• Fire_01 said on Sep 04, 2007....

  Minnie little mouse.....Marry me. I will make you happy!!!

  Jokes aside. Yes......... you are asking a lot of questions at the same time. To be honest with you,  there is no simple answer. I believe that most people only find true happiness after a very painful relationship/s or divorce/s. Personally I do not know many couples that are truly happy, unless it is their second or third marriage.

  I know that some people may jump on my back because of the above statement, but I am talking about true love and happiness, not merely the acceptance of a dull uneventful married life or relationship for the sake of the kids or something else! I am not saying that it is YOUR situation, but only you can do something about it. (Your own situation, whatever that may be).

  You have to take measured steps to achieve your own happiness and somewhere along the line YOU have to take the FIRST step, how painful that may be. If you want to be a Joan of Arc and die for the cause (in your case a dull marriage for sake of whatever cause it may be in your case) then do it, live with it and be "happy" with it.

  I hope what I am trying to say makes sense mousy. I have been there. 

  Damn!!!!......I hope I did not make you more miserable!!!!

  F1

• exhibit_c said on Sep 04, 2007....

  Yes, happy marriages do exist.
  
  The popular notion is that it is love that keeps marriages together, but I disagree. I think it's commitment. If both parties retain their 100% commitment to the marriage, they make the compromises necessary to keep going. With any luck at all, love gets dragged along.
  
  
  

• evil_twin said on Sep 04, 2007....

  I do think happy marriages exist. I've seen them. My parents and my grandparents, for example. And my brother and his wife. I think that it all boils down to whether or not you picked the right person for you. If you haven't, I think that no amount of work can make you blissfully happy. But some people do still find a way to get along and make the most of it. I think that's where having a strong friendship with someone helps. Even if you aren't feeling the passion, you can keep the relationship together if you truly enjoy each other's company.
  
  I'm sorry that you're not happy in your marriage. And I know it's easy to wonder if anyone could ever be happy being married. But I sure hope they can! Seeing as how I'm about to take that leap myself. But I know it does take work and commitment. It's not always easy. But if both people want to keep it alive, I think it can be done.
  
  -evil_twin LA
  

• CreativeWoman said on Oct 05, 2007....

  Minnie,
  I do understand "unhappily ever after".    I wish something much more joyful for you.
  
  CW
  

• minniemouse said on Oct 06, 2007....

  Thanks CW......I'm sure I will find that one day....as will you!  :-) 

  My kids are young so I'm trying to focus on them and their happiness and getting my career back on track.  My turn at happiness will come someday soon!  :-)   Minne

• Battycat said on Dec 20, 2007....

  I wonder the same thing :-)

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