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This is my first post here, so I'd like to say hello before I do anything else! But I admit that I'm not a totally new presence around here. I've been reading your blogs here for a little while, and I finally decided to sign up. I was just trying to get a feel for the community, because there are a lot of blogging sites out there! This one caught my eye because of the name. Soulcast. I liked it. And after visiting several different places, reading what people were saying, I decided to try this one.

I'm not entirely sure why I feel the need to blog, when my life is anything but interesting. In fact, it's downright duller than watching paint dry on a curb, while taking pictures of the grass growing. Maybe that's why I wanted to join a community like this so I could have something to entertain me?

The fact is that I'm lonely. I have only one actual friend, and even they are not a real friend. Just someone who I know at work and we're totally tight, as long as we're working. Outside of work, it seems like she's breaking plans with me more often than not. She always has something better to do. It seems like most people in my life have something better to do than be with me.

I'm married for almost 14 years and I'm only 33. Yes, I got married young! Really young. But you know how some people are just meant to be together and it doesn't matter how old you are? Yeah, well, that's not me. I wish it was. I got married because I hated my mother's new boyfriend. He moved in, and I told her I was going to move out if he didn't leave. She chose him. So I ran off and got married, just to spite her and prove that I could make it on my own. Doesn't it sound like a fairytale?

My husband is a good person and a nice man. But he's like a stranger to me. We don't connect on any level. Not to mention that he had an affair four years ago too. We decided to stay together and 'work on things'. But how long can you work on something that's already dead? If the patient has been down for four years and he's still dead, I think you can give up the CPR. Even God has given up at that point. He's just laughing at the doctors and wondering what the hell they're doing with that dead body. That's my marriage.

And my son. He's 9 years old going on 20. He's much more of a teenager than a kid. With the attitude to prove it. He's what I affectionately call a handful, but when I'm about ready to jump off a bridge, I call him the thorn in my side. Is that horrible? Am I a terrible mother because my own child makes me want to jump off a bridge? It's just that he's so mean to me all the time, and nothing I say to him works. I'm at a total loss with that situation. I could talk for hours about his behavior and everyone would be asleep by the time I finished. So I'll just stop there.

I do have some things in my life that make me smile. I like to write and used to write fan fiction for a popular TV series. It was fun! I made a little online name for myself back in the day, but all of that is over now. I haven't written anything in years. The show ended, and then my creativity dried up, and I went back to being a regular mom with no life.

I'm also very interested in astrology, dream interpretation, magic, crystals, and anything that might bring a little wonder to my life. I'm a Cancer and moonstone is one of my birthstones. That's why I chose the name. That, and all the other names I tried to pick were taken!

I guess I've let you all know what I'm about, and now I just have to see if I really fit in here. I hope I do. I really could use some friends. That bridge is awfully high, and I don't really want to jump.




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  • kruuyai said on Aug 13, 2007....
    moonstone:  I'm so glad you dropped by my post tonight, and even more glad that I decided to follow you here to see what you're about.  I think we have a lot more in common than our wedding invitations!  I can really relate to what you're saying about your one friend always canceling out on you because she has something "better" to do.  I experienced that chronically when I lived in the States, and then in Mexico, it was just a way of life.  Thank god, people are a little more consistent here.  It doesn't do much for your self esteem to always be everybody's second choice. 

    Another thing we really have in common is dream interpretation.  It's one of my passions.  I write down my dreams every morning (it can take up to a couple of hours, so I'm pretty dedicated).  I'd like to get more experienced at interpreting, but  I am beginning to get some insights into myself from all of this.  There are quite a few people here at soulcast who get into dream interpretation, so you should have some fun with that.  Here's a post I did a while back called My Dream About Cancer.  Given your zodiac sign, you might find it interesting. 

    By the way, I love the way you write.  You really crack me up.  Your sharp wit is refreshing and will be very welcome here.  And welcome to you!  I hope to be reading a lot more from you in the future.  Your first post was great.  Keep blogging.  And don't jump!
  • CreativeWoman said on Aug 13, 2007....
    moonstone,
    We do seem to have a lot in common as far as the dead marriage goes.  I'm a bit older than you with no children.  I look forward to getting to know you.  :-)  ....And you are not boring at all.

    CW
  • moonstone said on Aug 13, 2007....
    Thank you both for stopping by and saying hi! I really appreciate it. My first comments! Can you see that I've been lonely?

