• skald said on Nov 25, 2007....

  That is a lot of moving. I've now lived in the same apartment for nearly 26 years. In my youth I moved once. When my parents  had built their home when I was 8. I was there until I was 28. Then my husband and I rented a small apartment for some months, we rented a house in his village for a year, we came back here and bought our 1 apartment and this is our 3rd. That makes 8 moves for me in all those years. 

• Fallyn said on Nov 25, 2007....

  i was just discussing this with my aunt.
  she said the same....8 times in her whole life.
  i can't even imagine what it would have been like.

• skald said on Nov 25, 2007....

  I think it is better for a person not having to move too often , at least not when we are children but this is something that can not be helped due to circumstances. 

• Fallyn said on Nov 25, 2007....

  *grin* yeah....wasn't really an option for me to stamp my foot and say "i'm not moving anymore!" ....and dad's work took him all over the place.......and such low paying jobs.

• mommyof2 said on Nov 25, 2007....

  Wow, that is way too much. For me it has been aprox. 10, and for my kids it's been 4 so far, I would love for them to experience the country...they would be in awe.

• quietone said on Nov 25, 2007....

  fallyn ~ I have moved since childhood about 45 times hit or miss..maybe more, I lost count too.  I also cannot imagine growing up in the same place/town all my life..I would have liked to have known what that was like though..

• lfbno7 said on Nov 25, 2007....

  I was born in Canarsie, Brooklyn, in a neighborhood newly built for WW2 vets. No, I was not a WW2 vet at birth, but my father was a WW2 vet.
  
  Then from age 2 to 12 we lived in Astoria/Long Island City Queens in a public housing project, a group of 6 story buildings.
  
  From 13 to 20 I lived in a co-op in the Puerto Rican section of Williamsburgh, Brooklyn, near Bedford Stuyvesant.
  
  Then I got married, moved to Flatbush with my wife. Lived in 3 different apartments with her and the kids in Brooklyn, moving a bit east each time, out towards Kings Highway, then moved to a house in Sheepshead Bay, Brooklyn, a bit further east.
  
  Finally landed in Joisy, where I've been for the last I don't know how many years, I guess about 15. So how many does that make? 8

• Fallyn said on Nov 25, 2007....

  mommy. i love the country, i love the city. ....i've been so many places. the only place i really hated was the suburbs.
   
  quiet......i know.....it pretty much sucks. ....i'm VERY good at packing and living out of boxes and suitcases if you can imagine.....i'm also very good at being spontaneous and just jumping up and leaving on a whim.
  my kids have already moved too many times in their short lives........but i'm sure there are at least a couple more moves in their future.
   
  iffy, i've never studied it...but maybe 8 is pretty typical. i sure as hell bet 37 or so isn't.

• Zayda said on Nov 25, 2007....

  My dad was in the military, so counting all the times we moved when I was young plus all the times I have moved as an adult--different states for different graduate school programs, another state for a job, I have moved approximately 20 times in my life.
  
  
  Honestly, I loved all the moves we made when I was a kid. I still think moving all those times was one of the best experiences that I've had in my life. The different cultures, the new military bases. I wouldn't change that experience of moving so many times for anything. But, Fallyn, my experience was obviously much different than yours.

• Fallyn said on Nov 25, 2007....

  zayda.......there were a few moving experiences i could have lived without. but for the most part i wouldn't trade my childhood for anything. ......i think it was a whole combination of different things the moving was only one factor.
  i think the military thing is probably a stabilizing thing in itself.....it would seem so anyway. my dad is a jack of all trades.....but most had been in the timber industry as a private sawyer until i was around 15.

• Mamie said on Nov 25, 2007....

  well, all told I have moved 12 times. I really like moving alot. I guess the issue of whether it is good to move alot is really more the "who" and not the "what"...like Zayda said, you can actually have a good go of it in each place.
   
  I loved every place we lived and I am actually thinking of moving and building one more time, this next spring...it's exciting!

• crybabylu said on Nov 25, 2007....

  moved 4 times, while I was growing up, and 10 times, since i have been an adult.  My children hated all the moving, and I never had a clue until they got older and told me.

• wombat said on Nov 25, 2007....

  Wow!  That's a lot of moving around, and I thought I had moved alot!  You certainly have had an interesting life!  I think you could write stories about the life with the sawmill jobs....that would be different!  I just back-tracked and see that there was some sadness there, so maybe not.  But it does all sound fascinating to me.

