my parents are fighting.
they are in their 50's and they are fighting.
it gets really old.
as far as i can tell.....they are fighting over cooking.
my mother and i were gone all afternoon. just got back.
we come in and my dad is making vegetable stir fry.
it was almost finished. mom says...oh, lets have rice and steaks with that.
so she starts cooking rice and steaks.
then when the stir fry is done. dad puts some on his plate. and goes to eat.
and mom flips out cause he isn't waiting for the rice and steaks.
which still aren't done....20 min later.
and says. well you always ask me "is this all we're having" and then
blah blah blah blah blah. *sigh*
nearly every day they get in a fight over something REALLY banal.
there's got to be something more going on there....and has been for 25 years. they've fought like this for as long as i can remember.
and it's asinine and stupid.
and i'm REALLY tired of it.
i think i'm going to move out again next week.
how i came to be living in my parents house when i have my own house.....is a whole nother long sad story.
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Fallyn posted on Oct 26, 2007
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anonymous said on Oct 26, 2007....
You think that's fighting? On a scale of 1 to 10 that is 0.001. -
Fallyn said on Oct 26, 2007....
i watered it down quite a bit.
its the CONSTANT nit picking and bickering on a daily basis that gets to me.
i just want to scream at them......stop picking at each other, or divorce!
the anger. and resentment.
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wombat said on Oct 27, 2007....
Reminded me immediately of "Everybody Love's Raymond" and the fight over the big spoons. She thought it was their big fight. He didn't remember where the big spoons came from. -
Fallyn said on Oct 27, 2007....
my parents never have one big fight.....it's lots and lots of little ones to avoid the "big" one.....that would end in divorce. which i seriously doubt would ever happen.
sometimes it just seems like they hate each other and always have.
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silverwhisper said on Oct 27, 2007....
fallyn, it sounds to me like they just aren't listening to one another--although i'm really curious how 20 mins later, the steaks weren't cooked. were they not thawed or something?
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lfbno7 said on Oct 27, 2007....
why should they stop? it worked for them this long. living together will sometimes get on your nerves. there has to be something about the person that rubs you the wrong way. just you wait, you'll do it too, and it will creep your kids out, and you will think they don't get it. -
Fallyn said on Oct 27, 2007....
silver. these are my parents.....steaks must not even REMOTELY look like they even MIGHT have a touch of pink inside.
on the scale of very rare to very well done........dad prefers his steaks on the charcoal end of that.
lfbno......it's possible that getting out of the relationship i had been in for 9 years......we fought every day......is coloring my perceptions......it hurts to see them still fighting this way after seeing it for a life time and experiencing it myself on a much more abusive scale. i never want to be in another relationship that involves daily bickering.
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lfbno7 said on Oct 27, 2007....
Maybe your parents fight way too damn much. It obviously gets on your nerves. There's a song by Ani DiFranco about this topic. She says that she's not angry at her parents for fighting anymore and she understands what all the fighting was for. In my marriage, my kids hated it when me and my wife fought, but I can't see how I could have done anything else. Some things are just not acceptable and you need to speak up. So I guess it has to be taken one case at a time. -
secretlife said on Oct 27, 2007....
after such a long time, i would bet that the nit-picking is just their way of getting along. it might drive you crazy, but for them it's what they know.i don't think kids --even adult kids---can judge the relationship of their parents.when you've been married 25 years, i think you might have a different opinion. -
Fallyn said on Oct 28, 2007....
secret. you are probably right. it just makes me sad.
ifbno. when so much is unacceptable that you are fighting about it on a daily basis....it seems to me that it's past time to leave. ...but again...my recent past may be coloring that.
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