• minniemouse said on Jul 27, 2007....

  Hey evil_twin......I was thinking the same thing the other day.  I started blogging here for a specific purpose, mainly tryiing to "find" myself and the problems in my marriage, basically looking for someone to listen.  I didn't realize how attatched I would become to this place and the people that I have "met".  There is one thing in my life that I intended to blog about and I haven't.  I'm not going to say I won't, but its something I am uncomfortable talking about for fear of others judgement.  So, no, you are not the only one who worries about it!  :-)  Minnie

• MissMimi said on Jul 27, 2007....

  Um, yeah, I guess I do worry about it, about some topics.  I had friends here when I showed up so I was never totally anonymous.  We all have thoughts and feelings that might shock the people we know.  And everybody's gotta have some secrets...

• mirrorimage said on Jul 27, 2007....

  I am more careful about my comments to people because I have seen other comments be taken the wrong way and hurt someone. Since i have gotten to know more people here and become quite attached to everyone, I read them several times to make sure they can't be misunderstood.... I think I spend more time proof reading my comments than I do on my posts!

• botoni said on Jul 27, 2007....

  Hello Evil-T. An interesting point you make. My initial reason for coming to SC was to find a place to vent about a failed relationship. Writing is therapy for me. It was a bit of a surprise for me to discover someone would actually read and express opinions on what I had written. (Duh I m slow at these things.) It seems the things that brought me here are no longer paramount in my mind so I seldom mention those issues anymore. In thier stead a group of delightful friends have developed. Would I be as open now as I was then. I like to think so because there is great support here and I ve been made to feel very secure. If I should lose esteem in someones eyes because I ve posted frankly about a personal thought I would likely feel bad, just as I would feel with real time friends in the same circumstances. I hope I wont hold back becaue of that though. I d rather folks knew the real me than an image I create.

• Actorguy said on Jul 27, 2007....

  I think one of my many faults is that I want people to like me.  Maybe it doesn't sound like a fault, but sometimes it is.  It keeps me from saying things that might cause people to judge me.  I didn't think I would care about that here but I really do.  The people here are very real to me and I definitely care what they think.  I really never expected that to happen.

• TinSoldier said on Jul 27, 2007....

  I'm with you, Actorguy. I just want people to like me, too.
  
  I know a few people on Soulcast from elsewhere on the Internet. In fact, one of them is the one who turned me on to this place to begin with.
  
  I also think that one of the things that comes from making posts and making friends removes a portion of that anonymity that many so value. After awhile, expectations crop up.
  
  I didn't answer silverwhisper's blog, but I have to say -- there are things that I will probably never blog about. It's difficult to say where the line is, though. However, the specter of self-censorship rears its head whenever you become part of a community.
  
  Well, for most folks, anyway. Obviously some people don't suffer from that particular handicap.
  

• Eilan said on Jul 27, 2007....

  I knew people on SoulCast from elsewhere as well, so I was never completely anonymous.
  

• the_infernal_optimist said on Jul 27, 2007....

  I did know one SCer before I came here, though it wasn't planned that we'd both be here (at least not by us!).
  
  Sometimes I do hesitate to say something about myself, but I usually plow ahead anyway. The only people whose potential negative reactions I care about are the ones least likely to have them, you know?
  
  ~Infernal
  

• CreativeWoman said on Jul 27, 2007....

  I blog a little differently than I used to.  I guess I do censor myself a little since I have made a few friends here.  However, I still do my best whining here.  :-)
  
  CW
  

• beyondtheveil said on Jul 28, 2007....

  evilT- I don't believe my posts have changed in any noticeable way, although I feel better about opening up.
  
  What has changed are my comments to people. At first I was quite unsure of myself in commenting, but as time went by and I began to know and understand the personalities, commenting was easier. I need to feel out the people before I'm comfortable talking to them.
  

• blastfromthepast said on Jul 28, 2007....

  I kind of stumbled into the SC community one night, and never left!  It was one of Mouse's posts and Mom's comments that did it for me.  I felt accepted almost immediately.  But, I made a comment not too long ago that was taken totally the wrong way.  Since then, I've become somewhat guarded when commenting, afraid that I might offend someone.  So, I feel less free to speak my mind now than I used to.  I hope I get over it.

• destinydiva said on Jul 28, 2007....

