• TravelGirl said on Aug 02, 2007....

  Hi destiny... something to get the clogs ticking.... didn't know that expression but since I'm Dutch, I like it already, ha ha.
   
  Well, here's me, ticking my clogs....
   
  I think I'm the same here as I am in 'real' life. I spend some more time and attention on people's blogs that I feel more of a connection with. And my responses are normally a bit more 'serious'. Just like I would with my real life friends. And the SC-ers I don't know so well, I try to get to know, carefully. And see if they can be friends.
   
  Only real difference with the outside world is that my stories are out there for everyone to read. Even for people I would normally not share as much with. And that's why I like being known as Travelgirl, and not as Real Name.

• destinydiva said on Aug 02, 2007....

  thanks for sharing travelgirl....    I love feeding my curiosity :-)
  
   lol.... clogs ticking is ...mmmmm.... you know like the game downfall? or a water mill...where all the circles turn each one turning another and another..... I may have got the wrong word for it..... I just meant get you thinking!!
  Destiny xx
  
  

• TravelGirl said on Aug 02, 2007....

  Ah.... I was sitting here with my clogs on, clicking the heels together as if I was in the wizard of Oz...
   
  I know what you mean but I prefer my description, even if it doesn't make sense.
   
  Anyway, we got a bit off subject. I hope I didn't start a nutty discussion about clogs now.

• beyondtheveil said on Aug 02, 2007....

  destiny- I'm pretty much the same, but you have to remember I'm here when I want to be here, feel like being here, and can pick and choose who to pay attention to and what to talk about. Isn't that true with everyone?
  
  Exchanges on the street are usually short and polite. And if anything, I believe I'm more patient and concerned with people in real life because they are usually friends or family. Even if they aren't, they are in front of me.
  

• tizzygirl said on Aug 02, 2007....

  I definitely share more on here than I do in "real life" but I can't say that I turn into someone else completely on here.  I think I'm probably more myself being faceless words than I have the guts to be in real life.  There are too many "rules" I have to follow about what I share with other people that I see face to face on a daily basis but really I think that is more due to the fact that people I'm surrounded with right now are not as open and accepting as the people on SC.  People here like to listen more than people in my real life right now.  So I'm not sure if that makes me different on here than in real life but at the heart of me I'm the same no matter where I am.  :)

• MissMimi said on Aug 02, 2007....

  I'm more outgoing here.  My basic personality is the same here as it is in RL, only moreso.  In my RL, I'm not so outspoken.  In fact some of the opinions and feelings I've shared here would surprise my family and face-to-face friends. 

• rupert7 said on Aug 02, 2007....

  destiny, I don't know what the real me is. I am more outgoing here than in "real life" where I am very quiet. "reserved", yes,thats what I have been called! But here I find it relatively easy to chatter through the keyboard! I care about people where ever I am.
  I still "hold back" here but I am more outgoing than in the "real world" - Definitely.
  

• uniquely-ironic said on Aug 02, 2007....

  I'm probably more outgoing in RL.  I can look into someone's eyes in RL to gage whether or not I'm coming across the way I intend.  Here I try to be careful with my words, since facial expressions do not exist.
   
  I'm the kind of person that helps friends update their resumes, rocks their babies so that they can get a break, helps look after the elderly acquaintences, etc.  I probably don't have as many opportunities in RL only because I prefer to not approach strangers without a clear invitation to do so.

• leadoffkarma said on Aug 02, 2007....

  I'm not that open in real life. I am the girl that friends and family come to when they have a problem. I prefer being the listener and helping you find the solution. I'm not good telling people face to face how I feel. I think they might see me as being selfish or not understand what I meant by something that I say
   
  On my blog I am open I am careful not to say things that may offend someone but I feel alot more comfortable. There are a few SC that I really enjoy reading and are the ones that mostly comment on. I try to always give advice that I myself would take or give to someone I know.

• CamDaMan20 said on Aug 02, 2007....

  Well Des, first you might wonder whos's butt you might have inadvertingly kissed to hit the feature with less than 20 hits when it happened and no more than 4 comments when there are as many post languishing on pages 2 thru 5 that have equally as good of material
   with far more comments and hits a like.  Preference's and special  treatment, discrimination ?  obviously its an associated matter amongst a chosen few.
  
  Thinks I am about to pull the plug on this place and be done with it, after all, who in real life would tolerate the segregation that a handful of individuals droll out commonly in here each and every day ...except weekends....lol
  
  Anyways, heres what I said in a post regarding pain, and its equally fitting to reply here as well so here it is...
  
