• the_infernal_optimist said on Nov 02, 2007....

  If you could go back in time and change something negative that happened to you, would you do it? Or would you keep everything the same because it's part of who you've become?
  
  I would leave it all the same, for several reasons. If I changed something, I wouldn't be me - and you don't know what else would change around you, or what more awful event you might've opened the possibility for by erasing something else. Plus, the bad things we go through help us to have compassion for other people in similar situations, so changing that about ourselves could shortchange other people in some way.
  
   
  Do you think men and women can really just be friends? Or is it inevitable that someone is going to want something more eventually?
  
  It's possible to remain just friends, especially if your life is what you'd consider to be already fairly complete and happy. It seems that when we feel there's something missing in our other relationships is when we start turning to friends for more than just friendship.
  
   
  When you meet a person for the first time, can you usually tell right away if they're going to be important to your life, even if you don't know how yet? (This can be in any capacity. Friendship, lover...)
  
  I can tell immediately that some people aren't going to like me, probably ever, and vice versa (though I'm willing to give them a chance anyway most of the time). The reverse is a little harder to be certain on, but there have been times I was pretty sure Person X and I were going to be great friends, almost from the get-go. Now and then I make an immediate and striking connection with someone that's hard to explain, but it's rare.
  
   
  Do you believe that people are meant to meet each other? (This applies in any capacity too. Friendship, lover....) If yes, do you believe that you knew these people in a past life?
   
  I believe that some people would find their way to us no matter what choices we make, though I'm not sure exactly how to phrase that without going into a long-assed tangent on my view of time/fate/the future. I don't believe I knew these people in a past life.
  
   
  If you had to give up your best friend in order to make your spouse/lover happy, would you do it? And if so, would this be an easy choice or something that would cause you great difficulty?
  
  I would not give up my best friend for my husband. If he asked me to, it would be a sign of severe problems. In a very real sense, that's asking me to change who I am. Giving up someone I love for someone else I love is an unfair ultimatum to issue, ever, and the person asking it would be breaking something between us by doing so. I'm not sure that would be recoverable.
  
  ~Infernal
  

• Mr_Box said on Nov 02, 2007....

  Thanks for answering this, Infernal. I was very interested in your answers. Especially your response to the last question.
   
  You'd never give up your best friend, even if your husband asked? I suppose you are right. If he asked, then there must be something else going on that would cause him to make a request like that.
   
  Your answer gives me something to think about.

• Mr_Box said on Nov 02, 2007....

  If you could go back in time and change something negative that happened to you, would you do it? Or would you keep everything the same because it's part of who you've become?

   

  I tend to think I wouldn't change anything. Even if it was something bad. Obviously whatever it was, I got over it. And it shaped the person I became. I'd leave it alone.

   

  Do you think men and women can really just be friends? Or is it inevitable that someone is going to want something more eventually?

   

  I do not know the answer to this. I have never had a good female friend before. I know that some people say they can do this, but I've yet to see it work firsthand. It seems like one or the both of them, eventually crosses over the line.

   

  When you meet a person for the first time, can you usually tell right away if they're going to be important to your life, even if you don't know how yet? (This can be in any capacity. Friendship, lover...)

   

  I have been able to tell this before. When I met my wife, I felt that way. And there have been a select few friends that I've known right away we'd be friends. It's a rarity, but it's pretty cool when it does happen.

   

  Do you believe that people are meant to meet each other? (This applies in any capacity too. Friendship, lover....) If yes, do you believe that you knew these people in a past life?

   

  Yes I do think people are meant to meet. Even the people who drive you crazy. They too have their purpose in your life. And I do believe in reincarnation so I tend to think I did know them before.

   

  If you had to give up your best friend in order to make your spouse/lover happy, would you do it? And if so, would this be an easy choice or something that would cause you great difficulty?

   

  This would be a difficult choice for me. On the surface, I feel like it should be easy. I feel like the relationship with a spouse/lover should always be more important than anything else.

   

  But when I actually consider the choice, I don't find it that easy. There is something special about friendships too. And they can't just be discarded without thought. It's a tough one...

• the_infernal_optimist said on Nov 02, 2007....

