Have you beaten a bad habit? How did you do it?
It can be silly or serious. Let's talk. :-)
CW
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CreativeWoman posted on Jun 09, 2007
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We all have them. What's yours?
Have you beaten a bad habit? How did you do it?
It can be silly or serious. Let's talk. :-)
CW
Have you beaten a bad habit? How did you do it?
It can be silly or serious. Let's talk. :-)
CW
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sweet_cookie01 said on Jun 09, 2007....
i am guilty of lip and nail biting.... but i have gotten over with the nail biting i still have to get over with my lip biting... usually it happens when i am in deep thinking or excited and anxious.... sometimes even when i am nervous. -
CreativeWoman said on Jun 09, 2007....
sweet cookie,
I have never bitten my nails or lips. I have known lots of nail biters though. Do your lips get sore?
CW
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D6fer said on Jun 09, 2007....
doe's being on soulcast too much count? ;p -
MoonMommy said on Jun 09, 2007....
I am addicted to the internet.....I used to bite my nails - that took a LONG time to stop. -
sweet_cookie01 said on Jun 09, 2007....
sometimes when i am too tense it bleeds... semi hubby always reprimands me... i always have a chap stick for my lips to keep them soft so it will be hard for me to bite...
but you know when you are thinking about lot of stuffs or when you are very anxious or nervous i forget not to bite...
i got over biting my nails when i got separated with my ex hubby!
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NotSoSinglechick25 said on Jun 09, 2007....
Oh boy. Ummm I've been a nail biter since I was 4 or 5 and have quit several times. Stress brings it back tho. Last time I quit was 3 years ago with a random nail being lost here and there lol. After so many years of biting my nails back so they are extremely thin, hard to grow, and easy to break. How I quit. I really didn't want to do it anymore - felt it was a weakness - and I stopped. It was hard but I just made myself not bite. Also, I'm an emotional eater, which I had stopped for several years and recently fell back into the habit - also due mainly to stress. Still working on quitting that again. Those are my two bad habits. -
evil_twin said on Jun 09, 2007....
Um, let's see...my worst habit is stressing out needlessly over stupid stuff. I'm a worrier. And sometimes I worry so much about nothing that I get physically sick. My stomach starts hurting. It's kind of ridiculous. Especially when I know what I'm worrying about is not a big deal, and yet, I can't get my mind to shut off.
-evil_twin LA
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polarheart said on Jun 09, 2007....
Once upon a time I had the bad habit of wearing "masks", I would always look confident and happy to others even if I was breaking inside. Until I could not keep on faking and my anger and resentment grew. . .against no one thing or person in particular, but it felt like I was going to explode. I eventual had to let go of trying to be perfect in every respect and that was one of my biggest break-throughs in my life. The other bad habit I wish I could change is my my procrasternation of thing I need to do around the house. . .currently it seems like a mountain to me! -
MissMimi said on Jun 09, 2007....
I'm a big procrastinator, and a big worrier. To the point where it "paralyzes" me.My eating habits are terrible. I don't eat breakfast. Many days, I don't even eat at all until late afternoon. I'm fairly knowledgeable about what constitutes a good diet, but I don't follow it. I'm also an emotional eater. Any bad emotions are soothed with food. Very bad habit. -
CreativeWoman said on Jun 09, 2007....
D6,
I'm laughing with you. I'm here a lot too. :-)
CW
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CreativeWoman said on Jun 09, 2007....
Moon,
I seem to spend more time here on the internet than anywhere else. What kinds of things do you do on the internet?
I think biting nails is pretty common. Good luck with it.
CW
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CreativeWoman said on Jun 09, 2007....
sweet cookie,
I understand. Nervous habits are really hard to break. I wish you the best of luck with it.
CW
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D6fer said on Jun 09, 2007....
I actually do bite my nails alot too....more as a primative grooming habit though....doesn't bother me a bit.....Im a guy...so I really don't care what my nails look like anyway. -
CreativeWoman said on Jun 09, 2007....
