• itisourstory said on Jul 23, 2006....

  I've heard it can be really difficult. But I think it depends on who you're with and how experienced they are, and if they really care about the woman having an orgasm at all. I have trouble with it sometimes (usually when my mind is on something else), but most of the time it isn't that hard to get there. But then again, I've got a guy who's hell bent on making sure I enjoy myself (and that always helps :p).

• silverwhisper said on Jul 23, 2006....

  yes, it is difficult b/c most people think that women can achieve orgasm through intercourse. this is, of course, untrue: i've heard the figure of 80% of women being unable to achieve orgasm through intercourse. ed

• theorista said on Jul 23, 2006....

  I guess I am in the minority. If I orgasm, it is through intercourse. It's really hard for me though, because I feel like many guys like to get women to orgasm as an egotrip for them, and a task, rather than an act of love. Sounds like you are one of the luckier ones! =P

• ALIENated said on Jul 24, 2006....

  Is it hot in here or is it just me?

• silverwhisper said on Jul 24, 2006....

  theorista: it's true. a lot of men will tell you that they count the number of orgasms that they give women and that's precisely it: it's a way of keeping score and satisfies the ego. by the same token, a lot of guys confuse the respective values of quality vs. quantity. :> you know, you're only the second women i know who most commonly experiences orgasm through vaginal rather than clitoral stimulation. ed

• Zayda said on Jul 24, 2006....

  For me, orgasms during intercourse aren't as common as they are from clitoral stimulation, but they do occur. But they are different. I'm not quiet sure how to explain it.

• cfamommy said on Jul 24, 2006....

  Um... am I the only gal out there who [i]hasn't[/i] had one? Ever? My husband is attractive, attentive, responsive, etc... I just don't seem to feel enough. Does that make sense? Maybe my Orgazmatron is broken...

• silverwhisper said on Jul 24, 2006....

  no, you aren't, and please note that there are legitimate reasons why some women haven't, even w/ wonderful, attentive and responsive lovers. IMX, most women are most effectively stimulated clitorally, then vaginally. but the ace trump card of all stimulation is the g spot. most men's penises are approximately the right size to hit it during missionary but if that just isn't working for you, they do make g-spot stimulators. ed

• starlightstarbright said on Jul 24, 2006....

  I'll be perfectly honest. I am one of the rare women who can only experience orgasm through intercourse. Oral stimulation never really did it for me. Then again, I have a very loving partner who cares about my pleasure and takes it upon himself to make sure I feel good. I feel very lucky to have found him. He is truly one of a kind. Kudos to eharmony.com!

• theorista said on Jul 24, 2006....

  silverwhisper: screw men and their egos. oh wait...that's what we're literally doing. I think my clitoris is broken maybe. =P

• theorista said on Jul 24, 2006....

  starlight: yeah, oral doesn't do it for me either.

• silverwhisper said on Jul 24, 2006....

  theorista: i dig on self-referential smart alec comments. :> ed

• rantax said on Jul 25, 2006....

  Grreat when I think of making my wife reach there the ORGASM, it sounds orgasmizing to me I alwayz end up thinking what actually do they feel coz @ time she reaches there cries like her cat is dead. Tell me out there how does it actually feel my wife can't tell me she alwayz replies with a smile which makes me want her even more

• starlightstarbright said on Jul 25, 2006....

  The female orgasm is kind of complicated to describe, but I will do my best. At the peak of female orgasm, all muscles in a woman's body contract, including her vaginal muscles, which result in very pleasurable sensations. For me, I can feel pleasure inside of me, and this pleasure spreads itself throughout the entire body. Hope this helps.

• CreativeWoman said on Jul 25, 2006....

  I must be lucky. I can have orgasms both by intercourse and clitoral stimulation. I am very orgasmic. If I have more than one, the successive ones get stronger. The only problem is that my husband does not share my zest for sex. There is always a down side. sigh....

• starlightstarbright said on Jul 25, 2006....

  I hear ya, creative. My ex-husband did not share my enthusiasm for sex, either, but my current boyfriend matches me completely.

• CreativeWoman said on Jul 25, 2006....

  Starlight, You are a blessed woman.

• silverwhisper said on Jul 26, 2006....

  creative: you're rather unusual in that respect. ed

• CreativeWoman said on Jul 26, 2006....

