• wombat said on Aug 01, 2007....

  Well, that didn't work, but whatever....hope you enjoyed the trip down memory lane, and a different post if you are bored...
   
  Crazy wombat

• dailyachesandpains said on Aug 01, 2007....

  Wombie, I get the same way.  Almost like my mind says "You're happy?  Change that!"  As if it's not "normal" to be happy. 
   
  {{{HUGS}}}
  Daily

• wombat said on Aug 01, 2007....

  And hubby says, "Why are you so negative about everything?"  If only he knew...The other day he was taking a door off so he could get a large table into the "gun room."  I told him that taking the door off wouldn't make a difference. It still wouldn't fit. Then I got the comment.  I went back to bed, and he got the table through.  He was right.  I am so negative...
   
  (When you figure out how to be happy, let me know.  I can't remember the title....ha..)

• mirrorimage said on Aug 01, 2007....

  I have days where I feel the same way. I'm not sure why it happens because I have so much to be grateful for, but there is still something missing. I have no idea.... but at least you are in good company! :)

• wombat said on Aug 01, 2007....

  mirrorimage:  Thanks!  Maybe the more people searching, the better the chance of finding...

• jadestar said on Aug 02, 2007....

  Wombie, I'm sorry you feel down. & of course I relate. I have my faith in God & that's supposed to make me feel complete. But for me not always. My theory? What Jesus said is right, fuzzy-face is a thief & a liar, he was a murderer from the beginning - a regular kill-joy.
  I know I'm such a wierdo.
   
  What do I do to cheer me up? I read wombat's posts & comments!!! seriously.
  There's some Christian Lady authors I also enjoy from time to time like Barbara Johnson & Patsy Kline.
  Of course all this stuff might not be up your alley. Cheer up anyway, there is always someone who loves you.

• kruuyai said on Aug 02, 2007....

  I used to run into the same response when I told people I was depressed.  They'd say.. "Why?  You have your own house, you have your own business... everything is going well."  But something was always missing. I think when you have to struggle for daily survival, you have less time to be depressed.  Depression is a luxury, and one that I could stand to live without.

• wombat said on Aug 02, 2007....

  jadestar: Thank you for your advice.  I woke up this morning and felt so rotton.  I know I need to make some changes.

  kruuyai:  I have never heard it put quite that way--but it sounds so true!  And I so need to get busy with something outside of myself. 

• Me-Myself&I said on Aug 02, 2007....

  Good morning to you. wombat, it's Hormonal!! Start logging your moods, you'll see the pattern. Just maybe, check it out. I do hope you are feeling better. Take care, see ya

• wombat said on Aug 02, 2007....

  Me-Myself&I:  That is a good idea.  I just might do that!  I also need to start going for walks and exercising!  That would be a good start towards feeling better.

• queenparanoia said on Aug 02, 2007....

  wombie if you feel down and depressed just force a smile! or do somthing silly like dance naked! (LOL) i tried that and believe me you'll feel better afterwards... =)

• quietone said on Aug 02, 2007....

• quietone said on Aug 02, 2007....

  Grrrr..... this dang thingj!!!! as I was trying to say above, you aren't alone I feel that way myself from time to time...like somethings missing, there must be more.  I think kruuyai has a good point though.  Walks are also good, SC is a good place to go and way better than napping in a closet!  hope you are feeling better

• kruuyai said on Aug 02, 2007....

  wombat:  Yep, that's usually the cure for depression.  Depression is an inside job.  You can't stay there if you're working at an outside job.

• wombat said on Aug 02, 2007....

  Queen:  Thanks, lady.  If I danced naked, and passed a mirror--I would be hooting with laughter....

  quietone:  I meant to go for a walk today.  My excuse?  Too hot!  Too tired!  That nap in the closet doesn't sound so bad!  I feel ok, though....  I am having trouble posting also!  I keep typing in the same sentences!

  kruuyai:  Great way to put it!  I need to get outside my mental barriers!

• Zaraida said on Aug 02, 2007....