NotSoSingleChick,
Congratulations on stopping the nail biting! I know that must have been hard.
I completely understand about the emotional eating. That is something I work really hard on too. I just don't bring certain foods into the house that I don't trust myself to stay out of when I'm feeling hurt or lonely. If I have to go get them, I'm less likely to do that. Have you tried anything like that?
I also find that coming here to SC and writing helps me as well.
CW
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CreativeWoman said on Jun 09, 2007....
evil twin,
Worrying is toward the top of my list of bad habits too. Sometimes I'll get a tummy ache, but usually it's a headache. I am getting better about not worrying so much as I'm becoming more confident about myself though. :-)
Have you found now that you are in love, that you worry less?
CW
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evil_twin said on Jun 09, 2007....
In some ways, yes. I do worry less about certain things. Like dying alone or being a perpetual bachelor for the rest of my life. But now, I have other worries like, "will this last? what if I screw it up?" People always tell me to chill out and just let life unfold, but it's easier said than done. I KNOW my worrying is stupid, but I can't seem to stop it. It's frustrating! But I don't usually share these thoughts with people. I keep them inside. Which is why I get a stomachache probably.
-evil_twin LA
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CreativeWoman said on Jun 09, 2007....
Polar,
I'm so proud of you for making such a breakthrough!
Some of my lady writer friends in an online group I belong to talk about being overwhelmed with household chores. (I get that way sometimes too.) They highly recommend FlyLady.com.
I live in a very small place. Clutter is hard to keep under control for me. I never give up though.
CW
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CreativeWoman said on Jun 09, 2007....
Mimi,
Procrastination can be a biggie for me too if I let it. I'm better if I have someone encouraging me. For a long time I didn't have that. Now I do. It makes a huge difference for me.
I haven't been bringing my comfort foods into the house. I don't trust myself. I've been trying really hard to get myself "hooked" on exercise instead. It's a hard, hard thing to overcome.
Admitting we do it is the first step to changing it. Don't you think?
CW
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CreativeWoman said on Jun 09, 2007....
D6,
Does it make your fingertips sore to do that though? You need some nail clippers, my dear. We ladies notice those things. :-D
CW
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CreativeWoman said on Jun 09, 2007....
evil twin,
I completely understand. Blogging about my worries has really helped me. You might try that if you feel you want to expose your emotions that way. It has helped me work through a lot of the negativity I have felt toward myself. I'm still a work in progress. :-)
You will be amazed at the people here who will support you and give insights you would never have thought of on your own.
We who read your blog already know that Natalie is a lucky lady. :-)
CW
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D6fer said on Jun 09, 2007....
not usually.....i'm not chewin my finger tips off or anything! lol....besides....I'm married....shes stuck with me! ;p -
evil_twin said on Jun 09, 2007....
That was actually why I came here in the first place. I felt like I needed to spill my guts to someone, but I didn't really want to let my friends and family know what was on my mind. I'm the type of person who works really hard to appear happy at all times. I have a good sense of humor and people in my life sort of expect me to always be funny or have a joke at the ready. But the truth is, sometimes I just don't feel like it. If I'm bummed out, it's really hard to make jokes and pretend I'm cool. But I never want people to think of me as a miserable, neurotic freak, so that's why I keep it bottled up. But being here really has helped me. I can honestly say I've gotten some good advice and a lot of things I never would have come up with on my own.
-evil_twin LA
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kingcobra said on Jun 09, 2007....
I am making my list still!!! -
CreativeWoman said on Jun 09, 2007....
D6,
Sounds like you have it under control then. :-)
CW
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CreativeWoman said on Jun 09, 2007....
evil twin,
I'm glad you found Soul Cast then. I am a lot like you in the regard that I tend to bottle things up in real life. This is a great outlet for me. It sounds like it is for you too. I hope you continue to keep writing just as you do. I enjoy the honesty in your posts.
CW
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CreativeWoman said on Jun 09, 2007....