    I must be in favor of pain I keep returning to this place that is so full of discrimination,
  lil clicks patting each other on the ass and spitting on others, perverts and pedophiles
  lurking in the shadows for the young visitors or other young members,  one can be routinely attacked by non Americans arguing they have constitutional rights and have never even been to America. Must be into pain, otherwise I can not explain why I stay in a chat blog (not really much of a blog room) as it is a chat room for specific individuals.  
  
  Yea, no pain no gain, but this is becoming insane.  Maybe its just time to go and leave the carcass for the scavengers.
  
  Cam.

• gingersoul said on Aug 02, 2007....

  Destiny.......well, i seem to do the opposite things some are doing here......actually in my real life i am more sassy, sarcastic, outspoken and direct than here.

  Reason is i can look in other's people eyes in RL and immediately catch the vibe. Plus, I am a touchy person...if i am comfortable with you i will touch your arm, pat your hand...stuff like that. So my personality would come out tridimensionally. And I like this opportunity in RL.

  Here i found myself actually toning down a little bit.......i dont want to offend anybody mybe with a joke others might not get and then have to explain it...or being too direct during a discussion.

  But overall...yep...its' me here as there....there is something i dont do in both situations.....i dont play games...i might flirt a lot but i don't play games. 

  I am indeed a little handicapped here...noboyd can hear my sultry, sexy, captivating Italian accent........this sucks......LOL......

• destinydiva said on Aug 02, 2007....

  travelgirl~ still lmao! :-) clogs or sparkly red shoes? did you meet the wicked witch? hmmm I feel a post coming on :-)
  I prefer your description too :-) xx
  beyond~ thats a good point about being here when you want to be here and choosing who and when etc....  I guess thats like real life and friendships tho too??   aahhh I guess in real life you have to deal with some people whereas here you can choose not too... xx
  I think I am possibly more patient here than I am with family and real life friends?  xx
  tizzy~ I totally understand what you mean by being more yourself faceless...and following rules... and yeah people are so much more accepting here...thats why I find it so easy to share more too....  the other night when I was out with my friends I thought hmmmm soulcast wouldnt be so un accepting! but then it made me think are they so unaccepting because they care more...? I mean here I am just a name... in real life I am a real person... (to others)  does that make any sense ? :-)   soulcast is based on words alone... i guess now I'm thinking about it..you have to say more than you would in real life to get your feelings across when words are the only contact..? xx
  missmimi ~ I would shock family and friends too...but thats not because I'm any different in real life...i think its more because as tizzy said...the people are so much more accepting here.... :-) xx
  
  
  
  
  
  

• destinydiva said on Aug 02, 2007....

  rupert~ I think you are a little reserved... its a good thing though.... :-)  you said you are more outgoing..do you think its because your words are spoken without a face or because the people here are more accepting?? maybe its that we dont have to live up to the consequensces here like we do in real life...? if we upset someone or someone upset us we can just switch off and never return again??  I dont know.... I'm way to addicted to turn off and never come back :-) so I guess I'll always be aware of the conscequences ?? (I cant spell!! lol) xx
  
  unique~ thats exactly how you come across here...you can tell you are a genuinly really nice considerate caring person :-) I would say you  are  outgoing here.... if your even more outgoing in real life then we defo should go out partying together :-)  I have only just recently started having the confidence to strike up conversations with strangers... its so rewarding, but a year or so ago I would probley have avoided conversation with strangers ... xx
  
  karma~ you sound very similar to how I feel about it... I am better with written words than face to face.... its like the phone conversation I read here once.... I'd much rather write away... than have to talk for the same reasons... you can edit yourself a little here be certain your words come out so as not to offend... I try not to offend irl...but its easier with written words you can check you not been offensive before you press send...  I'm a text aholic...I'd much sooner catch up with people via text or email than on the phone...  I do express myself better with written words... I thinks anyway :-) especially when its my feelings I'm trying to convey   xx
  
  cam~ you sussed me .... I'm sleeping with the boss....  ha ha ha  :-) I am totally kidding!!!  I have no idea how the featured works...but you mentioned before about a group of people all congregate..... its not like real life high school where you have to be in my gang to talk to us kinda thing..... every post is open to everyone... who comments isnt in the hands of the poster.... its who chooses to comment.... I only comment on stuff that interests me...I'm not shallow and think oh I better post on such a persons cus we are friends... though if someone new comments on mine I always go and check out theres and usually comment..because I want to..   I think you get out of soulcast what you put in...same as real life....   soulcast decides featured ... we have no control over that??  If I did as you said make front page with less comments than others on other pages, I wasn't aware, but I am really pleased that it did... gives me a kinda wibbly jelly feeling in my tummy :-)  ...(happiness and appreciation)
  I dont think you shoud leave.... I think you maybe if you had a more positive attitude you would get so much more out of being here...saying that I know your situation, so I can understand why your not positive... I guess you have to decide wether to let go and start afresh here no grudges... or move on...anything that causes you pain or unhappiness should be changed or modified or move on.... 
  life is what you make it...you cant change the world but you can change how you view it.... there is a quote I love but I cant remember it... something about giving me the strength to accept what I cannot change. change those we can... and be wise enough to know the difference  I hope you can find happiness again here cam xx
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  

• CamDaMan20 said on Aug 02, 2007....

