• fearing said on Aug 24, 2007....

  I guess it depends on what it was.  I don't know.  I typically find out there is a bigger plan but I'm human and I grieve over things that don't turn out the way I wanted or thought they should.
  
  This makes me wonder about why you are writing this Destiny.  I hope all is well and you are just thinking about the past.  {hug}
  

• rightwingwizard said on Aug 24, 2007....

  Generally speaking when I view the glass, I see it as being a source.  
   
  If it is full it is a source of joy and satisfaction for having all I need and want. 
   
  Any thing less than full and it is a source of the joy and pleasure of having the opportunity to fill it up again.
   
  If it is someone elses glass and it is less than full, I check to see if there is anything I can do to help bring it back to fullness.
   
  Are you ok?
   
  rww

• destinydiva said on Aug 24, 2007....

  I guess I should have answered the question!!  would have avoided any concern... sorry I worried you guys,  am I ok??  I dont know, my head is pretty screwed latley.
  But that wast what this post was about, I guess I was just curious...are you opimistic???
  
  I like to think I am very optimisic, I always look for the good in any situation, if things go wrong, I'm the type to see it as a blessing in disguise,
  If things are gloomy, I treat it as a lesson and feel I will grow from it....
  I am a great follower in meant to be...  or not meant to be....
  my glass is half full...  I question everything and try to have a positive outlook on everything.
  
  Occassionally, as we all do sometimes, I crash and burn, I have a weak moment, where everything seems unfair, my glass becomes half empty and I cant find reasons for things that happen. sometimes, I loose all my positive thinking, I cant see the light at the end of anything, there is no silver lining.....   but that only lasts a day or so.....
  
  My regular way of thinking is positive, generally...
  
  Destiny xx
  
  
  
  

• destinydiva said on Aug 24, 2007....

  fearing, sorry I worried you... thanks for the hug :-) I like what you wrote, about being human and it being ok to grieve. thank you :-) xxx
  
  rww~ your words always impress me, your a sea of knowledge :-) do you need a student??? I'm good, i hand my homework in on time!! lol :-) I think I am feeling a little lost.... miffed with the world right now, but in a positive way ;-)  yeah I'm ok though, thankyou xxx :-)
  
  Destiny xx
  

• silverwhisper said on Aug 24, 2007....

  i am who i am b/c of how i chose to react to the things that did happen and all things considered, i'm happy. :>
  
  i have my regrets but thinking about them serve no purpose but to make me wistful and nothing particularly good comes from that.
  
  ed

• sweet_cookie01 said on Aug 24, 2007....

  there are things in my life that make me think hard that way but i have learned to treasure the lesson i have learned and move on and not look back too long to feel bad...

  there are times when i see the glass half empty but i will think of my blessings and see that things arent that bad and that it is actually half full...

• destinydiva said on Aug 24, 2007....

  Silver~ wise words! thankyou :-) x
  
  sweetyc~ I'm gonna take that as advice, i think I needed it, I am actually, really smiling now.... I think I'm letting go :-) xx
  
  Destiny xx
  

• evil_twin said on Aug 24, 2007....

  I always hold fast to the idea that everything happens for a reason. Good or bad. That doesn't mean I don't get upset when something bad happens. I do. But I force myself to try and push it aside because I know someday, I'll realize why it happened. Or why something I wanted to happen, never did. I do think some things just weren't to be.
  
  As for my outlook on life, whether the glass is half full or empty, it really depends on the day! I try to be optimistic all the time, but sometimes that's hard. I don't think anyone can be that way all the time.
  
  -evil_twin LA
  

• uniquely-ironic said on Aug 24, 2007....

  wow, how timely.
   
  I see disasters or things lost as fate's way of directing you to another path.  I resist sometimes if it's something I had my heart set on, but it's usually futile.
   
  I'm not sure if destiny is part of misfortune though.  It seems that it is more the end goal of both misfortune and success.