    But kruuyai, I'm really glad that I read your post too. It was kind of cool to see that I wasn't the only one who thought that was a great wedding invite, but didn't mean it when I used it. That's very cool about the dream interpretation too! I've been doing it since I was a teenager and I've got lots of books. I'm no expert, but I try to remember my dreams too. I even kept a dream blog for awhile at another place. I'm going to have to read the link you gave me. Thank you. And I'm so glad you like the way I write. I try to have a sense of humor, even when it's hard to do sometimes. I won't jump!

    CreativeWoman, I'm sad that we have stuff in common like that, but I did really feel moved by what you had written. When I read that, I knew I wasn't the only person out here who is alone. I hope we can know each other better at some point!
  • kruuyai said on Aug 13, 2007....
    moonstone:  I'm glad you're not jumping.  :)
  • Zayda said on Aug 13, 2007....
    Moonstone--Welcome to posting at SC. :)
  • moonstone said on Aug 13, 2007....
    Thank you Zayda! I look forward to getting to know more people here. 
  • gingersoul said on Aug 13, 2007....

    Moonstone...i have to thank my friend KruuKruu because she led me here. I was reading your conversation on her post about marriage and your point of view attracted me so i went here.

    I am glad you found SC. Its horrible not having friends. i feel mutilated since i moved here and left all my friends in Italy. It seems difficult sometimes to replace them. Oh, i like your username a lot....:-) 

  • Eilan said on Aug 13, 2007....
    Heh.  We're the same age and, if I were still married to my ex, we'd have been married for about the same amount of time.  And I have a nine-year-old.

    Welcome to SoulCast.
  • quietone said on Aug 14, 2007....
    Hello moonstone glad you joined us.  I think you will fit right in just fine.  (really only saying that so you wont jump)  no, just kidding!!   LOL hope you decide to stay!  :)
  • Actorguy said on Aug 14, 2007....
    Welcome to Soulcast, moonstone.  I think you will find a lot of friends here.
  • jadestar said on Aug 14, 2007....
    hi moonstone...first off..no ways are you boring. I like your style. I'm not in here as often as others but do hope to hook up with you. I'm definately not into the stuff that you're into (astrology, magic, etc....actually quite anti-) but I hope you don't hold that against me. I hope you have fun here & that your well of creativity fills up again...which I'm sure it will. Enjoy your stay here...there are lots of cool people....I'm sure you'll fit right in..you sound nice, anyway - honest...I like that....
    oh, by the way I do tend to babble a bit....
    anyway - welcome
  • Expendable said on Aug 14, 2007....
    Hi Moonstone, welcome to Soulcast. Writers will always be welcome here. A while ago we started a bunch of posts for newcomers, you might want to look at them even though you've been reading us for a while. I hope you will always like to post here.
  • moonstone said on Aug 14, 2007....
    Thank you all for welcoming me! This was a nice surprise to wake up to!

    Gingersoul, I like your username too! :-) It's pretty. And it is very horrible not to have friends. I'm sorry that you had to leave yours behind. You're from Italy? I've always wanted to visit there! Eilan, well I guess we have some stuff in common! Thanks for introducing yourself! Quietone, thank you, and don't worry, I won't jump. I hope everyone realized I was kidding about that. I do feel that way sometimes, but that was just a joke. Actorguy, thank you. I hope I find friends here too. Jadestar, thank you for saying I'm not boring! I don't know about that, but thanks :-) And don't worry, we don't have to like the same things. I like lots of other things too!
  • moonstone said on Aug 14, 2007....
    I missed someone while I was commenting! I don't want you to think I was ignoring you. Expendable, thank you for the link! I will check that out, because reading is different than posting! I'm still trying to figure stuff out :-) Thank you for welcoming me too.
  • Suddenrain said on Aug 14, 2007....
    Moonstone, welcome to SC, even though you've been here a bit already. Beautiful name. Sounds soft and sacred almost. Your post was very insightful and well written. Hope you enjoy yourself here. People warm up to you quickly, and pull you into the family. Looking forward to reading you.  :-)
  • Alyss said on Aug 14, 2007....
    Hello and welcome. I hope you find Soulcast as warm and welcoming a place as I have.
  • the_infernal_optimist said on Aug 14, 2007....
    Welcome, moonstone. :) I look forward to getting to know you.

    ~Infernal
  • moonstone said on Aug 14, 2007....
    I'm so excited by the amount of people who have commented! Really. Thank you. Maybe it's crazy that this brightened my day so much, but it really did. I even made another post at my blog! I hope you guys will read that too.

