These days, it really sucks to be thin, with all the backlash against those who (may or may not) have eating disorders. It's painful to be a thin girl without an eating disorder, and have everyone assume you do.
There's this girl I know who is as thin as a reed. She doesn't work out. She is naturally that way. She eats the most in our little group. She is so scared of going to the bathroom when she eats out with us, and she won't, for fear people are thinking that she is binging and purging in the bathroom.
Next time I hear someone say "Eat something!" to her, I will tell them "Stop eating donuts." or "Get back on the treadmill."
It's discrimination all around. Not just against obesity, but anyone who doesn't look the way other people are comfortable with. Or says what people are comfortable with. Or does what goes against someone else's mantra.
People need to get out of their comfort zones, out of their smug little realities. Including me.
theorista posted on Jul 23, 2006
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curly_fry said on Jul 23, 2006....
Again, you are correct, the one thing I hate is when I get upset with people when they say to me, "you skinny!" Now, tell me this: how is it that I'm skinny when I got a big ASS and knockers on a 32 inch back(oh they are real). When you normally call people skinny, they have a small frame with a chest and butt to match. Anyway, it's our social-standards of saying a fat person is fat because they are lazy, and skinny people=kate moss. Oh well, change will start with us. As in EVERYONE. -
theorista said on Jul 23, 2006....
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hotaka said on Jul 24, 2006....
Some people are just naturally thin. In Japan, being thin with a small butt and chest is the norm. But I have seen western girls with thin figures who always look that way. Hey, we can't all be the same. Some have got to be thin and others less so. -
theorista said on Jul 24, 2006....
Yeah, I think people need to realize that a wide variety of body shapes and types exist out there. It's frustrating though to see them try to put everyone's dimensions into a box. It doesn't work that way. -
starlightstarbright said on Jul 24, 2006....
I can really relate to this. For the longest time, I was quite heavy, but dropped nearly forty pounds over the past year and a half. I now have washboard abs and weigh in at 106. But I don't have an eating disorder. Everyone around me, my family, my friends, even people who don't really know me, accuse me of having an eating disorder when I'm just thin! I eat donuts and ice cream and never gain an ounce. Does that qualify me as being anorexic? Not by a long shot. I eat all the wrong things, yet I'm still accused of starving myself. I think people have been so socialized by the media to associate thinness with anorexia that they automatically think anyone who is thin is anorexic or bulemic. But you're right. If you don't fit into the mold everyone else thinks you should fit into, you're automatically accused, ridiculed and mocked. We've all heard of employment discrimination against the obese. Isn't this criticism a form of discrimination, too? -
theorista said on Jul 24, 2006....
This is totally a form of discrination. Naturally thin women unite! BTW, I can usually tell if a girl has an eating disorder or not, just because many people have been wrongfully accused of this in the past, including me. look, look...my ads are now targeted at Eating Disorder treatment. how funny. -
ellaywest said on Jul 25, 2006....
Oh, this is my subject by far. I am 5'11.....118 pounds and I have been skinny all of my life. From the time I was 7 or 8, I was called every skinny name under the sun.....then i got to middle school...EVERBODY wcame bouncing into the room in sixth grade and it seemed that I was only getting taller. I didn't get breast until I turned about 15 and they are still a small B. Through high school, I was ripped to shreds.....just getting the skinny jokes and everything else. My self-esteem is still not repaired. I am a tiny thing. I go through it ALL DAY!!!! I am quite confident, not because I'm skinny but because I'm skinny. I know who I am, this is the way God made me. What I don;t appreciate is the fact that women just can't tolerate me when I walk into a room. They look me all the way up and all the way down and they giv eme this unsettling feeling like I shoudl feel bad about myself because I am skinny.....EVERY SINGLE DAY someone comments about my weight. They assume out loud that I am a "0" and I have always been a size 4-6. A lady approached me in the elevator yesterday and said, "You must be a size 0, you are so tiny!" I laughed but I was offended. This is an everyday thing...you couldn't imagine the bullshit I hear....I walked into a clothing store, didn't say anything, just started looking on the racks, clerk walked over and said," Oh we don't have your size! You're a 0 or 2, right." And I was offended.....of course she was on the heavy side making assumptions and minding my business! Every woman at my job is on a diet. While eating my hamburger and french fries, they just look at me like they can't stand it. And I feel terrible because I have 2 children...gained 40 pounds with each pregnancy and lost it all immediately after their births....I am 27....still 118 pounds...still almost six feet and my body is what i is.... maybe I do sashay into a room because I love my skin tone and my shape. I look different but I am a sexy something and I can't feel bad for women that constantly stuff shit in their mouths with no regard for their health. I don't ever think about weight in reference to looks because I am just not that shallow. I think about health. Diabetes, High Blood Pressure, Thigh discomfort, Back problems....ankle problems. And being that I am a young women, I am around other young women in their early twenties that are HUGE....and they complain...around me...joke about my body....make me feel less than pretty because the BIG ASS is all the rage but my body is fit and tight and it's Gods work because I don't work out except in during sex....and I hate to have to tone down my self-esteem for women who obviously don't give a damn about their bodies. FYI: Men are another category, they don't like me any less. My boyfriend was a "big ass" hound...he's been hounding me for 6 years....ain't left yet...so is it really all about weight? I have things on my body that need extra attention too. It's just not weight. And I am a broken up mess on a daily basis because I feel like I get the sharp eyes and whispering for nothing. I don't point out rolls and fat on people. I just never did that. But no matter who I am around....they laugh, make fun of me, make comments like I'm just sooooo skinny....my brother has said hurtful things(because he deals with thicker women that eventually get really big)....so its not just strangers. And I just wish everybody would leave me the fuck alone. If you love your body, take care of it. I'm tall and skinny....have always been and probably always will be. That's it. -
ellaywest said on Jul 25, 2006....