  I know exactly what you mean....     :-)  
  
  
  Trav has joined here too, but that doesn't change the way I write here, there isn't anything he doesn't know about me...thats what I love bot my relationship with him... I can be exactly me!!  :-)
  
  
  But yes, I have made freinds here, so even tho I'm anon to the world... I'm not anon here anymore....  I love it the way it is... but there have been times I have edited something.  It's not so easy to speak freely anymore...
  
  
  There are so many questions I'd like to ask about religion... but I'm a little scared too, 
  
  
  anyways...  I kinda changed my pupose of being here along the way.... I just enjoy the community and fun aspect of it xx 
  
  
   

• hotaka said on Jul 28, 2007....

  Well, people know most of my dark secrets now and I felt like opening up to everyone when I was in an emotional crisis. I guess I trust everyone here enough for that.

  However, now that K reads my blogs I don't say everything I think anymore. It's a bit stiffling but what I don't say is probably just nonsense anyway.

  Come to think of it, most of what I say here is nonsense.

• allswell said on Jul 28, 2007....

  Hi evil t...Yea I think I wrote more when i first came on here than now. I wrote more intimate personal thoughts and feeling that i would never tell anyone that i know! Now after being here for awhile you DO feel like you know everyone and have such great friends here. So yes i think i'm alot more self concious as to what i write and how i comment because i don't want anyone to be upset with me and i defintley don't want to hurt anyones feelings....I never expected to feel that way about everyone here, but there are just so many wondrfull caring people here...how can you help but feel that way!   

  alls:)

• silverwhisper said on Jul 28, 2007....

  e_t: perhaps oddly, i never looked at soulcast as a place to keep a diary or journal online. indeed, i always saw my page here as like unto a newsletter. so in a sense, there was never any chance i was going to wind up self-censoring what i say here. but the way i view my blog is probably somewhat unusual.
  
  ed

• fearing said on Jul 28, 2007....

  I feel the way you do E_T.  Even though I've given up some of the freedom and self imposed "un-censored" blogging, it's been traded for some wonderful friendships.  It was a good trade.

• quietone said on Jul 28, 2007....

  I am fairly still new here I feel.  I have read more than I write for the reason of being "judged"  I see this happening from time to time.  I feel people get judged in the real world enough w/o having to edit what they say here to people they really do not know...not f2f anyway. we could be exactly anyone we want here....anyone.  We could make up our whole life of what we want it to be here and no one would even be the wiser. And yes, I do the same thing...I comment then I read it and re read it to make sure I do not offend or said it the wrong way. 

• gingersoul said on Jul 28, 2007....

  ETweenie......i cant say i changed my way to write about myself. But I have definetely changed the way i feel while i am writing about myself.

  I explain better.....my blogs are my world. What enters or what doesn't enter is my property. I am free there. i never cared about how people would have taken my writing...... i just wrote and still write for the pleasure of doing it, for organizing my thoughts and share my memories.

  But its changed the way i feel while i am writing. Because now i know that special friends will read me (some very carefully....lol...) and comment me (some very sharply....lol...) and we will share thru our comments a special, even though in some cases frail, bond. This is what is changed: i am not alone anymore here, people actually get me and like me, they enjoy my writings and i feel more stimulated to open up and reach out. But there are still many things i didn't share yet. And maybe i will never do....

  Then, like Actorguy, i do want people to like me. So i am very careful no to offend anyone. But i would do the same in real life too. And I avoid like the plague the heated arguments when generated by people i dislike.    

• polarheart said on Jul 28, 2007....

  Twinny, I started blogging to find myself again. . .I wanted to let it all out and just be unabashed.  Then after making some friendships I started to censor my writing for fear of not being liked and then just recently I decided to just be the real me 100%.  I thought if people like me they should like the whole me and not just the nice parts of my personality.  We all have things we struggle with and areas where we fail.  True friendships stand the test of time and also are there for you when you dont look so pretty, they help you get through the tough times and dont leave you when you make mistakes.  I am glad to say that I have made many friendships like that here! :-)

• AlisonMarie19 said on Jul 28, 2007....

  Hey E_T. I don't share as freely anymore. You know why. :)
   
                ali  =(^-^)=

• Mamie said on Jul 28, 2007....

  I was not completely anonymous here either as many of you know that jenna and I are real life friends. However, she knows everything about me, the good, bad and ugly, so I do not censor myself at all.