    Suddenrain, thank you! I like your name too. And I'm very glad you liked my post. Insightful and well written? I'm blushing! Thank you. Alyss, I hope I will find it that way too. So far, so good! The infernal optimist, I love your name! I wish that described me. I more of an infernal pessimist, but that doesn't sound near as good!
  • ZsuzsiO said on Aug 14, 2007....
    Hello there!
    Let me see... Why are we up here? Why do we blog?
    I think if we'd all have such exciting, active lives, none of us would spend time up here. We all are looking for something to fill up the emptiness we feel some times. We all come up here to find new friends, a community to belong to.
    You are more than welcome here! You'll find out that you are not at all alone with the things you are going thru, and if you only reach out - which you allready have - you'll find brilliant and exciting people up here to give you a shoulder to cry on, or a good  good laugh to forget about those tears.
     
    Me? Well I've been living an adventurous life, and moved more than ,ost humans do during a life time. I am a single mom, so I've been in a dead end relationship, but I did not stay.
    My main goal in life was to do whatever I want, to be flexable and to never hesitate. After some events in my life I've changed, and now all I want is stability, family and real friends. I lack all of those. I am working really hard to make quality friendships now, and to be able to provide the best possible start for my son, so he'll never have to go thru the things I am going thru now. it's much harder than just wanting to be flaxible. It's much harder than risking and moving on.
    I know so many people all over the world, yet no one here when I just want to talk to some one, or go for a walk. Well, I'm not a walker, but let's say, go to the beach.
    I am lonely most of my life. And I hate it.
    But I figure I don't want to go out on my own just to be around people. I find that it is much lonelier to be around people but be lonely, than it is to be alone but connect with other people.
    So I am up here. Sitting in my room all by myself, stimulating my mind by people online.
    Is that something you could relate to?
     
    I have an 8 years old by the way and jkust being his mom made me never want to have any more children. I am glad to know I am not alone with such unmotherly feelings.
    I think I am a good mom, but I admit, I am not doing it fullheartedly.
    I love my son to death. I know that when I'm watching him asleep.
     
    Are we alike? I'm sure we do have some things in common. So instead of talking about what we both want to take a break of, let's discover the things we don't know about each other!
    Let's make a connection
    =]
  • moonstone said on Aug 14, 2007....
    Zsuzsi0, thank you for stopping by! And for taking the time to write all of that for me! I know some people keep these things secret, so you don't have to say. But is your name Suzi? I only ask because that's my name. Susie. And yes, I could relate to a lot of the things you said. I actually never wanted children at all. It was an accident. And while I love my son more than anything in this world, I don't think I'm really cut out for 'mothering'. I do the best I can, but sometimes I wonder if it's enough? I look forward to knowing you better! 
  • secretlife said on Aug 14, 2007....

    hi moonstone: i just wanted to add my welcome to the rest.

    i think you're going to like it here.

  • moonstone said on Aug 14, 2007....
    Hello secretlife! Thank you for stopping by to welcome me! I hope that everyone will read my new post too. Does that sound like I'm begging? lol I hope not! But I'm just eager to share more of myself and to get to know everyone else here. So far, I've found quite a few nice people that I think I can really connect to. Thank you!
  • lfbno7 said on Aug 14, 2007....
    hi.  i saw that you subscribed to me so i subscribed to you because i am a copycat like that, and then i came to look at your post and i like it.  you write well.  i like your honesty about not being the perfect loving mom to your kid all the time.  one of my friends has the biggest wars with her kids, including a lot of cursing and really disgusting things said, worse than yours, believe me.  but still they are family.  i've had ups and downs with my kids too.  i like honesty, and i don't like keeping up appearances, which i find phony and boring, offering nothing to learn from.

    you have that water sign connection with me and kruuyai, both scorpio.  what sign is your husband?  do you know about moons, rising signs, and all that?  i've looked very deeply into astrology and used to teach it.

    i have a book to recommend to you.  it's one of my favorites.  journey of souls by michael newton.

    since you like astrology, which puts people into different types, you may also like another of my favorite books, personality types by riso and hudson.  it's a much simpler system than astrology, but it's great.  there are nine types of people in their system.  i'd like to know what type you are.  unfortunately, very few people are familiar with "the enneagram", and so they don't know their type.
  • MissMimi said on Aug 14, 2007....
    hello, moonstone!  I decided to come check out the neighborhood since you visited me this afternoon.  Nice to meet you.  My kids are grown and out of the house, but my son still makes me want to jump off a bridge sometimes!  All part of being a mom.
     
