This isn't the first time I've asked this or talked about it, but do you ever think that sometimes two people are just meant to meet each other? Sometimes fate keeps giving you hints and opportunities, and for one reason or another, it just doesn't happen. Not for a long time. But then finally, it's like the universe has shifted and all the planets are lined up correctly, and then it happens.
Last night Natalie and I were talking about our mutually favorite TV show of all time. Buffy. It was no secret to me that she liked the show just as much, if not even more, than I did. We're both freaks about it. And we've mentioned to each other before that we both used to read up about the show online back when it was still on the air.
But last night was the first time that I ever asked her where she used to read stuff. It turns out that we were both members of the same exact forum. And not only that, we actually remember each other. When I told her that I used to participate there, she didn't believe me. She said that it was a Spike fan board, and there were only like 5 guys in the entire place. The rest were all squealy girls who wanted to have sex with Spike.
This is true. But I happened to think he was the coolest and most complex character on the show. He was awesome. And I wondered if she remembered any of the 5 guys. She did. She remembered a guy called Hostile_17. Oddly enough, that was me. It wasn't too hard to stand out when you were one of the only males in a female populated website. And better yet, I remembered her too. When she told me her screen name used to be Cave Buffy, it was like I was transported back in time 5 years.
That website is long since gone, but I saved the icon she made that she used to post with. It had this picture of Buffy as a cavewoman and it said "beer foamy". I thought it was funny. And yes, you'd have to know the show to understand that. But that's not the important part. The important part is, I saved that icon. I still have it. I knew exactly who she was when she said the name.
We used to talk to each other, just the way I talk to all of you here. She was a screen name to me, yet we had some really fun discussions about the show. And she told me that she always imagined me looking just like Spike. Not even close, but that made me laugh! And she said she almost met me once too because I'd mentioned how I was going to this club in town to see James Marsters sing. She lived farther away at the time, but was going to make the drive.
She wanted to see Spike, of course. But she also wanted to see me. She wanted to meet the funny guy who always made her laugh and who she felt had the best theories and ideas about the show. Only I had no idea whatsoever that she'd been thinking this at the time. Or that she was going to show up at the club.
But she never made it. She had to work, and she also knew I had a girlfriend too. She wasn't trying to go out with me, but she said she was hoping to see me and talk to me at least. She wanted to meet the famous Hostile_17 who had connections and would always post scripts and video clips before they aired.
Knowing all of this really tripped us out. What are the odds? In that time, we never once shared our real names or pictures or anything like that. We were just some Buffy fans who were obsessed with a TV show. And once the show ended, I stopped going to the website, and I honestly never thought about any of those people again. Including Cave Buffy. But now I'm marrying her.
It was like fate was knocking on the door, but we couldn't answer it just then. The timing was all wrong. If we had met then, I don't think anything would have happened. I was with Angela. But then again, I wasn't happy with Angela. Maybe if I'd met Natalie sooner, I would have left Angela sooner? Who knows? I guess it wasn't meant to happen like that. I think I had a lot more growing up and changing to do. I'm a different person now. Still the same in many respects, but different in many others.
I just find it incredibly cool and strange and all around intriguing that Natalie and I actually knew each other before. Sort of. But maybe in some weird way, this was why we both felt such a sense of familiarity with each other? We weren't total strangers, even if we thought we were. And how we never talked about this before now, I'll never know. It just didn't come up. Not in any depth. And when I'd shown her my pictures from that club show, all she said was that she had wanted to go, but never did. I had no idea the story behind it. Probably because she didn't want to tell me about the guy she wanted to meet from the internet! Little did we know it was me...
I definitely think that the two of us were fated to be together. It sounds so cheesy and cliche and everyone always says stuff like that, and then a few months later, they're broken up. But this feels like an actual fate situation. Not only did we speak to each other online 5 years ago, but Natalie attends the same yoga studio my mother works at. She'd seen my mother before she'd met me.
And then there's the bit about how I got hurt several times in a row, before I actually ended up at the clinic in order to meet her. It was like the universe was tired of waiting for us to meet because we'd ignored all the other opportunities, and decided to just smack me in the face with a ball instead. It wasn't very subtle this time, but at least it worked.
I'm just in awe sometimes at how life works....
-evil_twin LA
evil_twin posted on Oct 05, 2007
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hidufel said on Oct 05, 2007....