KC,
One of my bad habits is tormenting cobras that dodge the question. :-D
CW
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kingcobra said on Jun 09, 2007....
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genalonewolf said on Jun 09, 2007....
I guess my one and only bad habit is smoking, but everything this else is perfect about me!! I know that was egotistical, sorry! lol -
CreativeWoman said on Jun 09, 2007....
KC...You know I love a challenge. :-D
CW
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CreativeWoman said on Jun 09, 2007....
gena,
I never have smoked. Have you ever tried to quit?
You remind of a line from a Mac Davis song...
Oh Lord, it's hard to be humble when you're perfect in every way...
:-D
CW
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genalonewolf said on Jun 09, 2007....
I have tried to quit many times and never had any success. I am a much better person when I smoke, then not. Some are that way in the changing department when they drink, my affliction is smoking or trying to quit. I get mean and nasty and have tried not to be but I just can't seem to get over it!. I'm weak! -
CreativeWoman said on Jun 09, 2007....
gena,
Have you ever tried getting hypnotized? I know someone it worked for.
CW
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Alyss said on Jun 09, 2007....
I am a chronic nail biter. I have done so since I was three years old and no amounts of bribes, anti-nailing biting gloop or other incentives has ever managed to break me of the habit. I even tried having fake nails glued over them and all I did was gnaw those until I could get at the actual nail.
These days I manage just about to not bite them (much) provided they are kept very short so no long glamourous nails for me.
Yes, I know, it really yeucky habit but on the bright side I no longer bite my toe nails...
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Eilan said on Jun 09, 2007....
When I was little I used to suck my thumb and twirl my hair. I stopped the thumb-sucking a long, long time ago but I stillI twirl my hair when I get anxious or bored.
My mom told me if I stopped sucking my thumb she'd let me get my ears pierced, so I stopped cold turkey. -
MissMimi said on Jun 09, 2007....
Eilan, I used to twirl my hair, and my daughter still does.
CW, I know I do it (emotional eating) and I'm a lot better than I used to be. I spend the majority of my day alone, and if I don't stay busy, loneliness is the big trigger for me.
Exercise sounds like a much more productive habit to get into.
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husbandhater said on Jun 09, 2007....
Biting my nails. And I tend to get undressed where ever I feel and drop my clothes there. -
queenparanoia said on Jun 09, 2007....
smoking and...
farting...
LOL!!!
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NotSoSinglechick25 said on Jun 09, 2007....
CW ~ yes not buying things that are bad for me helps a lot lol. Unfortunately now that I'm living with a man I no longer do all of the shopping! Neither of us buy junk food very often, it's just plain not exercising that is getting me into trouble. I've never had so little activity in my daily routine as I do now. I just need to compensate. BTW procrastination is a problem for me too! lolJ -
minniemouse said on Jun 09, 2007....
Ummm....is shopping a bad habit?!? Lol.... Putting too much pressure on myself to be perfect and to have everything perfect, when really and truely, its just all a mess and it really doesn't matter. What's that saying....Don't worry, be happy? I need to do that more. Great, now I'm going to be singing and whistling that song in my head for the rest of the night!!!! :-) MM -
Glamourgirl said on Jun 09, 2007....
Polarheart, are you and I sisters? I, too, always have on my "happy" face so I need to learn to drop that habit. It is such a burden and the worse part is that if you are not happy people think something is very wrong with you because theyve gotten used to your happy face all the time. Polar needs to share her advice on getting rid of that habit.
Also, I am a procrastinator. It just seems that I am always so busy and things just get pushed aside. I will procrastinate forever about things I hate to do and I hate that I do that!
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rupert7 said on Jun 09, 2007....
Creativewoman, I have had a few,too many to list if the truth be known. The one I do not want to "beat" is my frequent visits to the past. In my mind.I constantly relive the past. It is,I suppose a consequence of what I will term "extreme introversion". The me in the real world is very different from my cyber space alter ego rupert! I am a conundrum. I am at once a happy family man and a sad,lost soul. Have I scared you all off yet?? Rest assured,whatever I am,I am perfectly sane. Hmmmm....... LOL -
the_infernal_optimist said on Jun 09, 2007....
