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HOW DO YOU SEE YOURSELF??

LMari posted on May 30, 2007 | views: 433 | Tags: selfacceptance - confidence - inner happiness, selfacceptance confidence, contentment
how do you see yourself and how do you think others see you? and which is more important?
 
i think confident men and women are hard to come by nowadays. we are so dissatisfied with what we dont have and how we should look, how our houses, cars, selves, kids should look and feel and act.
 
what are we more worried about, other peoples perceptions or being able to be truly happy with ourselves and our lives? or is it that only when other people accept you - that you feel happy with yourself?
 
reason why im saying all this is bcos im struggling with being confident myself and being happy with my life and myself- im trying to find out what i want in life, and not what i think others would admire to have. and generally not giving a shit what others think. any words on the above??? 


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  • genalonewolf said on May 30, 2007....
    How do I see myself? You know that is a question hard pressed to be answered by anybody. I LIKE to see myself as someone who is caring and giving and spends most of his waking hours doing for others without thought for himself.
     
    Yopu are a very beautiful woman so that aspect of your life is out of the way but I think you won't have any problems in life if you stick to the rule of not caring what others not close to you think about you. You look like a strong woman in  your pic and with strength in your life you will overcome anything that gets in your way. Chin up and push on!
  • Froggie_50 said on May 30, 2007....
    gena- Well said...you sound very educated as well as having a loving spirit.
  • sweet_cookie01 said on May 30, 2007....
    hmmm... though there are things i havent achieved in my life i see myself as happy and contented... yes i still have problems and cry sometimes but all in all i have learned to accept myself and learned to respect others opinion about me... whether they like me or not.
     
    i dont need a perfect life to be happy, searching for perfection in everything can hurt you and dissappoint you and lose sight of the blessings that are given to you.
     
    you have a good life ahead of you, you are smart and beautiful... i know you will find that acceptance, happiness and contentment somewhere down the road...
  • genalonewolf said on May 30, 2007....
    Thank you froggie, that was very kind of you!
  • uniquely-ironic said on May 30, 2007....
    I see myself as intelligent, a perfectionist, good humored, intolerant of fools and good hearted.  I don't really know how others see me, though I'm sure some see my perfectionist trait as annoying or just plain bad.  I also think they may see me as approachable, which is wonderful since I do like people generally speaking.
     
    At the end of the day, it's more important that I believe what I think of myself than what anyone else thinks.  They don't have to live in my skin, I do.  As for self confidence, that is something that most of us would like more of, and few of us have too much of.
  • mom said on May 30, 2007....
    I see myslef as SLimer from "Ghost Busters" but I think people see me as well........Slimer off of "Ghost Busters" but not as green.
  • genalonewolf said on May 30, 2007....
    Ok mom enough of the self beatings or I am going to have to come and find you!
  • mom said on May 30, 2007....
    LOL- Gen ya know I have to make fun of someone, people get their feelings hurt if I make fun of them and then I go through the whole apology and kissing up thing,no sir I don't like it.  I will try to be good, but then my brain doesn't work. I get bad headaches then have to double up on my medication and when that happens the voices start. Oh boy when that happens they don't shut up. Well you know.
  • LMari said on May 31, 2007....
    genalonewolf - thanks for the sweet words. alot of ppl do see me as strong and in control. but alot of the time im not. (i want to be) - believe it or not i was always the loner at the back of the classroom very anti-social. a rebel, but a very quiet, well behaived rebel! i guess im still kinda scared of people? not scared of them, but scared of social and competitive situations. i never played sport or anything like that so i never realy got into the whole confident competitor team player thing. always prefferred doing things alone. still do? im realy loud and happy and open around my family though. i think thats what counts??
     
    sweetcookie -  thank you daaling - well i do have contentment amoungst my family and B - i love my sister and her kids and my mother. i think its the whole friends thing that gets me down a bit. im soooo antisocial and one minute i dont care who things what. other side of me does. when the person says 'ooh your getting fat' - i feel awful. a complement i nuetralise by saying in my head 'oh he's just saying that to be nice'. you know sometimes i need to slap myself hard and enjoy the fact that i have things like shelter, a job, food, all my limbs! i must just get over my 'everyone hates me - i look stupid' thing when i meet new ppl . bcos i immediately think that when meeting ppl.
     
    mom - do you want me to come over there and give ya a ass wooping??? dont say shit like that!! it sticks- no pun intended! i know bcos i do it myself. you make yourself feel crappy when you say things like that. well i think you are a beautiful person - and i realy like your down-to-earth personality. always have something original to say.
     
    unique -

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