• nospace said on Jul 20, 2006....

  I am pretty sure you can't lump all men in the same catagory... I think traditionally men looked for vulnerable women to take care of, because that is how things were. I grew up in a house with 2 strong female personalities (mother and sister), so I have always admired strong-willed women. Some people like to be taken care of some like to do the caring. Some people are more dominant, others more submissive. I am a fan of equality. Both having stong, independant wills, but also able to expose their vulnerability.

• nospace said on Jul 20, 2006....

  Sorry, avoided the question at the beginning, "why are men so attracted to self sufficient, independent women?" One reason could be the challenge. If I am not with someone who challenges me mentally, its going to be a short relationship.

• favored said on Jul 20, 2006....

  Thanks for the feedback. I am in no position to consult anyone on men topics. What I can be is a friend. Now that you write this, I can clearly see how this applies to her marriage, knowing the two of them. He recently discovered his passion of a lifetime in his work. And I have to agree with him. It isnt anything most people find in life. For her however, a different perspective. Being a mother of two, employee, housekeeper and bookeeper of the house. I like your answer. Peace

• hunter_boyce_chandler said on Jul 20, 2006....

  I can only speak for myself. My wife is a very strong and independent woman and I love her for it. She is NEVER boring. I can always count on her to tell me when I'm being an ass (because I really have no idea). She controls my sonic traffic outbursts and probably has saved me from many a thrashing over the years. I never take her for granted, because I am convinced that I could be replaced in a matter of seconds. To say I'm whipped, you have no idea..... She maintains my self respect by allowing me to pretend I'm in charge in public places.

• favored said on Jul 20, 2006....

  The topic did come up in our discussion- codependant. If one controls the actions and reactions of the other, how is that independent? I see that as controlling. Shouldn't each control thier own actions?

• hunter_boyce_chandler said on Jul 20, 2006....

  favored, not on this planet... My personality type will only be attracted to the type of woman I need. I do not get my self esteem by treating my life partner like she was a second class citizen. There are some out there who need to debase and degrade women in order to maintain their self image. I think they should be shot. Your whole statement [i]I see that as controlling. Shouldn't each control thier own actions?[/i] is ludicrus and displays a total lack of undertanding of the term partner. When both people depend on each other you have a team. When neither party is dependent on the other you have a part time relationship that neither party will value or maintain. Are you even married?? Why would anyone ask your opinion on this topic when you have no idea what you are talking about? No sense of humor either!

• favored said on Jul 20, 2006....

  Forgive me and this is not an insult, however.... do you see any contradiction to your statements? "She controls my sonic traffic outbursts and probably has saved me from many a thrashing over the years. I never take her for granted"

• hunter_boyce_chandler said on Jul 21, 2006....

  You honestly have no sense of humor do you. Let me explain it to you in the Big Crayon Version.... The statement ""She controls my sonic traffic outbursts and probably has saved me from many a thrashing over the years." is a joke meant to make you smile. In my many other blogs I have described the wonderful interaction I have with my wife, my tendency to fly off the handle and verbally "beat the shit" out of people and her amazing ability to help me refocus on the right thing to do. Anyone who has experienced a meaningful relationship with a partner spouse would recognize this and experience a moment of smiling.... The fact that I never take her for granted is a "Good thing". I can only assume by your lack of understanding that your experience has been with the Neanderthal breed of mankind that only beats women in the spirit of true love. I see quite a bit in your complete lack of understanding. You are suspiciously sounding more like a 56 year old transvestite male with a foot fetish than an actual woman who has experienced a relationship with another sentient being.

• silverwhisper said on Jul 21, 2006....

  i agree that not all men are attracted to independent women. but i am. and in answer to the question, it's because i'm attracted to women that view themselves as my equal. ed

• JadeLondon said on Jul 21, 2006....

  I think men are attracted to an independent woman, until she tries to do something independent of them. I think some guys see independent women as a threat to their masculinity.

• favored said on Jul 21, 2006....

  Being that my co-worker asked "why do you think men don't like it when women are vulnerable?" She admitted later she feels inferior and despises the fact that he loves his new job and his time away from her is not what she wants it to be. She mentioned that she cried all week. Im certain shes the one feeling vulnerable today.

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