last night in wal mart i ran into my cousin whom i haven't seen since i was about 12 years old.
he recognized me first. Stupidly, i thought he was some guy checking me out. :P For one thing i remember him being a lot taller!
.....anyway, i was in the home improvement section looking at paint chips with my mom. and he just comes up and is like COUSIN!!! and hugs me. and we are talking and he's so excited cause he just got hired to do set building down in hollywood! and i was telling him about my kids and all of that. And of course i told him how proud i was of him that he was making his dreams come true
the lady working that section at the paint counter just gives us the WEIRDEST look. and she's like...."he's your cousin?" then she frowns and mutters something under her breath....i didn't catch all of what she said but i think it was something about skeletons in the closet or something.
He's black.
i have several black cousins. .....his family....and another cousin who looks black but her dad was morrocan or something. it doesn't matter. I'm white....sometimes taken for hispanic, or even native american........neither of which i am....it's my Italian heritage coming out.
but it PISSES ME OFF.
i LOVE my cousins.
My love is black. The first and only black guy i've ever dated.
Is this something i would have to worry about at every turn if we ever were able to be together?
What happens when one of my daughters introduces his son as her brother? My kids don't have ANY qualms about color. They love him. The few times they've been with him he's been more of a dad to them than their real dad ever was in NINE years!!!
They love their cousins
it just made me REALLY mad and i needed to rant about it.
Fallyn posted on Oct 30, 2007
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uniquely-ironic said on Oct 30, 2007....
That clerk needs to be bitch slapped with a stack of paint chips. (but please don't take that as an order)It still floors me that people have the nerve to be incredulous when they see family members who are different skin colors. Love is one color fits all. -
Fallyn said on Oct 30, 2007....
EXACTLY. Hmmmph.
thankyou UI. i needed the agreement.
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destinydiva said on Oct 30, 2007....
rah!!! this maddens me too fallyn.
my dads dad is black, (african) my dads mum white, I'm kinda a nice tan colour :-) some of my cousins are black, some of them are white, some are inbetween.
Who the hell cares what colour skin we are in? stupid woman at walmart!!
xx
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Fallyn said on Oct 30, 2007....
no kidding.
one of the first times my guy and i were together we went in the local albertsons to grab something......and the store manager keeps watching him.....acting like he's nervous or something. .
there are very few black families in the community where i live...actually since katrina there are a few more that relocated here...... so many thousands of miles away....
anyway.....my guy goes up to him and starts talking to him in a native african accent. my jaw nearly hit the floor...i didn't realize he was so good at accents and it surprised me. *laughing*
and the store managers demeanor COMPLETELY changed....like...ohhhhh this guys not a gang banger, he's FOREIGN!
my guy is neither a gang banger NOR foreign.
his sense of humor and willingness to go completely crazy with another accent in public is one of the biggest reasons i've fallen for him.
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lampshade said on Oct 30, 2007....
racism is really pretty stupid. I don't think those people can be changed, unfortunately. I think they just need to die off and children need to be raised with an open mind. I remember as a kid asking my mom why someone I saw had such dark skin. She said some people were like that, the same way some people have black hair and some are blond. It was instantly clear to me. I wish everyone could see things that way. -
pookiedookie said on Oct 30, 2007....
People like that aren't even worth worrying about! They have small minds and big mouths! I have dated every race imaginable, and I 'm not only a better man for it, I 'm a better person too, because each was a rewardingly enriching experience. It is time for the world to just get over it! Period!
Duke
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Fallyn said on Oct 31, 2007....
COMPLETELY. -
silverwhisper said on Oct 31, 2007....
i think the perfect response to that clerk would have been "at least my family heritage doesn't include rampant stupidity, you unmitigated festering syphilitic pustule of idiocy."
or perhaps i'm just feeling a tad snarky this morning...
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Fallyn said on Oct 31, 2007....
*giggling* that is rather snarky.
my cousin just smirked when she said that..and kinda rolled his eyes.....neither of us is all that confrontational. He was being all nicey nice to her asking her for help finding stuff.......
kinda funny. :P
*grin*
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rupert7 said on Oct 31, 2007....
Fallyn - I truly despair at the attitude of ignorant people like your "lady" at Wal mart.
My ex wife married an Aboriginal man, he is very dark and they had 3 beautiful kids together. Even though he "stole" my wife, I can't help but like him. He is one the most soft spoken and gentle men I have ever met! The eldest gitl (Rebecca) has the most beautiful light milk coffee colored skin. Her younger sister (Bree) is a lot darker though not really dark and their young brother (Dominik) is really dark like his dad. They are 3 of the lovliest kids you could hope to meet and they all get on well with my 2 sons (their half brothers) and that is the way it should be for all peoples. I hate racism!!!!
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silverwhisper said on Oct 31, 2007....
hey, what day isn't improved by a little snark? :D
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uniquely-ironic said on Oct 31, 2007....
SW - Does that mean you're a "land snark"? -
skald said on Oct 31, 2007....
Yes we are all people what ever color our skin is. I understand that you are angry. -
crybabylu said on Oct 31, 2007....
I "Ditto" Ed's remark (Silverwhisper)!
And Bravo to rupert7 post also.
Down with Racism!
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Fallyn said on Oct 31, 2007....
it's such a stupid thing to base opinion on......skin color.
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silverwhisper said on Oct 31, 2007....
u-i: i suppose it does. :D
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Fallyn said on Oct 31, 2007....
*giggling* land snark. -
silverwhisper said on Oct 31, 2007....
[knocks on door]
hello? land snark. :>
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Fallyn said on Oct 31, 2007....
*collapsing in laughter*
can't breath.
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silverwhisper said on Oct 31, 2007....
[hands fallyn an inhaler] -
Fallyn said on Oct 31, 2007....
that doesn't help
:P
it makes it worse.....
cause now i'm laughing about that.
*griN*
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silverwhisper said on Oct 31, 2007....
and don't forget: "at least my family heritage doesn't include rampant stupidity, you unmitigated festering syphilitic pustule of idiocy."
:D
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Fallyn said on Oct 31, 2007....
okay, my mom just poked her head in my room wondering if i was okay.
i'm laughing too much. :P
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silverwhisper said on Oct 31, 2007....
heh... i suppose you shouldn't share that retort with her, huh? :D
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Fallyn said on Nov 01, 2007....
no......probably not. that might be a bad idea -
silverwhisper said on Nov 01, 2007....
well, if it would help, you could leave out the word "syphilitic"...
:D
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Fallyn said on Nov 01, 2007....
hmmm, ....well...at least then we don't have STD's. ....i'm presuming that we've passed on through the generations???
EWWWWWW *shudders*
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wild-ting said on Nov 01, 2007....
silverwhisper said 1 day ago....
i think the perfect response to that clerk would have been "at least my family heritage doesn't include rampant stupidity, you unmitigated festering syphilitic pustule of idiocy."
or perhaps i'm just feeling a tad snarky this morning...
ed
GOOD ANSWER
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silverwhisper said on Nov 01, 2007....
[bows]
Comment on "Racism."
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