  I wouldn't do it. Couldn't do it - it would cost me too much of who I am to just turn my back on someone who loves me, who has been there for me in some seriously rocky times, just because someone else (even the ultimate someone else, as far as that goes) thought I should. The reasons for him asking that of me would be telling, I think.
  
  If it was an easy choice, I think something else would be wrong. A best friend shouldn't be easy to discard (well-phrased there!), ever. I guess it would depend on the person and the circumstances, but my answer is pretty clear for my particular situation and for who I am.
  
  Thanks for this post - it's quite intriguing.
  
  ~Infernal
  

• Twylarants said on Nov 02, 2007....

  If you could go back in time and change something negative that happened to you, would you do it? Or would you keep everything the same because it's part of who you've become?
  The same.  I learned something from everything that happened, good or bad.
  
   
  Do you think men and women can really just be friends? Or is it inevitable that someone is going to want something more eventually?
  All of my good friends are men, all my husband's good friends are women.  We're weird that way.
  
   
  When you meet a person for the first time, can you usually tell right away if they're going to be important to your life, even if you don't know how yet? (This can be in any capacity. Friendship, lover...)
  Yes.  It's just a feeling I get when meeting people.
  
   
  Do you believe that people are meant to meet each other? (This applies in any capacity too. Friendship, lover....) If yes, do you believe that you knew these people in a past life?
  Nope and nope.   
  
   
  If you had to give up your best friend in order to make your spouse/lover happy, would you do it? And if so, would this be an easy choice or something that would cause you great difficulty?
   
  Nope again, he's my spouse/lover, not my handler.
  

• Mr_Box said on Nov 02, 2007....

  I'm glad you got something out of this post, Infernal. When I posted it, I wasn't even really sure where I was going with it.

  But I've liked reading the responses so far.

  Twyla I find that interesting that you and your husband both have good friends of the opposite sex. I guess it really can work out then. You guys are living proof.

  That's exactly the type of answers I was curious to read.

  Thank you guys for indulging my curiosity.

• Twylarants said on Nov 02, 2007....

  The friends I've made in my life were mostly men because I've always worked in meat rooms with men, I grew up with 4 brothers and I have 4 sons,  so I've got sort of a rough edge about me...not coarse, I can be very proper and ladylike if the situation calls for it.  My husband has always worked in an office with both sexes, so he can sit over here with the guys and talk sports and politics, and go over there and gossip with the girls (although he calls it "sharing information").  I can do the same.  Sexism to me is like racism.  People are just people.
  Good questions Mr Box...I love polls.
  

• Mr_Box said on Nov 02, 2007....

  I'm glad you enjoyed this, Twyla. You have a good attitude. People are just people.

  I think that the problems most people seem to run into is jealousy. But if you and your husband don't have that issue, I don't see anything wrong with having friends of either sex.

  I guess it all depends on who you relate to more.

   

• lfbno7 said on Nov 03, 2007....

  Wait. I have to copy the questions. I don't remember them. Hold on. If you could go back in time and change something negative that happened to you, would you do it? Or would you keep everything the same because it's part of who you've become? I would do it. Screw who I've become. Do you think men and women can really just be friends? Or is it inevitable that someone is going to want something more eventually? No, I think most men want to fuck any woman they see, and the only reason they don't say so is because they don't want to say so. When you meet a person for the first time, can you usually tell right away if they're going to be important to your life, even if you don't know how yet? (This can be in any capacity. Friendship, lover...) Yes I can tell right away that they aren't going to be important in my life. Do you believe that people are meant to meet each other? (This applies in any capacity too. Friendship, lover....) If yes, do you believe that you knew these people in a past life? Yes. Yes. That's the kinda shit that's right down my alley. If you had to give up your best friend in order to make your spouse/lover happy, would you do it? And if so, would this be an easy choice or something that would cause you great difficulty? Hell no. Fuck her. It was an extremely easy choice. She doesn't get a vote in who my friends are. But she would never object to my friends anyway. She's not like that. Now that I've done mine, I'll go back and read what other people wrote. I haven't been influenced by anyone else's answers, but then again, I never am. Believe it or not, I actually separated this answer into paragraphs but Soul Cast and my Opera browser don't get along and lump it all into one paragraph. Oh well, at least the thing works.

