• uniquely-ironic said on Oct 26, 2007....

  I don't mind talking about sex in general at all.  I won't discuss my sexual relationship with anyone other than my partner, but short of that it's fair game.  I've come away from some conversations wanting to take that drug that wipes out short term memory, but it's a hazard of the subject.  Most of the time it's just interesting to hear how others view sex.

• evil_twin said on Oct 26, 2007....

  I talk about sex a lot with my friends. It's a favorite topic of conversation. Most of the time I love hearing the stories about the single guys and the crazy, but hot, women they get mixed up with. That's where the best stories come from. Mostly because they don't really care what they say, because I don't know these girls anyway.
  
  When it comes to me sharing details, I will share some minor ones. Nothing graphic or overly personal. Basically whatever I say at my blog about sex, is about as far as I'd go in person too. At least when I'm talking about myself. I don't ever want to embarrass Natalie with what I say. But she's pretty open about sex herself and doesn't seem to have an issue talking about it with people.
  
  But the really good details are just between us ;-)
  
  -evil_twin LA
  

• the_infernal_optimist said on Oct 26, 2007....

  I talk about it with a few very close friends IRL, but not nearly as much online (well, not about details of my relationship, though speaking of sex in more general terms/conversational veins is fine by me). And I don't share every detail with anybody.
  
  ~Infernal
  

• Suddenrain said on Oct 26, 2007....

  I'm like Ed, no problem conversing on the subject, but my personal love life is private. Although, if you discuss sex, it usually comes down to what you like and don't like, so in a sense, you spill your sex life in an abstract sort of way by spilling your thoughts on the matter.

• Eilan said on Oct 26, 2007....

  It's difficult for me sometimes IRL, as my circle of friends/acquaintances are sex-starved, virgins, asexual, easily offended, or all of the above.  We've talked enough about sex for me to know that my sex life would meet with their disapproval on many levels.

• Lioness said on Oct 26, 2007....

  Nope. Not even some hints. I think I belong to those who think that it's way too personal a matter to be talked about.

• nursecutie said on Oct 26, 2007....

  Um........yes. All the time. *blushes* I like talking about it with my friends. I have heard some really funny stories too! I am always curious what other people are doing so maybe I can do it too!

  But I don't really share intimate details about me and Kyle with them. But in general, yes, I like to talk about it.

  xxoo natalie xxoo

• wombat said on Oct 26, 2007....

  Only with close friends for real, but sometimes drop a hint or two to people--and let them wonder if I am joking or not!

• Mr_Box said on Oct 26, 2007....

  Is there anything else to talk about?

  Just kidding.

  I think this is what I talk about most with people. Usually in general terms and not personal accounts of my sex life. Unless something unusually amazing happened and then it's almost a shame not to share it.

  [shrugs]

  I'm a really open person. I have no problem talking about this with anyone. As long as they're comfortable, I'm comfortable.

  But sometimes I'm amazed at the crazy antics of my friends. Wow. But I sure am glad they tell me about it. It makes life interesting.

  I've been with the same woman since I was 17. I need vicarious stories.

• wakingharmony said on Oct 26, 2007....

  me too shy. lmbo

• MissMimi said on Oct 26, 2007....

  with my online friends?  Sure.  Ed, you and I have discussed the subject often enough to know that's true.  I not only talk about it, I write about it too.

  I have a friend or two with whom I've discussed everything sexual, and I mean everything.

  I'm considerably more circumspect when it comes to my family, my spouse and my r/t friends.

• LadyGamer said on Oct 26, 2007....

  I do speak on sex with those around me. I'm a very open person I have been told. But lately I have been trying to listen more. So I listen about sex. And yes, I smirk a little when the younger people start talking about "great" sex being all about the stamina.

  But yeah, I talk about it.

• polarheart said on Oct 26, 2007....

  Hi Mimikins!! You're up late and I'm up early!! LOL!
   
  Ed, I do enjoy discussing sex in a constructive way with friends, but I dont share intimate details that are between Mr Polar and I.  I think there is a lot we can learn from others, but I choose my company very well. . .for the rest I will only discuss/joke in general :-)

• TinSoldier said on Oct 26, 2007....

  I'm uncomfortable talking about sex with my wife, much less anyone else.
  
  I mean, it comes up sometimes. But it's not something that I'm comfortable with.
  

• cakebottom said on Oct 27, 2007....

  I love talking about sex.  It's one of my favorite things to...er, discuss!
  
  But like you, I don't divulge details of my sex life with Mr. CB.
  

• LayaMaria said on Oct 27, 2007....

  I grew up in a home where sex is rarely, if ever, discussed. I have three maiden aunts (now all over the age of 50) who talked about sex as if it was disgraceful, dirty and degrading. So I am not really comfortable talking about it.