  I mean here I am just a name... in real life I am a real person... (to others)  does that make any sense ? :-)   soulcast is based on words alone... i guess now I'm thinking about it..you have to say more than you would in real life to get your feelings across when words are the only contact..? xx
  
  Not so. !  Your probably a pretty nice person in real life over all, and I,  just respectfully want to point out that there are "other" mediums being used in here, for example, messages (kinda private, but open to monitor), U-Tube proves another route to communicate here, nothing stops you from making a personal video if one was so inclined, and flickr provides an excellent method to post photographs.
  
  You yourself have used these mediums, as has TNP, SW, SZ, ...myself ect.
  
  So, it is not as you said a "words only public forum any longer", and content is anything but passive.
  
  So there is great opportunity to take words to another enhanced dimension, and on a far greater personal level of communication, your privacy is self enforced to the level which you feel comfortable with ; messages affords you semi-privacy, yet enough to arrange anything one may wish, from dinner together in RL, to change chat forums, or to meet for even more sinister reasons. 
  
  Yep, there are two sides to us all, most are pretty decent folks like yourself and skald, sean, polar, sweet, ect.  But there are others too, that are not as nice as the newly driven snow.  Your heart is in the right place, Des, and you try to believe in everybody, but never forget beneath those warm smiles and sweet words sometimes lurks a blackened heart who is seeking its next victim too.
  
  Have a great day.
  
  Cam. 
  
  
  
  
  

• evil_twin said on Aug 02, 2007....

  Interesting question. For the most part, my personality is the same here as it is in real life. But the thing is, I'm a little shy sometimes when meeting new people. So no, I wouldn't just walk up to someone and introduce myself. It's much easier to do something like that here. And if I do meet someone in real life, very rarely would the conversation be near as interesting as it is here. Most people don't say, "hi I'm Mike....guess what my ex wife did to me..." and then we start talking about his inner most thoughts. Here, that's not such an unusual scenario!
  
  But I do think I'm pretty much the same when it comes to interacting with people. I'm always the guy people ask for advice from. And I always listen. I enjoy trying to help people if I can. The biggest difference here, as opposed to real life, is that when someone says something rude or mean or just plain crazy, I won't say a word. I just leave the scene and no one even knows I was there. But in real life, you can't just escape an argument like that. I would definitely speak up in person, and probably get myself into trouble! Here, I just lurk around and think about what I'd love to say to the person, but I won't say it.
  
  -evil_twin LA
  
  
  

• destinydiva said on Aug 02, 2007....

  ginger~I know what you mean about toning down a bit... I think cus I'm british, I know through trav a lot of sayings and way of putting things can be misleading or come out totally wrong..or be taken the wrong way so I guess I am aware of that and weary....  lol you made me giggle with your bit about italian accent... I think your sassiness and charm comes through anyway without face to face contact.... I'm not really a touchy person so I express it more with words in real life and here...
  I guess I am a lot more sarcastic in real life tho cus you can pick up the vibe easier...  xx
  
  everyone ~ thank you for sharing... I sometimes contradict myself throughout my replies...its not intentional and I am aware of it... its that a lot of the posts I write are to help me figure out who I am... so I am changing my views all the time.... each comment means the world to me.. I take them all in and form/adjust  an opinion or a belief from them...so as always I am eternally grateful xx
  
  Destiny xx
  
  

• destinydiva said on Aug 02, 2007....

  travelgirl~ it's clogs churning!!!  not ticking!!!  hmmm or maybe its clogs turning???
  anyways I still prefer yours :-)
  

• evil_twin said on Aug 02, 2007....

  I just have to chime in real fast about the issue of who gets featured and why. It's true that the more views and comments you have, the more likely you'll be featured. But on slower days when there aren't a lot of new posts with excessive comments, I believe it goes by your popularity. If you have a 100 subscribers, and someone else only has 50, your post will probably make it to the featured page first.
  