• silverwhisper said on Nov 03, 2007....

  i wouldn't change anything, no. i've taken something positive from the bad things that have happened to me or that i've done, and that's made me who i am now, and i'm pretty much at peace w/ who i am now. besides, that took me a while and was a huge PITA--i don't wanna do that again! :>
  
  yes, men and women can really be friends. indeed, some of my closest friends are women and there's zero interest there.
  
  when meeting someone new, i usually don't get the "spidey-sense" about them. i do occasionally, but it's extremely rare and not always reliable, either.
  
  i don't generally believe in fate. there are exceptions but it's a very confused jumble i can't really explain just now.
  
  no one who was worthy of my love would ever put such a demand on me. that person therefore would lose.
  
  ed

• evil_twin said on Nov 03, 2007....

  Interesting post, Jack. Those are some deep questions. You really were in a mood, weren't you? But I'll answer them for you.
  
  
  If you could go back in time and change something negative that happened to you, would you do it? Or would you keep everything the same because it's part of who you've become?
  
  I don't think I would change anything. Nothing really horrible enough ever happened to me that I would want to go back and erase it. And all the little horrible things did make me who I am today. And I'd have to say that most of them made me stronger. So no, I wouldn't change it.
  
   
  Do you think men and women can really just be friends? Or is it inevitable that someone is going to want something more eventually?
  
  Yes I think they can be friends. Personally, I relate to women and am more comfortable being friends with women, over men. When I'm with other guys, I feel like there are certain appearances I need to keep up. But with women, I feel like I can be myself. And I also feel that sometimes friendship just transcends gender. I connect with people and not what package they're wrapped in. As for the inevitability of someone wanting more? I can see how it would happen. But I don't think it's a given.
  
   
  When you meet a person for the first time, can you usually tell right away if they're going to be important to your life, even if you don't know how yet? (This can be in any capacity. Friendship, lover...)
  
  Yes. There are certain people who I get a really good feeling about right off the bat. And I know that they're going to be a part of my life. This happens more often with friendships though. I've only felt this way once with a lover and that's Nat :-)
  
   
  Do you believe that people are meant to meet each other? (This applies in any capacity too. Friendship, lover....) If yes, do you believe that you knew these people in a past life?
  
  I most definitely believe this. There are all sorts of reason for it though. It's not always romance. I believe people come into your life all the time for special reasons. They have something you need at that moment, or vice versa. And not all of them are meant to stick around forever. But they all have their purpose. And I do believe that the people that cross our paths like that, are people we've known before in other lives.
  
   
  If you had to give up your best friend in order to make your spouse/lover happy, would you do it? And if so, would this be an easy choice or something that would cause you great difficulty?
  
  I would really, really hope that this would never be an issue. But if it was, it would be very hard to make that choice. I always want to make everyone happy, even at my own expense. But something like this would tear me up inside.
  
  
  

• nursecutie said on Nov 03, 2007....

  If you could go back in time and change something negative that happened to you, would you do it? Or would you keep everything the same because it's part of who you've become?
   
  I don't know.....I guess I probably wouldn't change things. But there are certain events I wish they didn't happen. But I think that maybe I would be scared to alter some bigger plan for me if I stopped them from happening......
   
  Do you think men and women can really just be friends? Or is it inevitable that someone is going to want something more eventually?
   
  I hope they can be.......and I hope that it doesn't automatically mean someone will want more. I've never had a guy friend before though. Not really........so I don't know what it would be like to be in that place.
   
  When you meet a person for the first time, can you usually tell right away if they're going to be important to your life, even if you don't know how yet? (This can be in any capacity. Friendship, lover...)
   
  The only time this has happened to me is with Kyle :) Otherwise I don't think I am as in tune with sort of thing. I do have impressions of people though. I almost always know if I won't like someone right away. But sometimes it takes me longer to really know if I WILL like them......
   
  Do you believe that people are meant to meet each other? (This applies in any capacity too. Friendship, lover....) If yes, do you believe that you knew these people in a past life?
   