    Welcome to the insanity of SoulCast.  No running with scissors, and make sure you wash your hands when you're finished.  ;)
  • moonstone said on Aug 14, 2007....
    lfbno7, thank you for adding me! Believe me, I'm not perfect and am not afraid to share that. Perfect people are boring, aren't they? ;-) As for the astrology stuff, my husband is a fire sign. Big clash there. He's a Leo, on the cusp of Virgo, and I've found that he has more Virgo traits than anything else. That's good in some respects. A little more compatible with me. But it also means we're both a little on the dull side too. I'm really interested in what you know, because I've always been very into the concept of astrology. I'm a text book Cancerian. I have taken an enneagram test, but I'd have to look up the results again. I can't recall them offhand. But I did find it to be very accurate with my personality. I think I'm going to like knowing you. You seem quite smart and very interesting!

    MissMimi, thanks for stopping by! So the bridge jumping thing never stops? lol But yes, I guess it is all part of being a mom. It looks so much easier on TV! I will try not to run with scissors or take candy from some guy I don't know. Oh, and I will wash the hands thoroughly! lol
  • lfbno7 said on Aug 15, 2007....
    if you want, either as a comment or private message, you could tell me your husband's exact date, year and time of birth, and i could see which planets are where, because i have an ephemeris here at home.
  • moonriver said on Aug 15, 2007....
    moonstone, lfbno7 -- i got interested in your discussion about the enneagram or RHETI tests. i visited the riso and hudson website, and took the test. i just wrote a blog about it.

  • moonstone said on Aug 15, 2007....
    lfbno7, I will have to message you with that information later. I am interested! I just don't know his time of birth, and neither does he. He doesn't remember. But as luck would have it, my mother in law will be visiting this weekend FOR my husbands birthday, and I would say that she remembers the time! lol I'll have to ask her. Would you do mine too if I gave you that info?

    moonriver, I will check out your blog! Suddenrain mentioned your name to me as someone very nice here. I'm glad to meet you :-)
  • ZsuzsiO said on Aug 15, 2007....
    Moonstone - I knew you must be a virgo too! I have this extreme attraction to virgos and I have no idea why. Most of the guys I've ever dated were virogs, I was married to a man who's birthday is the exact same day as mine (different year), and than my next boyfriend's birthday was the same too!!!!
    I don't get along with women in general but when I do, they turn out to be virgos....
    How interesting!
    About that personality book - and test - I am so surprised to read about it now, because just a couple of days ago I was sitting with a group of friends, and they were talking about it. I got so interested in it, but they didn't know how to spell it in English, so I still didn't look it up. But now I really must find out what it's al about!
    Oh, Gosh, LFBNO7, You wanna tell me that if I tell you my Bdate, you can tell me about me? Wow, I gotta do it than.
     
    My name? My name is comming from the Hebrew Shoshana, from the Torah (or the old testament to non-Jews), only it is it's HUngarian form: Zsuzsanna.
    In the Hungarian language there are some combined letters that have their own sounds when written together ( in English it's like SH, CH, etc). ZS sounds like nothing in the English ABC, so the only way I could discribe the sound without being able to actualy pronounce it, is to make you say garadge or rouge, and listen to the sound in the very end of these words. It does not sound like J, it's more of a french "ge".
    Of course, like so many other names, this one is also a name that has it's original form yet no one actually use it that way. At least not these days anyway. People just say Zsuzsa, leaving the rest behind, just to make it more simple to use.
    In Hungarian when you take the ending of a name and change it to the letter "i" it gives the name a little love, a little personal touch. Friends and family would call me Zsuzsi instead of Zsuzsa, which almost means, something like "little Zsuzsa", only without actually meaning that I was little, smaller or anything like that. Hungarian is a very difficult language, and believe it or not, I could still go on about how many different ways you could say my (or any) name, having a whole different meaning to it (Zsuzsika, Zsuzsikam, Zsuzska, etc....)
    So basically, The name is Zsuzsa, unless you are from Hungary and happen to know me personally, when you could call me Zsuzsi too.
    Although I live in Israel now, and people keep telling me to change it to Shoshana, I refuse to do so. Omen Est Nomen, as the Latin saying goes - Your name is your desteny. I was born as Zsuzsa, this is the name my mother gave me - may she rest in peace - and if I can learn all kinds of weird sounding names to my ear, than everyone should be able to honor me by pronouncing my name the way it is.
    Hungarians are so easily changing their names into something that sounds easier, more English. Istvan turns into Steve, Eva turns into Eve, Zsofia turns into Sofia, and the list goes on. Zsuzsas make other people's life easier by telling them that their name is Susanne, Suzie, or some other English name that is comming from the same Hebrew root.
    I will never give up on my name. I am a proud Hungarian. OK, I don't feel I am a Hungarian Jew, more like a Jew who has Hungarian geographical roots. Still, I speak the language, I cook the food, I behave and think based on my Hungarian education and etiquette.
     And the O? The O stands for something that represents the biggest change in my life. Simple but more meaningful than anything else.
     