  
  Also I assume that you are all friends I just haven't met yet, so when we disagree I am not taking it personally. I hope you don't either. I believe everybody just does the best they can...with what they have....with what they know...so write on! I am thrilled to read all of you! It is my new favorite past time and makes me feel connected and free.

• evil_twin said on Jul 28, 2007....

  minnie--I totally know what you mean. But in some ways, knowing you have friends here, should make you feel comfortable sharing this important thing you have hidden away. I know that I wouldn't judge you! But I do understand exactly what your fears are. It's different telling a 'stranger' your most personal secret. And now that this place and the people are so familiar to you, it's scary.
  
  Mimi--You're right. Everyone does need some secrets, huh?
  
  mirror--I do the same thing with comments! There are several times when I've attempted to say something to someone, but I keep reading over what I wrote, changing it, and then I just delete it all and say nothing. I'm too afraid my words were not going to come across right, and then I'd upset someone.
  
  botoni--That's an excellent point. I, too, want people here to like me for who I am, and not an image of me that I created. That's why I've bared my soul to everyone here. Everyone knows I'm totally imperfect, and it doesn't seem to matter. But occasionally I'll have something in my head that I don't put out there, just because I'm afraid that people will go, "wow, where the hell did that come from? That's not like him!"
  
  Actorguy--I feel the exact same way. And yes, wanting people to like you can be a fault. At least when you let it take over your thoughts. I'm totally guilty of this on many occasions. And I never expected to care what anyone at Soulcast thought of me. But you know what? That sort of mindset just isn't me. I always care what people think. And just because this is online and not real life, I'm still the same person.
  
  TinSoldier--You're right. Expectations do creep up. You start expecting certain types of comments or posts from people, and if they do something different, it's like, "what???" It can limit what you say.
  
  Eilan--Yeah, I suppose that would make your experience different.
  
  infernal--That's a good point. I usually contemplate the potential reaction of a post, but usually I just post it anyway. Like the one I made awhile back completely baring my soul and telling everyone my deepest feelings. But you're right. The people that matter to me here, didn't react any differently than I would have expected. Probably because even if it felt like a big revelation to me, the ones who have come to know me best, already knew this stuff!
  
  CW--I've never seen you whine! :-)
  
  beyond--I hear you about the comments. I tend to feel a person out first before I'll say anything either. When I first came here, I didn't know who was who. So I just read a lot and tried to figure out who was nice, who was scary, etc. before I opened my mouth!
  
  blast--I felt very accepted here right away too. That surprised me. (Happily!) But I understand what you mean about being afraid to say the wrong thing. I think it happens to all of us at some point. You say something that was taken wrong, and then you're scared to do it again. I hope you'll feel more comfortable again soon :-)
  
  destiny--It's good that you and Travelr are so open with each other. Just like me and Nat! :-) But religion is always touchy subject. If you post about it, you will likely get opposition, no matter what side you are on. I understand your nervousness about that. But hey, if you ever wanna talk to someone about it, you can talk to me! You know we're on the same wavelength.
  
  hotaka--See, you are a good example of what I was talking about. Everyone knew Hotaka, and you felt like you had made friends here. And when all this turmoil happened in your life, you were not comfortable telling anyone. You created an entirely new blog, with a new identity, just to share these personal experiences. You didn't want your friends to judge you. Of course, you did eventually come clean. But it's a perfect example of being afraid to share personal stuff for fear of your friends being shocked, right?
  
  [more comments following....]
  

• travelr712 said on Jul 28, 2007....

  There is another aspect to your question kyle, one that has come up in the classroom several times over the last year or so. Employers and other people will use these blogs as a means to find things out about a person that would not normally come out in a context of a work or social environment. It has been tested in courts, and it is not illegal for them to do so. After all, it is a public forum, and anyone posting on it by nature wants the world to see the opinions and attitudes they've posted. I am always aware that what I write may be seen by someone I would rather didn't, so I am always careful about how and what I say, trying to be as accurate a representation of what I truely believe as possible. That's the strange thing about this online world. It may feel that it's an intimate setting between friends, because you cannot see who is reading your posts, and perception says that the only ones who pay attention are the ones who comment, but in truth, anyone in the world can see.