  I do think people are meant to meet :) I liked Kyle's answer. That's how I feel too. All the people in our lives have a reason for being there. Nothing is by chance. It's a plan. I don't know about the past life thing though. Maybe? It's a cool idea :)
   
  If you had to give up your best friend in order to make your spouse/lover happy, would you do it? And if so, would this be an easy choice or something that would cause you great difficulty?
   
  I don't know if I would or not........I think it would depend on the reason why they wanted me to give them up. If they were coming between the relationship with us, then maybe there would be a valid reason for the request?? Friends are very special though so it would be a tough choice......

• lfbno7 said on Nov 03, 2007....

  ET's answer on people who were meant to meet each other is exactly what I believe. In Michael Newton's books Journey of Souls and Destiny of Souls he tells us that we meet in Heaven, before we come to Earth, it is pre-arranged with a number of people, and not just your spouse, just exactly the way ET put it. There is also a degree of "casting" going on in Heaven, inviting others to take part in our lives.

• Mr_Box said on Nov 03, 2007....

  Thank you all for answering. It has been enlightening. Sometimes I'm a superficial smart ass, but sometimes I like to ponder the deeper meaning of life.

  Lfbno7.......so you really think that men want to fuck every woman they see? But what if she's ugly? Can a man be friends with an ugly woman and not want to fuck her?

  Ed......so if your wife had an objection to one of your female friends, you would choose the friend over your wife?

  I was in a mood, Kyle. It happens. But I think the mood has passed now.

  I get what you're saying about connecting with people and not the package they're in. It makes sense. And you have always been like that much more so than me.

  I also know that you bend over backwards to make everyone around you happy. But don't forget about yourself. That guy deserves to be happy too. Just remember that.

  Miss Natty.......I think you bring up a good point in regards to the last question. I think that if there was a valid reason for the request, it would be something that warranted some contemplation.

  But friends do have a special place our lives. Hopefully that whatever reasons someone would ask this of you, could be worked out in a different way.

   

• Mr_Box said on Nov 03, 2007....

  Lfbno7......I agree with you and Kyle both. It's a very intriguing concept. There is a plan that has been made for us all, only we don't remember what it was.
   
  But along the journey of life, the plan is carried out anyway. We can't stop it. And we shouldn't want to.
   
  Everything has a purpose.

• lfbno7 said on Nov 03, 2007....

  Actually I don't think guys always want to have sex with every girl they see. I think I was exaggerating. But I was also thinking of this woman at work who is way over-weight but wears these low cut tops, and I tell my eyes not to look at her boobs, but my eyes don't always listen, since they are not ears, and anyway what is peripheral vision for? I think it is for boobs.

• Mr_Box said on Nov 03, 2007....

  [chuckles]

  You make me laugh, Lfbno. I enjoy a good boob view myself. Looking isn't a crime. If it was, I'd be serving a life sentence.

  Fantasy isn't a crime either. It's normal to be attracted to other women besides your wife/girlfriend.

  I think the issues arise when you're attracted to someone who is supposed to be your friend. At that point, it's usually not just a physical attraction, but emotional too.

  But I guess you don't have to act on it, right?

• gingersoul said on Nov 03, 2007....

  If you could go back in time and change something negative that happened to you, would you do it? Or would you keep everything the same because it's part of who you've become?
  This is the classic one million dollar question. I am always tempted to say yes, wth, i want go back and delete those nasty episodes of my life. Then...wisdom kicks in and i know that i am who i am because of the way i reacted to those nasty events. Its not what happens to us but how we react to it. So, i would keep everything the same. Final answer 
   
   
  Do you think men and women can really just be friends? Or is it inevitable that someone is going to want something more eventually?
  I have always had many male friends. Actually, at one point i had more men than women as friend. I seem to click easier with men, sometimes. I found many of their reasoning intriguing, yet unnerving, most of all relaxing. We women are way too complicated sometimes. The friendship i had with some of them with the time turned in an emotional and physical attraction.....acted out.... So i have to say...its possible to be friends with a man but the boundaries have to be very clear since the beginning.....
  I found that the qualities that lead me to a man and to be friend with him can be irresistable sometimes......sometimes its easy to slip in something else...i can tell you though that the majority of my male friends and i overcame the sexual element and now are still very friend.
   
