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tomorrow i'll be leaving for manila. i'll spent the two and half months in there. i'll be back in iloilo in december. i wanna celebrate my christmas with my grandparents.
 
as you all know, i have made a major decision in my life. i quit school. here's the post about it.
 
this is really a hard decision for me. first of all in our family i was the one who they have great expectations of. after all my father wanted me to be the engineer. my friends here love me. and i was surprise that even my teachers were saddened by my decision. they even extended the removal exam(an exam where you failed the subject but if you take this exam and passed it. you will be passed from the subject.). i was surprise that they cared about me. even from my friend and classmates. they were sad. some even tried so hard to make me stay.
 
and lastly.
 
my grandparents. 
 
i was raised by my grandparents. because when we were young we were poor. so my mother decided that it's better if i'm with my grandparents while she worked. my father worked in a different country back then. but when our life was okay like five years ago. i decided i will stay here for my grandparents and study here. 
 
yes i will surely miss my grandparents. i mean it's not like i'm not coming back. i'll be here on december. but life will be different for them too. in here i do the grocery and stuff. my grandmother is too old to worry about things. so i took charge. and unlike some of their grandchildren. i showed my love for my grandparents. i was always the one in the hospital when they were sick. i always get nervous if anything will happen to them.
 
i really love them.
 
but...
 
it's time for me to decide for my own life.
 
and tomorrow i'll be facing the consequences of my decisions...
 
and what are these?
 
the ridicule of my relatives. i hate it. just because i quit they think i'm lazy or something.
 
the disappointment of my parents. my father thinks i will have no future. and mother thinks i'm stupid. she keeps comparing me to other people who were engineers.
 
yes, i'm scared.
 
yes, right now i have so many mix emotions that crying and blogging about this is the only sane thing i'm capable to do right now.
 
my future has now been open. so many choices. so many hardships to come.
 
and i welcome it all.
 
the disapointments, the mistakes, the struggle.
 
i am ready to leave my bubble. i am ready to face the world. i am ready to leave my home and spread my wings...
 
and i'm damn scared.
 
not the illogical fear i had like my phobias. but real fear. fear of the unknown future that awaits me. fear of the disappointments of other people. fear the hurts and struggles i will encounter...
 
but i assured you this.
 
i welcome the fear. i'm prepared for it. i'm ready to face it.
 
and believe me when i tell you. i will not FAIL.
 
yes, i will not fail. after finding what i really want on life. i will work hard for it and i will not fail. i'll have the last laugh. i'll be whatever i wanted to be.
 
easier said than done. but by writing this post, it empowers me to follow my dream. follow my calling. follow my bliss.
 
i know by doing this i will leave something behind.
 
my home.
 
you see the house i live in here in iloilo is where i was born. yes i was born in this house. so many things happened on my home. so many things that shaped and changed me. i will not be the woman today if not for the struggles i encountered here. this house has been my refuge. my room is my own bubble. a place where i know i'll be forever safe.
 
but. i have to break free in order for me to grow.
 
so i'm leaving this place. but i'll back.
 
a different queenparanoia. but the same values and the same heart.
 
have i regretted my decision. no. this has been the most liberating decision i ever made. and i did it...
 
i did it for me. and that what truly counts...
 
 
 
thanks for reading my posts soulcasters. it's been an emotional ride for me this past few week. i have a lot of packing to do. and i dont know if i could soulcast as much as i want if i'm in manila since i dont have a computer there. but i'm still here! not leaving!!! i'll be back and read your posts...
 
keep on blogging!!!
 


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  • mobil said on Oct 08, 2007....
    Ok Queenie, now wipe the tears from your eyes and set your sites on making something good of your life. You don't have to go to college to do that you know.
     
    Set goals and keep them, hang out with a good crowd of people. Make good decisions and you will be fine. You are a good girl, young woman. You've made some difficult choices, now it's time to make those choices work Queenie. I know you can do it.
  • queenparanoia said on Oct 08, 2007....
    thank you mobil... i feel a lot better now. well since soulcast helped me alot... thanks mobil i'll do that... =)
  • mobil said on Oct 08, 2007....
    Good Queenie, it's a big ole world out there, but some fantastic things await you. You're smart and have lots of spunk, you'll be just fine.
  • polarheart said on Oct 08, 2007....
    Queenie, you are sounding so incredibly mature all of a sudden :-)) Not that you sounded childish before, but its like you are taking real responsibility for your life and that is a sign of true maturity.  I am very proud of you.  Have you ever heard of the saying / book title "feel the fear and do it anyway"?  Well, that's you!  It is good to change direction once in a while and follow our hearts instead of our heads.
     