• travelr712 said on Nov 25, 2007....

  holy crap! have you ever felt like you have a home? i've moved probably 15 times in 46 years. average is about once every 3 years. but i've had several times when the stay was 5 years or more. i did however, travel extensively for 20 years because of my job, so i kinda know what it's like to make home wherever you happen to have a key for awhile - or a flap, if it's a tent... :-)

• pookiedookie said on Nov 25, 2007....

  I moved around four times in my growing up years, and I didn't mind it at all.

• the_infernal_optimist said on Nov 25, 2007....

  I moved a few times pre-kindergarten, and then several times in the span of just a few years as a teen/young adult. It really does screw up any semblance of feeling at home in some ways, and I didn't move nearly as often as you have! ((hugs))
  
  I vote that you head to wherever (if you know where it is, anyway) that you would feel best raising your kids, wherever you'd be happy. If you do it while they're still fairly young (and they are) and then stay put, you can build the stability you want for them in a location you like.
  
  ~Infernal
  
  
  

• Fallyn said on Nov 25, 2007....

  wombat...my childhood wasn't really all that sad......there were just lessons that were never taught.....really i had a peter pan childhood......completely carefree...etc.....there were things i had to do....but for the most part i did what i wanted. .....when i got older it REALLY hit me hard though.
  
  trav, there are a few places i remember EXTREMELY fondly. the cabin being one of them, i made some really good memories at a few of the different places i've lived.
  
  
  

• wombat said on Nov 25, 2007....

  Fallyn:  Maybe I misunderstood a bit there--I thought you were making a reference to something tragic that had happened during the sawmill times.  Glad I was wrong, if so!  A Peter Pan childhood....nice.........mine was more "Alice Through The  Looking Glass"  ----with shards...ha...

• Fallyn said on Nov 25, 2007....

  ferny...*HUGS* thankyou...i think you are right.
  
  womby.....there was something tragic that happened...but i was oblivious to it at the time....one of those things where children do not know they are in danger, and do not know why their parents are completely losing it kind of things. i'll write a post on it......
  i think i blocked out a lot of what was going on around me.....hence the peter pan.....i was in my own reality while everything was crashing down around me.
  

• wombat said on Nov 25, 2007....

  Hope I didn't bring up bad memories!  I tend to do that accidentally alot around here!
   
  Sometimes being in your own reality is a good place to be....  at least I hope so, because mine is like that--a place no one knows about but me.  And then I wonder why people don't understand me!

• Fallyn said on Nov 25, 2007....

  no...not at all....those aren't painful....more...looking back and wondering what it would have been like if it had all been different.
  *grin* i think i understand a bit about you. .....not everything of course.....*HUGS*
  

• wombat said on Nov 25, 2007....

  If you (or anyone) ever understands me--I will post my phone number.....ha....
   
  (I have wondered who I would have been if I had not grown up the way I did--a strange thought)
   
  You have a wonderful, restful sleep out there, Fallyn!  I will stop bugging you for now....
   
  {{{{{{{hugs back}}}}}}
   
  wombie

• justxinxtime said on Nov 25, 2007....

  Wow, I was once so tired of moving that instead of moving I just road away. It is amazing what a divorce can do to men/women. I felt like I had failed at the most important endeavor ever when in fact it was just one of many lessons in life's little arsenal.  I have not counted how many times i have moved but  it is close. They say a good women can make or brake a man it took more than one to make the man i am today. JC
  

• justxinxtime said on Nov 25, 2007....

  When will I learn to proof read?

• Fallyn said on Nov 26, 2007....

  *HUGS* probably around the same time i do. :P

• mOOn_platOOn said on Nov 26, 2007....

  I've made a few sacrifices so that my son can have stability, and I've succeeded so far - 11 years. I lived in one house for the first 13 years of my life, and I think that provided real anchoring for the soul in some mystifying way. Everything else changes so much in those years, including oneself. When I hit high school I didn't want to move for anything, and even traveled across town for the last year and a half just to finish with the kids I'd started with. Grown up moving is different. And economic stability is as much a factor as transition. Not to mention familial bonds and their intimacy or lack of.

• Fallyn said on Nov 26, 2007....

  moonp, i completely agree, i'm not sure if i'll be able to do it for my kids....but i'm sure gonna try! 

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