Last night I had a text message fight with my "friend" who I blogged about awhile ago here. First time I've had a text message fight, why he doesn't want to fight over the phone or instant message is pretty frustrating, since at least it be easier. However, this way I can quote things very easily, because I have no idea if his arguement for being mad at me makes any sense. I have decided to blog about it and see if anyone out there can help.
So first of all after I blogged about what happened I haven't heard much from him. I tried to find out if he'd pay me back or what and he ignored me. I just deleted him from my facebook, myspace, cell phone and tried to move on. Every once and awhile I'll get really mad at myself for wasting the money and am still quite mad at him. However, he texted me a couple months ago and said something like how he missed talking to me and hoped I was doing well. I texted him back that I hope he was doing well too and that I'm still mad. Then I hear nothing till now. He sent me a Happy Thanksgiving text message and I sent nothing back. Then last night he messages me and says he's mad at me because I'm mad at him.
So I tell him to still be mad then. He then says to tell him why so we can "finish this" and goes on to tell me how the months after all this happened he had to quit his job because it was to much, he had a lot of debt, medical bills I'm pretty sure is what he means, and his car broke down. I supposedly "knew" he having a hard time, and he says "you were still mad at me!!!" When the money I used to pay for the ticket was not something I earned myself. I did not know it was that bad for him till now. Then he says that telling him I don't want to talk to him anymore and just wanting the money made it all worse. Since if I knew what a great wonderful person he is, he'd have "paid me back with time." Which he only mentioned once and I've tried to ask if he will or not again and he ignored me. I guess becauase it made him "feel worse."
Finally I get a chance to get a message in and I tell him I didn't know it was that bad till now, how was I suppose to somehow know this. I also said that I thought he was a good person till all this happened, plus it hurt that he just all of a sudden decides to get serious with someone on top of it all. This is where it gets good. He says he was being a good guy by telling me the truth, he could have been a jerk and let me come knowing that he was serious with someone else, it was the right thing to do he says. Plus he didn't even know it was going to get serious or at least wasn't planning on it! Lord how do you not know, how
!%#@ convenient! I feel sorry for this girl. He says he's sorry for making me feel the way he did. Sorry over a text message, how much does that really mean anyway. He gets reminiscent and goes on about how we had good fun times over the phone and he's sorry again.
I say I never would have bought anything if I knew he was seeing someone special, plus it never seemed like he cared till now. Then he says how he cares and that he tried, it's me who doesn't care because I'm the one who wouldn't listen, who doesn't want to talk to him anymore. I'm furious at this point, since it sounds like its all my fault. I try to explain my point of view to him again, because I don't know what else to say that wouldn't be a cheap shot. From here he says he does understand my view, that he's never said "I was crazy for feeling this way." He might as well have. I just tell him to make up for it then and that I get that he's sorry. Haven't heard a word since.
Did I miss something that's going on here? Am I the one being closed minded about his side of the story? Or is he really just a jerk that's good with words and is trying to persuade me to forgive and forget? I would really appreciate any ideas.