• evil_twin said on Jul 28, 2007....

  alls--It really does change things when you start to feel close with people here. You can no longer say, "I'm telling you guys, because you don't know me...." Because that doesn't feel true anymore!
  
  silver--Yeah, you were one of the people who I know rarely shares personal stuff. But hey, it's your blog. And nothing says a blog has to be a journal/diary. Lots of people don't use it in such a manner. :-)
  
  fearing--Exactly. To give up some freedom of expression, is a good trade when you consider all the wonderful friendships you've made. I never expected to make friends so easily here. Maybe because that's usually not the way it happens for me in real life, so why would this be different? Gladly, it was different!
  
  quietone--It is hard to stop worrying about being judged. I didn't think it would feel that way though. But I think that if this is something we worry about when we meet someone in person, then we won't be able to change that, even online. At least, I can't. I've tried!
  
  ginger--When I'm writing now, I'm always conscious that Natalie is going to read it. And although, it doesn't stop me from writing what I need to say, I do think to myself, "is she gonna think I'm crazy?" But I've found that since she's been here, it's actually helped our relationship. Not that it needed help! But we talk so much and it's a lot easier for me to share my thoughts, because she's read them first. And I try to stay out of conflicts and fighting here too. I'm Switzerland! Neutral territory!
  
  polar--You're totally right. No one is perfect, and true friends see your imperfections, and stick by you anyway. I think I've made friends here like that too :-)
  
  Ali--Yeah, I know why you won't share as freely. It sucks that it had to come to that...
  
  mamie--I hope you're right! I hope that most people here are forgiving if I ever come down with a case of foot in mouth disease :-P And I love reading what everyone else has written too!
  
  
  

• evil_twin said on Jul 28, 2007....

  travelr--I didn't see your comment because it came while I was writing...but you do have a good point there. I've heard of lots of places not hiring someone because of their MySpace pages, etc. That's why this place is nice though. Your full name is not attached to it anyway. There are thousands of Kyle's in this city. If an employer was looking for me, they'd never find this blog. My personal email address isn't attached to it either. I opened up a special address, just for this place. Besides, I rarely mention work here and have not told anyone exactly what it is I do. Of course, I work for my father's company, so I don't think he's gonna be checking me out. But for other people, it could be a problem. But I think it's less so here, than at a place like MySpace that has pictures and your full name in the search database.

• pickersplock said on Jul 28, 2007....

  I think I'm the same as I've always been.  Although there are one or two bloggers,
  whose posts I've stopped commenting on.

• DesertMermaid said on Jul 28, 2007....

  e_twin~ personally I would not be very comfortable if something like that happens, I think. I take great pains to guard SC from others and to retain my anonymity and I really want it to be like that.

  In fact I skip blogging about certain imp issues for the above two reasons. For me somethings are just too private but maybe I'll share it all here in future if I feel like, who knows? That however wont be possible if things went otherwise :>

• CamDaMan20 said on Jul 28, 2007....

  I came here last year via my daughter  having been sent here by a newsletter from her school listing various trusted sites that we could trust as parents as text based blogs, SC was on that list.
  
  I came on and enjoyed the holidays and high jinx of others in here and never had a single harsh word with anyone over anything.  I liked it here, I liked the people here, I liked to say regularly..." I am going for a stroll thru the paths of SC where I could stop in downtown and listen to Bloc tell the community of wars and politicians, good and bad.  I called (to myself) Silverwhisper the gatekeeper to the park where he would meet every single person out for a walk.  Then take a fishing or hunting
  trip w/ Moble to relax and really enjoy life.  Cops was the mean ole bastard that patroled and was always confrontational and/or suspecting a fraud { having been a cop for about....alll his life, it could be expected}.  The women of SC at that time seemed more compassionate and not brash or whore like in demeanor, maybe they were, but I don't recall much of that.
  
  One day, I come home from NC having been gone for a couple weeks at work, I pull up and am met with State Police , County Police, Investigators....my world went wierd and my mind immediately didn't know what to expect,  someone sick, hurt badly or dead ?  Brain fuck for sure.
  
  Seems my children had encountered something even I had not viewed on SC as a text based blog...was graphic porn of what was identified to me as a grave danger to my children in fact all children and was led to my computer where I was introduced to our local Naked Professor.  Fury ?  You have no idea what I could have done to that person at that very moment, suffice it to say I am glad  he wasn't within range and I took a completely different route.  I am letting the judicial system deal with it and a law firm to take care of other matters, all because I came home from work.
  
