• MissMimi said on Sep 09, 2007....

  Don't you dare apologize, CDub.  Whoever said this to you is heartless, absolutely heartless. 

  I think your blogs about your journey through all this have been outstanding.  They show the real fear and upheaval that happens with this shitty disease.

  Your husband does a fine job all on his own of making himself look bad.

  No apologies needed from you, young lady.

• polarheart said on Sep 09, 2007....

  Now, dont you go being a silly sausage, CW!  This where you should come and open up and I for one (of MANY I'm sure) do not for one minute think that you're looking for sympathy etc.  Those of us who know you a bit longer know that your husband has been a difficulty in your life way before your illness was diagnosed.  And HECK, you've just lost a toe and that qualifies a LOT of sympathy due!!  So dont you be apologising to anyone here. . .you do what you need to do to cope with this and we'll be here (the one who really CARE) to help you through!!  I already told you in my comment on your last post that I'd have been outta there a long time ago ESP with having these health problems, I'm simply not as strong as you!! [[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[BIG HUG]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]

• MissMimi said on Sep 09, 2007....

  Of course you are, polarcakes.  Do I have to come and paddle your bottom too, young lady?

• polarheart said on Sep 09, 2007....

  Yes, I'd love a paddle. . .but only if its with a REAL oar!! LOL ((((((((Mimikins)))))))))

• MissMimi said on Sep 09, 2007....

  well, alrighty then, pcakes, I'll get in my rowboat and paddle on ov er across the big pond.  See ya in a couple months!

  (CDub, I know you're hurting, and I don't mean to make light of it.  You know I heart you...)

• polarheart said on Sep 09, 2007....

  Me either, CW, I hope you know how much we care!!  Hopefully this put a little smile on your face ;-)

• Zayda said on Sep 09, 2007....

  [blinks]
  
  
  CW, don't make me get in my car and drive hours to there and come shake you by the shoulders.  On the way, I'll pick up Mimi and she'll come help me shake you. 
  
  Don't you dare apologize for venting your spleen about what an ass your husband is or about your worries and fears. (And while I'm there shaking your shoulders I'm going to kick your husband in the shin but good.  And I bet I can get Mimi to accidentally roll over his toes too.)
  
  *sigh*
  
  
  CW, anyone who has been reading you for as long as I have knows that the problem in your marriage is not you; it's your husband (along with your in-laws and the rest of his family). Anyone who has read your for any length of time rather than just stumbling across your blog knows that you are not on a campaign to make your husband look bad. He does a fantastic job of that all on his own.
  
  This is your blog. Write what you want to in it. Write what you need to. If it's about how frustrated you are with your husband and your in-laws, then by God write about it. If it's about how scared you are, then write about it. If it's about something funny, then write about that. And if it's about something great, write about that too. Write about whatever you damn well please. And if anyone doesn't like it, then just tell them to stuff it.
  
  But don't apologize to your friends and the people that care about you for sharing your worries. That's what we are here for. IF you are scared, we want to know it so we can hold your hand; if you are worried, we want to know that too so we can bolster you up.

• Mamie said on Sep 09, 2007....

  hey CW: you MUST be kidding me that anyone who knows you would even begin to think that this is a sympathy plea...or a way to make anyone look bad either. I am proud and in awe of the courage you have shown by the way you have dealt with this traumatic event, or series of events. Puh--lease.
   
  Do not for one minute forget that you are a glorious, but all too human, human. We are here to share the good and the bad times. In doing so we help each other learn how to live, love and grow into better human beings. You should not be apologizing! You should be charging us!:))
   
  Thank you for your honesty, your humbleness and your considering that your pain may be causing us pain. It is the opposite in fact. You offer us perspective, and you offer hope that the trials of our lives may be something we can each deal with.
  God bless you and you just keep on writing. Mamie xxoo

• minniemouse said on Sep 09, 2007....

  WHAT?!?  Omg....seriously...someone said you were just trying to get attention and make your husband look bad???  Puleazzzee!!!! 
   
  Its YOUR blog to say what YOU want CW!!!!  If you wish to write things in a private journal, so be it...but do it on YOUR terms...not because someone else made you feel bad.  If this "idiot" feels this way, then they need not read your blog!!! 
   
  I don't understand why people need to come along and let the air out of someone elses' baloon just to make themselves feel better.  Thats just mean hearted and cruel. 
   
  I'm sorry someone said that to you CW......I know you are in a tough emotional and physical situation right now, but try hard not to let this idiot make you feel bad.  {{{{hugs}}}}  Minnie

• botoni said on Sep 09, 2007....

