... I really love when a kiss starts slowly and very softly, with only the lips brushing
    • ... the more feverish the pitch, the more pressure the lips take on
    • ... but still no tongue
    • ... the lips just parting a bit more each time, gradually.
    • ... At some point, tongues start to explore, but very timidly, only a gentle inquiry into the slight parting of the teeth, and it retreats again.
    • ... then the kisses move away from the lips and to other parts of the face like the chin, cheek, eyes, forehead, and neck, then move back to the lips again and start over very softly again.
    • ... the next tongue exploration is mutual and a bit bolder until both are mutually comfortable with the amount of tongue exploration without it becoming overly wet, or battering.
    • ... During this time, both may start to explore each other's bodies, but without rushing comfort levels, and not so eagerly that either one feels pressured into more before ready.
    • ... Finally the best part is parting.... taking a few moments to breathe, gaze into each other's eyes, stroke each other's face, only to be inspired to start the whole process over again.

    THAT is the type of kisser I enjoyed last night. We were both perfectly content to just lay there for hours kissing. Nothing more. Clothes all on and still intact. It was more provocative and passionate than any overt play for sex could have been.

    PT
  • PassionTraveler said on Nov 28, 2007....
    Thanks Travlr. Your fav was what I enjoyed last night. And glad to see you aren't TOO jealous. ;)

    ET, Believe me, I do know how to use my tongue. He got a preview of what's to come. ;)

    Lampshade, I think regardless of your age or experience level, just remember slow and tender always works best. Good luck. You'll get that magical kiss soon enough.

    PT
  • lfbno7 said on Nov 28, 2007....
    I think a memorable kiss would be during a climax
  • PassionTraveler said on Nov 28, 2007....
    I agree, No.7, but I'm not ready for that step with him yet. If & when it does go that direction, I have a feeling he will be quite the lover and an orgasmic kiss would be amazing.

    PT
  • wombat said on Nov 28, 2007....
    I miss good kissing....  when I was about 13 I had a bf--and all we did all summer, all the time, was kiss.
     
    Funny, now I have a legal hubby I can do anything I want with--and our "kissing" department needs alot of work.
     
    I like soft, gentle kisses--not too sloppy wet, though!  And I don't need Roto-Rooter work done in my mouth, thank you!
  • PassionTraveler said on Nov 28, 2007....
    Right on Wombat! You and me both. Yes, I had a former hubby who wasn't much in the passionate department. A license doesn't mean much when it comes to passion.

    PT


  • wombat said on Nov 28, 2007....
    PassionTraveler:  We should all work on our "kissing" skills with someone close to us!  Even if you don't need to--keeping up the good work never hurt!
  • 5dollar said on Nov 29, 2007....

    Congrats, PT.

    But as you know, this is one subject I have yet to experience.

  • PassionTraveler said on Nov 29, 2007....
    Wombat, I practiced more last night. ;)

    Thanks $5 and I think it's time to go back to those dating lessons, yes? Do you think it will help?

    PT
  • 5dollar said on Nov 30, 2007....
    I'm not sure. I have a date coming up (with someone I just met online), but I'm not really expecting anything to come out of it, mainly because nothing has previously. I'm beginning to think that I just might be one of those who will never have that special someone.
  • PassionTraveler said on Nov 30, 2007....
    Chin up $5!

    No down frowns on any friends of mine... It's too close to Christmas. When is your date? What say we pow wow before your date on a few tips and techniques.

    And STAY POSITIVE!

    PT
  • 5dollar said on Dec 01, 2007....
    Ok, PT.
    I'm sorry. I've fallen down a bit the past few weeks. I guess, it being the holiday season, seeing all those happy couples together and I keep asking myself, 'Why can't that be me.'  I get these feelings every once in a while and I'm usually able to pick myself up. This one is just lasting a bit longer.
    I'll be fine, just feeling a little bit down now.
    The thing is that I should be happy, because this woman I met online seems really nice. I should be excited about meeting her, but I'm not.
    My date is Monday, so I'll pow-wow with you this weekend.
     
  • travelr712 said on Dec 01, 2007....
    5 - if you're down, and you're not excited about meeting this woman, is it a good idea to right now? i mean, will you be on your best, or will she get a vibe that you're not into her and then miss out on the very thing you're down about not having?
  • 5dollar said on Dec 01, 2007....
    Travel,
     
    I'm not sure. We had a some good online chats, and I was into her, but I guess because of this depression i've been experienced as of late, I'm not expecting much, although I want it do. But since it's never happened in the past, I guess I'm trying to protect my feelings.
  • travelr712 said on Dec 01, 2007....
    5 - you know, i know what you mean. when i was younger, i'd have those connections with another person through the anonymity of online, or letters (when we still did that), and then when it came time to meet, i was always so nervous that i wouldn't 'measure up', i got depressed and anxious, and it never went well. but then i realized that the reason it didn't go well was because i was depressed and anxious, instead of relaxed and fun, and the girl would think that when we met, i just didn't like her. you see, we were both feeling the same thing, and neither of us would say it. i tried an experiment a couple times. i didn't go into great detail about it, but i acknowledged to the girl that i was feeling a bit anxious about meeting, and she said the same thing, and then we both laughed and relaxed a bit, and started enjoying the time together. i even got laid once by doing that, and that ain't bad!
     
    not all women expect, or want, a man to be 'cool and in control', some want a man who is sensative and vulnerable. what they don't want is a man who will shut them out. just a thought. :-)
  • 5dollar said on Dec 01, 2007....

    Thanks, Travel.

    My main problem is that I run out of things to talk about, at least I get concerned about that. Thanks again for the advice

  • PassionTraveler said on Dec 01, 2007....
    Don't forget $5 that you've been through a great loss recently. Your depression may have nothing to do with this dating issue and more to do with the loss of your brother. It's only been a month if that and right before the holidays as well.

    We'll talk later. {{{HUGS}}}

    PT
  • travelr712 said on Dec 01, 2007....
    5 - i'm sorry, i didn't know of your loss. obviously that's going to affect you. does this woman know about that? if so, i hope she's understanding about it. and why don't you try this? look at something about her that you like, her hair, the way she talks to the waiter, something about her and then tell her what it is and what you like about it, but not in an overtly complimentary way. see if that doesn't start a conversation. it sometimes works.
     
    and pt, thanks for bringing that to my attention.
  • Daniel68 said on Dec 07, 2007....
    A woman who jams her tounge in a guy's mouth is NOT sexy.

    A woman who claims not to smoke, but you taste it, NOT sexy.

    A good kiss starts softly, little kissing of the lips top and bottom lip - not too much pucker.

    The best kiss I ever had was on the altar getting married. My ex kissed me sweetly and a sensual and loving, it was wonderful. I never forget that kiss.


  • PassionTraveler said on Dec 07, 2007....
    Dude, where the HELL have you been! We've missed you (me and SW for sure)!

    As you can see, I'm at least getting a little bit of lip action lately, but so far that's about it on my end.

    Just thinking how nice it might be to give to try your lips out. ;) But then, yes, I am a flirt!

    Okay, update me. PM style if you like, but UPDATE ME! Women, work, family, love, stuff and things....???

    PT

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