I have been a nail biter, though that seems to be mostly gone these days.
I also used to absolutely obsess over time. I had to be everywhere at least five minutes early or I panicked. Now we're lucky to leave the house within half an hour of when I really wanted to be gone. :-D That's a really tough habit to break though, the chronic clock-watching, and I still catch myself doing it when I'm already nervous about something or somewhere I have to be at a given time.
These days, I bite my lip occasionally (it's split right now from some of that during labor ;-)) and stay up too late, even when I can't really afford any more loss of sleep. I doubt that will ever change.
~Infernal
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CreativeWoman said on Jun 09, 2007....
Alyss,
Biting nails seems to be very common. I have been fortunate in life to be able to grow my nails and have them look nice without polish. I've got lots of other bad habits though.
Are you joking about biting your toe nails?
CW
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SophiaLouise1990 said on Jun 09, 2007....
I know this sounds typical and rather cliche, being a woman and all, but one of my biggest bad habits is shopping. Some people eat when they have emotional issues, others drink, smoke or use drugs. I go shopping. I don't care if I am shopping for me, for family, for the office or for groceries - it is the act of shopping. And I look at it as a challenge. I am always looking for the best deal and getting the most "bang" for my buck. Part of this comes from having to buy groceries for a family of 5 on $25 a week. The emotional significance of shopping comes from my grandmother. Whenever I was sad, she would buy me something. Whenever I was happy, she would buy me something. I attach emotions to shopping, and I LOVE to give gifts so I often use that as an excuse to go shopping. Its sick really. I am trying. Being concious of the issue helps some. My therapist says she can always tell when I am not doing well. She just has to ask me what I have bought new lately or when was the last time I was in a store. -
CreativeWoman said on Jun 09, 2007....
Eilan,
How old were you when you gave up the thumb sucking to get your ears pierced?
You know, I've caught myself twirling my hair a couple of times this past week. I'm growing my hair out and it seems to be an absent minded thing to do for me when I'm thinking.
CW
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CreativeWoman said on Jun 09, 2007....
Mimi,
Loneliness is a big trigger for me too. I am trying to break myself of it. It's hard though. If I don't keep my mind busy, I'm sunk. So, that's probably why you find me here a lot. I have made myself a rule about not getting food on my computer. I know that sounds silly, but it works. :-) Walking and Curves are also good for me. I'm gonna be a hot mamma one day.
CW
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CreativeWoman said on Jun 09, 2007....
husbandhater,
I don't do that with my clothes, but I tend to kick my shoes off wherever I want to. I have a couple pair to put away right now. :-)
CW
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CreativeWoman said on Jun 09, 2007....
queen,
The farting cracks me up! Do you do it in public? Have you ever tried to quit smoking?
CW
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CreativeWoman said on Jun 10, 2007....
NotSoSingleChick,
Controlling our weight is just plain hard! Wouldn't you agree? Sometimes I think people who have never had such a problem, just don't really understand what a struggle it is. No one I know wants such a battle. It's emotional and physical.
CW
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CreativeWoman said on Jun 10, 2007....
MM,
I suppose a person can shop too much if it goes beyond their means. Got to be careful there.
You sound like me a little. We can't be perfect no matter how hard we try. I know I have to work on giving myself the same breaks that I give others. How about you?
And thanks a lot...that song is going through my brain too!!!
CW
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CreativeWoman said on Jun 10, 2007....
Glamourgirl,
I can raise my hand with you about the procrastinating. I hate that I do it. I have become a post-it note queen. I make myself little notes asking myself to "please" do this or that. :-) You ever try working from a list?
CW
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CreativeWoman said on Jun 10, 2007....
rupert,
What takes you to the past? Happy or sad thoughts? I hope it is something you can work out.