Oh yeah...wanna see what I am talking about www.myspace.com/ellaywestwriting There's a pic....that was when I was 22....I am 27...same thing..... -
anonymous said on Oct 15, 2007....
made fun of all my life, even by men that love me "yet dont know why". --- shallow people. we do not all fit into that box. I am 5'10 120 pounds. I used to be always 100-110 (gained some after having a child). My breast are still AA. I also have broad shoulders which makes this worse, because my frame seems off without breast. Anyhow every new doctor I have ever gone to see has been worried I had a problem, always to find out I do not. People should not make fun of thin people. -
denright said on Nov 28, 2007....
I'm 50 years old and can't believe that I still have to put up with the bullshit jealousy and mean spirited crap from people because I'm naturally thin. I'm 5'10" tall, weigh 130 lbs., eat whatever I want whenever I want. I've been a pasta fiend all of my life, I've given birth to 3 children, my smallest baby was 8 lbs. 4 0z and my biggest was 10 lbs. 2 oz. I weighed 172 lbs. when I gave birth to my 3rd child and you couldn't tell from behind that I was pregnant. I tried like hell to stay at 148 lbs. after the 3rd baby because my husband (ex now) thought I looked so sexy. Well, the weight would NOT stay on. My body wants to stay between 127-130 lbs. and that's just how it is. I've never had to work out, but I've always been active. I still look great in a bikini.
What get's me is how people seem to think it's less hurtful to be rude to a thin person than to a fat one. I've gone on job interviews where I was extremely qualified, only to be GLARED at by the fat woman that had to interview me. Needless to say, based on the up and down look I got from her, I knew I wasn't getting the job. I suppose it's not ironic that other thin women are equally as rude. It seems they feel threatened that I'm going to take their man or something. I worked for a woman that was skinnier than me and because I brought in business that she hadn't been able to touch in 3 years I was accused of sleeping with the men involved. She was so wicked to me that I left without my last paycheck and cried for weeks.
Men are absolute pigs around women with good figures and God help you if you have to work for one. I've been raped on the job and there's only one job I've ever had where I didn't have to put up with sexual advances. Relationships have been challenging because I seem to find men that are also threatened by my figure. If I'm seen talking to another man, I must be contemplating screwing them. My last husband told me not to ever be stupid enough to think that men were being nice or friendly to me for any other reason than to get in my pants.
I have never been conceited nor have I gone around acting like I'm a hottie. But, based on 50 years of bullshit, apparently I am a hottie. I'm just really sad that it's taken me this long to get it. My own daughter, 22 yrs old, chews my ass for not using my body to get any man I want, anything I want. She struggles with her weight and seems to truly believe that all her problems would be solved if she was built like me. My relationship with her is extremely difficult because she really seems to hate me for being naturally thin. She constantly punishes me for it. When I go through a difficult time, which is more often than not, she just says "I don't want to hear it Mom, with your body and looks, you don't know what problems are." She has no idea.
The result of this lifelong abuse from other people has caused me to just keep to myself. I've been told that I seem antisocial. Quite the opposite is true, but I have become substantially more guarded. My best friend of 40 years had a boyfriend that came on to me, nothing new, and when I told her about it after she announced she was marrying this creep, she confronted him. Of course he denied it and spun the story, saying I came on to him. She actually believed him to the point of questioning me. I avoided the bastard like the plague, I wouldn't even look at him, and thank God she finally noticed every time he saw me, he stared profusely with slobber running down his chin. She apologized, but the friendship has forever changed. She married him, so I keep my distance.
Now comes the proof that all this has made me a crazy woman. Last April I married a man that is 6' 9" tall and weighs 420 lbs. Part of me knew that I was doing it to feel safe, but this is absolutely over the edge! What the hell have I done??? This is so sick! I've learned, the hard way, that obesity is really unappealing to me, especially naked. He loves me to pieces and thinks I'm the most beautiful woman he's ever known but knows I'm extremely unhappy. He begs me not to leave him, will do whatever it takes to keep me, even if it means letting another man into the bed with us. OH MY GOD!!!!! All this thinness and beauty seems to be really toxic. I haven't even showered yet today because I don't want him to tell me how pretty I am. All this insanity because I can't apologize enough for being naturally thin and attractive. I never wanted to hurt anyone else.
I want to run away but no matter where I go, there I will still be. I better have a cocktail. Somebody, please talk to me.
Crazy in Arizona
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ReneeChica said on Feb 22, 2008....
Quite honestly i hate the fact that people call me skinny all the time. I mean from looking at me you can just tell that I'm skinny...has it occurred to you maybe that i could be the least offended when called so or even called anorexic? I mean do you think that it is fair to call a skinny girl anorexic when you see her but not a fat person obese? From the time i was born up to my late teens now i have always been skinny. I almost died when I was a baby because i became really sick and lost alot of weight and ever since i have been skinny. I am 5 "7" and only weigh 103. Quite frankly I have 10 people in my family and i eat the most out of everyone. So I am not anorexic...I'm just one of those people that eat alot and dont gain a pound.