and Can't! Okay, I could but believe it or not, I know better.
I spoke to my Dad about the issues with my ex-husband. My parents also got divorced (after I did) and my Mom made most of the money. My Dad to this day is disgusted with my ex though as am I ... my Dad did not ask for alimony, any of my mom's 401k or anything ... he even let her keep the house and helped pay down some of their credit cards (though that was debt she of course had created). So, he had the best one ... he has offered to loan me the money for my back child support payments (though he truly doesn't have much either) but he agrees that I can't trust him and he is likely to deny any verbal agreement which means bad things could happen to me ... losing my house, jail ... who knows how far he'd go. My Dad cracked me up though when he told me what he'd love to write on the check ... "Use this to buy a set of balls"!!!!!
As frustrated as I am right now, I am going to see the Court Facilitator this afternoon so I can figure out how to file (without hiring an attorney and spending money I don't have). Pay him off so I'm clean and then serve him papers, you know? But God, there are so many things I would like to be able to say ...
Get a life! Pull up your skirt! Go see a counselor! Why don't you try dating and moving on already?
And, I have seriously (yes, I know I'm nuts) but I have seriously considered hiring a hooker and sending her to his house when I have our daughter ... maybe if he got laid again it would relieve some of the tension and negative energy!!! My Dad asked me if I would hire a woman or a man though ... that of course led me to hysterics ...
My brother is gay and when he came out to me I was very supportive - I could care less frankly as long as he's happy. My ex however freaked out at the time, "Remind me not to ever change in front of your brother again." My brother has better taste than I do, he never would have checked my ex out!!! So yes, I was in hysterics, thinking about him being tied down by some large man and punished!!!!!
Okay, other than the fact that I'm having to take part of the day off to deal with this crap, I feel much better just venting and moving on with things ...
