• evil_twin said on Jul 14, 2007....

  Well, having just gone through this myself, I completely understand what you're talking about. Sometimes jokes can be misinterpreted. Or even innocent comments. Every once in awhile, I get the feeling that certain people are upset with me here, just by the 'tone' of their comment. And yet, you really can't tell what the tone is in a comment.
  
  But sometimes I just get vibes from reading something. I have no idea if they're correct or not though. In the cases where I've felt this, it always seems to turn out to be nothing. Usually I don't say anything about it though, and I just wait until the next time I 'see' them and judge how they react to me.
  
  I'm sorry that someone is shutting you out. Did you try asking them if you offended them in some way? Are they not answering you back?
  
  -evil_twin LA
  

• minniemouse said on Jul 14, 2007....

  Nothing to do on a Saturday afternoon either, huh e_t?  lol.....

  I did try asking....through E-mail and IM, but I have gotten no response. 

  You can only do so much!!  :-)  MM

• evil_twin said on Jul 14, 2007....

  Yeah, Natalie is at work....I did the dishes and cleaned the bathroom up. I still have to vaccum cat hair off the couch, but I've got another two and half hours to accomplish that! But we're going out tonight for my mom's birthday. It was actually on Thursday, but we're having dinner tonight.
  
  Anyway, you're right. You can only do so much. Is it possible that maybe this person is just out of touch? Maybe they haven't been around their computer lately? Or do you know for a fact that something you said bothered them, and they're ignoring you? I just wasn't sure if you knew what you said, or if you were confused about what might have been taken the wrong way.
  
  -evil_twin LA
  

• beyondtheveil said on Jul 14, 2007....

  minnie- You're right. Facial expressions and intonation are a large part of communication. There have been many times I've wanted to say something in a certain way but didn't because it was written words. And other times they have been misinterpreted or misunderstood.
  
  I just hope they will allow you to explain. Also, it may have been something that had nothing to do with those written words- who knows?
  

• Me-Myself&I said on Jul 14, 2007....

  beyond...i agree...well said

  i do worry myself if i say things wrong...

  Good evening MM...nice post! take care...

• kingcobra said on Jul 14, 2007....

  Hi minniemouse, long time no talk......As you noticed I don't comment on SC anymore for personal and other reasons, but I do follow yours and some of the other special friends I made on SC.

  This is an exception.

  Mousy, this is a special comment as this post really got my attention. Your sadness reflects in your writing. I assume that the person "shutting you out" can only be a man. Only a man can be so insensitive as to hurt you so much. I know he will come back to you. Maybe he is confused about your feelings for him.

  Does he truly know your feelings for him? Maybe there was miscommunication? Are you scared of something? Does he express his feelings for you? Do you appreciate it?....and many more questions can be asked........

  You know what little mouse.....keep that door open.....if he cares for you as much  as you obviously care for him, you will be telling us soon that he came back to you and folded you in his arms...................

  Hang in there baby!!!

  Very good post by the way....................

  Bye guys!!! Might be back in a couple of weeks again!!!  

   

    

• minniemouse said on Jul 14, 2007....

  Beyond…..thanks for commenting :-)  there is so much more to communication than words.  Although I am always amazed at those truly great writers who can convey such emotion with their words.  Doesn’t work so well for normal, ordinary conversations, huh?

   

  Me-Myself&I….hi!  Thanks for commenting!  I think we all worry if something we say or do or write is misunderstood.  I think the problem lies in if we worry to much about it.  Good to see you! 

  :-)  MM

• minniemouse said on Jul 14, 2007....

  Hi KC!  I’ve missed you!  I think you have been hibernating too much, but as usual, you always know what is going on!  Thank you for commenting!

   

  There was a lot of sadness in my post.  I was sad that I might have hurt a person very dear to me, and I didn’t know how or why.  I got a message from this person that I didn’t understand, and I think I might have taken the message in a way this person didn’t intend. 

   

  I am definitely keeping the door open, hoping this person will walk back through and we can talk and figure out how our signals got crossed.  Like I said, this person is very special to me and the last thing I would want to do is hurt this special friend.  I just hope this person is as understanding as I think they are, and will talk to me soon. 

   

  Thanks for stopping in Cobra man……I’ve missed you…..don’t stay away too long.  MM

• Eilan said on Jul 14, 2007....