  When you meet a person for the first time, can you usually tell right away if they're going to be important to your life, even if you don't know how yet? (This can be in any capacity. Friendship, lover...)
  Absolutely. I react to people with my gut. Instinctively i know within few seconds if i like you or not and if i will allow you to be in my life. Its a matter of clicking.....it happens also here in Sc....
   
  Do you believe that people are meant to meet each other? (This applies in any capacity too. Friendship, lover....) If yes, do you believe that you knew these people in a past life?
  I have met several people that made me think it was inevitable for us to meet. I am not talking about lovers. Actually i have had this feeling more with my friends. I dont believe we necessarily knew each other in another life but i like to think about it. I believe coincidences tie us up to the significant person in our lives.....if we know how to read them we discover the bond that we can develop with these special people... 
   
   
  If you had to give up your best friend in order to make your spouse/lover happy, would you do it? And if so, would this be an easy choice or something that would cause you great difficulty?
  I know that when we were married my husband was a little jealous of my many male friends...he used to call them "my litte friends" like in the song Hotel California...he never asked me to slow down my relationships with any of them......he knew that when i was going in Italy and he couldn't accompany me i was going to meet them and spend time with them. I always admired him for this. If he would have asked me such a thing i would have thought he was insecure and controlling and i would have reconsidered our relationship. Yet...this doesn't mean that if he had the same kind of friendshop with other women i wouldn't be jealous...still....i would let him free to have them... 
  Actually, once happened that my best girfriend and my boyfriend cheated on me....she confessed the thing.....he didn't ...i got mad and hurt ..but at the end i chose to keep my friend and ditched the guy...best choice i ever made in my life......we remained best friends until she died.....
   
  Pfiuu....you could have filled 4 different posts with each of these questions....lol...now i need a drink.....;-0

• Mr_Box said on Nov 03, 2007....

  Thanks for taking the time answer this, Gingery.

  So you've had a lot of male friends? And sometimes you do feel an attraction to them. I think that's why most people find it difficult to hold friendships like this. 

  If you're attracted to them, and you have affection for them, it would seem to me that it's a natural reaction to consider more at some point. It's human nature.

  You mentioned meeting people here at Soulcast and knowing right away that you click. I find that cool. I think that you are not the only one who feels that way.

  I have some definite vibes about people here and I haven't been around long. But there are souls here at Soulcast that shine brighter than others. I can't help but notice them.

• gingersoul said on Nov 03, 2007....

  Mr. B.......i think that many times we suppress the attraction we have for friends of the opposite sex and for many good reasons....our friends might be married or in a relationship, they might be having problem with their own boundaries....

  Respect is the ultimate control device..somebody who would take advantage of a friendship to push himself/herself toward other should be immediately scolded.....it happened to me....i had this friend who hid very well his obsession for me but when at the end the real nature of his affection got exposed ...well...lets say it has not be nice....

  He is the only guy i got physical with...i slapped him in the face and throw him out of my car...end of our relationship...

  There is a wonderful and sometimes undefined territory between friends.......if i have to choose bewteen becoming a lover with a friend but then risking to loose his friendship i would never cross the line....lovers come and go, a friend, for me, is forever.

  Here i clicked immediately with people that in the long run i found out were actually great....i never had - up to now - a wrong gut istinct with anybody.....i clicked with you too...and i am discovering new aspects of your personality...you might come out loud and carefree but you are not only that.....everybody is like an onion....layers and layers of  their personalities get peeled off more we know them....

  In RL the body language helps me even better....but words too dont lie....not for too long, at least.....and here there are special souls who shine brighter......:-)

• Mr_Box said on Nov 03, 2007....

  Gingery......there are several sides to me. I'm not just a one trick pony. And if I continue to stick around this place, I'm sure you'll keep learning something new.

  I completely agree with what you said about respect and friendship boundaries. If only one person is feeling the attraction and tries to force it, it will ruin everything.

  If something is to be taken to another level, it must be mutual.