  I have been repeatedly attacked by those purporting to subscribe to on-line sex education for children and seeing it as ok.  I have been attacked for living with more than a single female, unmarried.  Yet, ole so many in here that attack me for the same has been married repeatedly, shack up currently or have been jumping dick like a frog in a pond from pad to pad.  I see the same one's confess to being married and planning ways to cheat, some even wish to masturbate with young teens,,.... because someone has to teach them.  Disgusting.
  
  I have watched til I was blurry eyed as those professing to be considerate to all others, attack with venom as mobs.  There are specific instigators, and we all know whom they are and who we are.  This place has a history, and so to do the characters that intermingle.  It has changed and many know when it changed and why it changed.  You all want to blame me, and a handful of others, I blame a newsletter from school indicating how safe and passive a text based blog site SC was.  If I had done or said nothing, I would have been condemned in here as a worthless parent for allowing my children to view porn on a site I had not seen ever a picture posted in prior (except a small religious card), but never a photo.  The law wanted blood, mine, and all I did was come home.  They no longer want mine, for they have seen for themselves I could never have expected it, did not invite it and was sent here via a government run facility ...school.   I am such an ass.
  
  Yes, I have become defensive, because I was handcuffed, and arrested and taken downtown over porn that didn't even belong to me.  Charges have long since been dropped, but now its my turn.  I am protective, I am defensive, and I have every right to be because all those that I trusted, believed where friends, enjoyed as friends, turned on me like the snakes they became or always was, not sure. 
  
  So yea, I write much differently than I ever have, but its for oh so many reasons.  Each has contradicted themselves in values and in character repeatedly, and then
  play like the good kid when the teacher walks into the room.  I watch what I write, because I know who is watching, I know what some wish I would do, and others that try to manipulate me to do.  I am doing fine however, doing unto others what they do unto me.  Ya do get what ya give, and lets face it, respect is handed out amongst a chosen few in here, the rest of us, we are suppose to be good subs, and just take it.   So yea, I do write differently, and I do have friends here I share time with often and pleasurably.  I have those I watch like rabid dogs, and treat them as such when they growl or sniff to close to me.
  
  Cam.
  .
  
  

• evil_twin said on Jul 28, 2007....

  pickers--It's good that you've stayed the same :-) And I suppose the best way to avoid problems, is to stop commenting to people you know you might not get along with.
  
  desert--So are you saying you'd prefer not to cultivate friendships, in order to blog more comfortably? I'm not sure if I understood correctly...
  
  Cam--I'm really sorry that your experience with this place has soured. I haven't been here long enough to notice a change like you speak of. I'm still relatively new. But it's unfortunate that you feel you can't trust many people here now. But you must still enjoy it to some extent because you're still here, right?
  

• travelr712 said on Jul 28, 2007....

  kyle - cam's comment is one example of what I was talking about. I never forget that this is a public forum, not an intimate private 'between friends' dialog with people who know you and understand your motives and comments.
   
  cam - I wrote in another person's blog that I wondered what had made you so bitter and hostile. I have my answer. I do not know you at all, and so I hope you understand the nature of the comment I am about to make. If you have been falsely accused as you say, then I, sir, am truely sorry that it happened to you. Such a thing has become rampant in our 'war on terror' society, and is swallowing up innocent people for the sake of a lie. I am sorry you were one caught up by this madness.

• evil_twin said on Jul 28, 2007....

  travelr--I know it's a public place and anyone can read what I write. Which is why I don't write anything I'd be afraid for the world to know. But I still do have friends here, and I write for them and myself. If someone else has an issue with what I've written, then that's unfortunate. But so far, so good. My blog is pretty innocuous. 

• travelr712 said on Jul 28, 2007....

  kyle - And I hope you consider me one of them, I certainly consider you one of mine. Yes, yours are very innocuous, and very entertaining.

• wombat said on Jul 28, 2007....

  I haven't been around much in the last couple of days, and didn't make it to silverwhisper's post, but will comment here and maybe go back.  Both are great questions!  At first, I thought I could write about anything because it was "anonymous."  But it doesn't seem so anonymous to me anymore.  I feel like I have put bits and pieces of myself out there for people to put together--and now some may have an opinion of what I am like formed in their minds.  When I start to say something off the wall, a little naughty, or too painfully personal--I end up erasing whole paragraphs sometimes!  I stop and ask myself, "Why in the world am I telling people this!  I don't even tell the people I have worked with for almost a year!  Or some relatives!