CW
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CreativeWoman said on Jun 10, 2007....
Infernal,
Congratulations on your new baby!
I seem to lose track of time more than being a clock watcher. I almost always stay up late. That is really by choice though. I love the late evening/night.
CW
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CreativeWoman said on Jun 10, 2007....
Sophia,
We all have our battles. How do you manage groceries on $25 a week? That seems like it might be very hard to do. Are you in the United States or somewhere else?
CW
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trapbutterfly said on Jun 10, 2007....
I have so many....but the main ones are: shopping when I'm depressed, bitting my nails, creating situations in my mind (i think that by creating them I will be ready if they ever come true, especially hurtful ones), eating chocolate as my lunch, dinner or whatever meal I'm skipping, shopping online, and doing things for people most of the time even when I don't want to.
And, a really bad one, staying up late, like right now, 2:20am...procrastinating.
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mirrorimage said on Jun 10, 2007....
I have a bad habit of 'zoning out' when people are talking to me. They say something that makes me think of something else and I completely miss the rest of the conversation. My bestfriend in high school/college used to be able to tell by the look on my face and stop what she was saying to ask "Moms....where'd you go?? Focus...this is important." LOL I am much better about it now that I am a little older. -
kingcobra said on Jun 10, 2007....
Still thinking....trying to find a bad habit of mine......Its hard to be humble when you're perfect in every way!!!
Come on CW...........remember that song? Put it on for us!!!
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Glamourgirl said on Jun 10, 2007....
CW - I haven't tried the post-it or list making, but I'll try that. The only list I make is usually either for the grocery or Christmas shopping. I find if I go to the grocery without a list I'm sunk - can't remember a thing I need, but I'll definitely have to try it to avoid the procrastination. Glad to know I am in good company and not alone! -
queenparanoia said on Jun 10, 2007....
i sometimes do it i public!!! LOL!!!!
i have tried to quit smoking and its very hard...
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mommyof2 said on Jun 10, 2007....
Smoking, and I've been told I am a clean freak. -
silverwhisper said on Jun 10, 2007....
like mommy of 2, i also smoke. i'm also a bit of clean freak, myself, not that you'd know it from my desk in the office. :>
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CreativeWoman said on Jun 10, 2007....
trap,
Maybe try creating happy situations instead of bad ones to think about? I have come to believe that if you put happy thoughts out there, they will boomerang back to you. I completely understand about doing things for others that don't appreciate it. It's hard to break that habit. I do better with it, but I'm not completely there. Try to eat something healthy with your chocolate so you don't feel so guilty about it. You sound a lot like me in my younger days.
Hang in there.
CW
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CreativeWoman said on Jun 10, 2007....
mirror,
You must have some wicked concentration! :-)
CW
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CreativeWoman said on Jun 10, 2007....
KC,
Here are the lyrics for "Oh Lord It's Hard To Be Humble". I'll keep looking for the video to post. I'm a little pressed for time this morning. :-)
CWOh Lord it's hard to be humble
when you're perfect in every way.
I can't wait to look in the mirror
cause I get better loking each day.
To know me is to love me
I must be a hell of a man.
Oh Lord it's hard to be humble
but I'm doing the best that I can.
I used to have a girlfriend
but she just couldn't compete
with all of these love starved women
who keep clamoring at my feet.
Well I prob'ly could find me another
but I guess they're all in awe of me.
Who cares, I never get lonesome
cause I treasure my own company.
Oh Lord it's hard to be humble
when you're perfect in every way,
I can't wait to look in the mirror
cause I get better looking each day
To know me is to love me
I must be a hell of a man.
Oh Lord it's hard to be humble
but I'm doing the best that I can.
I guess you could say I'm a loner,
a cowboy outlaw tough and proud.
I could have lots of friends if I want to
but then I wouldn't stand out from the crowd.
Some folks say that I'm egotistical.
Hell, I don't even know what that means.
I guess it has something to do with the way that I
fill out my skin tight blue jeans.