• silverwhisper said on Nov 03, 2007....

  mr box: see, that's the thing, my wife would never ask such a thing of me. if she ever seriously were to consider such a thing, she'd have to dislike that person for some pretty grave reasons, and if that were the case it would be some very serious stuff--serious enough that i'd be anxious about considering such a person a friend.
  
  ed

• Mr_Box said on Nov 04, 2007....

  You make a point, Ed. So you would consider dropping a friend IF your wife had a good reason. Hypothetically.

  But it's good that your wife has no such issues with your friends.

• silverwhisper said on Nov 04, 2007....

  well, if she were pushed to the point of asking, i should already be re-thinking it myself. that's what i was trying to say.
  
  actually: she doesn't like most of my friends. she doesn't dislike 'em, but they just aren't people she'd call for the hell of it just to chat, you know? and that's OK, i feel the same about most of her friends. :>
  
  ed

• Mr_Box said on Nov 04, 2007....

  I understand now, Ed. I suppose you're right. My wife doesn't care that much for some of my friends either, but she tolerates them.

  And they've never actually done anything wrong, per say. She just thinks they're idiots. But they're my idiots, so she keeps her mouth shut.

  Her best friend is a kooky broad too and I tolerate her. So it evens out.

• tbs230 said on Nov 05, 2007....

  If you could go back in time and change something negative that happened to you, would you do it? Or would you keep everything the same because it's part of who you've become?
  
  Yes, I would.
  
   
  Do you think men and women can really just be friends? Or is it inevitable that someone is going to want something more eventually?
  
  Yes. I think that one might want something more, but if they value the friendship and know that nothing will come of asking for more, they can remain just friends. I'm sure that I've been attracted to my male friends at least once during the friendship. But I know them too well to ever assume that it could become more. Plus, they make better friends then lovers, I've been privy to their notions on relationships...eek!
  
   
  When you meet a person for the first time, can you usually tell right away if they're going to be important to your life, even if you don't know how yet? (This can be in any capacity. Friendship, lover...)
  
  Nope. I do know when someone will NOT be important...usually because I can't stand them right away.
  
   
  Do you believe that people are meant to meet each other? (This applies in any capacity too. Friendship, lover....) If yes, do you believe that you knew these people in a past life?
   
  Yes. The world is a very tiny place. If it's meant to be, it will be...just can't get around that. And past life, no. I just think that you're drawn to certain people, so you want to meet them, and will find a way to do so. (subconsciously, of course)
  
   
  If you had to give up your best friend in order to make your spouse/lover happy, would you do it? And if so, would this be an easy choice or something that would cause you great difficulty?
  
  No. They're my best friend for a reason. My spouse/lover would know this, and would never ask it of me. If he did, it had better be for a good reason...and even then, short of murderous intent or blatant man-stealing, it wouldn't happen.
  

• crybabylu said on Nov 05, 2007....

  Mr. Box: 

  1)  If I could go back and change something bad that happened to me , you betcha!  I don't care if it did make me stronger or whatever.  Root that bad thing right out of my life.

  2)  I am not sure in general, how good of friends men and women can be without it becoming intimate.  Of course there are always exception, but as a rule, I don't know what to say.   My husband and I have good friends together.  and either one of us could get together with the other one's mate for lunch etc. and it would not go anywhere, other than friendship.  I think my husband could have a good woman friend  and it not go anywhere but friendship, I'm just not  sure if I could or not. I counsel male  or female sometimes together sometimes apart, but to say to have a close good friendship, I just don't know.  I have some, but they are not attractive.  (By the way) you should have included that bit in your question, if a person finds them attractive. or not.  Look how long my  number two was to my number one.

  3) When I meet someone for the first time, I usually know if we are going to be friends or not.  But, of course, sometimes there are surprises.

  4)  I think there is a right person for everyone.  No, I don't believe in past lives.

  5) No, I would not give up a friend for my spouse.  I could elaborate and say he would never ask me to, but your question just asked would I , and I say, no, I would not.

• tizzygirl said on Nov 05, 2007....

