• destinydiva said on Nov 27, 2007....

  that is my experience exactly!!
  especially the last two years of my marriage, I was dreadfully lonely.
  It has been a full year since we broke up and I have never felt as lonley being on my own as I was in my marriage!
  
  I dont think this counts for everyone though, I just had a bad marriage, we never really had a friendship, and I learnt how important that is in a relationship.
  
  xx
  

• silverwhisper said on Nov 27, 2007....

  um, that is not at all my experience.
  
  ed

• crybabylu said on Nov 27, 2007....

  There were a few times in my marriage experiences when that was true, but for the most part it wasn't.  I can't imagine anything lonelier than loneliness in marriage.

• husbandhater said on Nov 27, 2007....

  It has its ups and downs. There are times when this is a true saying(the lonliness thing) and there are times you are glad for your mate. It depends on the day and what's going on for me.

• Mamie said on Nov 27, 2007....

  no, I would say it is the exact opposite!

• MissMimi said on Nov 27, 2007....

  I know my husband is physically there, but yes, loneliness is a big part of my marital experience.

• lfbno7 said on Nov 28, 2007....

  I have been married 384 years now, and in my experience marriage does not make me lonely. She's always there to make fun of. I can goof on her 24/7. Take today for instance. I'm awake at 3 a.m. because I had been asleep from 8 pm to 2 am. I hear her moving around in bed. I hear her nose snuffling, like she has to blow it. I hear that she's awake. So, out of the dark, I say "Are you picking your nose and eating it?" She answers sleepily in the negative. I say "Yes you are." She makes this really funny sound of denial, like a little kid who was accused of something. I say "Pick me a winner." She goes back to sleep.

• redrocks said on Nov 28, 2007....

  nice one Ifbno7.. and congrats for your 384 years of wedding ;)

• PassionTraveler said on Nov 28, 2007....

  I was married for 11.5 years before we separated. We made it official at 14 years. He was a good companion. Our problem was that he lacked passion. But no, I never really experienced the loneliness. I have more of that now than I did when I was married.
  
  PT
  

• anonymous said on Dec 02, 2007....

  They married the wrong person.

• redrocks said on Dec 03, 2007....

  probably right, anonymus...

• anonymous said on Dec 03, 2007....

  Ideas on interpretations of Islamic law: The Prophet Mohammed allows for polygamy under Islamic law and it is the will of Allah that women should submit to men in marriage. It is the wish of the man in the name of Allah and he controls the marriage. Polygamy protects women from being alone and trapped in family-she should do her chores and live her life for the man, who is the head of the marriage. Allah allows for this in His law. This is the will of the shari'a as dictated to Mohammed. The man must protect and obligate the woman in return and polygamy is shelter for women. It expands the goals with numbers and demographics as more children is the key. The children are never left alone if the parent dies--he has many parents and the man is satisfied in bed by his many wives. More money is brought in by the women working, with the man's permission. The man pays for the wife and she is his. He must required her of things in return for support and the man must pay dowry. It protects tribal and family obligations and follows shari'a on wills and distribution of wealth. Good for the widow and orphan.

• redrocks said on Dec 05, 2007....

  I respect the idea of the Islamic law, but since I was raised in a different way I do not think that I could accept polygamy..
  It is true that children are protected and do not risk to be left alone if the mother dies, but the same is true for monogamous couple who have a straight relationship with the rest of the family (siblings/parents..)

• cotterall&elaineadams said on Jun 02, 2008....

  not if you marry the right person so trust your instincts.  people have to marry for the right reasons at the right time.  it is a choice these days..people who marry the wrong person out of desperation and fear are condemning themselves to misery and society doesn't force that on them anymore...you can get a divorce or live the single life freely..

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