• Fallyn said on Nov 15, 2007....

  *laughing* i just enjoy reading your posts.
  i'm awfully prissy it seems. i can see the attraction.....a lot of other things in the same vein get me very hot........but....i can't even be called "naughty" without the connotation rubbing me the wrong way.
  
  
  

• whoreslave said on Nov 15, 2007....

  Define for me the "wrong" way, Fallyn... does it make you angry enough to fight? Make you restless? Make you feel degraded? What exactly is the wrong way to be rubbed? And if *being* called even as simple a thing as "naughty" is something you have trouble with, then maybe you should try speaking a few of them... Try them on, when you're alone and no one's looking.
  From a more real-world view than I usually address here in the gutter, consider this:are you prim, proper, decent, respectable... because you choose to be? Or because you have no choice? Own a few choice filthy obscenities. Get used to them. Then choose when you use them, and you will be better- and more wholesome, I think, for it.

• swordsman said on Nov 15, 2007....

  It's not what you say, it's the that way you say it........ a simple 'bend over' can convey it all - it has to be in a British accent of course. 

• collared_whore's_Master said on Nov 15, 2007....

  Each morning c_w text messages Me with a good morning endearment to Me, her Master. I respond with a good morning My _____. The blank being different each day depending on My mood, My desires, My last conversation with her, etc.
  A few that come to mind are cumslut, fucktoy, fuckhole, cunt, whore, pisswhore.

• collared_whore said on Nov 15, 2007....

  Language is an extremely effective tool, indeed.  i wrote a blog about one scene where Master looked down at me as i was working His cock down my throat and shouted, "You are such a whore!"  It was so fantastic and His tone and expression when saying that made me feel incredibly satisfied, fulfilled and accomplished as His sub.

   

  As Master mentioned, W/we have O/our good morning ritual. i tm Him as soon as i open my eyes in the morning, when i'm still naked, in my warm sheets, wearing His collar, and groggy from whatever dream He has inspired.  i eagerly anticipate His response for the day.  In addition to the ones He mentioned above, others have been "o", 3 hole cum slut, painslut, bondage queen, insatiable slut.  This morning's was quite the ego boost for me, smoking hot slut, thank You very much Master.  And he always prefaces it with "My," a reminder that i belong to Him, that i am His to do with as He pleases. Of course, the "My" totally gets me off, and makes whatever nasty thing He decides to call me for the day even more enticing and arousing.

   

  In addition to words connoting ownership, words denoting objectification also rock.  For example, when He says He will use my holes any way he sees fit for His pleasure, i melt.  In fact objectifying my mouth, cunt and ass as holes is very hot.  Oh, and the term skull fuck, i love that as well, with the overtones of depravity and violence that the term evokes.  And speaking of oral, having Him order me forcefully, "swallow my cock, whore! Make it disappear!" OMG is that sexy. 

   

  Another way Master uses language is to make me beg to be allowed to cum and then tell Him when i am cumming.  He commands me to admit that i am a dirty nasty whore, that i love being fucked in my tight ass and my tight cunt, that i love the pain He is giving me.  And i respond, yes, i am a whore; i shout it out as my body shakes in powerful waves from my climaxes, and i finish by thanking Him for letting me cum or giving me pain.

   

     Wow, i'm getting really turned on by this, which leads me back to how i started my comment, language is indeed quite powerful. 

• collared_whore said on Nov 15, 2007....

  oh, and a comment on accents.  Yeah they work, absolutely.   i am kind of partial to a German accent though. :)

• Fallyn said on Nov 15, 2007....

  WS....no.....it just makes me feel .....turned off? ...devalued. .that whoever it is that is using them isn't connecting to me. it's so hard to explain......oh to be used in a loved fashion. .....i want to be excepted as i am without the thought that i'm dirty for being so. i want what i like to be "normal" and seen as such. (though i know it isn't)
  
  now....bend over. *grin* that has some connotation i can live with.
  

• whoreslave said on Nov 15, 2007....