That is a truly awesome story! isn't it wonderful to think you've found someone you were meant to be with? Good going, and yes it was fate for you two. ;-) -
botoni said on Oct 05, 2007....
That really is incredible. I dont think I ve ever met two people who were more intended to be together. What ever magnetism you have for each other it surely has worked. -
nursecutie said on Oct 05, 2007....
I love, love, loved reading this!! :) I am still shocked by this too. I kept thinking about it all day!!I just remember how cool I thought you were at that website and I loved talking with you. I can't recall a single thing we actually spoke about, but I remember having fun!! And you used to call all the girls pet b/c that's what Spike would say.......LOLI can't get over this b/c it's just soooooo weird. And cool! And definitely something that was meant to be........I am in awe of the way life works too :)love you,xxoo natalie xxoo -
evil_twin said on Oct 05, 2007....
hidufel--It is a wonderful thing to find that person you're meant to be with. I never thought it would happen to me.
botoni--I think you described it very well. It is some kind of magnetism, isn't it? It's like something is just drawing us together and we can't stop it. But that's okay because I don't wanna stop it! :-)
cutie--I did call all the girls pet, didn't I? I was a bit of a flirt! I thought about this all day too which was why I wrote this blog. It was one of those things you just have to share, even if no one else wants to hear it. It was too cool to keep to myself! Love you too :-)
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Me-Myself&I said on Oct 05, 2007....
You are a man in love!! yes, it is wonderful how life, fate can be so perfect.I'm glad you two found each other, soooo cool.Here's to a long, happy future!.......**smile** take care see ya -
the_infernal_optimist said on Oct 05, 2007....
Wow!!
I do believe that the timing has to be right, even if the people already are, or you can either fail to connect or build it too late/early, and it's different than it otherwise might have been. That isn't something you really want to experience.
That is SO cool that you knew her before! :) I'm going to be grinning about y'all all night now.
~Infernal
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polarheart said on Oct 06, 2007....
Twinny, how absolutely cool is that??? I am a believer in these things as I have shared before. It happened to me too, but quite differently. There was a year in my life that I studied after school. I went to live with my sister and her husband for a year coz it was closer to the university. I made lots of friends and one particular girl friend in that year, but after one year I gave up my studies and moved away. It use to feel like a year wasted, but now I know that that was a crucial year in my life because I got to meet the person who would eventually introduce me to my now husband. -
queenparanoia said on Oct 06, 2007....
oh wow... you guys ar really meant for each other. like you guys are soulmate or something. like oh wow... wow i wish i could experince something like that!!! who knows? i might experince something like that in soulcast!!! =) -
skald said on Oct 06, 2007....
I think you are fitted for each other. I am so glad for you two.
My daughter in law Adda loves Buffy too. -
minniemouse said on Oct 06, 2007....
That is SO cool! I truely believe things are meant to happen for a reason...its obvious you two were meant for each other, the timing just had to be right. And probably you are right in the fact that "fate" gave you guys a couple of opportunites to meet, got tired of waiting, and smacked you in the face with the softball! What awesome stories you guys are going to have to tell your kids and grandkids someday!!! :-) Minnie
P.S. did you watch Moonlight last night?? What did you think? I liked it, but then again I think that guy is hot...lol...
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evil_twin said on Oct 06, 2007....
M-M-&I-- I am a man in love! I'm still in awe of how things worked out. Thank you!
infernal-- I agree with you. The timing has to be right or things might not have happened the way they were supposed to. It's interesting to play the 'what if' game, but I think everything happened at just the right time!
polar-- I remember you telling me before how you met your husband :-) It's funny how certain little things and choices we make, can directly impact our entire lives. It's amazing!
queen--You just never know! I hope you will find that in your life too. Maybe some here at SC is destined to be yours? Hmm....
skald--Thank you so much. And your daughter in law has good taste in TV shows! :-)
minnie--I totally believe that everything happens for a reason too. This is just proof! And looking back now, the signs were everywhere that I had to meet Natalie but I wasn't seeing them! This will give us some good stories to tell our kids someday! Oh and I did watch Moonlight last night. I wanted to hate the show, but I do seem to be liking it. I still think it's a ripoff, but I'm enjoying it! And I think the vampire guy and the reporter have a good chemistry together too.