    So, to answer your qestion: yes, I'm sure we share tha same name, only a differnet form of it =]
     
  • Me-Myself&I said on Aug 15, 2007....

    Welcome to Soulcast, just going around checking out who is reading me. I

    really enjoy your writing, no, you are not boring...at all! hope you enjoy your

    time here...folks are good and full of it! ***smile*** no really good folks

    here all kinds...a wonderful school of life here too! see ya

  • moonstone said on Aug 15, 2007....
    zsuzsi0, actually I'm a Cancer! I'm not sure where the confusion came in, except for the part where I said my husband was on the Leo/Virgo cusp. But I wanted to clear that up :-) I hope you can get along with Cancer's too! lol As to your name, it's funny, because my 'usual' screen name around the net is 'Shoshanna'. But that one was already taken here, so I had to choose something else! I think it's a beautiful form of my own name, and I 'adopted' it  many years ago when I had a name analysis done at a fair! I saw that as one of the variations of Susan, and I loved it. So yes, we do share the same name, but a different form :-)

    Me-Myself&I, thank you for stopping by! I'm glad I'm not boring, because I sure feel like it sometimes! lol I look forward to knowing you better too.
  • beholder20 said on Aug 16, 2007....
    Hi Moonstone, Welcome to the soulcast blogging space...wow you have a story for a movie...kiddin..so what keeps you goin..u son or your strength to make peace with your maker...boy I need to learn a few things from you...hope to catch up with you online sometime..to share your experience...ciao
  • singlemom28 said on Aug 17, 2007....
    Yes, SC is a great place to make friends. I can share everything with people here. I become initiative and positive to my life after staying here for 2 months. What's more I have found my match on wealthyromance.com and we just got engaged. Life is so beautiful! Let's enjoy !
  • Suddenrain said on Aug 17, 2007....
    Single, that is wonderful!!! I always wondered about those online romance places! I had heard so many horror stories. I'm glad it worked for you.  :-)
  • moonstone said on Aug 17, 2007....
    beholder, yes my life is just like a movie, isn't it? lol A really crappy movie! I don't really know what keeps me going. Probably the little things in life. A good sense of humor helps. You have to find happiness wherever you can. I get pretty excited when I get a good deal at Wal-Mart, so I guess I'm easy to please! I wish there was more in life, but sometimes you just have to forget the bigger picture and concentrate on the small things that can bring a smile to your face.

    singlemom, I'm glad you've had such a positive experience here! So far, I'm enjoying myself too. And suddenrain, thanks for stopping by again, even if it was not to talk to me! lol I think singlemom is an advertiser though. Her name popped up in almost all my conversations and she kept mentioning the website....oh well, I'm not single anyway but a wealthy romance sounds appealing! lol
  • Suddenrain said on Aug 17, 2007....
    Well poooo and I walked right into it! I've never had that on my posts! I do check back on you Moon. you are quite interesting to read. :-)
  • lyssa said on Aug 18, 2007....
    Hi moonstone! I like your first entry very much! Now I'm gonna continue reading the rest!! Cheers!
  • destinydiva said on Aug 18, 2007....
    moonstone....welcome to soulcast....i love you already!!!!!!!   :-)
    Destiny xxxxxxxxx
  • moonstone said on Aug 19, 2007....
    Suddenrain, thank you! I'm glad you think I'm interesting. That makes me smile! lyssa, hello! Thanks for commenting! destinydiva, you love me? lol Yay! I saw your comment to me at another post and I thought it was funny! We think alike? That's very good to know! I look forward to knowing you more. lucky 13, thank you for welcoming me! I look forward to being a part of the family too!

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