  Commands. Commanding tones. With most, prefacing a command by making it a request... "would you...Suck my cock?" generally spoils it, although I can imagine in the right context, such courtesy could be raunchy in it's own right, just as whispering can be more powerful than any shout... It puts the impetus upon the sub or slave, to claim the act as their own will, rather than obedience to the Master. (Or Mistress, of course..)
  Fallyn- I used to feel as you do. Couldn't bear being devalued, objectified, not completely seen and appreciated. In most subs, that changes over time, as your inner submission evolves. The will to be truly and completely obliterated as an individual is more than most ever achieve, of course, (me included,) but the complexities of the feelings that submissives experience grows constantly- the desire to be broken and driven down are only extensions of the desire to be commanded, and serving the will of another. The understanding, as I said, that one is strong enough, trustworthy enough- to take us right into hell itself- to terrify, and to some extent, destroy our identity, and yet still be present after, to lift us back up, remind us of our strengths, show us how beautiful and appreciated we are... it's very powerful indeed, and completely in our natures to push the envelope. At the point where you find he has taken you exactly where you wanted to go, you will see beyond that bottom... and wonder about what lies beyond it. I say "you Will", which is a bit arrogant of me, but in my experience, it's a normal progression. Once present in that outer edge, we cannot help but realize how much lies outside it, and whether we might like to explore further. (Pushing Limits, Tops call it. It's a good thing.*smiles* You'll see.)
  c_w... You and your Master both get me hopelessly hot with the things you talk about. It does sound as if you two have a truly marvelous relationship, which I envy regularly. Piss play? really? My god, to have my Master go there... ~shivers~ He's mentioned times that you've played, so I assume your relationship is one that's face to face, and not just a wishful thinking net fantasy... I do wish that my own life were not quite so complicated, so that I could pursue such play with someone who actually desires it. I am a living testimony to what can go wrong when a Top and his sub are not in sync. Oddly, one of the things that can go wrong by going right is genuine Love. I do Love my Master, sometimes it surprises me that I do. But I suppose that in a very real sense, I could (can!) interpret the lack of play between us as a cruel sort of submission in itself... that I want so much more, but accept that it's not his desire. Hey Fallyn? Try hard to NOT go here. *lol* It's hard. And it often SUCKS!
  I'd appreciate it if my Master'd even make NOISE when I suck his cock! *lol* He's so stoic, I only know he's cumming when it hits me in the back of the throat!

• collared_whore said on Nov 15, 2007....

  whoreslave--thank you--happy to get you worked up.  :)  Master and i do have a face to face relationship, that is both vanilla and lifestyle.  We see each other about twice a week, sometimes more, sometimes just for lunch or a drink and some parking lot play, and usually at least once a week for private play.  i never used to believe in soulmates, but i honestly feel like i have found mine in Him and vice vera.  And damn, O/our play is awesome.  i have always been a really sexual person, same for Him, but the things we do to each other and for each other never cease to amaze me and blow my mind. W/we are completely open and non-judgmental with each other (something i'd never experienced in a relationship before) and it leads to some pretty amazing experiences.  i love him and Him as i've never loved any man.  i know that we both feel really fortunate to have found each other.  It's good stuff.  i'm glad you enjoy reading what we share.
   
   
   
    

• collared_whore's_Master said on Nov 15, 2007....

  Hello all... What wonderful commentary since My last entry. It is amazing how tone & connotation of words can induce such intense reactions.

  Fallyn appears to be intrigued by bdsm but is not willing to embrace it, as yet. Still, her curiousity is worthy of U/us in the lifestyle to continue to open her to the possibilities of submission.

  ws, it saddens Me that you do not have the fulfillment you desire in your D/s realtionship. c_w & I are fortunate to have found each other. O/our compatability & openness are reasons why we have such an incredible M/s relationship. I adore her & cherish her not only My sub, but as my one & only love. ~kisses to My smokin hot slut~

• Fallyn said on Nov 15, 2007....

  excepted. jeez. *shaking my head* accepted. :P
  
  if someone gives me a command, i feel almost released from being obligated. i would MUCH rather be commanded. if they ask...then it's a favor. .....
  