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destinydiva said on Oct 06, 2007....
wow that is very doo dee doo doo!!!!!! thats a really cool story! lol I remeber the hit in the face post! :-) xx -
evil_twin said on Oct 06, 2007....
destiny--It was definitely one of those moments. We were totally shocked by it too! And since you're so curious about fate, I thought you'd enjoy reading this! -
Battycat said on Oct 06, 2007....
Yes, I believe in fate, you two were definately meant for each other, that was a fantastic story :-) -
evil_twin said on Oct 06, 2007....
batty--Thanks for reading! I've always believed in fate too, but I never thought something like this would happen to me. I'm lucky! -
honeybunny said on Oct 06, 2007....
I abslutely loved this. I really enjoy all the Buffy shows and Spike was and still is my favorite.....I mean Angel was handsome, but there was just something about Spike that him sexy.I believe in fate. I have to. The man that I love and really want to spend all my free time with I met in Yahoo Poker. Then he was talking to all the ladies at the table and never really gave me a second glance or chat. We always spoke at the table but never chatted on IM. Well he ended up disappearing for close to 6 months I think. When he came back I happen to be in a conference with others from the table we played at. We spoke in that conference for the first time. From there we went almost a year chatting on IM. Somehow this man stole my heart before I even realized I was ready to give it to someone.He stuck by me through all the crap I was going through and even was there when I came out of the hospital. We talked every day for hours on end, not even realizing how much time had passed. We met in April of this year and it was wonderful. From the first hug o the last. Letting go of him that Sunday was like letting go of a long lost love. That weekend, for the first time in my life I felt whole...like I was with the one person that I was meant to be withWe still talk everyday if we can. We live miles and states apart, but I still feel him with me every minute of every day. I know beyond a shadow of a doubt it was fate that brought us together when it did. I also believe that it will be fat that will keep us together. Having a long istance relationship is so hard, but in my heart I know we will be the better for it if we come out on the other side of it all together.Good luck to you and have an awesome weekend.~honeybunny~xxxxx -
evil_twin said on Oct 06, 2007....
honeybunny--A fellow Buffy fan! :-) I think that it's really cool you met someone perfect for you too. I hope you guys can work it out and end up together in the end. I love hearing about how other people met and where. I definitely believe in fate! Good luck to you too! -
honeybunny said on Oct 06, 2007....
thank you so much evilxxxxx -
kruuyai said on Oct 06, 2007....
That's a really amazing story. What a fun thing to discover after you're already engaged. I wonder what other surprises are waiting for you? -
buckrogers said on Oct 06, 2007....
The universe never makes a mistake. What is, is. Could you change the situation by free-will? Find out where free-will comes from and you'll find the answer. -
Jenna said on Oct 06, 2007....
ET...this is such a great story......you two were so meant to be together. I remember reading about your face injury and how intrigued you were by nurse cutie. I have to give her a lot of credit for making this happen. I loved her follow up phone call. Very clever. Glad to see you two so happy!
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wombat said on Oct 06, 2007....
I totally believe in things like this--and it is so cool that you two had sort of "met" before!I have quite a long story about how I met my hubby--and will only condense it here:He and his ex moved hundreds of miles away--not even knowing where they were really headed.They happened to stop in my town because she was driving and he was asleep, and she was "lost."The next morning, he got up to get coffee, and visited a realty office across the street.They bought property and stayed.They eventually divorced.I was (during this time) going through a divorce--and driving around like a crazy person (looking for something or someone--I didn't know what.)I almost moved into the small apartment building he was living in, but moved a mile or so down the road.We met, since he got a job where I worked.I asked him out, after I had gone through a really bad time, during which I was thinking of him, but didn't know his last name or where he lived.We made a date--he showed up with a suitcase for the weekend.After several wierd psychic conversation moments, we just sat down and let nature take it's course.I am now married to him and living where he came from.She is living in the town where she got sleepy and pulled off the road--my home town.The end.The beginning....! -
evil_twin said on Oct 06, 2007....
honeybunny--You're welcome :-)
kruu--I have no idea what other surprises we might have in store, but I hope they're good ones!
buckrogers--I do believe that some things are out of our hands. But I know I wouldn't change the way things ended up happening.
jenna-- You know what's weird is that she was the one who was going to make the move 5 years ago too. She was going to drive over here just so she could meet at the club. I was clueless. Thankfully she's not as clueless as me! I'm glad she made the call too.
wombat--Another great story! I love that. The two of you were definitely meant to meet too. I'm so glad that other people have cool stories to tell too :-)
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Mamie said on Oct 06, 2007....
this is the coolest thing EVER!!
