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Sometimes when I can't sleep, like this morning, I like to do a little thinking.
 
Occasionally it's pointless mind rambles, and other times, it's more serious and contemplative.
 
Today I started to ponder what my role in life was. Pretty heavy stuff. But if you think about it, we all have roles to play.
 
Whether we handpicked those roles, or they were chosen for us, or simply a product of circumstance. We all have them.
 
I feel like I'm here in this world to look after other people. That's my role. I'm the protector.
 
I like to think of myself as a guardian angel type, but often I think some people perceive me as a gargoyle perched on top of the building of their life instead.
 
But my role is the same. I watch. I see. I observe. And then I protect. If there is a problem somewhere, I handle it. Even if it's not my problem to solve. I take on the burden anyway.
 
This might make me sound like I think of myself as noble and self important. But I'm not. I'm more like the brooding vampire Angel.
 
All I want to do sometimes is sit back with a pint a blood and sing karaoke with my friends. But it's a big world out there. And eventually someone will need me. And I have to be there.
 
Is my soul seeking redemption for crimes I committed in another life? I often wonder that too. I suppose I'll never really know the answer.
 
But this is my role. This is what I was born to do. It's not a choice. It just is.
 
What is your role? Do you know that yet? What would you like it be?
 
 
 
 
 
 


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  • evil_twin said on Nov 25, 2007....
    I had to laugh a little about you being a gargoyle perched on the building of someone's life. That was funny. But I do think you're right about your role in life. I guess it's good that you've figured that out and accepted it. I wish that was my role too. And sometimes I think it is. But I haven't really figured it all out yet. And I guess until I do, I'll just have to let the gargoyle watch over me awhile longer.

    -Kyle
  • nursecutie said on Nov 25, 2007....

    I wish I knew exactly what my role was. I think it is to take care of others. Not really a protector, but a nurturer. That's why I wanted to be a nurse! I like making everyone else feel better :) Like you said.....it doesn't feel like a choice......it's just me.

    xxoo natalie xxoo

  • uniquely-ironic said on Nov 25, 2007....

    I think about this now and then.  There are days I think I'm doing a good job of fufilling the role of nuturer, then I remember that a lot of days I need the nuturing myself.

    Right at this moment I think my role is muse.  To plant thoughts and ideas into minds so that those minds can go on to accomplish great things.  To give new insight to a bored or weary mind, or to remind people of who they want to be and not who they have become.

    I don't think that I'm destined to be great of my own efforts.  It's like the universe knows that it would be too heavy a burden for me to carry.

  • Mamie said on Nov 25, 2007....
    I am more convinced than ever that Uni and I were separated at birth! I think of my role as muse also...to help people see how we lock ourselves into prisons from the inside out, how we limit our capacity to love by thinking we know what we need to know...yet there is more to see, more to think, and more to do, and more to be....
    And yet, there are such spans of weakness where I say Help! and people come running and then I think I am a tightrope walker, who has some karma to clear up? Who knows....at those times I am afraid and go right back into lockdown mode...
     
    But not today! *smile* blessed be! mamie
  • silverwhisper said on Nov 25, 2007....
    personally, i've always considered myself the friend, the guy with a ear willing to listen and if need be a shoulder to rest on. i've known it for a long time, and am quite happy with it.

    ed
  • Mr_Box said on Nov 25, 2007....

    Kyle.....I do think you help people. All the time. But there's a difference between being a good friend to those who need it, and protecting people.

    I think you're a friend to every one who needs a friend. And that's a pretty important role to have.

    Miss Cutie.....I think you're right. I think that's something you're very good at doing. Just don't forget to look after yourself once in awhile. Or better yet, let someone else do it for you.

    Ms. Ironic.....I find your role fascinating. Do you think you've inspired a lot of people with your insights?

    Mamie......I liked your answer a lot too. You said it very eloquently. You sound like a really interesting person, with a good heart.

    Ed......With that answer, I see you and Kyle as being similar personalities. I think being a good friend is one of the most important things a person can be.