• travelr712 said on Aug 24, 2007....

  i think the question needs to be defined a little more. everything does happen for a reason. the question is, does that reasoning come from a 'higher power', or is the reasoning due to cause and effect? it can be comforting to think that a 'higher, more intelligent being or beings' has everything under control, and will make it all work out alright in the end. we as humans have as yet no way of determining whether this is true or not.
   

   but consider this:

  last week, a mine here in the us collapsed due to an earthquake (often called 'an act of god', even by insurance companies), and 6 miners were trapped. rescue efforts were conducted for several days, and during those efforts, another cave in killed 3 of the rescue workers. so, if there is a 'higher power' controlling things, it seems very cruel to me that it would cause an earthquake trapping and killing these men, and to add insult to injury, kill the people trying to do the 'good' thing by rescuing them. that doesn't seem like a benevolent, kind, caring being to me, it seems like a 6 year old child playing games with dolls, and cruel games at that. i would rather believe in a system that has a given effect for a given cause. at least we as humans have a chance of determining the causes and preparing for the effects. if it is a higher power we are dealing with, then we are at its arbitrary whim, the same as an ant is with us.

   
  anyway, that might not make you feel better sweetheart, and if it doesn't i'm sorry, but it's the only answer to your question that i have.

• botoni said on Aug 24, 2007....

  I m a tough case. Retrospect has taught me that happens often is much better than what I thought at the time of it happening. That doesnt stop me from kicking and screaming along the way although it sometimes slows my struggling to a minimum. In other words I know damned well that its all good in the long term I just dont always willingly sit back and wait. Guess I m a slow learner. I truly believe that all things work together for good I just dont always connect how strongly that applies to my own life.

• wakingharmony said on Aug 24, 2007....

  Hiya Destiny I think we all have those desparate Moments~ Our emotions take over and we are Like "LOST" .......you know that your reasoning is in there somewhere...why can't you grab it..Like usual..... Where is my soul why does everthing feel missing??? Is this what they call a mental break down????  Then Something happens((??))  A  friend?  A thought?  You star easing yourself back into your dignity.....opps but something happens.....you POPPED right back in??? Nope your Friends, Loved ones Showed you It never left...They never left.... Its why they are Here because your are "REAL" ........On  learning lessons  from others tragidies I think It should be a sin not  to........what sorrow to think than no one had learned anything from tragedies in my life and my Cousins Life ...That is why I wrote that Poem "I Hate To Have to Thank-You".  Destiny you are a most beautiful Soul here along with others you know who you are... yep YOU!

• destinydiva said on Aug 24, 2007....

  evil~ I agree with you totally on all that you said, thank you :-) xx
  
  unique~ I am totally with you on the fate guiding you on another path, I do think that, interesting what you added about destiny, the end goal etc...  really got me thinking :-)
  thanks for your thoughts, :-) hope your doing ok?
  Destiny xx
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  waking that was beautiful thankyou :-) xxx
  
  
  

• southerngirl said on Aug 24, 2007....

  I have never prepare myself for anything bad to happen to me, when it does and i surive, that is good, i am then granted the opporunity to avoid that bad forces if i am face  with it  again, for we learn from our misstake. I may see my glass half full in some situations, in other, i may see it half empy, i never want to see my glass fill with another dresires and  hold no value for me but if i live throught it, that's good.

• destinydiva said on Aug 24, 2007....

  waking sorry, i pressed send before I was finished! :-) your comment really meant a lot to me, like you completely understood where I was coming from when I typed it, thankyou xxx  I do try to learn from everything that happens good or bad, and I get frustrated with people who  'never seem to learn'
  I think I have read your poem but I'm gonna go read it again :-) x
  
  trav~ my post was a bit scatty, wasnt it, my mind is just overloaded with thoughts and this great desire to learn, and to figure stuff out!!
  I see what your saying, but it was more just about optimism...  I guess my emotions leaked in to my post huh??  I love you xx
  
  botoni~ I 'm with ya there! that was a very good description of me right now!!!  :-)
  x
  
  Destiny xx
  
  
  

• destinydiva said on Aug 24, 2007....

  hey how weird, I get these daily power words in my emails, and check out todays....  ya know, I know they are general and sent out to loads of people, but they always seem to fit my thoughts......
  
  There is a Universal Law that states "Where thoughts go energy
  flows". We are often bombarded with negativity, and we tend to engage
  in negative thought patterns more often than we realize. Many are
  unaware of the power of the mind. Our ability to mold and shape our
  destiny lies within the power of our thoughts.
  
  Does this mean directing our thoughts will make our lives simple all
  the time and that nothing "bad" will ever happen? Of course not. Life
  will always have its little pitfalls, but through controlling and
  directing the energy we put out, we make our lives easier. With this
  effort, our minds become clearer enabling us to remain focused on
  that which truly matters.
  
  Remember also, that like attracts like. If your thoughts are mostly
  negative,most of what you receive and perceive will be negative as
  well.
  