  MY does something for me too. i really love to be possessed by someone who wants me. objectification does it too......i'm just not sure why the aversion to being called nasty things.
  
  when you say the will to be completely obliterated as an individual......maybe it is that. .....i have BEEN completely obliterated as an individual without my permission being given.  i don't know if i could ever get to the point of letting it happen again.
  
  in fact this has gotten me thinking.
  that in all truthfullness i WAS in this kind of relationship. but i could not submit. and i tried so very hard.
  he proved himself untrustworthy and incapable of doing what was right for me......he hurt my psyche very very badly.
  

• whoreslave said on Nov 15, 2007....

  Some folks are convinced that all women who find themselves attracted to D/s, M/s, S/m type relationships do so after being victims of abuse, as if abuse leads to some sort of self-deprecating addiction. I strongly disagree, since I know for a fact I had these urges long before I was recognized as a sexual being by the rest of the world. I do beleive that abusive relationships can trigger latent tendencies, and that likewise, those latent tendencies can lead us to become involved in unhealthy relationships- abusive men often put themselves off as powerful and strong. Most of them truly aren't, and are compensating for their own weaknesses by finding women who have yielding, forgiving, and submissive natures. I certainly have been in that situation more than once, and it was before I came to understand what now I do.

• whoreslave said on Nov 15, 2007....

  Oh- heh- and again, one more thing... That desire to be desired is a part of all of this- even the most degrading aspects. One of the greatest blisses to be found in that, (deep degradation,) is the knowledge that here is someone who has seen you, even PUT you- as low as you can be, and they still want you! Want you even worse in fact! Someone who sees this spark of lust in your eye and treasures you for it. Yes indeed. But then, I've also expressed a conscious desire for that self-annihilation, because I find in absolute humility a sort of Zen sense of Oneness with the greater Whole, that when I allow myself to see beyond "ME"ness, and individuality, I can better perceive my greater significance when in a state of INsignificance. It's confusing, but it makes sense to me when I'm there.

• Fallyn said on Nov 15, 2007....

  WS....i would have to disagree with that.......and i think my urges and not knowing what to do with them....combined with being COMPLETELY naive and innocent and naturally acquiescing personality. led to my abusive relationship.
  i have to fight though to maintain my balance as a person and not lose myself again.
  i couldn't bear it again. i was shattered. and i have built myself back up from the ground. it's not an experience i would like to have again.
  
  i think a key is that you love yourself to...as well as this other person still wanting you at your lowest. do you in fact love yourself? that you can go that low and not feel as though you hate yourself?
  
  is there a difference between losing individuality in safety and with consent and losing it under extreme unwanted pressure to do so?
  
  i think i see what you mean....i guess i'm just still struggling with what the past has done to my mind.
  
  

• whoreslave said on Nov 15, 2007....