    Love you, be strong!
    Polar
  • harriedpsychmajor said on Oct 08, 2007....
    As long as your goals line up with what you want for yourself, you can consider yourself a success. You're a strong woman with a will of your own. Use your fear of an unknown future as greater motivation to search for a path that takes you where you want to go.

    Best of luck to you, queen!
  • Actorguy said on Oct 08, 2007....
    We'll be thinking of you and cheering you on Queenie.  You're going to do great!
  • evil_twin said on Oct 08, 2007....
    Good luck to you, queen! I think you'll be much happier in the end. I hope you can still check in once in awhile though :-)

    -evil_twin LA
  • secretlife said on Oct 08, 2007....
    such a hard time queenie.  but you've made a great big decision that i think will bring you happiness in the end.
    find something that you can put your heart into- and then go for it.
     
    i'm routing for you!!!
  • CreativeWoman said on Oct 08, 2007....
    Good luck, queen.  It takes great courage to do what you are doing.  I'm really proud of you.  I'll be rooting for your success!

    CW
  • husbandhater said on Oct 08, 2007....
    QueenP........(At a loss for words).......(Searching)......... I know from work how much your culture "VALUES" education, so I know everyone in your family must be livid. I hope that whatever adventure you are about embark upon you find what you are looking for and you find what makes "YOU" happy. I will go back and read I quit but I have a feeling you are going to find yourself. Tell them that exploring the world is a GOOD thing and that you will return to your educational endevors when you feel the time is right.
     
    In time they'll forgive you. Just keep head up. Good things happen to good things.
  • Mamie said on Oct 08, 2007....
    Have fun Queen! You will make it over many more hurdles than you even know, and easily!! you are strong and creative and loving. Go to your destiny! all the best, mamie
  • husbandhater said on Oct 08, 2007....

    Keep your head up and Good things happen to good people. Sorry letters are blurring and I just came home from a double shift. Now what is in Manilla? I know it's the capital and I know its a major city so Oppurtunity is greater there. I read I quit and didn't see a mention of Manilla. Listen you are young and your life has to become your own sometime. You have to live it for you b/c it's your life to live. But think LONG and HARD about this.

     Maybe you should take the test to see if you can pass the classes and then leave. At least you would still hav the credits and could pick up from where you left off should you ever wish to go back and finish school. I wish I had of went when my mother WANTED me to instead I did things the hard way and it's costing me years and time and standards are now harder in my profession even though the job it's self has gotten easier in some sense of the word(Medicine comes prepackaged at the amount you need from the pharmacy), but you are still required to know how to break down the meds with obsolete math formulas that irrelevant now.

    Anyway think about what you want out of life b/c even in America without an education you can't go very far. You might just want to change your major to something you like or want to do. One of my Co-Workers(Actually, a couple) went to school in Manilla. So your academic career doesn't have to be over it can be on indefinately hold. Whatever Girl. GOOD LUCK sweetie. Whatever you do knock 'em  dead and do your best.

  • husbandhater said on Oct 08, 2007....
    (((((((QUEEN P)))))) I hope this doesn't mean your leaving SC?
  • skald said on Oct 08, 2007....
    Queen I think you made the right decision., If you like you can learn some more later. I know you will miss your grandparents. good luck girl and I hope we will be hearing from you. You are such a great girl. I knew that the college was not right for  you at this point in life. 
  • dazed_and_confused said on Oct 08, 2007....
    Hi queen. I know its a big step for you, good luck, and have a safe trip.