  • uniquely-ironic said on Nov 25, 2007....
    Actually I do think I have inspired people to do things they might not have done otherwise. (mostly good)  I'm not sure what it is that I say to them, since most of the time it seems like I'm pointing out the obvious or reaffirming their own gut instinct.  I'd like to think that I leave everyone I've ever known a better person for having known me.
  • Mr_Box said on Nov 25, 2007....

    Ms. Ironic......your last sentence is a great one. I like to think the same thing about myself too. I hope.

    I certainly try to leave people in better shape when I leave than when I got there. Very nice.

  • gingersoul said on Nov 25, 2007....

    Boxy...this is the perfect night to ponder such "heavy" thoughts....i like the image of you as a gargoyle......very apt.....:-)

    I see myself as the inspirer. I like to think i inspire people to think outside of the box and see things from a different point of view....they tell me they feel enriched by this exchange....

    i like to think my role is the loyal friend .....the one you call and will be there for you...listening and giving you protection and suggestions...

    But also I like to think i am the lover...i have been loved very much and i have loved very much...i like to think the love i have been giving has made those people richer and better....if not....ready to love someone else better..... 

  • CreativeWoman said on Nov 25, 2007....
    I'm not really positive what my purpose is.  I do think I'm good at being kind.  Is that a purpose?  I'm not sure. 

    CW
  • wombat said on Nov 25, 2007....
    I am still searching for mine, I guess.  Sometimes I think my role and purpose is to bring entertainment to other people--not as a performer making money--but as a court jester!  The proverbial fool......
  • the_infernal_optimist said on Nov 25, 2007....
    Once again, you posted my answer as your own, Mr. Box. ;-)

    It's almost like a freaky redeemer complex at times, only without any real conceit behind it...and it's not always fun, but it's who you are. It'd be nice to lay it down for a day and to live as carefree as so many other people seem to do, but you couldn't even if you tried.

    ~Infernal
  • minniemouse said on Nov 25, 2007....
    I have been doing a lot of "soul" searching on this myself....part of the reason that I sought out a place like this last winter.  I was/am at kind of a cross roads in life...nothing is how I thought it would be and only now I've started to take a pretty clear direction in my life.  I think that I've fallen into the problem solver...people turn to me with problems and I give them advice (basically just tell them what i think...pretty or not).....still not sure if that is having a purpose or being a sucker....MM
  • Twylarants said on Nov 25, 2007....
    I don't know if I am who or what I was meant to be or if I am who or what people perceive me to be.  Growing up, I was referred to as the "cheerleader" of the family, but not in an approving tone.  I never liked discord, fighting, or arguing so I tried to make everyone laugh and be happy.  That didn't work, so I detached myself from it.
    Unfortunately, people don't allow you to detach, they keep pulling you back into it.  So I'm still the cheerleader, still trying to make everyone laugh and be happy.
    Some people never learn.
  • lfbno7 said on Nov 26, 2007....
    I think part of my purpose in life, a big part, is tied to a specific person, the one I'm married to. I don't know why, but I'm supposed to be there for her and interact with her and keep a roof over her head and give her some kind of security and let her know what I think. I think another part of my purpose here is to hone certain skills, related to what I do for a living and what I do as my hobbies. Maybe another purpose is to learn about people.
  • PassionTraveler said on Nov 26, 2007....
    In answer to your question, here is an excerpt from one of my own posts:

    Beacon of Comfort, Empath of Solitude


    "For as long as I can remember, I have had strangers and friends find me. Connect with me. Lay their burdens at my feet. I'm actually not sure why, but when they do this, it's as if I'm responding to some emergency alarm, and bounding down the thoroughfare I go, off to the rescue.

    "I don't pretend to be as impacting as George Bailey, from "It's A Wonderful Life." But I must admit, I often wonder what impact I do have in the world and what effect my absence or lack of existence might have or could have had on it's outcome. Surely, I'm not the only one who has contemplated this? Our purpose in this world? A meaningful contribution?

    "And what if I hadn't been there those many times when that call to spring into action lured me into counsel tending the repair of some fractured soul. Is this part of who I am as an empath?

    "I wonder how I find myself in these situations. As I'm typing this, another friend has landed in the hospital and is in need of both the support and help that friends provide. I am feeling selfish today as I have so much I need to accomplish before I return to work tomorrow. Just simple domestic stuff. Sometimes I want a break from being George Bailey.