  You're absolutely right about this, minniemouse. 
  
  It's very difficult sometimes when we don't have the benefit of facial expressions and body language to help us get our point across.  Emoticons can help, but it's not quite the same thing.
  
  I have a dry sense of humor and sometimes it doesn't translate well in writing, though people who know me fairly well "get" it.
  
  I hope you can get things worked out with your friend.
  

• GrapeKoolaid said on Jul 14, 2007....

  Anyone who gets worked up over written word, so much to the point where he/she will break off all contact with you, is in my opinion, not worth his/her salt.  I wouldn't lose too much sleep over it, MM.  It's not your fault the other person's small and petty.  

• sweet_cookie01 said on Jul 14, 2007....

  i understand exactly how you feel... sometimes we cant tell if the person is being sarcastic or not... it is really frustrating... sadly explaining our side to make things clear is one of the best we can do... i am sorry your friend didnt take time to listen to your explanation... maybe in time that person will... well hopefully....
   
  whats important is you tried and did your best to clear things up...

• minniemouse said on Jul 14, 2007....

  Eilan....I have a dry sense of humor as well....I can be kind of a "smart ass" I have toned it down some since my "younger years" because I started to be quite cold...not funny anymore.  I don't think this is the case here though....we shall see....  :-)  MM

• minniemouse said on Jul 14, 2007....

  Grape....thanks for your support...but I think this is just going to turn out to be a mis understanding.  I just think our signals got crossed.  It does seem kind of silly just to break off contact someone because something we wrote upset them.  But it still hurts just the same.  MM

• minniemouse said on Jul 14, 2007....

  Sweet_Cookie!!!!!  How are you?  Thanks for commenting sweetie!!!  I have put the olive branches out there to my friend and it seems to be working so far....It is late here, so I'm going to sleep....think and dream positve and hopefully in the morning things will be back to normal!!  :-)  MM 

• the_infernal_optimist said on Jul 15, 2007....

  I hope things improve with your friend, MM!
  
  Written communication can be tough for the reasons stated in several comments above. I am almost painfully aware of this when I write, and you'll notice that I tend to rely heavily on parenthetical statements and emoticons to tone down/further explain what I mean much of the time. There are still misunderstandings, even with careful wording and my attempts to "speak" very clearly online, but they blow over more often than not, without any lasting harm.
  
  Sweet dreams! :)
  
  ~Infernal
  

• rupert7 said on Jul 15, 2007....

  Hi MM,  same has happened to me. Someone misunderstands you,  freaks out like a true blue paranoid and shuts you down!!  Gotta ask yerself  have I had a lucky escape here? dust off an move on!!

• minniemouse said on Jul 15, 2007....

  infernal....yes, I have been trying to use {{emotions}} more in my posts.  strange thing to get used to isn't it?  It does seem to work....its almost like an extra explanation to your comments....if that makes any sense at all!!  LOL  :-)  MM

• minniemouse said on Jul 15, 2007....

  Hey rupert!  Yeah, its easy to be paranoid here.  you can get caught up in this "world" very easily if you aren't careful, don't you think?  :-)  MM

• rupert7 said on Jul 15, 2007....

  MM , caught up all too easily and all of a sudden there is a major drama over nothing!!

• husbandhater said on Jul 15, 2007....

  Hi Minnie it seems like you need a hug((((((MINNIE MOUSE))))))))). So heres my biggest hug. You are a great friend to leave the door open. Let that person know the door is always open and maybe they will find their way back through it.

• CreativeWoman said on Jul 15, 2007....

  I agree that it is hard to say and in turn really understand what is meant in online conversations sometimes.  It's easy to get hurt feelings or vice versa.  I hope it all works out well for you.
  
  CW
  

• minniemouse said on Jul 15, 2007....

  Thanks everyone who has commented.....I appreciate all the advice and support....

  I do have an update.  I was finally able to talk to my friend and we have worked things out.  Just as I thought, it was both of us mis reading things and getting hurt feelings over what we each thought the other meant.  Also, my friend was not ignoring me, he didn't get my texts so that is why he didn't answer.  My E-mail that finally got through is the one that he answered.  We have talked and we are good. 

  Still leave the problem of misunderstanding people through written communication.  Very, very hard.....

  minnie

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