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First of all I’m not calling all woman bitches, so all of you shrill shrieking shrews who want to focus only on the word “bitch”, please shut the fuck up a minute. Some men are or can be from time to time, bastards; assholes or Son’s a Bitches, and some woman can act a bitch. Leave it at that.

There is a problem in this country with domestic violence. Did we just picture a fat slob in a Wife beater smacking some poor defenseless female around? Ok, understandable because that is what you mainly hear about. What you don’t here is statistics like according to the US Justice Department and the Centers for Prevention & Disease control, over 1/3 of all batterers (abusers) involved in domestic violence were wives or girlfriends. Are you a victim and don't know it? Are you willing to take the chance that you could "die of embarrassment" or are you willing to admit it?

In 1998 there were 2,335,000 reported cases of spousal abuse. 1,500,000 women were abused by their husbands or boyfriends. However, many that haven't been around or heard the stories over the years were shocked to see that 835,000 men were battered by their wives or girlfriends which represent over 1/3 of all domestic violence cases. Other reports by the U. S. Justice Department showed that "out of 8,000 men surveyed, 9.7% of male domestic violence victims took out restraining orders. Out of 8,000 women surveyed, 68% violated restraining orders.

What about that 1/3 of men who are abused by their wives or girlfriends on a regular basis? You don’t hear much about that do you. Just like you don’t hear about our cancers, viruses, and mental health problems. Like we don’t have any problems of our own, and women have them all, and a fucking commercial or organization for every damn one of them. Men are just supposed to just suck it up and drive on. I accept that to a point.

I like being a man, holding doors open or sacrificing my jacket for a lady whom forgot hers gives me wood. Some cropped haired feminazis don’t like this traditional mindset, but I don’t date them, so screw em. Taking on the roll of provider, protector and fucking “jar opener”, I love that shit. That’s my role, I know it and accept it, and ladies you should know yours. They say men shouldn’t hit woman. I agree. In fact no one should raise his or her hand against another except in self-defense, period. Ladies that means you keep your little clit diddlers to yourselves. I don’t care how frustrated you get, DON’T FUCKING TOUCH ME!!!

Some women feel that they can beat on a guy and get away with it, because “guys aren’t supposed to hit girls”, and men have been trained to buy into this bullshit. You’ve seen it on TV or maybe in real life, some out of control brewha going ape-shit on a guy and he just takes it saying “I wont hit her back, because I’m bigger than that”. For those of you that think that way let me say that (1) she might get lucky and hurt or kill your ass, and (2) you look like a complete idiot, not to mention “her bitch” when you let her do that shit. I say this from experience, 14 years worth. The first incident was a clipboard to the nuts. Princess threw it and dropped me like a bad habit. The last, she wiped out my .357 and started doing her rendition of the diner scene from Pulp Fiction. There was no choice there but to disarm her and take her to the ground. “Sorry, the bitch was rabid, had to put her down”. I went through 14 years of “I’m a guy, I can take it”.
Yes I should have left, but fuck me for truly loving her.

My point is, don’t take this shit. If she hits you, fix it and fix it quick. The first time can be enough to do great harm. The clipboard to the groin had a real chance of cutting me and spilling my nuts onto the deck, as I was not wearing much protection. By fix it I mean leave, or tell her that the days of free hits, because “guys, don’t women”, are over. Tell her that if she ever lays a hand on you again, then you will view her as a male packing at least 8 inches of meat and not a clit, and will treat her as such. She may say, “oh, you can’t do that. You’re bigger and stronger than I am”. That’s right sweetheart, so don’t fucking mess.

In my case princess weighed more than me, it’s amazing how many calories are in wedding cake. She was small before we got married. Then she had some “postpartum” bullshit after our first child, and then she started to hit like Tyson…moved like Sugar Ray though. I would try to leave the house till she calmed down, but she would block the door and pound me if I got near it. I should have cold cocked her, walked over her limp body, and found new living arrangements, but I was stupid. Lesson learned. She would also call the cops blaming the disturbance on me. From experience, the majority of the time, the man is going to jail. The woman gets to stay because “she’s a woman”, and you get kicked out or go to jail because “you are a man”. In some cases I would say pop her one, you’re going to jail anyway. I’m not saying trash her while she is down, or beat the hell out of her, but defend yourself, do it with authority, and let her know that women aren’t supposed to hit men either.