  W, I get the same way - on a downer for no apparent reason.  And then I feel guilty as hell because I have a pretty comfortable life also.  I've had really hard times when I was young and married, but now I really don't have that many problems of any kind (well, maybe a few wrinkles I just can't get rid of no matter how hard I try!).  Not that I'm a perfectly healthy specimen, but considering my age (39 - Ha!) I am pretty healthy.  My family is pretty healthy overall also and my kids are doing well with their careers.  So what do I have to be depressed about?  That I get bored as hell and even though I have all these painting kits, writing books, scrapbook kits, tarot cards, embroidery kits, I sit here thinking I don't want to do any of this stuff.  I need something new to do!  I've tried so many hobbies that I've run out of things to try and then I get depressed because I know that I've reached the end of the road as far as trying new things is concerned. 
   
  Sorry, my bitching isn't going to make you feel any better.  But at least you know there are others just like yourself who get depressed for no apparent reason.

• destinydiva said on Aug 02, 2007....

  maybe you need more in your life than material things???  I have a really nice new house nice car....  I dont struggle desperatly....  my kids are only occasionally pain in the asses :-)
  but I am still not fulfilled ...something is missing....  has been for awhile...
  I have to say trav and soulcast and finding myself is starting to fill that void...maybe if trav was here that gap would be filled???  maybe when I'm done soul searching?? maybe never ? maybe i will always want more??
  maybe you should take up a new hobby?? ....maybe I should!! lol  :-)
  Hope you feel in better spirits soon :-)
  ((((((((hugforya )))))))))))
  Destiny xx
  
  
  
  

• wombat said on Aug 02, 2007....

  Zaraida:   I am so glad you understand!  I know it makes no sense to be depressed when you realize (when you stop and think) that you actually have it pretty good!  So why do I end up thinking of all these little problems that make me unhappy about how it's going to be if "so-in-so happens..)  I know that sounds cryptic, but I know what I mean...has to do with a personal situation.  Anyway, I tend to focus on that, and nothing else, and then I get all depressed.  I, of all people, should be grateful for what I have, considering where I came from!

   

  destinydiva:  Yes, I need to find what it is that will fulfill me.  At least a little.  I love SC, but sometimes feel that if I got off here, I might do something.  But that is just a crutch.  I don't have a lot of faith that I would do anything fantastic.  I want to paint, and write, and make a mark on the world somewhere.  But, I am pretty sure, what would fulfill me more is helping others.  I would have liked to have been a counselor of some kind.  But at my age, that is probably not going to happen.

• pickersplock said on Aug 02, 2007....

  Hey, maybe you could look into volunteering somewhere.  Helping others always makes me happier.  Sometimes when I've had a bad morning and I'm feeling particularly sorry for myself, I go into work and I have to make others happy.  When I see them smile, I feel better as well.  I teach dance to the disabled, in case you didn't already know.

• wombat said on Aug 02, 2007....

  pickersplock:  Yes, I think I remember reading about that. There is so much to remember about others on SC!  I had a notebook going for awhile, so I could keep up!  I need to pull it out again!  But you are right,  I would be good at volunteering somewhere.  And now would be a good time as I am working part time.  My only problem is driving.  I had no problem driving before, but when we moved here so far away from home, I developed some fear of driving.  I only go where I know I have been and am comfortable with.  So silly!  But I do know where there is a nursing home close to where I work... And when I tried to apply for a job, they said they only took volunteers!  Also, there is a "family church" nearby.  I pass it and think, "I should go there."   It is my laziness, reluctance, and job schedule that has kept me from it.  I hope one of these days I can step out and do something different and good--and leave this old used-up sock of my soul behind.... Thank you for the ideas!  Now I need to heed....

• gingersoul said on Aug 02, 2007....

  Wombat...i was going to give you exaclty the same comment Picker already gave you. And that would be the same suggestion my friend Niki is giving me anytime i complain about my depression.

  I agree with Kruu: depression is indeed a luxury that millions dont even have the chance to take in consideration.

  I know, thinking in this way doesn't immediately lift the veil of grey and unfillment you feel (and i feel too) but it helps me to put everything in the rigth prospective. 

  The hole in our soul needs to be filled. Material things ease the pain temporarily.

  I think my depression has always been (and is) generated by the lack of determination in fullfill my dreams.

  When i can't have what i really truly want everything turns grey. 

  When i am focused and determined and actively angry with myself my depression fades away. Having to put food on the table and dealing with practical and financial obstacles keeps depression at bay too.    