Oh Lord it's hard to be humble
when you're perfect in every way,
I can't wait to look in the mirror
cause I get better looking each day
To know me is to love me
I must be a hell of a man.
Oh Lord it's hard to be humble
but I'm doing the best that I can.
We're doing the best that we can
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kingcobra said on Jun 10, 2007....
CW.....Yep!!! That's me!!! -
CreativeWoman said on Jun 10, 2007....
Glamourgirl,
You aren't alone. :-) I think a lot of us have to work on procrastination if we are truthful with ourselves.
CW
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CreativeWoman said on Jun 10, 2007....
queen,
You still crack me up. :-) Good luck with quitting smoking if you choose to stop.
CW
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CreativeWoman said on Jun 10, 2007....
mommy,
Smoking is hard to stop from what everyone says. I'm sure your house looks great if you like to clean. That's a plus!
CW
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CreativeWoman said on Jun 10, 2007....
Ed,
I've never smoked. I guess I'm lucky there. ... I'll bet you know right where everything is on your desk though. :-)
CW
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CreativeWoman said on Jun 10, 2007....
KC,
I'll give you the you're "one hell of a man" part. :-D
CW
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hottips4u said on Jun 10, 2007....
Many cases of appendicitis are related to the nail chewing. From what I read, the organ collects the clippings and fragments of fingernails swallowed while biting.
The organ does not pass the nail fragments and continues to build up until they either perforate the organ causing rupture releasing poison throughout the body, or, is ultimately removed due to an attack and the organ is removed prior to rupture.
My bad habit..driving, have the habit of wanting to, but on several acres of land, with only a single light pole, I ...hit it. Do not drive.....no one had to tell me...lol
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CreativeWoman said on Jun 10, 2007....
Jessi,
I didn't know that about the appendicitis. Thanks for the information.
One thing to hit on several acres of land and you struck it...that's some bad luck. I hope you and your vehicle are/were ok.
CW
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Alyss said on Jun 10, 2007....
I wish I could say I were joking mimi but at least I stopped before my age went into double figures...
I forgot when I posted I have also had another bad impulse control habit, Trichotillomania
It started when I was being badly bullied when I was eight and at one point I had a large bald spot on my crown which resulted in me being dragged to the doctors but I refused to tell them how I got it (the bald spot) so they diagnosed it as alopecia.
It was purely by chance that I came across the correct term for the habit some years back and began researching it and understanding the triggers for it and so on. Thank God I never got into eating the hair I'd pulled.
It is only in the last couple of years that I have got it fully under control and part of that process was a) finally admitting to myself that I did it and b) admitting to others that I did it, so you can consider this helping me further as now all my friends on the net know it too!
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CreativeWoman said on Jun 10, 2007....
Alyss,
Bullying is a very traumatic thing. I had an experience with it myself when I was 10.
I'm glad you have the Trichotillomania under control. :-) I meant no disrespect about the toenails.
CW
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Alyss said on Jun 10, 2007....
Oops just realised I made a booboo above. I'm sorry CW for misnaming you. =(
I was trying to be humourous about the toe nails but I never have been much good at jokes so please don't worry there was no offence to be taken.
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CreativeWoman said on Jun 10, 2007....
Alyss,
No worries. I love Mimi. You could have called me lots worse. (teasing of course)
Sometimes you have to explain jokes to me...especially when I'm decaffeinated on a Sunday morning. :-D
CW
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quietone said on Jun 11, 2007....
Just want to add "cintex" I think or something very close to it is a new pill for quitting smoking. a few people I know, long time smokers, have used this (2 weeks) and they have stay quit. that was one of my bad habits, now smoke free 7 years. I was also married to a bad habit, but he is gone now!! LOL
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CreativeWoman said on Jun 14, 2007....
quietone,
I know someone who was hypnotized and it worked. This person also used nicotine patches too. As far as I know, the person is going on about six months without a smoke.
Congratulations on winning your battle to quit! :-)
CW
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