• silverwhisper said on Oct 27, 2007....

  u-i: as you might've guessed, i agree completely. i think it's always tricky though to walk the line b/n fact-sharing and the other person getting the impression the talk is meant as a prelude to something else, though, you know? :>
  
  e_t: well of course the really good details are b/n you two! it's weird, most of my male friends aren't interested in discussing sex in any specific details. i guess it's just a fear of awkwardness, you know? cuz i'll cheerfully walk right up to the "TMI fence" and through the gate sometimes. :>
  
  infernal: for some reason, i find it odd that you're more private online about discussing sex than IRL--IMX, folks are more often the other way around, you know?
  
  suddenrain: i've always found it helpful in such circumstances to share experiences but not specify how recent the experience was, you know? it could be within my marriage or it could've been in the bad days, before my wife. if i say to you that i've been involved in a few threesomes, that doesn't indicate whether my wife was or wasn't involved, does it? :>
  
  eilan: you know, for some reason i have difficulty seeing you having friends who are prudish/judgmental in that way, i guess perhaps you've always struck me as exceedingly laid-back so i suppose i always figured your RL friends would be similar in that regard.
  
  lioness: hey, if it's right for you, it's right for you. :>
  
  nat: heh...that must make for some very interesting conversations, i imagine. :D heh...i remember mentioning to kyle once upon a time a routine that jeff foxworthy does, about how his single friends always have the best sex stories, which your comment reminded me of. i like your attitude! :D
  
  wombat: somehow, i had a feeling... :>
  
  mr box: yeah, keeping it in general terms, in the realm of the abstract, is IMX the best way to go, you know? and like i said to nat, jeff foxworthy has a great little routine about the crazy antics of single friends. :>
  
  WH: fair enough. :>
  
  mimi: honestly, i can't imagine discussing sex in any substantive way w/ a family member! and i know, ya doofus! :p
  
  LG: heh...i know exactly the smirk you mean. :D and btw, do keep in mind the letters TMI, hm? :D
  
  polar: i'm sorry, i'm a bit unclear about something: what does "in a constructive way" mean? do you mean in the sense of "if you're having a problem with [x], try [y]" or something like that, or did you mean something else?
  
  TS: i promise, i won't make jokes about republicans being sexually repressed. :> seriously, though: if you don't mind my asking, why is that? do you feel it's not appropriate to discuss, a fear of young ears hearing more than is wise, something else?
  
  cb: i see we're on the same page on this. :>
  
  layamaria: [blink] i know it shouldn't but it always surprises me when people who aren't having any demand that sex is bad, you know?
  
  ed

• husbandhater said on Oct 27, 2007....

  Hey ed did you see my post on the movie theather? Dorito bags...........and other adventures? Nuf said.haha

• silverwhisper said on Oct 27, 2007....

  yep, i saw it, but had nothing to add, but damn, that was funny! :D
  
  ed

• lfbno7 said on Oct 27, 2007....

  I think sex is only really good when it is disgraceful, dirty and degrading.

• beyondtheveil said on Oct 27, 2007....

  Ed- I never talk of our personal sex life and neither does my wife to other people. We both consider it an almost sacred subject. We talk of it together, of course, and sex is not off limits to talk about with other people in general terms.

• lisamay said on Oct 27, 2007....

  more online than in real life. online you are so anonymous, you can let go and talk about things .. even make stuff up as you do and no one knows.
  but i do have some friends that i talk with openly about sex, but only a couple.
  

• Mamie said on Oct 27, 2007....

  no not really, unless one of us in rl has an issue then we might ask each other what's going on or have you ever....but for the most part, nope.

• Alyss said on Oct 27, 2007....

  I have done with one female friend but as a rule no, I don't discuss it with friends in RL.
  
  I have done with some online friends though.
  

• rmuxagirl said on Oct 27, 2007....

  I don't really talk about sex, to me thats something between two people and I have no need to share information with my friends or even talk "dirty" even though one of my friends tries to get me to talk sex with him.

• Twylarants said on Oct 27, 2007....

  Since all of my women friends are between the ages of 45 and death, we joke a lot about sex.  Get a bunch of women together and it can get pretty graphic.
  And everyone prefaces their comments the same way, "Don't tell my husband I said this, but...".  That's when you know coffee's about to shoot out of your mouth
  

• crybabylu said on Oct 27, 2007....

  As a rule, I do not, but sometimes I'll be in a conversation with a small group of girls, and somehow the subject will pop up, and if I add anything at all, they will look at me in shock, like they couldn't believe I would say such a thing, so I really try to guard my tongue as much as possible.  I do counsel people about it though.  My husband doesn't, but I do.  If someone comes to me with a problem conserning it, we discuss it.  At those times, I don't care if they quote me or not, a lot of couples have problems in the bedroom, and that can have a big bearing on a relationship.

