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Wow! A lot has happened in such a short time.

It's been stressful the last week or so. Lots of ups and downs. My husband now seems to accept that we are splitting up and is resigned to the fact that I'm not coming back home. He would like to remain friends, I'm not sure I can do that, I've never been friends with any of my ex's and I have some fear about him trying to suck me back in. Right now I'm just staying away and we are handling things via email and phone.

I've been staying with S and G while my husband and I make the split. S and G's lease was up on their place so we've decided to rent a house together. Our plan is to ease in to a poly relationship, giving the kids a chance to adjust. The kids both adore S and G, it's been wonderful seeing them have a good time and be relaxed. They have had more of my attention than they've had in a long time, it's amazing how my mind-set has changed, I had no idea how unhappy I was with my life until I made this change.

I have so much going on in my head right now, it's difficult to find the words…it needs to come out but geez, I guess I just don't have the energy to write about it.



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  • secretlife said on May 15, 2007....
    how old are your kids?  are you going to attempt to explain this living arrangement to them?
  • silverwhisper said on May 15, 2007....
    first: i'm glad that he accepted this so quickly. that's really good news.

    second: i'm concerned about how your children may respond. how old are they?

    ed
  • AnnonymousNympho said on May 15, 2007....
    My girls are 14 and 10.  My 14 year old already knows about alternative lifestyles and in fact, suggested to me that if I was going to date anyone again I should date a woman, lol. 
     
    At this point they are seeing S, G and I as roommates.  As things progress I plan on talking to them and explaining what is happening in a way that is age appropriate.
     
    The bottom line is that I needed help getting the kids back and forth to school, appointments, etc.  S and G had a lease that was up, I was looking for a new place to live that is closer to work which is the area that they live in.  To top it off  sharing expenses just makes sense.  We've found a beautiful, large house with plenty of room for everyone to escape to their own areas when necessary.
  • silverwhisper said on May 15, 2007....
    AN, if this is your first polyamorous relationship, i'm concerned that there's now that more possibility for relationships to become strained. however, as you don't have a vanilla relationship, i suppose that's a fear that's unlikely to be realized.

    ed
  • lioneljay said on May 15, 2007....
    AN, it does appear that you're jumping into this poly relationship rather quickly. I can see how it's a practical advantage to live with others so close to work, but this arrangement is fraught with risk that go far beyond having a few extra bruises from a good caning session.
  • AnnonymousNympho said on May 15, 2007....
    Thanks Ed and LJ for the input.  I realize that it seems as if things are moving fast.   This is not a rebound relationship.  In fact, this couple is someone I've known for several years and that my husband and I have played with in the past.  S and G are not new in my life.  Additionally for me the relationship with my husband has for me been over for several years.   I just needed something to help me make that last move.
  • KayRoseOrchid said on May 15, 2007....
    that is so awesome AN!! I am so happy for you, way to go!!!
  • justhavehope said on May 16, 2007....
    i hope this works out for you all I want is to see happy. go head all suppport here
  • AnnonymousNympho said on May 20, 2007....
    Thanks Kay and Just :)

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