  That just seems to be the way Soulcast prioritizes things. It has nothing to do with the user themselves. And I've also noticed that a post with fewer comments/views has a better chance to be featured if someone who is 'popular' has commented to it. It's an automated system that searches for key words. Your tags also make a huge difference too. If you use a very popular tag, your chances are better to be featured ahead of others.
  
  I know that wasn't the point of this post, but I wanted to say something anyway. Hope that was okay :-)
  
  -evil_twin LA
  

• kruuyai said on Aug 02, 2007....

  I'm much less outgoing in real life.  It's unusual that I would just go up and talk to a stranger on the street. I feel much more comfortable making the initial contact in writing.  But... once I get to know someone and feel comfortable with them, I'm every bit as forthcoming as I am here, and even more so.  So, I think you see the real kruu here.  I probably get a little more goofy at times in real life... but that being said, here as in real life, I tend to gravitate toward serious conversations and avoid "small talk."  Goofing around is usually only fun for me if I feel a real connection with my fellow goofs.

• tizzygirl said on Aug 02, 2007....

  I totally see what you are saying.... I have to admit that maybe I'm more out spoken here because, right now at least I am fairly new, and I suppose that if I said something that made someone hate me here it would be a lot easier than if I said something to someone in "real life" that made them hate me.  I don't have as much of my feelings invested into the opinions that others have of me here yet....  But it's not like I care what everyone thinks about me in real life, I just know the reprecusions sometimes would hurt the people I do love and do care about.  Like if I made my "mother-in-law" upset that would trickle down to my boyfriend and effect his life somehow.....  If you see what I'm saying.  It's not that I don't enjoy the company of everyone here or think less of them for just being "faceless words" it's just easier to deal with, more relaxed!  Hopefully making friends this way, more openly, will never lead to the "judgment" that usually causes things to fall apart!  I hope that made sense I kind of had a liquid lunch if ya know what I mean.... ;)

• Me-Myself&I said on Aug 02, 2007....

  Destiny, I am more comfortable with people in real life. I talk to everyone, even in passing,at the store or where ever. Here it is totally different, i feel intimidated.I can't tell when someone is full of shit or lieing like a dog or just commenting because of self reasons and not because they are interested in what i have written. This causes alot of paranoia for me! Like some here i need to look at you and see really if you are listening or just being "in the crowd. I am a playful, brat in real life but here i got to watch it, or someone will take me wrong. Words are not enough for me to feel relaxed here, i need body and soul to know you.

• destinydiva said on Aug 02, 2007....

  evil and cam sorry I missed your comments ....
  
  cam~ I dont know what to say to that....  xx
  evil~ lol your right.... about not breaking in to full life details with strangers...my mind is branching off in to all kinds of questions from this post and the replys.... 
  you are very helpful and your genuinity shines thru (is genuinity a word?? lol ..ya know what I mean :-) xx
  

• destinydiva said on Aug 02, 2007....

  lol I keep starting to reply and then getting wrapped up in this film I'm watching....
  (perfect murder...a gripping one :-) !!)  I'm so sorry I missed some more out....
  
  evil~ I'm glad you pointed that out...the features thing isn't an issue with me, but a lot of others do seem to have an issue with it.... I am very curious as to how it works tho ...the ins and outs of it ...sometimes I post total and utter crap...and I actually think...wow that doesn't deserve to be there!!!  and I noticed there was a week when loads of newbies hit featured with their first post... I just thought wow go you!! and was glad because it gave me the oppurtunity to meet them and I may not have done for awhile otherwise...suddenrain was one of them and I think she's a gem ... I am very curious ...maybe I'll write a post to soulcas
  t??  xx
  
  kruy~ I so know what your saying there....I think I just goof full stop! :-) no, I like seriousness and I'm sure when I settle down and life is more normal... I will spend more time on serious posts....  right now though I'm here for friendship and fun and to find myself and answers to the many life questions I have....  :-)
  (my purpose here changes daily!! lol )
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  

• lfbno7 said on Aug 02, 2007....

  i'm friendlier at work than i am here.  here some people annoy me.  at work i'm usually making somebody laugh.  i really find some of the people on soulcast to be annoying jerks.  not you though.  there are lots of friendly people here, but the jerks are a real load.  they wouldn't be like that with me in person face to face.

