• uniquely-ironic said on Nov 06, 2007....

  Don't let "them" dictate your life.  You can have children naturally until you're 40, and let me tell you, being over 40 myself, I'm no old woman.  Have kids (or even never have kids) when you want them and tell "them" to Fuck Off!!

• lioneljay said on Nov 06, 2007....

  People who are full of shit simply don't deserve your attention. Of course, if they are full of shit, then it's really fun to watch them shove it when you tell them to do so. Sometimes it comes out their ears in the most amusing way.

• beyondtheveil said on Nov 06, 2007....

  one_wired- Ignore these offensive people. The crassness of some to tell others they should and when to have children.
  
  I say you have one only if and when you definitely and without reservation want one.
  

• Fallyn said on Nov 06, 2007....

  OH MY GOODNESS.......NOOOOOOOO
  
  don't do it...don't let them pressure you.....
  
  live your life now! you'll know when you are ready for a baby!
  having a baby too young if you aren't ready emotionally will just leave you wishing you had your old life back!
  if you wait then the baby can BE your life.......since you've already DONE everything else!
  
  take this from a young mother who sees all my peers just now having babies....it's a completely different matter when you're a bit older.
  

• one_wired_kitty said on Nov 06, 2007....

  Thanks for the advice you guys. I'm still pissed about it. I was teetering on the edge for a while on whether or not to adopt kids. What finally shoved me over to the "no" side .... I was talking with my "old man" about adoption since hard pregnancies run in my family - told him I wanted to adopt some special needs kids (down syndrom, what-not) - he told me that he didnt' want a bunch of "broken babies" in his house. I guess I snapped at that point and decided that I just wasn't meant to raise children. I still cry over it but his opinion hasn't changed.

• silverwhisper said on Nov 06, 2007....

  you know, 1WK, i think that people who offer such stupid and offensive "advice" should be repaid with unsolicited advice about how they should dress or do their makeup in a way that suits them better.
  
  loudly.
  
  ed

• one_wired_kitty said on Nov 06, 2007....

  ROFL - I should try that ....

• Fallyn said on Nov 06, 2007....

  i think so TOO.
  
  

• one_wired_kitty said on Nov 06, 2007....

  That would be funny.

• Pontius_Pilate said on Nov 06, 2007....

  wow... sc is trippin.
  Ok well I said...
  Think SW has it dead on there. Give 'em a bit of their own 'advice'. Might get 'em to shut it.
  

• Twylarants said on Nov 06, 2007....

  Kitty-  Who's offering you this unsolicited advice? Is it family, someone who's feelings you wouldn't want to hurt?
  If not, I've found that a raised eyebrow and a haughty "Why would you say such a thing?" usually shuts them up.  I'm with Ed on this one.
  How about " I'm glad you brought that up...I've been meaning to tell you I think you have too many kids."     "And you're ugly."
  I hate presumptuous people.
  
  
  

• Fallyn said on Nov 06, 2007....

  *FALLING OVER LAUGHING* ........that is AWESOME.  i've wanted to tell lots of people they have too many kids. 

• pickersplock said on Nov 07, 2007....

  Don't listen to them!
  I had my first child at 30 and my second at 32.
  We were much better prepared to be parents in our 30s than we were in our 20s, so I was able to stay home with them until they both started kindergarten.
  I'm with ed and Twyla on this one! 
   Give 'em hell!

• anonymousdepressedguy said on Nov 10, 2007....

  hey don't do it to the poor unborn (not yet conceived) kid/s
  
  
  If you don't want them - be true to yourself honey - and the unwanted (your words) kids. 
  Don't feel guilty - you can always lean on the fact that this world has enough kids if you don't want them yet. It sounds like a small town christian ethos you are encountering there... 
  I think the people around you are just bored and can't think of anything else to talk about or do : ) - I have had an idea though... Why don't you freeeaaak them right out! and go on a holiday! for a year. : )

• Taffy000 said on Dec 10, 2007....

  Ahhhh :~) if you're old then I'm ancient I'm 26----I mean 36!!!!! I lost a decade there.  I want to be in my own home before I have children.  In a prefect world I'd quit working until the kids were in school.  IN some countries women get 3 years off & when the child is 3 years old it can go to school so you don't have to worry about childcare.  Hubby's even offered to ship me to his home country & I'd be taken care of.....that is so odd!!! 

  Kitty-----I just read your guy's response to adopting a Down's child.....that's awful.  I was adopted and it's been sheer hell.  My advice is don't adopt if one parent feels that way.  It's hard enough being adopted without having to deal with one parent who really doesn't want you around.  My mother was like that.  Her needs & everyone else's needs were important-I had no needs or if I did they were unimportant.  This is part of why if I don't have kids I won't be "sad" I'll be relieved.  It's a HUGE job raising a child-if you want to do it right.  MOst people now a days just spit the kids out & give no thought to raising them properly.

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