• wombat said on Aug 02, 2007....

  gingersoul:  I am learning....one comment at a time...I am so sitting outside between being on here and going outside and thinking....and it is so hard!  I know I am taking these wonderful words to heart, but am I going to follow up?  I get so scared that I am chasing a dream that I can't fulfill, because I am lacking the where-with-all to do it?  (that is a weird phrase, but one I am familiar with)  Depression is a luxury...what an interesting concept!  And material things only fill the hole temporaially...thank you for your words of wisdom.  I am scaring myself with the responses here.  Can I do it?  I want to do sonmething, anything, besides being myself....you  guys are so kind....

• wombat said on Aug 02, 2007....

  Spelling "something" correctly would be good,  ha.  And one more thing before I go to sleep...Hope some enjoyed the video of The Rolling  Stones.  I know that was a bit much, and probably a mistake to post it like that on the initial post, but wow!   I am still amazed that it is 41, almost 42 years old!  That is weird in itself!

• destinydiva said on Aug 03, 2007....

  wombat maybe here is your place to be a counsellor?? no qualifications required...just a good heart compassion and consideration.... I think you have all of that :-)

• jadestar said on Aug 03, 2007....

  depression, a luxury? I'm not really sure about all of this...........
  I'm battling to make ends meet, trying to fight the good fight...but am painfully aware of the ache in my chest. I feel at times like a failure, not having achieved the level of success or material accruement that my peers, friends & acquaintances have.......feel very often like I've squandered my existance.............I'm embarrased @ my lack of achievement...............& sick of scraping together pennies............overwhelmed by debt & responsibilities...........all the while thinking, I've really f***ed up now, haven't I?
  And very often, I just feel so lonely.....................
  hmmmmmmmmmm..........griping & moaning about all this is rather counter productive.................attitude...I can choose to be happy no matter what the circumstance.......
  Sorry, just rambling about the ache in my heart I have right now.........and that 'LOSER' feeling I have.............
  sooooooo.........best I put my hand over my mouth (or keep my fingers out of here) 'til I can say something positive..........

• silverwhisper said on Aug 03, 2007....

  wombat, what is left that you want from life? what objectives remain on your to do list? maybe it's that you simply don't feel that you're striving for anymore?
  
  ed

• Zaraida said on Aug 03, 2007....

  W, I can't believe another parallel in our lives.  You've mentioned before how much alike we are - well, guess what!  I too have developed a fear of driving, especially after moving to a bigger town than the one we used to live in.  After a few years of my relatively new car sitting in the garage with a dead battery, I donated it to a charity.  I didn't want to advertise it in the paper because I didn't want strangers coming to my house, so I thought it was simpler to just give the darn thing away. 

  Sorry I can't give you any good advice about depression bouts or feeling like something is "missing" because I get the same way as I mentioned previously and am still looking for the answer.  I've even bought "zen" books which helped when I was reading them, but I soon forget their good advice about "living in the now" and then I go back to my old ways.  And I also worry about a lot of "what if's" but I think that must be normal.  One day I heard a hostess on a shopping channel (who is absolutely gorgeous and has a great personality) say that sometimes she can't sleep because of worrying about the "what if's."  So I guess there are a lot of worriers like us out there!

   

• wombat said on Aug 03, 2007....

  destinydiva:  Sometimes I do feel as if I am counseling people here. (on certain conversations)  and I feel good when I think I may have helped.

  Jadestar:  Don't feel you should hold back comments. However you are feeling is relevant and ok to say, at least to me.  I have been where you are talking about--when I was single in between marriages.  I had a really tough time of it for almost six years.  All the more reason I should not feel as I do now when life has gotten "better."  I hope things improve for you soon!

  slverwhisper:  You are right.  I have gotten lazy toward "doing something" about the things I dream of.  I mostly want to write and publish a book.  And to not feel as if I am "finished" basically.  Just working and waiting to get old and face "the end."  Is this all there was to me?  Just struggling and surviving?  Is there more?  Does it matter?

  Zaraida:  I think we are twins separated at birth!  lol.  I am also bad with the "what if's."  It keeps me from enjoying life.  I can't believe you gave your car away.  But I understand why you did it.  That was a good thing for charity.

   

   

• wombat said on Aug 18, 2007....

  Still working on it, but had to make note to self--my favorite post of mine.  Another thanks to all who responded.

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