• destinydiva said on Aug 02, 2007....

  tizzy~you made perfect sense...though I think some may think we are talking in code here !! lol !! I think the fact that nobody judges is what makes this place so appealing and enjoyable  :-) xx
  
  memy&I~ I am finding here a good way to see in to the souls of people.... not just from posts but from comments and stuff....but then I am a people watcher by nature...just to learn nothing else.... must be the psychologist in me !!
  I'm glad you strike up convos everywhere...I was wondering if I was odd!! It is a relativly new thing for me...but its so nice...I walked to my mums today from my new house...about a 15minute walk...and the kids and I stopped and made convo with loads of people....it made me think I'm gonna scrap my car for meeting people purposes!!! there is a row of really old folks bungalows and they were all at their gates cus it was warm and sunny.... and the smile on their faces as we went past and the kids said hi, it made me want to stop and say hello and ask how their day was....  one guy went and got the kids a lollypop not because he was weird or spooky (he was about 90) but because the kids saying hello to him on an otherwise loneley day lit something inside of him... its so rewarding.
  xx
  

• the_infernal_optimist said on Aug 02, 2007....

  I'm a bit less outgoing IRL than I am here (darn shyness), but other than that, what you see is what you get, whether in person or via SC.
  
  ~Infernal
  

• destinydiva said on Aug 02, 2007....

  mr7~ I love your honesty! :-) your humour is growing on me ..  :-)  I guess thats the beauty of a place like this...as beyond said...you choose who to interact with...in life you have to interact with certain people even the jerks.... whereas here you just talk and comment on those you like or want to know more about :-) xx
  
  travel girl~ I may have been way out...it could be clocks ticking!! lol I must look it up :-) xx
  
  

• destinydiva said on Aug 02, 2007....

  infernal~ I can see your geniunity.... (dont think thats a real word but it is in the destiny dictionary now :-) lol ... I think you would be exactly the same in real life... you have a spark about you and compassion...even when your having your own issues you take the time to worry about others issues... I really like you!! :-) I love your sense of seriosness whilst still being fun and uplifting...I still sometimes fight the 'ole' shyness curse...here and real life....  I've wiped it almost clean tho in the last year ish..   :-)   xx
  
  
  
  

• destinydiva said on Aug 02, 2007....

  yeyeye check me out being on top of my posts!!!  lol its cus I got my permanant connection back.... :-) apologies for any posts I havnt replied to from my few weeks away  ish......I must discipline myself better and force me to stop posting till I have caught up :-)  (I am so like that in real life too!!!  lol)
  
  I learn soooo much here from you guys thank you xxxx
  
  Destiny xx
  
  

• fearing said on Aug 02, 2007....

  I'm pretty much the same here as in real life.    

• moonriver said on Aug 02, 2007....

  i'm afraid i'm much worse in real life... ;-)
  
  

• travelr712 said on Aug 02, 2007....

  i'm pretty much the same pedantic, verbose person in real life that i am here, but here people are looking for more explanation and embellishment than in a face to face conversation, so it's usually overlooked... or maybe they just ignore what i write here and don't have that luxury in real life :-)

• travelr712 said on Aug 02, 2007....

  
  

• destinydiva said on Aug 02, 2007....

  trav~ aaw I dont think thats a true description of you at all....  I may not know you 'irl' yet..... but we have spent enough hours for me to have a vague idea :-)
  xx
  
  mr river~ lol..you mean you howl louder?  does your werewolf side come out in real life??? I think you come across as very genuine...I think we see the inner soul if we get close enough for you, to let us in :-)  hows thing with your son? I am only just getting back in to the swing of things fully here...will have to catch up on your blog  hope alls well :-)  xx
  
  fearing~ thanks for your comment  xx
  
  destiny xx
  
  
  
  

• wombat said on Aug 02, 2007....

  I am the same here as I am in real life.  I work with the public and I try to always be considerate and compasionate--even when I don't feel so good myself. And  I worry when I haven't answered my blogs and comments properly!

• pickersplock said on Aug 02, 2007....

  I'm pretty much the same, although in real life it takes me a little longer to warm up to people

• rupert7 said on Aug 02, 2007....

  destiny, I think it is the faceless thing. I  do believe that there are consequences for everything we say whether face to face either in the real world or here. I am a shy person,here is an interesting  example. I worked in a hospital for 3 years,with the nurses,face to face,I had morning tea and lunch with them,I flirted with them,dated a few and even MARRIED one of them. BUT if i were to bump into any of those girls "dollied up" in in their street clothes I would become painfully shy!! With not ALL of them but most!! Its like the the "uniform   environment is SC and street clothes is the real world! I am a strange and complex creature !  Destiny I gotta say that today I  feel that  I detect a subtle change in you? You don't seem quite the same? 

• hotaka said on Aug 02, 2007....

  I'm the same here as in real life except better looking and less eloquent. :D

• Suddenrain said on Aug 02, 2007....

  Destiny, as much as I sat and thought about this, I don't think I can answer it. I have diff. moods. So I respond diff. in diff. moods. I always try to be respectful of anothers feelings. And CAM, please don't leave. Honesty is always refreshing whether you like the subject or not. I like hearing everyones point of view.