• evil_twin said on Jul 28, 2007....

  travelr--Of course I consider you a friend :-) And you do make a good point with what you say. I guess I'm just not too worried about the issue because I have nothing incriminating to hide from anyone. Strangers and friends, alike.
  
  wombat-- I know what you mean! I think that after awhile, people here, expect the same things as people do in person. And if you come up with something different, it's a shocker!
  

• Zaraida said on Jul 28, 2007....

  Mr. E, I found myself telling SC people things about my boyfriend I never thought I would tell anyone, except for my adult kids.  But I discovered that it feels great to communicate your thoughts and feelings to others even if you don't know them.  I, too, started to feel that maybe I was telling too much and that people were going to tell me, "Instead of complaining about his talking too much, why don't you just leave him?"  But no one has been judgmental and I'm grateful for that.  So when I need to "vent" I will continue to do so hoping that others understand (which so far they seem to do).

• rmuxagirl said on Jul 28, 2007....

  I would still talk as freely as I normally would.  I mean no one knows who I am.  It helps getting advice and stuff from people I don't know.  The only thing I would not talk about is sexual stuff, but I wouldn't talk about that to anyone except maybe my best friend.

• amyispretty said on Jul 28, 2007....

  I just finished reading every single one of your posts that I've missed.  Since I'm now on dial-up, it took about 200 years.  Congratulations on the engagement!!!  And I liked the cat pictures too.  I need to figure how to post pics here.

• evil_twin said on Jul 28, 2007....

  zaraida--I know what you mean about expecting certain responses. I sometimes think that people will tell me I'm crazy or wrong, but so far, everyone is really supportive of everything I've shared.
  
  rmuxagirl--See, that's how I thought I'd feel. That no one here knows me, and it's easy to say whatever. But even if I've never met anyone in person, I no longer feel unknown. I feel like I DO know people here.
  
  amy--You're back! I've been thinking about you and your haunted house :-) You missed a lot here, didn't you? I'm glad you got caught up, even if it took 200 years! :-P Thanks for the congratulations too. If you wanna learn how to post pics here, look at this.
  

• nursecutie said on Jul 28, 2007....

  I have not been here long enough to really know anyone yet........but I think that people know me! Sort of anyway. They know me from what you have written.......

  So far I have not shared much personal myself. That could change.......there are many things I could say, but I'd be nervous for you to see them, Kyle. Not because they are bad, or even about us at all. They are about me and my lameness.......LOL

  I guess because I feel that way, I would say that yes, it is harder to say things when you actually know someone who is reading it......

  xxoo natalie xxoo

• evil_twin said on Jul 28, 2007....

  Cutie--I'd never think you were lame! I'm the king of lame.You know you could tell me anything :-) I'd actually be really interested in reading your thoughts about stuff. Maybe someday you'll share more? If not here, you know where to find me! 

• travelr712 said on Jul 28, 2007....

  From the number of comments you get on your posts natalie, I'd say that there are many, many people who don't think you're lame, including me.

• nursecutie said on Jul 28, 2007....

  Kyle, thank you :) I know that you would probably not think I was lame......hopefully! I guess it is hard for me sometimes to share the inner workings of my mind.......I get embarrassed! And think that people will not get me.......you know how that is, right? But i know you get me :)

  travelr, you are too sweet! Thank you. But maybe no one thinks I'm lame because I have not posted anything personal yet? LOL

  xxoo natalie xxoo

• TheNakedProfessor said on Jul 28, 2007....

  And the fiction award goes to Cam.
   

• CamDaMan20 said on Jul 28, 2007....

  In your prayers, and maybe in your dreams, but not in your reality.  

• travelr712 said on Jul 28, 2007....

  natalie - I'm sure bridget jones thought her diary was lame, but the whole western world thinks she's fascinating! You just never know what people will truely be interested in :-)

• frontanack said on Jul 29, 2007....

  I find that there is a different ability to focus when writing, having a little more knowledge of who is reading and commenting... obviously: there are many reading who do not comment.  I enjoy that focus.  and yah, it does feel like friendship, strangely enough .haha.

• silverwhisper said on Jul 30, 2007....

  e_t, cam's take on events is most...interesting.
  
  ed

• rightwingwizard said on Aug 01, 2007....

