I was doing pretty good after my move. I definately have options. I foolishly emailed my ex asking for a very expensive bottle of wine back. I even offered to meet him for dinner and share it since I am feeling like an adult these days.
He called me at lunch yesterday. He had given up accusing me of being the reason the relationship hadn't worked. He wanted to talk about "it" so I offered to have him over to my place after work for dinner.
It took him all of 5 days to fall apart physically. He's sick and looks like he doesn't have anything clean to wear. I get a certain amount of satisfaction since he only had bad things to say about my housekeeping skills.
Dinner was weird. We sat and ate, with Wolfgang parked by my chair waiting for leftovers. The cat, who has finally warmed up, also waited a respectful distance. The ex BF's demeanor was very humbled. He listened to me (a first) when I told him that I had no intentions of moving back. I like my life here, and if he wanted to see me at all there are a whole set of things that are going to change about our "relationship".
He was visably unhappy about this, but knew I was dead serious. Every time he tried to claim rights or considerations I nipped it in the bud. I plain told him that he gave up those rights when he treated me in a way that made me so unhappy that I had no choice but to leave.
I took him along on my walk. He can see why I love my new place. It's not as fancy, but I have animals who love me and a place to walk that is beautiful. I pointed out that it's not "things" that I want, but a place to rest and people who trust and respect me. I think this rocked his world since he definately is a "things" oriented person.
I'm not sure where this all ends up. He tells me that he can't imagine living without me, and I still can't imagine living with him. I was honest. He says he wants to marry me, children or not, house or not, just the way I am. I don't know that I believe that, but I'm not going to stop him from proving that. I do still love him, but I told him I will not let that get in the way of my long term happiness.
This makes my life so much more complicated. I probably should have not even talked to him.