• Eilan said on Aug 02, 2007....

  I'm not particularly friendly or likable, particularly to strangers, either online or IRL. Because I'm a bit shy, I'm just more likely to express my unfriendliness and/or dislike toward perfect strangers in the relative anonymity provided by the Internet. Some folks seem to like me. Go figure.

• the_infernal_optimist said on Aug 02, 2007....

  Awww, thanks, destiny! :) You totally made my night when I read your reply just now. (I really like you too, if that wasn't already clear! :)) I think you'd be a ton of fun to hang out with, and you've certainly made quite a splash (in a good way) here at SC.
  
  ~Infernal
  

• botoni said on Aug 02, 2007....

  In real life others have described me as being outrageous, kind, generous, gregarious, insensitive, rude, ignorant, funny, special (whatever that means), controversial, considerate, patient, courteous, mannerly, flippant, demanding, boring, intriguing, compassionate. Thats just a sample. I m the guy who gets conversations going in check out lines, who gets transit busses full of people laughing and chatting, who encourages kids to terrorize their parents. I d talk to the devil himself. I m often light and playful with some teasing thrown in when I m here. Thats what I m like in real life. I m also the first to defend a friend who I believe is being unjustly treated and I m the first to offer help when someone is down.

• trapbutterfly said on Aug 03, 2007....

  
  In real life I'm someone different for everyone. Teachers will say, Oh she is so dedicated, so good, so hard working and so on. Friends, she's so much fun, sometimes too serious, dedicated, sassy, and very few will actually tell you how insecure I am. Family, on, she had gone through so much, she is strong, she's capable of anything. Some, she's a real bitch, thinking she's all that and knows it all. Me, right now, I don't know anymore which part of me is real anymore. I feel I'm someone to everyone else, but for myself, I'm still the cry baby at night, whom no one realizes is totally insecure and wishes she was anyone but her. I wish I saw in myself what other see. But then, others know so little of me... Me, oh... I don't know. What is real anyway. what is it really "being" real now days. I don't feel we can always be real anyway. People just would not understand. I probably would not. In here or real life, I'm just some kind of lost soul that probably is supposed to be dead but is using someone else's body for God knows what... Well, here at least I can admit some things. I don't feel much pressure. Yet, there is so much of me that is holding on. Real... Glad to know some people are real somehow in both places...
  I'm just down, so maybe that is why I'm being so stupid right now, forgive me. I don't mean to bring anyone down... or spread any negative energy.I'm just...being real?
  Smile. Does not matter if it is the real you, or the soulcast real, or both reals... just, honestly, smile for me....

• destinydiva said on Aug 03, 2007....

  wombat ~ I get that impression from your posts and comments.... you seems very warm and giving, considerate and caring of others feelings..I always worry about my comments to, I check and double check that they came out right and couldnt be read in the wrong way....  or that they dont say what I wanted them to say..  :-) xx
  
  pickers~ yeah I know what you mean, it is quicker to warm to people here..... but again I think thats because we share more with people here than we do in real life... evil said about not telling strangers his inner most feelings in real life.... its true...but if we did then we'd probley warm to them quicker, in real life it takes ages for people to open up so ages to warm to them :-) xx
  
  
  

• DesertMermaid said on Aug 03, 2007....

  I'm more open, direct , outgoing and much more happy in real life. I talk a whole lot more and am a real fun person otherwise. I'm rarely down or depressed, always up for anything.

  Guess I just come here to share my woes and people are kind enough to listen and sympathise ;)

• Actorguy said on Aug 03, 2007....

  Hey Destiny

  I actually didn't find anything about this post frivolous, I found it thought-provoking.

  I am not 2 different people....I am 4 or 5 different people!  At work I am much more surly and sarcastic.  That's mainly because I deal with crack-heads and drunks and fighters and a few cab drivers who have developed stupidity to a fine art.  Often-times its my job to try and maintain order and efficiency in the midst of absolute chaos.  Grumpiness serves me well in those situations, although its all an act and the people that know me well, know I'm really a pussycat :-)

  At the theatre I am almost the exact opposite, especially when I am directing.  There I try to create an environment where people feel safe to open up and explore their feelings.  I am supremely patient and supportive.

  Funny enough, when I'm at home I often take on the personality of the character I am currently playing. Last winter I was a pretty depressing guy to be around when I played Willy in Death of a Salesman. I am now playing a rather close-minded old Italian guy in Mambo Italiano so if I start swearing at people in Italian you'll know what's going on! LOL.