    "But, unlike George Baily, when the bank money goes missing, maybe there's no neighborhood of friendly faces showing up in candlelight vigil at my door, all sporting pocketbooks full of money to bail the Bailey out of trouble.

    "Not to say that I haven't had some very very good friends and family be there for me when I need it, including loaning me money when in need. I think that's not what I'm talking about. For all the friends I help, and for those who even help me, I really miss emotional intimacy. I don't really have that with any of my friends, except in small doses with one girlfriend. I don't think that is their fault. It is decidedly mine. But it's more of an intimacy chemistry issue, rather than my not letting them in closer. I'm already pretty open.

    "I had it with a few friends that life circumstances has dictated we pull apart for now. They had marvelously wonderful shoulders to lean and cry upon. They made me laugh and didn't care if I dressed embarrassingly, or talked their ears off. I miss the human touch they provided me. Well, perhaps someday, I'll find that emotional intimacy I miss. Soon I hope.

    "As for my call to duty, I sometimes have nothing to say when the pilgrims arrive at the door of my sanctuary --  seeking counsel, refuge, reassurance, humanity or whatever the momentary deficiency may be. But I always feel. That never goes away."
  • Fallyn said on Nov 26, 2007....
    my purpose? to observe...at a distance.
    to record what i see.
    just to see and record, ....i've never felt in my life that i have a more important role than that.
    just jot one down for the history books i guess....try to make sure they got it right.
  • Mr_Box said on Nov 26, 2007....

    Gingery.....the inspirer, the lover and the friend. That's a nice mix of qualities to have. And I definitely see a lot of similiarites between the two of us.

    Ms. CW.....kindness is a virtue. And everyone needs someone to be kind to them. So yes, I'd say that's a purpose in this life. Not everyone is so kind.

    Wombat.....hey every kingdom needs it's jester. Laughter is the best medicine.

    Infernal......once again, we think alike. Sometimes it would be nice to lay the burden down, but I think I'd feel a little lost without it. Wouldn't you?

    Minnie......being an advice giver is an important role. I do it too. And hopefully my advice helps people and works to protect them from themselves.

    twyla.....being a cheerleader is a tough role, I suspect. Because sometimes it's hard to make people forget the fighting and the bad things. I'd say that's a very important role. You're a peacemaker.

    lfbno......I believe part of my purpose is to learn about people too. It's the only way you can help them.

    Passion Traveler.......you are a comforter. Very important role. Everyone needs a friend like that.

    fallyn....you observe, but you don't ever intervene?

  • Fallyn said on Nov 26, 2007....
    box, nope. i really don't ever feel qualified.
    i've intervened a couple of times....and it ended in disastrous results. ...i observe and record, rarely through writing..more often through photos or art. my job is to understand and not to judge.
  • lfbno7 said on Nov 26, 2007....
    One of my hobbies is studying personality types in various psychology systems. There's the Myers Briggs system, the enneagram, the ever popular astrology, and Rosemary Altea's system called soul signs. If someone is also conversant with those "typology" systems it makes it easier to explain what someone is like.

    My current favorites are the enneagram and soul signs. I'm all astrologied out, after looking into it since I was a teen, and it is soooo complicated. But it's a good thing to know. I think that the best of those systems for telling compatibility is the soul signs one. It rules out certain pairings that probably should be ruled out. It gives a straightforward and flat out NO to certain pairings, and is really the only system to do that.
  • PassionTraveler said on Nov 26, 2007....
    Lennie,  I too adore the Myer's Briggs type tests. What are you? I am an ENFP, or Idealist-Champion.

    PT (aka Lennie)
  • lfbno7 said on Nov 26, 2007....
    I'm an INFJ, so we have the core letters NF in common.
  • PassionTraveler said on Nov 26, 2007....
    NICE! another Idealist.

    PT
  • queenparanoia said on Nov 27, 2007....
    i dont know my exact role yet since i'm still young ai'm still searcing for it... but i know for sure that one of my role is to live life to the fullest... although that's everyones role right? =)
  • crybabylu said on Dec 02, 2007....
    I think I'm the glue that helps hold things together.  I think my gifts are mercy and love.

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