It's been 11 months since my best friend died and I'm still not sure how I'm meant to be feeling. I had been friends with her for over 12 years although we had fallen out over something stupid but we were always like that. It was very sudden and unexpected, it was my second loss in 6months as my Nanna died too, even though that was awful I did expect it one day. You do not expect your 25yr old friend to die though. I just feel so bad still, sometimes I think I'm ok then I will come across something she bought me or a photo and I just break down, other times I forget and something happens and I think "oh I must tell her that" Some pearls of wisdom from you guys would be appreciated, I'm just not sure how long I'm meant to feel so bad.
00purple666 posted on Jul 30, 2006
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Heartwalker said on Jul 30, 2006....
Dear purple666, I am with you , for I also have suffered the loss of a dearly loved one.Words cannot express the agony within, the sorrow can only be felt inside you, However life has to lived on... and I suggest that you pour out your feelings, talk it out loudly when you are alone in the room, this is called catharsis, or cleansing negative emotions. I also felt very lonely when I had to leave my love forever, those relationships can never be felt again, ... but that is the way of life... To meet and depart is the way of life, and to depart and meet is the hope in life... You may feel that the ones dead are gone forever, but I believe that the ones who are dear to us in our heart, wil remain with us forever, not in this physical plane, but in the astral plane and when the right time comes, they shall be re united with us. so have faith and live your life fully in fond remembrance of your loved ones, I am sure that is what they will want from you. I am here to share my views and concern, yours truly Heartwalker -
IFMU said on Jul 30, 2006....
I had a very close friend, maybe brother would be a better word, who had commited suicide just over 2 years ago now. It's still killer to think of him. I can remember the exact moment I heard about it, nearly word for word. Stunned was my only emotion. Even to this day I have a hard time imagining that it did happen. I wish I could tell you whether or not it "would get easier" or whatever, but I cant. Not from my perspective. I have heard from plenty of people who say that it does, dont think that number of people would lie. So it must be true, at least for most. The only suggestion I can give is, when you think of this person, remember the times you spent with them. The peace you felt when they were around. In any event, luck. -
00purple666 said on Jul 31, 2006....
I can still remember the excact moment too I was woken up by my mobie phone ringing to this day if I am woken up by a phone ringing it panics me.I suppose it must at some point get easier but it might take a while! thanks for your comments both of you :o) -
silverwhisper said on Jul 31, 2006....
no one can tell you how long you will grieve, b/c for all of us, it's different. the only thing i can tell you is that you will eventually, painfully slowly, be able to go a day w/out breaking down. you will, but i also know whatever any kind-intentioned person on the internet says, that won't help. i wish there was something helpful that i could say but there really isn't, beyond this: my condolences on your loss. would it help to talk about your friend? share some of the great times you had together? because surely there were many. ed -
Elevator said on Aug 01, 2006....
I'm also with you 00purple666. It is never easy, and my thoughts are also with you. A year and a half ago, i lost my 2 remaining grandparents and my godfather all withyin 5 months, two of them within hours of each other. Put frankly, life really can suck dog-eggs. But it can be great. It just needs the willingness to hold on for the good things. I tell you writing on here does help alot. Spill it out, and i'm sure we will do what we can for you. Elevator x -
mrhowto said on Aug 01, 2006....
^^ what he said ;) ^^ ...just lost a member of the family recently who was always really nice to me and I hadn't said goodbye or seen her in ages. Really takes a bite out of you and makes you think, "I should have done more". But then makes you realise, you can still do more for the people you have now. So make the most of life while it's still here. -
00purple666 said on Aug 03, 2006....
That's what I've realised life it to short so I have decided to re-evaluate some of my friendships those which are to negative to salvage are going to be ended, the ones which are positive I am going to make an effort to keep them that way.
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