  Basta, basta I talka too much. Gratzie, Destiny, Gratzie.

• destinydiva said on Aug 03, 2007....

  thanks for all your comments...I'm off out again... but I will reply later xxx
  
  
  

• quietone said on Aug 03, 2007....

  Hi destiny ~ a fine post I think.  Just like in RL there are all kinds of personalities gathered here together.  I find myself to be more open, but cautious about how I word things, I would probably not go up to a stranger and make conversation in RL.  I am kind of shy, even a bit insecure.  I am a people watcher myself, and do like people, here and in RL.  I like to see myself as caring, helpful and try not to offer too much advice to anyone at one time, as that can be overwhelming, and in some cases unwelcome.  I am not an overly outgoing person in RL but tend to be a bit more here as I get to feeling more comfortable with SC.  I think for the most part, people here are great...even when they aren't having the best of days.

• brokenandused said on Aug 03, 2007....

  Destinydiva_ in real life, i'm very outgoing but i wear a shell.... to protect myself. I've learned to be less vunerable. Here on sc i let everything out..... again to an extent. The more i get to know someone the more i open up. The only major difference from sc to my real life is i've posted some poems on sc and no one in my real life has EVER read them. That was a huge deal to me. But i love sc because no one will judge you for what you have written, they just don't comment : )

• what.could.be.better.than. said on Aug 03, 2007....

  Destiny - I'm quiet on soulcast...so somebody is!

• Mamie said on Aug 03, 2007....

  sorry to be late to your post: I am just the same ole me here, there and everywhere!

• silverwhisper said on Aug 03, 2007....

  i'm actually more reserved here than i am IRL, like GS in fact. i probably come across as being more composed here than IRL, though: the opportunity to consider what i say before hitting the submit comment or post buttons.
  
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• destinydiva said on Aug 03, 2007....

  silver~ the man from soulcast said hi!!!!!!!   yeyeyeyey (I'm still grinning from ear to ear :-)  I know what you mean about hitting the submit...editing and stuff....  you may not believe me but I think i am more crazy in the real world!!! I feel it right now anyways.....  I mither.... rant...pout....throw tantrums in the real world too :-) but always playfully :-) I gotta discipline my inner child huh??  !!! 
  I kinda sensed you let go a little more in real life.... the trout smacking gave it away!!!  lol I'm kidding...I think you are a perfect all rounder...   you tend to keep you tightly sealed... but I get a good picture of you especially when you allow your personal life to sneak in to soulcast.... :-)  your a great guy.... I'm still in awe of your respecting your father in law... that was admirable.... and you can tell you are very considerate simply by the way you go out of your way to make peolple feel welcome,   and you can tell your a very loving guy when you mention your wife....  xx
  
  mamie~ no worries.... I never live by time schedules.... not in the school hols anyways  :-)  thanks for stopping by....  from the destiny dictionary...(maybe it exists..I never checked??)  I can see your genuinity!!!!!!  your lovely... I bet you touch as many hearts in the real world as you do here....  :-)  xx
  
  whatcouldbebetter.....  hmmmm I think you just not come out your shell yet????
  I only just getting to know you so I dont know a great deal... are you the same in real life as you are here??? xx
  
  i just realised I'm working backwords here.....sorry...... :-)
  
  
  
  
  

• destinydiva said on Aug 03, 2007....

  rupert~hmmm wonder why I am different??  maybe it is a hormonal thing???  I'm really stressed out this week with money n bills n just organisation ..or lack off!!! I had a migraine...that sends me crazy for awhile....  and I'm mega peed with my ex...but thats another post....  :-)
  thats really interesting how you say about the enviroment... I guess that does have a massive effect on the way we are... I feel really happy here so maybe I'm a little more cheeky thanI would be at say my grandmas house?? yeah we do adjust ourselves dependant on who we are with...I am aware of doing it with different people here.... some I hit with straight away and dont feel the need to edit... some I am worried about upsetting by saying the wrong thing...some I am etc etc....  glad you like your tune :-) xx
  
  hotaka~ you too have the genuinity factor!! I was lol at your comment....I saw your pic and I think your pretty dam hot in real life too :-) xx
  
  sudden~ I am totally the same.... my comments are very dependant on my mood...  thanks for stopping by anyways.... that will be one detention...(...2 hours solid on soulcast) for not handing in your homework!!!  lolololol!! :-)  xx  (chuckling away ..)
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  

• destinydiva said on Aug 03, 2007....