  :-)  xxx
  

• destinydiva said on Aug 24, 2007....

  southern, we must have posted at the same time, yeah I see what you are saying, and we do learn from our mistakes, well most of the time :-)  I must admit, I have gotton in to the habit of thinking the worst,( i dont mean stressing and worrying about it, just expecting it to be bad, then when its good I'm like ...yey!!) then its a relief when its ok, or I am prepared when its not, I guess I dont do that generally, mostly with health! cus for awhile it was bad, I know thats a bad way to think, but especially with health, I was all optimistic, and convinced everything was ok, and then wham!!!  it was a shock to the system when everything wasnt ok, over and over again!! anyways...... thanks for your comment :-) xxx
  
  

• the_infernal_optimist said on Aug 24, 2007....

  I really only have one regret, and as I lack the power to change the past (and would not do so, for fear of significantly altering the largely good present), I try not to dwell on it. Bad things do bring about good ones sometimes, although it's hard to think that while the bad thing is at hand.
  
  I'm a glass half full person...in case you couldn't guess. :-D
  
  ~Infernal
  

• Mamie said on Aug 24, 2007....

  hi Des, I consider myself to be overly optimistic...my glass is full to overflowing. I realize that sometimes it looks like the cup is half full...but I remind myself to refuse to believe it! I know that bad things happen to good people and I search and search for the good, loving reason behind it so that I can deal with it in a positive way...I even like the word: abundance.

• destinydiva said on Aug 24, 2007....

  infernal~ guess? well, I guess there was no need to ask :-) your name says it all :-)
  
  I love your attitude to life, and I envy your 'at peace with current life moment'
  
  and I agree, it is hard to see it at the time, so in a few days..... i am hoping to look back on all these feelings, and hopefully have learn't from them...  :-)  cross ya fingers for me :-)  (((((((hugs you....just because :-D )))))))))
  
  Destiny xx
  
  
  
  

• travelr712 said on Aug 24, 2007....

  i'm sorry if i scared you sweetheart, and i don't want to sound like i'm arguing with you, but in my mind, the meditation you posted goes right along with what i was saying:
  
  "Our ability to mold and shape our destiny lies within the power of our thoughts."
  
  this says that we determine our own destiny by our perspective, our thoughts, our decisions, not some unseen hyper being. as to my beliefs, the 'others' that created this reality pretty much leave us to do whatever we decide, and let the outcome happen as it will, and watch to see the reactions. remember, when we are gone from this reality, we will be in that one, and merge with them in what we now know of as a 'spiritual form', and understand. that knowledge brings me great comfort, i am now free to decide for myself what i believe is right and wrong, and act accordingly. i don't need to be worried about a 'pre-chosen path' that i might or might not agree with. one that if i stray from, i might anger those beings to wrath. and how could i possibly know what that path they have determined for me is? if i can't see the path, i can't follow the path. that to me is setting me up for failure.
  
  also, this puts the responsibility and accountability of my life squarely on my shoulders, not on any being or spirit or whatever. my life turns out the way i determine it does, and no one or thing else.
  
  if you want to tell me more about your views, i'll gladly listen, and i'll keep my beliefs to myself if you want. i don't want you to think you have to believe what i believe. i want you to find your own beliefs, and whatever they are, i'm behind you.
  
  sorry about the script, after i posted the quote, i couldn't turn it off.
  
  i love you :-)
  

• hotaka said on Aug 24, 2007....

  If something doesn't work out I figure it just wasn't meant to be. I try to focus on what I think is meant to be or what I can make happen. Sometimes things don't work out simply because I didn't make enough effort. Then I have to accept that I failed because I didn't try enough. It's okay. I am basically happy with life. When I try I do alright.

• destinydiva said on Aug 24, 2007....

  hotaka~ awww sweet words...thanks for stopping by :-) xx

• wakingharmony said on Aug 24, 2007....

  made ya look heehee :-)

• destinydiva said on Aug 25, 2007....

  mamie I missed your comment sorry.....  that is usually a good description of my outlook, when I am not having a bad day!!! :-) see,  I'm over the crap now and I'm all optimistic and positive again!!  and super hyper :-) lol  on reminding yourself to refuse! that is exactly the type of thing i do :-)
  Destiny xx
  
  trav~ lol :-)  bout script..its ok, i know what ya like :-)  I also know you dont expect me to believe what you believe, I will find and follow my own path, and I love that you acept that :-) and  its interesting to hear other ways, I think there are a lot of things we think the same on....  we just get to the goal via different paths....  would be a long boring walk if we were exactly the same huh??  I like hearing your thoughts though :-) thank you xx  ps you didnt scare me :-)
  
  

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