And I believe this happens more than we realize:)) all the best, Mamie -
evil_twin said on Oct 06, 2007....
mamie--Thank you :-) I think it does happen more than people realize. I love hear about it though! -
gingersoul said on Oct 06, 2007....
ETweenie....what a neat story....:-)
I seemed destined to meet an American guy. First of all , when i was in college i chose a major in English and i was simply fascinated by American literature and music. But most of all my friend used to call me 'The American" also because of my overall look.
The summer i met my ex i was really wild dating at one point 5 guys at the same time. I went on vacation with a guy. Met another guy and left the first one. This new guy invited me to come back to see him. So when i went home and a friend of mine asked me to go with her for another 10 days of vacation we went ....guess where...to visit my guy...
We were supposed to spend the vacation at his villa for free. But a friend of him behave so poorly with my friend that she freaked out and we chose to leave abruplty drivign around to find another place to stay for the rest of the vacation.
We ended up in this beautiful beach residence. The same night we arrived i was very tired but my friend insisted to go to dance to find a friend.
Very reluctantly i agreed to accompany her. While i was dancing her friend tapped me on the shoulder and told me i had to meet this cute American guy ...well...since that night we have been together in a 2 years long distance relationship before getting married. Neverthless to say we went back during our honeymoon in the same place we met.......and we went to meet the same girl who introduced us....
If that guy wouldn't have acted like a pig with my friend i would have never met my ex......timing is all....:-)
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wombat said on Oct 06, 2007....
gingersoul: You had the same kind of experience--and you are right. Timing is all. Weird stuff! (oops, sorry for commenting here....I am floundering around and commenting everywhere...) -
evil_twin said on Oct 07, 2007....
ginger--That's a good story of you met your ex. Life is just full of surprises and timing is everything.
wombat--Comment all you'd like :-) That's what this place is for!
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briana-purple93 said on Oct 08, 2007....
i wish i had something like thatwell i kinda do but its more like he just dosent know thatwe were ment to be he still cares for me and accousnalywe will give litle pecks on the lips to each otherbut he just dsnt get what i do i wanna shoutit out like in his faceWE WERE MENT TO BE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!my cuzinz and some friends have saidthat we do go but im losinghope quikly =[----briana-purple93P.S HELP?! -
evil_twin said on Oct 08, 2007....
briana--I wish I knew what to tell you. If it's really meant to be, he'll figure it out eventually. And if he doesn't, then it can't really be meant to be. Both people have to feel it. I hope it happens! -
silverwhisper said on Oct 09, 2007....
e_t: o, i absolutely believe in fate. :>
that was so cool to read though, i gotta confess. it makes me smile to see how you two were destined to be together. :>
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evil_twin said on Oct 10, 2007....
silver--That was a good story you linked! I love reading stuff like that. I'm glad I'm not the only one who believes in this stuff. Sometimes I think it's impossible to ignore all the little signs that you're given. You can't stop fate. But of course, why would you want to in cases like this? :-) -
silverwhisper said on Oct 10, 2007....
exactly. :>
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tizzygirl said on Oct 10, 2007....
My boyfriend and I....it's a long story but lets just say for most of my childhood I played at the house right next door to him and never once met him.....it was a fluke that I met him years later at a completely different house through a completely different friend....I sometimes wonder if it was fate, I also wonder if it would have been different if we had known eachother when we were young....I had heard him talked about for years before I ever met him and when I did meet him I had no idea he was the person people had talked about. Every girl I knew wanted him but I had no clue....in fact I didn't even pursue him, he pursued me....I'm glad he did though, there were so many things that had to happen for it to go right so it's hard to not believe that there was something out there pushing us together.... I have some other opinions on fate but maybe that's something I'll go into another time! I love the story of how you and Nat met though, it's classic! -
evil_twin said on Oct 10, 2007....
tizzy--I'd really like to hear your opinions on fate. You know I love stuff like that. You'll have to tell me or make a post about it. And I think it's really cool how you met your boyfriend too. It does seem like he was always there in the background and fate was just waiting for that moment when you'd actually meet and get together.
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