• CreativeWoman said on Oct 27, 2007....

  Sometimes I do.  It depends on the friend.
  
  CW
  

• queenparanoia said on Oct 27, 2007....

  all the time... ;)

   

  if i talk about sex in here that's how i talk with my friends in real life. i'm open to it. with the knowledge about sex of course. i just dont have the experince. i think it's better if you talk about it than know about sex than experince it...

  what am i saying??? i wan the experince!!! LOL... =)

• Eilan said on Oct 27, 2007....

  ed, my friends are somewhat laid-back when it comes to sex.  In theory.
  

• TinSoldier said on Oct 27, 2007....

  Heh, I prefer to lay back during sex too, rather than talk about it.
  
  In theory.
  
  :D
  

• wantingmore said on Oct 27, 2007....

  I must admit that I like talking about sex too. I talk about it freely with some of my close friends, we talk about it at work, and, best of all, I like to talk about it with the woman I love. We often have fun, sexual banter back and forth on email or IM, and, most importantly, we are perfectly open in the bedroom about what we each like and want done. It's great, and very satisfying. ;-) BTW, I LOVE your posts, silverwhisper!

• Fallyn said on Oct 28, 2007....

  i talk about sex.
  i'm quite possibly too open.
  and then it leads to uncomfortable conversations with men....(online) ......who then want me to do something about turning them on. *sigh*
  i really don't mean to do that......
  but i've gotten to the point now where if it seems like someone is just asking questions of me so they can get turned on.....i quit talking about it.
  but i do enjoy conversations on the subject.
  in real life too....though that opportunity rarely comes. I don't know very many people in real life that are as open about the subject as i am.
  

• polarheart said on Oct 28, 2007....

  Ed, yes you got part of what I meant.  What I also wanted to bring across is that I would never tell anyone Mr Polar did this to me, or that to me and go into great detail as if telling a juicy sex tale.  I am happy to share/discuss experiences with those I trust as long as there is a means to an end.

• silverwhisper said on Oct 28, 2007....

  lbf: fair enough.
  
  beyond: o, well i was assuming you wouldn't speak of your own sex life with others! that would be completely contrary to everything i know about you!
  
  lisamay: hey, welcome to my blog! i have friends who are comfortable with such conversations but yeah, the majority of mine aren't, and you know, that's OK with me. :>
  
  mamie: i'll confess i'm somehow not terribly surprised by this. :>
  
  alyss: you know, i am mildly surprised to learn that you do have a friend IRL w/ whom you have. no, i don't know why, so no, i can't explain why that is.
  
  r: yeah, i think that friend has something very specific in mind. be careful with that guy?
  
  twyla: snarfing coffee would be incredibly uncomfortable, i would think! :>
  
  dee: i agree, a lot of couples do have problems between the sheets and yeah, it does make up a part of a relationship that shouldn't be overlooked.
  
  CW: yes, i imagine it must. :>
  
  queen: heh, i talk about it here like i do IRL, too. :>
  
  eilan: that's a pretty important qualifier, huh?
  
  TS: those who can, do? :>
  
  wantingmore: thank you, and thanks for visiting my blog! heh...i was thinking more in the context of people with whom you aren't in a relationship, but hey, that's always good, too!
  
  fallyn: yeah, i imagine that's a difficult line for some people to remain clear of. but i know what you mean.
  
  polar: well, of course you wouldn't share details about you/mr. polar! :>
  
  ed

• Alyss said on Oct 28, 2007....

  ed, she is a very down to Earth person and it took a while but eventually the topics of conversation came round to sex. But now she's emigrated and I don't have that link  anymore. =(

• silverwhisper said on Oct 28, 2007....

  my sympathies, alyss. :<
  
  ed

• TinSoldier said on Oct 28, 2007....

  Heh, I was just trying to make a play on words.
  
  Let's see if I can answer your question honestly (since I've been thinking about your question):
  
  In your teens and twenties, you don't know a lot about sex and you experiment and find things out either by reading or talking with others or whatever. I was still uncomfortable about discussing it, but I had little problem reading about it (privately, of course).
  
  Now well into my thirties and being in a long-term relationship, the mystery is mostly gone. No loss, really, but what is there to talk about regarding the subject? Maybe when we get older and stuff starts to break there will be more to talk about then.
  

• silverwhisper said on Oct 28, 2007....

  TS: o, i knew you were. :> as to what is there to talk about, well...you might be surprised. :>
  
  ed

• Fallyn said on Oct 29, 2007....

  tin soldier.....maybe i'm still naive....i don't know.....but i feel like there is still so much to explore.
  

• desertsienna2 said on Oct 29, 2007....