  1.  The one thing I would change is big...so I can't be sure I'd change it, it'd be like a whole new life....it'd be scary...so I'm not sure about that question....but if faced with the option...I might actually do it
  2.  I def. think they can be friends.
  3.  When the person is going to be extrememly important, I know right away most times, there have been a few times I was surprised though.  But I think souls do recognize eachother on some level.
  4.  I do believe that people are meant to meet eachother, I think it happens over and over and sometimes you screw it up, and sometimes you don't....so yes that means I think that there are past lives and future ones
  5.  I've done this once before, and it was horrible.  I want to say I would never do it again, but I think it has to do with the situation.  I can't be sure, I think it's different every time.
   
  Wow Boxy on Friday my biggest thought was what to eat for dinner!  Just kidding, I was a little hestitant to answer these, but they were good questions!

• Mr_Box said on Nov 05, 2007....

  tbs.....it seems that several people know when they will not like somebody, versus that they will. That's interesting.

  crybabylu.....you make an interesting point. You believe that it's easier for men and women to be friends, if there's no physical attraction? I definitely see the logic in that.

  But sometimes attraction is much deeper than a physical thing. Sometimes a person automatically becomes more appealing because of the emotions involved.

  Mizz Tizz......why would you be hesitant to answer? Was this too much deep thought for a Monday morning response?

  I'm interested in the big thing you'd change, but I won't ask. It's not my business. But you are one of the only ones who said they might change something.

  I do think souls recognize each other though. I guess it's just a matter of recognizing who they're supposed to be to you in this life.

• destinydiva said on Nov 06, 2007....

  deep questions on a tuesday afternoon :-)
  
  If you could go back in time and change something negative that happened to you, would you do it? Or would you keep everything the same because it's part of who you've become?  there are a few things I would change nothing major tho...but then I would worry that a few small changes would equate to great big changes....hmmm I dont know!! lol :-)
  
   
  Do you think men and women can really just be friends? Or is it inevitable that someone is going to want something more eventually?
  I definitly think that men and women can be very good friends without something more developing...I have a few very good male friends... some of them started out as relationships....some of them will never be relationships...up untill the last few years of my life I always tended to get on better with men than girls, now I have good friends in both sexes!
  
   
  When you meet a person for the first time, can you usually tell right away if they're going to be important to your life, even if you don't know how yet? (This can be in any capacity. Friendship, lover...)  yes almost always
  
   
  Do you believe that people are meant to meet each other? (This applies in any capacity too. Friendship, lover....) If yes, do you believe that you knew these people in a past life?  hmmmm  definitly yes to the first part....  the second part...I am not really sure...  I havnt built up my own definite opinion on that yet! I totally believe we come back, but wether we come across the same people each time I dont know... 
  
   
  Final question.
   
  If you had to give up your best friend in order to make your spouse/lover happy, would you do it? And if so, would this be an easy choice or something that would cause you great difficulty?  no way... no how.... no never!!!!!   ever ever ever!!!  :-)
  
   

• destinydiva said on Nov 06, 2007....

  oops missed a bit sorry.....
  
  And if so, would this be an easy choice or something that would cause you great difficulty?  It would be an easy choice, I have been in a controlling relaionship, and would never ever allow myself to get in that position again
  

• tizzygirl said on Nov 06, 2007....

  Boxy- I've been judged harshly for my beliefs, a few times for believing in past and future lives....I know it's probably not that big of deal to you to admit to those things but I guess I have scars from it

• Mr_Box said on Nov 06, 2007....

  Miss Diva......thanks for answering. The questions still apply even if it's not Friday anymore.

  I'm finding that several people get along better with those of the opposite sex. I find that interesting. Maybe I've been missing out by not having any close female friends?

  Mizz Tizz.....I would never judge you harshly for that. I'm glad you were honest with your thoughts. I've always had the attitude that I don't care if people think my beliefs are wrong.

  Most people do. But no one is going to change my mind. And if they don't like it and they can't accept that my beliefs are part of me, then they're not worth my time.

• crybabylu said on Nov 09, 2007....

  If i could change something, I 'd go back to the decision to drop out of college, and stay in and get a diploma, I made a number of choices from that bad one.

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