• Mamie said on Nov 24, 2007....

  hi Ginger: I am here girlfriend...I am so sorry for this struggle,, yes, pour that next glass of wine and cry it out. It needs to be cried for...
  I also want you to know that I have a friend who had ovarian cancer and she is fully recovered. They just had a baby boy in May too, and she is healthy as ever...do not give up hope! There is hope! I will pray for you and for your friend.
  mamie

• gingersoul said on Nov 24, 2007....

  Mamie.....{hugs}...its good to know ....but then...i think..every cancer is so damn different...but i will be positive tomorrow ...i promise it ....especially to you....but now i am just too tired af all of this.....

  I have finished the wine too...lucky me....

  Thank you for being always here when i need a friend.....{hug}

   

• moonriver said on Nov 24, 2007....

  be strong, my friend. she will draw strength from you. and from that dream of growing old together in tuscany. nurture that dream with her, my friend. it will help her cope. and survive. ((( abrazos )))
  
  
  

• the_infernal_optimist said on Nov 24, 2007....

  ((hugs))
  
  She is lucky to have you to fight along with her through this. I will pray.
  
  ~Infernal
  

• minniemouse said on Nov 24, 2007....

  {{{{hugs}}}}  You have every right in this world to be angry Ginger.....I will keep you and your friend in my thoughts.....  Minnie

• D6fer said on Nov 24, 2007....

  That really sucks ginger....I wish your gf all the luck in the world! [hug]

• quietone said on Nov 25, 2007....

  I have no words my Italian friend - you be angry - for now -  {{{{hugs}}}

• wakingharmony said on Nov 25, 2007....

  GET ANGRY!! YELL!! Scream..... Cuss ..Get it out don't let it eat you..... after you are done you WILL gather your strength. For she will need you and you will need her. I am afraid to ask how far and if they think they caught it in time.  Many Healing thoughts to you and yours Ginger! You have my prayers now .. this min forward on. Should you need me you can let me know I am here. I have been through this.. I lost my Grandmother & a cousin was 24 left 5 children, to the likes of ovarian cancer. That was 26 yrs ago for the last... there are better techs. now so bless you hon. and you both will beat it .... get on your positive thoughts ok

• lfbno7 said on Nov 25, 2007....

  My mom had several bouts of lymphoma in her life and conquered them all with chemotherapy. Her doctors always said she did unusually well. She always took lots of vitamins to help her stay strong internally.

• wakingharmony said on Nov 25, 2007....

  ((((((Lennie))))) Sounds to me like Your  Mom was one Heck of a Woman!

• Fallyn said on Nov 25, 2007....

  just scream and cry and be REALLY REALLY mad. cause it isn't fair.......and that SUCKS.
   
  you'll be more ready to deal with it later....just be angry now.

• MsStar39 said on Nov 25, 2007....

  Ginger, it is good to be angry and get it all out. Such terrible news.
  Don't give up hope. I will be praying. ((((HUGS)))
  

• crybabylu said on Nov 25, 2007....

  (((hugs & kisses)))

• polarheart said on Nov 25, 2007....

  Ginger, love, I can only say I understand.  There is so much wrong with this world. . .honestly, I wish I did not have to face any of it.  But I cannot deny believing that we are here for a purpose, even if it is help to carry the load of those suffering.  I wish I could take all those I love and wrap them in cotton wool and keep them safe.  When you anger subsides you will carry on giving encouragement. . .that's what she needs, she needs you to be there for her.  I will pray for her.
   
  Your friend, Polar

• skald said on Nov 25, 2007....

  Yes be angry and ((((((((Hugs)))))))))

• Mr_Box said on Nov 25, 2007....

  I'm really sorry to hear this. And I understand your anger. Dealing with pain and loss and potential loss is devastating.

  And anger is one emotion that a lot of people feel guilty for feeling. But you shouldn't. Let it out. Be angry. It's okay to feel like that.

  I hope that your friend manages to beat this and pull through. My thoughts are with you both.

   

• travelr712 said on Nov 25, 2007....

  like everyone else said, be angry, be very, very angry. yell, scream, break something! be angry, and then listen when your friends tell you it's time to stop being angry, so you don't get stuck there.

• gingersoul said on Nov 25, 2007....

  {{{{{{{{{Thank you all}}}}}}}}}}

  You made me feel less lonely while reading your comments....thank you.

  I know that many of us had experienced the same tragedies ....many of us have seen their loved ones die ...many are worried about others ...

  We are a great community and we do group around the ones in need of support and tenderness.

  I am feeling this tenderness now like many other times i was in need.... 

  I feel your caring thoughts and i couldn't be more grateful for them..

  I will keep you posted here and there about my friend...the ironic twist is that just two days ago i was writing a post about her and me when we were young ....in college...studying Kant and Adorno and Cartesio...she has two degress, that brainy girl.....i will finish it asap......

  I do feel better this morning.....it has been a bad night....but you can find me around as the usual me......usually hiding my feelings very well ..... 

  {{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}

• botoni said on Nov 25, 2007....

  Ginger! Everyone has said all the wise words there are to say. I can only add this...if I were in a situation that threatened my life I would want you to be my friend and confidant. You have your anger now, and rightly so, but you also have the strength and love to walk through this path with her. Together you can win a victory over this dreadful thing. God bless you, Ginger, and give you strength.