  No, never.  It's a private matter.  It's personal. It's not something I discuss though I am not above a good dirty joke.

• moyz said on Oct 29, 2007....

  we talk abt sex a lot with my two best firends who are girls and one friend who's a dude...most times it's graphical...and we even have a 'bonding day' where we talk abt everything!! it's amazing what you can pick up!

• silverwhisper said on Oct 29, 2007....

  fallyn: that's the attitude of someone in love.
  
  desert sienna: i rather got that impression. :>
  
  moyz: yes, it really can be. i tend to find such discussions educational. :>
  
  ed

• the_infernal_optimist said on Oct 29, 2007....

  ed, you know...I never really thought about it as weird. I guess because there's a difference between a typed record and words that are imprinted only upon whomever I speak with?
  
  That's odd too though, because I've no problem discussing it via an instant messenger program, so maybe it's more the real-time feedback/conversation I'm looking for there.
  
  ~Infernal
  

• silverwhisper said on Oct 29, 2007....

  well, discussing it on SC can be like real-time, depending upon whether the participants refresh fast enough... :>
  
  ed

• the_infernal_optimist said on Oct 29, 2007....

  True enough (esp. with lightning fingers like yours on the other end). Hmm.
  
  ~Infernal
  

• silverwhisper said on Oct 29, 2007....

  bah, i'm hardly the only one, infernal. :p
  
  ed

• Fallyn said on Oct 29, 2007....

  is it only the attitude of someone in love?
  i've felt that way about life....and everything...since i was a little kid. the only time it's gone away from me was the years i was in a psychologically abusive relationship
  

• silverwhisper said on Oct 29, 2007....

  i was inferring from your last comment that you meant exploring him. but yeah, i agree there's much to learn. and i'm glad that relationshipo is over.
  
  ed

• Fallyn said on Oct 29, 2007....

  oh god, me too. now i get rather militant about other women in bad relationships....*sigh* i wonder if that's typical.

• silverwhisper said on Oct 29, 2007....

  IMX, it absolutely is. and it's all the more frustrating for you b/c the women you try to help don't want help, right?
  
  ed

• Fallyn said on Oct 29, 2007....

  yes. it is......but i completely understand. i was in denial for 9 years. 

• silverwhisper said on Oct 29, 2007....

  it's hard being a friend and seeing someone in that so i can't imagine what it must be like having been there yourself and try to pull someone out of it!
  
  ed

• Fallyn said on Oct 29, 2007....

  it's very very hard. and you just want to scream at people that are with men like that.....and if someone is just a TEENY normal bit of a jerk it's VERY hard to accept that they are really a pretty good person. it colors your whole perspective.

• silverwhisper said on Oct 29, 2007....

  yeah, i know what you mean. :|
  
  ed

• simplyklo said on Oct 29, 2007....

  Come on, me talk about sex??? : )

   

• silverwhisper said on Oct 29, 2007....

  i know, that's crazy talk! you're as chaste as the driven snow!
  
  :D
  
  ed

• tbs230 said on Oct 29, 2007....

  I'm an open book...after a while. Plus I'm a college student...what is there to talk about? CNN...what's that? Wall Street Journal...is that the new comic book? Philosophy...I think, therefore sex???
  
  As you can see, school would be much too dull if it were not for the eternally complicated, hilarious, amazingly educational discussions on sex that I continually find myself in...
  
  I've met QUITE a few AWESOME people because I have a need to discuss sex...
  

• Fallyn said on Oct 29, 2007....

  you are absolutely right tbs. i agree and i'm not even in college.

• silverwhisper said on Oct 30, 2007....

  tbs: that was very well-said. as usual. :>
  
  ed

• crybabylu said on Oct 31, 2007....

  I always give a news report.  I watch it 24/7, and anytime anybody wants to know about something in the news, I always have an opinion.

  So, that means, News, I know a lot about.

  Sex, not so much!   Hehe.  Sorry, that little laugh just sneaked out.

• silverwhisper said on Oct 31, 2007....

  :D

• exhibit_c said on Nov 01, 2007....

  A friend and I were standing on his lawn talking. His wife was mowing. He said
  
  "She mows like she fucks: fast and loose."
  
  Is that that the kind of sex talk you are asking about?
  

• silverwhisper said on Nov 01, 2007....

  well, i prefer that people assign their own contexts and meanings to the concept of "talking about sex", so sure, that fits.
  
  i'll confess, i'd be uncomfortable if a friend described his wife to me in those terms, but perhaps that's just me?
  
  ed

• tbs230 said on Nov 01, 2007....

  ooohhh, HI ed!!!

• silverwhisper said on Nov 02, 2007....

  [waves]
  
  hiya, tbs! :D
  
  ed

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