    You know that we will always be there for you, no matter what. Btw, I'm in manila, so feel free to drop by anytime sweetie ok? =)

    Cheers
  • ellamae14 said on Oct 08, 2007....
    hey queen, I don't know what you're gonna do in manila but I hope you find what you're looking for. dito lang ako sa tabi tabi, sa may dagat dagatan :D one thing for sure, ma mi miss mo ang iloilo, because manila is so different. Here I have to wake up really early, beat the traffic just to be able to buy fresh ingredients for cooking. dyan sa inyo palaging may mabibilhan ng sariwang gulay at prutas dito pag tinanghali ka, mahal na paninda, hindi pa sariwa. hay. GOODLUCK AND GOD SPEED QUEEN! :)
  • queenparanoia said on Oct 08, 2007....
    mobil: thank you... =)
     
    polarheart: thank you ate polar. and thank you for always been there for me... =)
     
    harried: thanks!!!
     
    actorguy: aww thank you for that!!! =)
     
    evil_twin: kyle i'll myself in my sister's room so that i could soulcast!!! =)
     
    secret: thank you secretlife. i wanted you to know youre one of my inspiartions here... =)
     
    CW: thank you CW, that means a lot from me... =)
     
    HH: no, i''m not leaving soulcast and i'm not giving up on my education as well. i will shift courses. something that i would really like. manila is the capital of the philippines and i think i have more oppurnity there than in here. i know i could still take the test but this is my decision. i can't see myself as an engineer. better to quit now than regret later. dont worry about me HH i'll be fine... =) by the way with the new job more stresses are for you! so take a rest for a while ok? =)
     
    skald: thank you skald... =)
     
     
     
  • queenparanoia said on Oct 08, 2007....
    dazed: thank you!!i hope we'll meet someday!!!
     
    ellamae: i know i'll surely miss iloilo. hay mas tahimik nga dito. kaya nga nabibingi ako minsan. thanks ella... =)
  • Zayda said on Oct 08, 2007....
    Queenie: I just know that when you find what you truly want and love to do that you will be so very happy. I wish so many other students that I see every semester would have the courage to make the decision to figure out what they love rather than doing something that others have told them they should do. And yes, it takes real courage to do that.


    You are much stronger than you think you are. And know that as we have come to know and love you, we will continue to love you as we watch you grow into who you truly want to be.
  • UnknownUser said on Oct 09, 2007....
    It takes a lot of courage to do what you've decided to do.  I wish I had been so brave when I was younger.  I wish you the best of luck!
  • quietone said on Oct 09, 2007....
    Good Luck queenie, I will miss ya!!  Keep writing and tell us all about your travels and experiences you come across when you can!  This is an exciting time for you and you will do just fine!  :)
  • pickersplock said on Oct 09, 2007....
    Best of luck Queenie.  We're all pulling for you here!
  • destinydiva said on Oct 09, 2007....
    wow, queenie, ya know what girl??  I admire you!!!  I envy your passion and ability to face the fears, polars right, you have changed so much in the last few weeks, for the better!
    I would personally like to wish you the best of luck in the world.
    I hope all your dreams come true   :-)
    love destiny xx
  • mindrumset said on Oct 09, 2007....
    hello queenparanoia! i'm new here, and while browing soulcast i saw your entry. hehe. it's hard to be away from the people you love. don't be scared to begin a new life in manila. expect the diversity of people in there. ibang iba kesa sa probinsya. but you'll have many enlightening experiences sa manila. btw, im from quezon city.
  • simplyklo said on Oct 09, 2007....
    Good luck - I'm sure you'll be just fine!  And don't worry so much about disappointing others - your family may feel that way now but when you find what makes you happy and become a success, even if not an engineer, they'll have to embrace you and be even more proud of you for having the confidence to take the risk and follow your dreams.
  • queenparanoia said on Oct 09, 2007....

    zayda: thank you so much and it means a lot to me when you said it because i know youre a teacher. thank ou zayda.. =)

    UnknownUser: thanks. it' ever to late to change.. =)

    quietone: tank you! dont worry i'm not leaving soulcast!!!

    pickers: thank you!!! =)

    destiny: thank you destiny. and i know youre in a struggle as well. remember i'm here for you too... =)

    mindrumset: actually pabalikbalika ako dito... pero i'm still a probinsyana... =) uy malapit lang tayu!! =)

    simplyklo: yeah youre right. i guess they will accept that fact eventually... =)

     

  • Eilan said on Oct 09, 2007....
    You can do it, qp!
  • queenparanoia said on Oct 09, 2007....
    thank you eilan... =)
  • silverwhisper said on Oct 10, 2007....
    queen, i look forward to seeing what new direction your life will take. i cannot help but feel that it will bring you happiness--your last direction obviously would never have done that.

    be well, little sister. :>

    [hug]

    ed
  • queenparanoia said on Oct 11, 2007....
    ed; thank you ed. thanks for being a big brother.. =)

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