• mobil said on Nov 25, 2007....

  Gingerbread, it's me....mobil, I am right here.

• gingersoul said on Nov 25, 2007....

  Bottie.....you are so dear.....thank you so much...you are one of the friends here that have kept me company many times....{hugs}  

  Mobil.......i see you are here....as any other time i needed help....no need for words....just thank you .....{{{hugs}}.

• kruuyai said on Nov 25, 2007....

  ginger... words feel so useless right now... all I can say is {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{hug}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}  and go ahead and be angry.  Life is not fair.

• secretlife said on Nov 25, 2007....

  ginger:  life doesn't seem fair some days. 

  i'm so sorry about your friend. 

  you have every right to be angry and to rage against the unfairness of this world.

  It's so hard to keep fighting....i know.

  but it's all we can do........life is so precious, that we somehow find the strength within ourselves despite our fear and our anger and our sadness to fight for it.

  you'll never stand alone sweet ginger. 

  not now and not in some distant future....

   

   

• wakingharmony said on Nov 25, 2007....

  Just stopped in to give you {{{{{{{ginger}}}}}}} & see how you were today. I am so glad you have soo many friends. Friends are like band-aids sometimes. They try to protect you and guard you from further pain. Bless you Ging.....

• uniquely-ironic said on Nov 25, 2007....

  Fucking Cancer!
   
  You have every right to be angry with it.  You go fight with your friend and do not give into it.
   
  No amount of logic can cure the hurt and injury that cancer brings to a person and their loved ones.  I'm sure you will be a good and strong ally as she fights the cancer and hopefully wins over it.
   

• silverwhisper said on Nov 25, 2007....

  i am so sorry to learn this, GS. you sound a lot more under control now than you were last night, and i hope that this means that you've worked through your anger now.
  
  [hug]
  
  ed

• rmuxagirl said on Nov 25, 2007....

  I'm here for you too Gingery!  I love you.  I think you responded the same way D did when I told her.
  
  it's ok to be angry right now.
  
  {HUUUUUUGS}
  

• MissMimi said on Nov 25, 2007....

  I'm so sorry to hear this , ginger.  It's okay to get angry.  Sometimes shitty things happen in life that have no rhyme or reason.  We just have to be there for each other and get through it as best we can. 

  I know you have the strength to lend to your friend.  But it just sucks that you have to.  {{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}

• lioneljay said on Nov 25, 2007....

  Ginger,
  
  Life isn't fair. Life is hard and just when we think we cannot take any more of its random, absurd tricks, it plays another on us that we know we must somehow bear. Because that is much of what life is all about: surviving the absurdity and passing on a sense of grace to our children.
  
  You do have that grace. I know it. And I'm sure that your daughter knows it too. So go ahead: be angry, do not go quietly through your days, do rant and rail until you are free of the pain. At least for now. And when it mounts again, come back and rant some more.
  
  We have iron ears and soft hugs here for you whenever you need them.
  

• crybabylu said on Nov 25, 2007....

  I have been really angry only twice in my life.  1) When 9/11 happened, and I still have trouble with that.  2) when my dad died.  I wrote a what I call, "hate" letter to God, blaming him for the tragic life my dad had to live and dying at an early age of 54.  You wouldn't believe how "theraputic" that letter was for me.  I think people walk around angry, and don't know where to direct it.  I knew God could handle it, so I directed it towards him.....lol, dee

• openclose said on Nov 25, 2007....

  Be angry.  Get it out.  Let it go.  Then you will be better prepared to support.
   
  HUGS

• pookiedookie said on Nov 25, 2007....

   

  gingersoul - I've only been angry a few times in my life.  Anger has only one purpose that I know of, and that is ..to movtivate you to action...So, if the anger you are feeling right now has the power to motivate you in a positive direction, then let it...but if it has the power to  make you bitter,  then my sweet ginger, let it go.....

  please know I am here for you, and I care what you are going thru...I love you, gingersoul......Duke

• wombat said on Nov 25, 2007....

  Just a {{{{{hug}}}} from me, too--and thinking good thoughts that it will turn out ok.

• satyr said on Nov 25, 2007....

  just letting you know I am here and I care

• ellamae14 said on Nov 26, 2007....

  ging: I'm here too. Try to find reason and balance. You have the right to be angry, life is not fair, but we don't always have to be unhappy because of it. Your love for life always sustain those who lacks it. You have made a difference just by being you. That's why people are always drawn to you. Use it, and don't ever lose it. Red wine is cheap, try lambanog. :) find reasons to be happy ok.

• Lioness said on Nov 26, 2007....

  Ginger, here's sending you {{African lilies and roses}} to appease the anger.. I am sure no one would ever come close to your friend, but always remember, there's always a rainbow after the rain.. 

• moyz said on Nov 27, 2007....

  ((((hugs))))))) and bringing another bottle of wine....hope you feeling better now...
  you can fight this, dont give up...if you dont have dreams then you wont have nothing....

• pickersplock said on Nov 28, 2007....

  Sorry I got here late Ginger.  I just wanted you to know I'm here and I'm keeping you and your friend in my thoughts.

• kumarilata said on Nov 29, 2007....

  I understand your anger, gingersoul.

• crybabylu said on Nov 29, 2007....

  ((hugs)) ....lol, dee

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