  Do I hate myself? Not even a little. Well. I hate some things about myself... though not many, and not in any "self-loathing" sort of way. In fact I believe that part of the desire to be degraded springs from concern over my own ego. I have for many years of my life been a performer, and have a love for center stage. And that has granted me a small amount of the experience of minor fame and adoration, and however much I love performing, and consider myself extremely gifted, it's always been a squirmy, awkward feeling to have anyone praise my performances. I have all my life desperately wanted to belong, to fit in and not be special or outside or beyond. When I was quite young, I did believe that I was outcast because of some inferiority, and have striven desperately to learn, grow, study, and improve in the hope of fitting in and being accepted... Ironic that those pursuits themselves placed me somewhat beyond and outside in themselves, and at the same time, showed me that the very pursuit of personal growth and intellectual betterment were themselves a passion to which I cling. I may never quite belong, but I will know, and understand. *lol*
  Difference between yielding willingly and yielding under (undesired) duress? HELL yeah. Another area in which I find myself outside others' experiences: I have been raped, and I must admit a callous annoyance at the shock and horror and self-pity that victims of that crime tend to engage in. Granted, I was not grabbed in an alley by a stranger, I simply drew the NO line with a date, who proceeded to ignore that denial... Never the less, he pinned me, and took me anally for several hours... I don't even recall when he stopped, because I passed out. I spent the following day wandering in a bit of a daze, struggling with all the conflicting emotions one experiences in such situations, and then I was done. It was awful, yes... but not the worst thing I've ever endured. So I let it go. I think I told one person- my musical partner. Weeks later, my assailant's gf called me up- not even sure how she got my number- and asked if it were true. I awkwardly told her that yes, it was. I have no idea what came of that. I never saw him again though. But having been there willingly, and unwillingly, I can tell you yes, unquestioningly, VERY different.
  Long term abuses are another matter altogether though. Those do mess with your mind, and yeah, I have been there as well, with a violent, frighteningly intelligent man who quite deliberately broke down my defenses and ripped my self-esteem to shreds. I was with him for three years, and it took some three or four more to emotionally heal. I was a trembling, neurotic wreck for more than a year, unable to even cope, and prone to sort of autistic fits of spontaneous self-battery. You can and will heal, and when that time comes and you do get involved ina Dominant/submissive relationship, if it's right at all, it'll only serve to heal you even more, even making the worst of your scars fade to pale memories.
  In fact, there is a catharsis to be had in D/s after that sort of experience- the fact that in a very real sense, no matter how much power you choose to yield up, you ARE inevitably in control of the situations. It's like immersion therapy, where a phobic is shown that he is in control of the thing which he fears.

• Sickman said on Feb 22, 2008....

  You really should come back and post on here you know, Your delicious ramblings are very very enticing. I could command you to 'spread your fucking legs you piece of filthy fuckmeat!' but I imagine all I would get from you is an intelligable moan of desire as your hole fills with juices. You are such a filthy cockwhore, you shamelessly degrade yourself for the world to see and offer yourself for our amusement. An absolute attention craving cunt, I can just imagine your legs quivering as you almost shyly read. your entire being enjoying the warm feeling of belonging your sick and twisted mind is sending throughout you.
  
  Just figuring if I posted something thought *and other things?* provoking, that you might just stop coating your fingers with juices and type for us for a change ;)
  

• whoreslave said on Mar 03, 2008....

  I'm here, Sickman- and posting, although I admit that I'm far from at my best. If you've read my recent posts, you have some idea of the reasons, both for my absence and for my half-heartedness of late. I'll spring back, and revel and rut with you, sooner, I hope than later, though I can hardly promise that.
  Attention whore... hmmm... Sometimes. But if you've read me, you know I recognize the parts of me that are, and accept them. Likewise, I recognize that any sub who claims they really really WANT to be denied, ignored, and untouched by their Top, and/or who believe that their own desires and fetishes are irrelevant, and SHOULD be, likely has not actually endured such treatment for more than a weekend at an occasional time.
  If you claim that you want nothing, then you are lying, possibly to yourself as well.
  Personally, I don't think acknowledging that I need to be handled, whether gently or brutally, with great love, or fetish-driven cruelty, makes me an attention whore, nor that proclaiming here my filth for all to see does so either. I don't care to be ignored. No one really does. That's just human. I want to communicate, and to play in the dirt, preferably, not alone.
  But you're welcome to deride me for it... *smiles* As I've said many times, my ego can bear a bitchslap now and then...

• Sickman said on Mar 04, 2008....

  That's good to hear whoreslave. And I'm glad you're posting again.
  
  I'm sure you will spring back, you seem definetly strong willed enough to *That was almost a compliment*.
  
  I have read you, which is why I used those precise words,  I'm glad you took it well *chuckles* And I agree. One of the most....nasty?...punishments I have ever thought of *and thankfully have never had to dish out* Is simply placing your slave in a corner. Without telling her why she is there.
  
  I think that would hurt more than most anything else one could ever come up with. As for playing in the dirt, It's certainly worth the time.
  

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