  CW....I havent read a single word you ve written that made me think you were stating anything at all that is a plea for sympathy. If you feel like expressing what you are dealing with and are willing to share those feelings with those of us who care then go for it. Those of us who have read you for a long time know exactly what crap you deal with. We know what an all out dork your husband is, we know you deserve and will have much better. Dont let anybody tell you you are whining or seeking attention....thats total crap. I m grabbing silver and his trout, I m bringing my meanest glare and we re gonna straighten that man out!

• Suddenrain said on Sep 09, 2007....

  CW, you can't possibly believe what that person said. Really. You put up with one idiot at home, do you really want to do that here? This is your blog. You own it. You do whatever you care to do with it. Don't let the butt bisquits of blogging have any say in what you choose to write about. Be you, the sweet, wonderful caring person you have always been....then take a minute to tell that person to 'Kiss Your Sweet A**".  Huggggssss as always

• beyondtheveil said on Sep 10, 2007....

  CW- No reason to apologize, not at all. This is the place to get things out of your system and let the words fly. You are one of the most honest people anyone could find.
  
  Its your blog- you write- and apologize for nothing.
  

• soleme said on Sep 10, 2007....

  Howdy-Creative woman, I'm new to Soulcast, what I like about this site is that you can blog, blog, and blog what you feel. If bloggers do not like what you write, they have the option of going on to the next blog. SO, WRITE ALL YOU WANT AND DO NOT THINK ABOUT APOLOGIZING!\ A GREAT BIG HUG TO YOU!!

• the_infernal_optimist said on Sep 10, 2007....

  WTF with the stupid jerk(s?) who said anything like that - you have EVERY right to vent about anything and everything that's stressing you out (and you've had a lot to deal with!!) anytime you want!
  
  It's your blog, and I for one admire the honesty and emotion in your words. You're not an attention-seeker, and anyone who would think that doesn't know you very well and isn't worth your time.
  
  ((hugs))
  
  ~Infernal
  

• sweet_cookie01 said on Sep 10, 2007....

  why do you have to apologize for writing what you really feel?... isnt it we write in our blogs to share what is really happening in our lives? and if the reader doesnt like it then that person can just move on to another blog...

  CW i dont see anything wrong in expressing yourself... we are here to share and i love the things you share... the good and the bad... that is real life and talking about real life is never bad!

• Actorguy said on Sep 10, 2007....

  If our situations were reversed, I would have shown you what negativity and self pity were really like.  I have read fear and pain in your blogs and I find that understandable, to put it mildly.  I have also read courage and an indomitable spirit.  No need to be sorry CW, you rock.... well maybe not right now.... but when your toe is healed you will definitely rock!  :-)

• silverwhisper said on Sep 10, 2007....

  please listen to what everyone has said, CW. we read you b/c we want to know what's going on with you, what new indignity your in-laws or your spineless excuse for a boy of a husband have foisted upon you, what's going on with your business, anything at all.
  
  ever has it been and ever shall it be, CW.
  
  [hug]
  
  ed

• skald said on Sep 10, 2007....

  You have nothing to apologize about.  

• evil_twin said on Sep 10, 2007....

  Wow, who the hell would tell you that? Seriously. You've just been through something incredibly traumatizing, and you're not getting very much support at home. Who wouldn't be down about that? You just lost a part of your body! If you were all cheerful and happy about that, we'd all wonder what was wrong with you.
  
  Plus, this is your blog, CW. It's for you to post what you want and need to post. And if someone doesn't like it, they don't have to read it. But the people who actually care, want to know how you're doing. And they want to help you any way they can. If you're looking for sympathy? So what! You deserve that. Sympathy is what compassionate people offer freely to those who need it.
  
  I hope you'll ignore whoever told you this, and just keep posting what you want. If it's happy stuff? Wonderful. But if it's not? That's okay too. And don't let anyone tell you differently.
  
  -evil_twin LA
  

• Twylarants said on Sep 10, 2007....