  I would say that I have changed my habits quite considerably over the few months I've been here.  When I first came I thought I would post a lot about politics and issues.  Now I seldom even read political posts and even less often comment on them. (Most of the tripe that passes for political commentary around here is little more than partisan sniping)
   
  Then I thought I would attempt posting some of my fiction.  As soon as I realised people were actually reading it I couldn't write any more.
   
  Then I thought humor and light hearted stuff would be more fun, but I realised that I have an unusual sense of humor and a lot of people just didn't get it.
   
  As a result I haven't posted for almost two months and I am quite satisfied with that.
   
  rww

• Zaraida said on Aug 01, 2007....

  Mr. Wizard, I feel the same way.  I thought I would be posting every day and I went gung-ho in the beginning, but soon fizzled out.  I kept complaining about my not being able to stick to writing something and when somebody offered the idea that maybe I could post a sample of my writing, I froze right up - even worse than usual.  Oh, well, it's still fun to read all the juicy stuff.

• PassionTraveler said on Aug 01, 2007....

  I actually thought of this question myself - very recently. I would say the relationships I have in SoulCast don't influence my content, but the real life relationships i have who may be reading it do influence me - a little bit - but not all that much.
  
  My Mom and Dad read my blog, even the bits about my romantic & sexual involvement and in the beginning I made it known that I wouldn't censor myself, nor would I apologize for anything if it was from the heart and honest. They agreed to respect that part of who I am. To date, Mom only took offense to my post, April Fool On Me -- Gee, Thanks Mom & Dad!, whereby I discuss how I really don't like my name, but she got over it and still loves me.
  
  In fact, a real-life friend joined (I plead the fifth as to who), and we decided not to censor ourselves no matter what. But yes, there are times I think to censor myself for the friends and family I send to my blog, but then realize that I am exactly the same way in reality, and in the end, I still winding up saying what my heart leads me to write.
  
  The only thing that might change would be if I develop a romantic relationship with someone. I'd have to decide if I'd be comfortable to have them read what I write. Especially if I use this as a place to seek advice, or if I'm venting about some issue or topic about them directly. As it stands, one person is growing on me, and currently knows nothing about this site. If he were to learn, I might rethink my practices.
  
  Then again, I might have to explain that it's a part of who I am, and if he's accepting of that, I'll always be willing to discuss with him anything he may read within my blog. I would hope he'd be that type of man that doesn't over-react at every syllable displayed here and understands that writing is a huge and healthy way in which I process events and emotions in my life.
  
  PT
  

• kruuyai said on Aug 02, 2007....

  I would say that I post even more freely now.  Just like in real life, once I feel comfortable with people, I let more of my real self out.  And if people are my friends, I expect them to accept me for who I am.  That's all I really want out of this... to be known and to be accepted.  I think that's what I'm getting.

• DesertMermaid said on Aug 03, 2007....

  e_t ~ Well actually I meant to say that I would love to make friends provided my anonymity is not threatened. And I would not like to have any one from real life in SC as I think that would restrict me from blogging freely.

  Btw congrats on your engagement and I'm trying to keep up with all your and cutie's pre wedding posts. Lol :) I think its super cute that you guys are sharing it all, we get to see both side of the story which is like a fairytale unfolding. Loads of wishes for both of you . God bless :))

• uniquely-ironic said on Aug 03, 2007....

  Wow, how did I miss this one?  Oh well.
   
  I think that I still reveal the same things here that I used to when I first joined.  The only difference is in the delivery.  Where I once felt freer to be blunt I now feel that tact and consideration need to be added.
   
  There are still a few things that I will not blog here, or anywhere else.  They're just too painful and/or intimate for me to trust to anyone.  There are days that I feel that the things I do blog are already so "out there" that the really personal stuff would just leave everyone wondering if I'm really real or just a really good role player.
   
  As for how I comment, it has definately changed.  What I could have said off the cuff when I was new is no longer appropriate.  Now I know more about the people here, so my comments are adjusted accordingly.  The last thing I would want to do is to hurt a friend with my words.

• VICARIOUS said on Sep 11, 2007....

  Truthfully? No.
   
  My life is an open book on line. If people are going to judge me then that is their perogative. I knid of like being really open and share everything. But then agin, in 3 states I'm legally insane.

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