  Silver, I'm always the odd one out. :-) It's too bad my husband doesn't take advantage of the situation. He once called me a nympho and didn't mean it as a compliment.

• silverwhisper said on Jul 26, 2006....

  hey, more orgasms = more happiness, i figure. :> i will never understand why some people are threatened by women's sexuality. ed

• yoho said on Jul 26, 2006....

  I guess I should consider myself extremely lucky, my wife is as multi-orgasmic as they come (no pun intended). Does my ego good to know I have her figured out and how to trip her trigger. Even so I still work hard at it, we have been married 19 years this month.... Holy shit just realized our anniversary is in two days! I better go spend some money if I want to get laid... LOL. But anyway our sex life just keeps getting better. Well maybe not quite as often as I would like but not sure I could ever get enough. She gets as much as she wants whenever she wants so at least one of us is happy... Ok I'm not saying I'm not happy, trying to be funny.... bet she wouldn't see the humor in that. Wish I had some great advice or pearls of wisdom but still felt compelled to comment. If all else fails try a ||{1}|| they seem to do the trick for g-spot stimulation.

• anonymous said on Jul 27, 2006....

  I have never had an orgasm so I guess I am one of the unlucky ones.

• silverwhisper said on Jul 27, 2006....

  that's really, really unfortunate. have you mentioned this to your OB-GYN? ed

• starlightstarbright said on Jul 28, 2006....

  anonymous, please do not leave spam postings on my threads. Thank you.

• silverwhisper said on Jul 28, 2006....

  starlight: nuke his comments. it's just marine/brave. ed

• starlightstarbright said on Jul 28, 2006....

  I nuked his comments. Thanks so much, silver.

• zambian said on Jul 29, 2006....

  As a matter of fact "Female Orgasam is tough" is a mith. Girls in societies are expected to supress sex for avoiding to be be loose character. As a consequence they have a guilty conscience during sex, this blocked mind set prevents them from orgasm. Above all women need to be felt loved befor they have sex. And if they are made to feel special and if touched at the right spots she will yield for orgasm(s). It is all in the hands of man handling her. Guitar should be stringed properly before you can play tunes on it.

• livinglife said on Aug 14, 2006....

  Man!!! What a topic! It's extremely hard for me to have an orgasm. I mean I LOVE sex, and I love my partner but I can probably count how many times I've achieved one with him... And if I think even harder I could probably give a great "estimate" on how many times in my life that I'v actually had one. I think for me I just purely enjoy the act of sex... the orgasm is nice but I don't have one every single time. I have complained in the past but I've come to realize it's not going to happen for me all the time.

• silverwhisper said on Aug 15, 2006....

  zambian: that's just plain ignorant. i know people whose difficulty in achieving orgasm is in fact physiological in nature. livinglife: is it possible you require a different kind of stimulation than you've had to date? ed

• HeathernPat said on Mar 15, 2008....

  Is it normal to feel like you have to pee when you are having an orgasm.... me and my fiance are have the hardest time to make me have an orgasm. He is getting frustrated as well as I am...... I am 22 years old and have not been able to have an orgasm.... PLEASE help any suggestions will do .....

• silverwhisper said on Mar 16, 2008....

  if you've never had one before, the sensations can be quite similar. do you have trouble reaching orgasm when you're "flying solo"?
  
  ed

• anonymous said on Nov 09, 2009....

  I have been dating my guy for just a little over a month... I don't get to see him very often, but in the last three weeks we have been together SEVERAL times... usually two or three times every time I see him. Now Im not the type to post my own personal experiences, but I will let you know, I orgasmed the first time we were together... I don't know, maybe Im just one of the lucky ones, but for us, it wasn't hard. Not only that, but it was the first time that either of us had ever had sex. We are in a steady relationship, and I love him. Even plan to marry him some day. I know to some of you, that doesn't mean much. But Im the kind of person who commits. Im not the kind of person that would be comfortable with fucking a lot of different guys... If I love this guy enough to sleep with him, then I love him enough to spend the rest of my life with him. That's what we plan on doing too... spending the rest of our lives together... In fact, if it weren't for having to finish college, we would already be married... but then, if it weren't for college, we never would have met.. :)

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