  Hi CW- I'm new to blogging and to SC, but not to diabetes.  I've been reading your posts, you're getting good advice from your friends here, and it's obvious everyone cares a great deal about you.  Unfortunately, you found out you had diabetes in the worst way possible, by losing a part of your body.  The diagnosis is shocking enough, an amputation is every diabetics worst fear.  If all you had to do was learn how to eat to control your numbers, well, that's difficult enough in the beginning.  But you have to learn how to walk at the same time!  Not to mention dealing with an idiot....I'm sorry, but I can't think of a word bad enough to describe him without being vulgar.
  Even tho you don't know me, I'd like to offer you this, from 23 yrs experience as a T2:
  Never forget your medication.
  Eat every 3-4 hours, hungry or not.
  In no time at all, you are gonna be surprised at how well you feel and how good you look.  They don't call diabetes "The aging disease" for nothing.
  There are hundreds of sites to visit for info, and diabetes forums are invaluable.
  Other T2s can sometimes help you more than your doctor can.
  If everyone ate the way diabetics eat, there would be far fewer diabetics in the world.
  Feel as sorry for yourself as you want to, it's a great way to force yourself to closely control your numbers.  You can cheat once you got them where you want them.
  Don't panic every time you're out of range, it's just a number.  Drink a bottle of water and take a short walk, and watch that # come down. 
  Get a lot of sleep.  Glucose does strange things at night, and your pancreas  knows how to deal with it while you're asleep.
  Welcome to T2, the club no one asks to join.
  
  

• CreativeWoman said on Sep 10, 2007....

  I am very humbled by your comments.  Each and every one of you is an angel.  Thank you so much for your kindness!
  
  Yesterday, the world felt like it was closing in on me.  I was worried about my foot.  It had some colored drainage that scared the hell out of me.  It turns out to be something expected per the Home Health nurse who called the doctor for me.  When I read some of the comments on my posts yesterday, I may have been overly sensitive. The last thing I want to do is be a crybaby. 
  
  If you don't mind reading about my low spot in life, then perhaps I will continue to write about it.  I want it to go away, but that isn't going to happen.  Is it?  It's affecting my whole world right now.
  
  Thank you for taking the time to be supportive.  I love you all.
  
  CW
  

• uniquely-ironic said on Sep 10, 2007....

  I don't think an apology is neccesary.  You feel the way you feel and I don't think you should need to apologize for it.  If you're having "less than fuzzy feelings", so be it.  I consider you my friend so my ear is available for all sorts of talk, not just the fun and happy stuff.
   

• Battycat said on Sep 10, 2007....

  Don't apoligise, I can't believe anyone woulds say you were just looking for sympathy, you've had a huge shock to mind and body, and you've every right to vent your feelings, after all that's what Soulcast is about, isn't it?
  [[[[[[[HUG]]]]]]]]

• quietone said on Sep 10, 2007....

  By all means CW  keep writing...if this is your only outlet, you have support here.  What you are going through is not anything that should be taken lightly.  Hope you are feeling a bit better...

• vacantmind said on Sep 10, 2007....

  Whoever said you were looking for sympathy is an ass. Diabetes is a cruel, unforgiving disease and when you lack support it is only that much harder. If your husband is unable to support you, I am glad that you have SC to do that for you. Write whatever you feel and yes even about your disease and husband. It has taken over much of your life and is a part of who you are now. Leaving it out really isn't an option. How would we know how to support you? 

   

   

• Artemis223 said on Sep 10, 2007....

  Hi CW -

  There is a definite difference between self-care and self-pity.  I don't see any self-pity in your posts at all ... and I think it is a healthy part of healing for you to be able to vent your frustrations, at least in some limited form.  The emotions you have expressed are definitely understandable.  You've certainly been through a lot in a very short period of time.  Please be patient with yourself and try not to censor your feelings.  It's all a part of getting better.

  Warm wishes for a speedy recovery - A.

• fearing said on Sep 10, 2007....

  I never thought any of it was self pity.  You are going through a ton of stuff right now and handling it like a trooper I might add!  Don't feel like you have to save all that stuff for a personal journal.  This place is great for getting things off your chest. 
  Sending you a great big hug!
  

• Alyss said on Sep 10, 2007....

  Don't you dare apologise! I have missed the nasty comments but who ever it was should be ashamed of themself.
  
  You have had a major trauma and are on the beginning of your recovery and have every reason to need to off load your feelings.
  
  {hugs}
  
  
  

• Jenna said on Sep 11, 2007....

  Hey C.....sorry so late to comment...I am not here as regularly as I would like to be.  But my darlin', I am here to say please do not aplogize.  This is your place to come.....without judgements.  Please continue to share what is ever on your mind.  You know you are loved. This is your safe place!
   
  I wish you all the best on your road to recovery!
  Love to you sweetie!
  jen

• queenparanoia said on Sep 12, 2007....

  dont be sorry cw. if i was on your position i would blog about it like that way also...

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