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Nature has its own way of reminding us that change is inevitable, and each day, we age.

Ah, age. No, it's not my birthday. I wonder how many of you Soulcasters have it, but I am referring to gray hair. Yes folks, those seemingly white streaks of hair that suddenly crops up out of nowhere. And as you stare in your image in the mirror, you wonder how and why it grew without you noticing it, and it seems to multiply each day.

Back then, gray hairs had been associated with: maturity and wisdom. There's even a local love song about sticking with each other even until their hair turns white. Romantic, isn't it? But hey, nowadays, even young people have gray hairs!

My sister had gray hair when she was in high school. I started having it only about 4 years ago. I am in my early 30s, and at the peak of my career, where I have to deal with people everytime, having grays is surely a no, no.. At least not this time. Being Asian, my hair's natural color is jet-black. Imagine it mixed with white strands, just like black pepper and salt. No, I don't have anything against people with gray hair, but personally, it does have an impact on my self-esteem, I even look and feel older. Or is it just me?

But just like time, the graying of hair cannot be stopped. Everytime I go to the salon to have my hair trimmed, the hairdresser would usually notice the grays. So on top of the haircut, I resort to having my hair dyed or permanently colored so as to conceal it.. Does this solve the problem? It does, albeit temporarily. One of my friends says she weeds it out.. If I did that, geez, I would lose about a thousand strands! Poor scalp!

Any similar experiences? Do you have anything to contribute to solve this problem? Suggestions are welcome.


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  • secretlife said on Jul 02, 2007....
    i started to turn gray right after the birth of my oldest.  i'd just turned 30.
    now?  forget it.  i just color it every 6 weeks.
     
  • TinSoldier said on Jul 02, 2007....
    Unfortunately I think that it's one of those double standard things.

    My hair used to be very blond, then it darkened to brownish, and now it is shot through with gray. I have a small gray patch on my beard as well.

    I have no intention of changing it, in fact I would prefer it turn completely instead of remaining mixed.
  • mirrorimage said on Jul 02, 2007....
    I just started noticing my gray hair within the last year and I'm in my late 20's... my hair is blonde so it isn't that noticeable but I found highlighting my hair works well to mask it....some of the blonde highlights are very very blonde making it almost impossible to see the gray. I know that doesn't help you but that's the only thing I know to do with them! I think having very blonde highlights with your hair color would cause more stares than a little gray...:)
  • silverwhisper said on Jul 02, 2007....
    so far, none over here.

    [knocks on wood]

    ed
  • yani said on Jul 02, 2007....
    hellow :)
     
    i do not have any, yet. thank goodness :)
     
    just dropping by to say hi Lioness sis muahhhhhhhh!
  • gentlepie said on Jul 02, 2007....

    i have one... or two..

    not so much as to terribly concern me now.

    and yep, i still do think its a sign of wisdom, those streaks.

    ask me again when i have a handful of em already hehehe, i might change my thoughts..

    i'll answer how to treat em [coloring or

     

     

  • botoni said on Jul 02, 2007....
    There was a time when I began to grey that I colored it. I even colored my moustache and goatee for a few years. Now I like the grey (almost white) and it makes me feel distinguished.
  • Lioness said on Jul 02, 2007....
    hello secret, they say that too much coloring damages the hairstrands. Do you lavish it with conditioner?? There are shampoos that "complement" colored hair, I wonder if it works.

    Hi TinSoldier and welcome! Going the natural way. Having grays look good on some people.. I bet it looks good on you. =)

    Thanks for dropping in mirrorimage (reflection?) . At least you don't have to exert much effort concealing it. You bet it would cause more stares... But having blonde hair seems to be the in thing at the moment.. What's complementary with dyeing the hair blonde is you actually look fairer. I was  pondering about highlighting my hair, but I was shocked to know it costs more than having all of it colored. Geez.

    hi ed, I don't believe you. lol  Good for you.. Some people reach their 50s and don't have any traces. Amazing. They say the genes has it.

    hello yani, where have you been?? Glad to see you back! Oh, lucky you! Would you believe I go to the salon every 2 months!

    gentlepie: just pray you won't have handfuls so soon! lol I tell you, it's not a laughing matter. And some of your comments had disappeared!!!

    hi botoni, I've seen your photo, you are looking good!! Somehow, grays give out the impression of "authority". =)


  • gentlepie said on Jul 02, 2007....

    ...weeding out] when i get there hehehehe.

    there. thats the whole of it ate leona!

  • JadeLondon said on Jul 03, 2007....
    No gray yet. I'm always looking, though. It reminds me of the double-standard--how men are considered 'distingished', whereas women are merely 'old'. It's not fair, I say!
  • Lioness said on Jul 03, 2007....
    gentle: finally, it is completed! thanks!

    I agree Jade! Now I know why hair colors are a flop in men, and have you noticed that most of the product  models for haircolors are women? LOL Just to let you know that my friend thought it was purely vanity why I color my hair, she was surprised to know I was hiding something beneath. ='/
  • quietone said on Jul 03, 2007....
    oh, I would hate to see how much gray I would have if I did not color it for a year...I would probably more than likely be full head gray and white.  so much for growing older gracefully? no, I really don't care much, looks fine on anyone else!
  • beyondtheveil said on Jul 03, 2007....
    lioness- My hair was jet black like yours at one time. Then came salt & pepper, and now I'm running out of pepper. I usually tell people I add a little gray now and then to make me look sophisticated. 
  • polarheart said on Jul 03, 2007....
    I think men get away with grey hairs much better than women.  However, i have seen some cool mommas with cute bodies and funky hairstyles who are completely grey and yet look really nice.  I think it looks better if its all grey/white compared to mixed (I'm talking women now).  I colour my hair a reddish brown and my natural colour is dark brown.  I feel the colour adds tone to my face, otherwise I look a bit washed out.
  • hotaka said on Jul 03, 2007....
    As I guy, I keep reminding myself that having grey hair might seem mature and cool and it's better than losing hair. I would rather have greys than skin showing but truth is my hairline in from has receeded and thinned. I would rather think that my forehead has just grown with age. I tried to pluck my grey hairs befoe but now there are so many that I just leave them. The problem is that I still have a very boyish way about me and people are often surprised to know my true age is a few years older than what they thought. Or at least so it was before. Now I think the grey makes it obvious. Now the children always refer to me with the word for uncle or middle-aged man instead of the word for older brother.
  • Lioness said on Jul 03, 2007....
    Hello quietone, in time I would have to adapt that perspective of yours... It's better to accept it because it is something that is likely to happen. =)

    Hi there beyond! I cracked up when you said "running out of pepper"... So far, I have more pepper than salt yet.. But it worries me. I wonder when gray hair would be the "in" thing?

    Hola polar,  I agree, hair colors have significant effect in our skin tone. I think brown or reddish brown hair is cool. When all of it turns gray, with no other color, then I might leave it as is too.

    Good morning hotaka, I would also prefer having grays than receding hairline or have thinning hair. This is more acceptable for men, but for girls, oh geez, I  might be using wigs. lol Although there are already some breakthroughs on thinning hair, there seems to be no other remedy on graying hair. I can imagine you have a baby face. It's always a compliment to be told that. =)


    Thanks guys, for taking time and for your contributions... I would be off starting tomorrow because I have some out of town work to do.. See ya next week! =)
  • anonymous said on Jul 10, 2008....
    Check out http://www.folica.com/MiN_New_York__M_r3204_1.html . This product is versatile and fantastic for gray coverage. Just brush on. You get 100% gray coverage at home and it lasts 4-6 weeks.

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