• collared_whore said on Nov 21, 2007....

  Limits are, for U/us and me, a fluid concept.  i remember back to O/our initial negotiations.  Although i was open to a lot of things, there were certainly things i was not comfortable doing and so they became my hard limits.  One in particular sticks out in my mind--no face slapping.  i placed that on my no list because my ex had so recently (at that time) hit me in the face.  i was in no position to process that in a play scenario; it was just too fresh for me.  Recently, however, i started thinking about how i didn't want that to be a limit for me anymore.  i have healed so much and progressed so incredibly since those dark days with my ex.  i started to feel that keeping face slapping on the no list allowed him to still have some sort of control and power over me.  So, one day i told you that i wanted You to slap my face.  You questioned me to make sure this was really something that (1) i could handle; (2) i was ready for; (3) i really needed; and (4) i really wanted.  And thank You btw for being so caring, concerned and vigilant in that regard.  :)  Once You had satisfied Yourself, You agreed that this would no longer be a limit.  W/we  played soon after that, and You asked me if i was ready for anything; i responded yes, knowing full well that face slapping was on the table. During play, You slapped my face.  And i was fine with it.  It worked.  It did not bring up any bad memories, at all, which to me was incredible.  It was like that slap obliterated a hold that my ex had on me, a hold that derived from that terrible night in the car two summers ago.  Well, that moment is gone.  Your slap shattered it, as well as yet another limit W/we initially had. 
   
  This experience is indicative of how much of a journey the lifestyle is.  It is constantly evolving and changing.  It is in that way, limitless. 

• sweet_rose said on Nov 23, 2007....

  Once a relationship is solid in the D/s world- there are no more hard limits. It is, where will He take me now. Push me.. push me... I will bend to Him...

  rose

• collared_whore's_Master said on Nov 26, 2007....

  you two are like peas in a pod.
  I'm sure Steve would agree with Me that We are quite fortunate to have such wonderful subs.

• Ownedgalbabs said on May 08, 2008....

  I have to agree with sweet_rose.  Once a solid D/s relationship exists I think there is a good chance that what were once hard limits simply dissolve and are no more.  Though for myself I cannot ever foresee the day when I would abandon my two "carved in stone limits".  They are no minors or animals....not that Sir has any interest in either.  Apart from them?  Well to date breath control, knives, tattoos and even fire play have all come into play and were once considered non-negotiable hard limits.
  
  babs
  

• submissiveintraning said on Nov 27, 2008....

  i agree. i feel that my limits are just walls to seperate me from myself. these are things that make me a person. can he cum in my mouth? dear god no! but secretly at night, that is what i dream of. walls are buily to hide behind or to keep hidden, and at one point, when tottal trust is made, they come down

• collared_whore's_Master said on Nov 29, 2008....

  your walls will crumble soon enough, My dear. Be open to new things and you'll be amazed at what you can achieve.

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