  eilan ~ I have to disagree.... I think you are very likeable :-) and your 'genuinity'  shines through in your comments and posts xx
  
  infernal~ aaaww thankyou...well you re payed the feeling.... that made my night too.....  thank you :-) xx
  
  botoni~ I'm only just getting to know you but thats the description thats forming in my mind too..... your very very likeable :-)  and I love your honesty :-) xx
  
  
  
   
  
  
  
  
  
  
  

• destinydiva said on Aug 03, 2007....

  butterfly~ wow your name describes how I feel a lot of the time....  welcome to my world :-) xx
  I totally agree with you about how we are different people for different people!!!  we play roles naturally....  you dont behave around your friends as you do around your parents etc....
  aaawww sweety a lost soul is not meant to be dead ....its meant to be found :-) And I genuinly know how that feels too, I am only just finding myself... infact when I joined up here lostsoul was my original choice of title!!!!  I dont know why I changed my mind before I pressed submit.. or maybe it was taken ?? I'm not sure .... but thats how I felt a couple of months ago... I still feel that way every now and then.... but you know.... a lost soul is a searching soul and searching souls are sooo interesting and admirable!!! so you keep searching!! try to switch lost to searching.... it really does help..believe me!! :-)
  this place has helped me overcome so many of my sleepless tearful nights.... 
  if you need a listening ear I'm here okay??  I'm gonna check out your blog... I hope I can get to know you some more.....
  take care :-) xx  (((((((((hugforyou)))))))  xx Destiny xx  :-) xx
  
  
  

• destinydiva said on Aug 03, 2007....

  mermaid~ your first sentance is exactly how I see you here.... outgoing open happy
  you always add a spark of fun to stuff.... ....  and for sharing woes..... well we all gotta have somewhere to vent.... it doesnt change us as a person.... I have been dying to vent all day about my ex but I just dont wanna allow myself to accept stuff yet.... I'm sure it'll be here soon tho.....  that just shows you are open,
   you accept comments so warmly.... I dont always comment on everyone I read but I read a lot of yours ..... I mostly go on comments... not just on my posts  but on other posts to get a feel for a person .... and you defo have the genuinity factor :-) xx
  
  actor ~ it defo provoked my mind!!! I have been analyzing me around diff people since I posted it !!  mood plays such a huge part as sudden said... :-)
  I would imagine as an actor it is hard to remain the same person continously when your switching roles so often....  I wondered did the characters become a part of you.... I guess real life and here are similar in that the people here can change you..... at least in my experience.... I am learning so much about myself from other people..... 
  I was thinking bout how we adjust our selves around different people in real life and as an actor.... and as a soulcaster.... its very interesting to get the viewpoint from an actual actor.... thank you, certain traits remain regardless tho I believe...and you are a nice genuine considerate and caring guy ...whatever role your playing :-) xx
  
  
  
  
  

• silverwhisper said on Aug 03, 2007....

  destiny, thank you. all i can say in response is that you have altogether too positive a view of me.
  
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• what.could.be.better.than. said on Aug 03, 2007....

  destiny - I talk to complete strangers for no reason in RL. I'm friends with everyone I know! I am so outgoing, it is ridiculous..lol. Always in a thoughtful sorta mood on soulcast though..perhaps thats why i dont talk so much?!

• destinydiva said on Aug 03, 2007....

  maybe you have a too negative view mr silver????   that was my honest opinion on you xx

• silverwhisper said on Aug 03, 2007....

  bah...i've seen some of the sweet things people have said of me. you guys are just too sweet, that's all. :p
  
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• destinydiva said on Aug 03, 2007....

  wcbbt~ maybe you will become more outgoing when you become more cormftable here??? real life seeps thru to soulcast and vise versa ;-)
  Destiny xx
  

• hotaka said on Aug 03, 2007....

  Ah, jeeze D. Are you trying to make me blush?

• gingersoul said on Aug 03, 2007....

  Ed.......again?? One of these days you and i have to have a serious conversation about all our similarities...Susan Ivanova included......lol....

   

• silverwhisper said on Aug 04, 2007....

  indeed, perhaps we should. :>
  
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• DesertMermaid said on Aug 07, 2007....

  des~ I just saw your reply and all I can do is take a bow and blow a thank you kiss. Ah! Must say that you are far too kind and think good of everyone you know.
  This post has given a lot of us a chance to step back and introspect. Keep up the great work!

• Carlar95 said on Jan 13, 2008....

  I am totally new here and I already like it so much. I am sure to an extent I will be just the way I am in reral life here......... open and ready to mingle with others. I find that I share some deep things in terms of emotions and experiences with people I meet and hope to never see again more freely than with the people I know and interact with on a daily basis. Seeing that the chances of ever meeting you all face to face are so slim, I guess I will have less inhibitions here than I do in real life.

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