I try to stay positive, but I have my days. Time for a little vent.
One of the worst things to put me in a bad mood, and it probably doesn't say much about me, is just seeing my father-in-law pull down my driveway. I despise him as I think I've voiced before. I have this deep seated anger that boils to the surface.
Any kind of get together with the in-laws drains my mood. I've whined about that many times. Would you believe that at the Thanksgiving get together, the women sat until I got up to do the dishes? I did them all by myself for the 15 or so assembled. I was asked by a sister-in-law when I had two pans left if I wanted her to take over. I said no at that point. I am quite capable of doing it, but I would not expect that from someone who obviously still has a sore foot from surgery. It was the principal of the deal that upset me.
My husband doesn't get my humor. I constantly have to explain it. I have to explain lots of things to him. He doesn't get plays on words. Ten years of daily explanations makes for a bad mood sometimes.
Sometimes people hear me, but they don't listen. They nod their heads. They seem to pay attention, but later it's obvious what I said never hit its mark. My parents, my sister and my husband are all like that. They are so consumed in their own lives that mine is minuscule. I turn that bad mood inward lots of times. I feel selfish for feeling that way.
Being ignored sends my mood south in a hurry. I get all hurt and wonder what I've done.
I suppose many of my bad moods are because I'm a sensitive soul. Perhaps too much sometimes. I look for the blame of situations within myself. My insecurity tells me that I must have done something wrong. I search within for ways to make myself better.
Those are a few of the biggies for me. My father-in-law will probably be piling in here for lunch with my husband. Sigh....bad mood on the rise.
What puts you in a bad mood?
CW
CreativeWoman posted on Nov 27, 2007
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uniquely-ironic said on Nov 27, 2007....
being ignored or told no. very childlike of me, but it is one of my hot buttons. -
silverwhisper said on Nov 27, 2007....
first of all, sorry about your FIL, CW. :< me personally, i think that your in-laws are appalling people.
bad moods? ignorance, esp willful ignorance, put me into a bad mood. i tend to get extra snarky when confronted with it. :>
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CreativeWoman said on Nov 27, 2007....
UI,
I can understand that. The ignoring part especially.
Ed,
Thanks. I also deal with a heaping helping of ignorance where my in-laws are concerned. It's very frustrating for me.
CW
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wakingharmony said on Nov 27, 2007....
Sometimes moments like these the only thing one can do is {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{CW}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}'s to ya Hon. hope ya feel better and people get a clue. but till then know i read I care and send lots of {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{CW}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}'sA friend forever WH ~ Margaret -
Mamie said on Nov 27, 2007....
Mostly, I fall into the ditch when I don't feel "good" or healthy, it triggers all kinds of vulnerability in me and makes me want to go to bed to wake up in a brand new day! -
husbandhater said on Nov 27, 2007....
Lately everything puts me in a suckie mood. The slightest little thing the kids do,peoples' stupidity, and laziness at work. Abuse by patients I think I need a vacation. -
beyondtheveil said on Nov 27, 2007....
Stress from kids will do it quicker than anything I know of- and stays with me longer. -
CreativeWoman said on Nov 27, 2007....
Margaret,
Thank you. (My favorite aunt's name was the same as yours.)
Hugs to you too.
Mamie,
We need an intercom system in that ditch so we can pull each other out!
husbandhater,
Sometimes I think that the little things add up and then everything is a bad mood trigger. I hope you get to take some time for yourself.
beyond,
I'll bet it does. You love them and wan them to be their best. :-)
CW
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Alyss said on Nov 27, 2007....
Being ignored or left feeling like I am unappreciated. -
CreativeWoman said on Nov 27, 2007....
Alyss,
I can identify with that too. I hope that doesn't happy very often to you.
CW
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flytimes said on Nov 27, 2007....
Hiya Creative;) long time no chat.. I hope your very well and not in a too bad mood lol. For me it's just ignorant, selfish, rude, unkind people to name a few. and it's when these people do it to other people not just myself that will jar me.. Grrr lol Ok , im off to beddy byes now, i feel so slzzzpy now and i will catch up with everyone tommorow. Night night;) -
MissMimi said on Nov 27, 2007....
I'm with you on the sense of humor thing, CDub. I hate feeling like no one cares, especially when my husband doesn't react when I tell him I feel bad. Over the weekend I told him I may need to go to the ER for my breathing, and he said nothing. Not one thing. I felt very alone. -
wakingharmony said on Nov 27, 2007....
awe thank you Cw I feel special, but your good at that too hehe I was named after my Grandma but her middle name was Louise and mine is Anne {{{{{CW}}}} -
crybabylu said on Nov 27, 2007....
having to keep company would do it, glad I don't have that problem. I like being around people who are positive, don't you?.......lol, dee -
wombat said on Nov 27, 2007....
I can certainly see what might have put you in a bad mood there!Being ignored or "forgotten" does it to me. Or being rediculed in front of others. I guess being ignored is somewhat better than being made fun of..... -
the_infernal_optimist said on Nov 27, 2007....
I tend to be sensitive too, CW, so I can understand the things you wrote pretty well (although my FIL isn't a jerk). ((hugs))
I can't believe all of those women just expected the dishes to what, self clean? And then to just let you do it...grrr.
What puts me in a bad mood? When I have something all planned out and then it is decided, completely out of my hands and without asking for my opinion at all, that that is not the way it's going to go...when someone seems to think my opinion is inferior because I have "less life experience" due to my age (um what?) - that really ticks me off. When people see me as naive and hand-waving, wrapped up in my own little idealistic bubble...
~Infernal
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queenparanoia said on Nov 28, 2007....
when i don't get things my way... yeah i'm a little bratty and it really makes me in a bad mood if things are not going my way... -
MissMimi said on Nov 28, 2007....
Infernal, you and my children are close in age, and the thing that impresses me about you is your wisdom. When you speak I listen. (c'mon, you know what I mean.. ;) ) -
RollingC said on Nov 28, 2007....
A big hug to you CW...{{{{ HUGS }}}}. And why did you get up to do the dishes when all the other birdbrains were chattering along?
Next time (if there is one) ignore the dishes or at least make some kind of remark about asking to help when there's almost nothing left to do.
Hang tight CW....
Rc
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CreativeWoman said on Nov 28, 2007....
flytimes,
It's good to see you around again. :-) I'm in some sort of borderline mood today.
Mimi,
His attitude seems so hurtful. Are you feeling better?
waking,
:-D
cry,
Positive people are certainly more fun to be around. :-)
Infernal,
I can see where that would be very frustrating.
queen,
Wanting your way will take you far in your baking business. :-)
Mimi,
I agree that Infernal is wise. :-)
Rc,
I am polite to a fault sometimes. It was obvious that they were waiting on me. I have been doing them at family dinners for the past ten years. I am the only daughter-in-law. They see it as my job. It has gotten back to me that they actually say that. Oh well...
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destinydiva said on Nov 28, 2007....
my ex and his patronising comments always puts me in a bad mood! :-) xx -
wild-ting said on Nov 28, 2007....
Negative people. I'm dealing with a colleague who gets his jollies by squashing others' happiness or happy moods. He is a miserable soul. I suspect he wasn't well liked as a child and developed into a mean, nasty human being who will remain unliked and unloved as an adult. Oh wait, his mother loves him.
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CreativeWoman said on Nov 28, 2007....
destiny,
Patronizing remarks are awful. Sorry you have to go through it.
wild,
That's a very difficult situation to be in. I hope it works out for you.
CW
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