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  • Iwillnotfall said on May 22, 2007....
    Wowser!  Can't say I expected to come across a blog like this.  I already knew what had happened to you before I read it.  Your anger spills across the page in no uncertain terms.  And while I found that some of your remarks pressed the buttons of my shrill shrieking shrew, you made me laugh too..."In my case princess weighed more than me, it’s amazing how many calories are in wedding cake".  And you can spell...which always impresses me no end.  I feel for you...I do...suffice to say...crazy people come in all shapes and sizes.
  • bebepink said on May 23, 2007....
    I was glad to see a man say this. What you say about hitting a woman would never be an issue if a woman keeps her hands off of her man. There's no excuse for it except for, as you said, in self defense. I have a friend whose ex-wife would throw shoes at him-his own shoes. Hard and close range. She also poured cold water on him as he sat on the couch and watched TV, not wanting to argue anymore. No matter what your gender, it's not ok to do those things. One night, she was hitting him and trying to push him when he was drunk. Guess what? He fell on her and injured her badly. It was the only incident like that and it certainly wasn't on purpose but I am glad it happened and I don't care. You can leave, you can yell at someone, you can do what you need to do but don't stay in a relationship and put your hands on someone. You may slap a man and he might kick your ass. Good. Maybe parents shouldn't teach that "a man never hits a woman." Maybe they should teach "a person never hits a person except for in self defense." No one has to put up with being hit. HIT 'EM BACK AND THEN LEAVE THEIR ASS!
  • bebepink said on May 23, 2007....
  • polarheart said on May 29, 2007....
    Painful, that is just terrible!  I have heard that there are such women, but I have not heard it from the personal experience of someone such as yourself.  I am pleased for you that you are out of that situation.  Domestic violence is wrong, no matter who is dealing it out. . .I have even heard of children that get violent with their parents and the parents just take it because "its their child". . .but it is still WRONG.
     
    Where are your children living now, are they with her?
     
    Your friend
    Polar
  • ThePainfulTruthBFTW said on May 29, 2007....

    Polarheart…They are with their Mom. I barely get to see them. Their Mother drew the divorce out for over a year. Two years technically. She does everything in her power to keep the pain going including violating various court orders. She was found to be in contempt of court the last time we went. She deliberately kept me from getting my stuff after the divorce was finalized in direct violation of a court order. We got married in Elko, Nevada and had a Vegas style wedding. The divorce was more like Hollywood though as it cost over $20,000 so far and still going.

    Your Friend TPT

  • polarheart said on May 29, 2007....
    Gee, Painful, you've really had a raw deal and it is terrible that you dont get to see your children!  I am glad though that you are now in a loving relationship with a woman who treats you like a man.  LOL @ the Hollywood divorce. . .you still have your sense of humour and that's admirable :-)
     
    And, PS: Please do call me Polar. . .most people do!
  • ThePainfulTruthBFTW said on May 29, 2007....

    Polar…Thanks! My attorney didn’t find the Hollywood comment so funny. I told her that I felt that she and my Wife’s attorney were letting this go on so that they could profit. Mine wouldn’t do a damn thing and hers just kept pulling stuff out of her hind end. My ex claimed and is still claiming that she has no idea as to what her attorney does on her behalf. That’s real bright! My current love is top notch. She ironically is an attorney herself. We met at the lab I work at. A cop and a lawyer? It’s just wrong I tell you, WRONG! But all sooo right! I was tempted to use police powers to get close to her, but I just kept showing up at the right place at the right time.

  • uniquely-ironic said on May 29, 2007....
    TPT - that is really horrible.  Shame on her.  How the hell do women expect to get equal pay, respect, jobs, etc. if they do not take equal responsibility?!  I'm glad you ditched her and got on with your life.
  • ThePainfulTruthBFTW said on May 29, 2007....

    Ironic...Thanks! It probably was for the best, but at times I feel like I really let my kinds down. I took a vow, one that I believed in and then I broke it. I got to get over that I guess, but I have a problem with quitting and failure. This one better work or I am done. Yea I said that one before. Ain’t love a bitch? As for sharing equal responsibility, I wrote a gripe about that too. It’s titled If I Work… It’s just getting stuff of my chest.

  • allswell said on May 29, 2007....
    TPT....Wow I think it's awfull how the person that's supposed to love you can treat you like shit and abuse you...I just don't understand how anyone can be like that! There's just no excuse for it!! I'm glad you got out of that situation and I really hope everythings alot better for you now....
     
    alls:)  

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