I talked to my best friend last night and apprised him of my recent situation. He's been out of town for the last week shooting a movie. And no, he's not famous. He's a cameraman. But this was the first time I'd talked to him since he left, and told me I made a huge mistake by agreeing to a second date. He said it was a desperation move and he wondered when I got so desperate.
Good question. Now, I'm not the most awesome guy who ever lived. But I think I'm good looking. And fortunately, I've never really had a problem getting a date before. But quantity does not equal quality. (As has been proved by my most recent issues.) The truth is, I'm sick of dating. I just want to be in a relationship and be happy and secure and best of all--not alone anymore. I don't think a lot of guys my age like to admit that they want to get married. That's supposed to be a girl thing. But I want to get married. And honestly, it's bullshit to say that only women want to do this anyway. Men do too. Otherwise, no one would do this. That would be implying that all these men who are marrying women are being forced into it. And that's just ridiculous.
So yeah. I wanna get married. So maybe I should stop being so picky and just settle with someone? Of course, T. (my friend) said that was a recipe for disaster. I can't just settle for someone because I'm tired of looking. Logically, he's right. I know that. But what if mini pad girl isn't that much of a freak after all? I need to give her a chance, right? One time I broke up with a girl because she said the word 'totally' too much. That's how picky I've been in the past. It's time to cut people some slack, right? After all, I'm not perfect. Far from it.
Once on a date, I made some sort of rude comment about this weather caster on TV. I said he looked like Guy Smiley and had a stick up his ass. Turns out, this was my date's uncle. That sucked. But the point is, I said something dumb too and I'd like to think I'm not a lost cause because of it.
T. said he understood my thinking, but he had another plan for me instead. See, he's getting married himself next month. And he told me that his fiancee's cousin was flying in from Florida on Friday. He kind of thought we'd all hang out and maybe I'd wanna hook up with her instead. Dilemma, dilemma. He promised this girl was hot and had already seen my picture and wanted to meet me.
But I'm not a dick. I'm not gonna cancel out on the mini pad girl for someone else that I've never met, and might in turn be even more of a freak. So I told T. no. Plus, the topper? He told me the Florida girl's name and it's the same as my MOM'S name. Hell no. I can't sleep with a girl who has my mom's name. That's a little Oedipal for me. That's not being picky, is it? That's just me protecting myself from becoming a serial killer or something. I don't know if it's in the dating rules, but I'm gonna add it to the list of turn offs. Don't date people with the same name as one of your parents. It's just creepy...
evil_twin posted on May 03, 2007
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leadoffkarma said on May 03, 2007....
LOL!! I think had my brother had the same don't of not dating someone with the name of a close family member he would have never married. My sister-in-law's name is the same name as my older sister. To make things even more interesting my sister-in-law's nephew has the same name as my brother.So perhaps you shouldn't totally write it off your list.... -
fearing said on May 03, 2007....
I totally agree with you e_t, screaming your mom's name in the throes of passion is just ewwwwww.
I do think you might want to give this girl one more chance. If it doesn't work the second date - well, you won't ever wonder. AND you'll be able to blog about it and make me laugh! See? It's a win-win situation! No regret and you've made me smile!
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secretlife said on May 03, 2007....
oh my god you are so funny!it's just a weird coincidence the girl has your mom';s name. but since you don't call your mother by her first name anyway, i don't really see the big deal....you call her mom, right?if your mom was jane or jill or some common name, it's likely you could meet lots of them around, so unless you call mom jane i think you're being too picky!i'm glad you didn't take florida girl over mini pad girl.about settling juust because your tired of being single and all your friends are getting married? that's just a recipe for disaster as you already have figured out. the hardest part is finding the right person for you.believe me, most people want nothing more than to be in a relationship by the time they're in their late 20's....the trick is, is it the right relationship to last a lifetime...cause speaking first hand, a lifetime is a LONG TIME! -
evil_twin said on May 03, 2007....
Leadoffkarma--That's interesting that your family has a lot of the same names. I guess your brother worked through the awkwardness. (Or maybe it's just me that finds it awkward??) But Florida girl (aka Mom-girl) is in town until next Friday...So you never know. If Friday night sucks, I might just give it a shot. Only I'm thinking I'd rather approach it as a casual introduction to her, than an actual set up...I mean, eventually I'll meet her anyway. She's gonna be at the wedding. We'll see if I can work through it.
Fearing--Yes! Exactly. Screaming out my mom's name is just something that just shouldn't happen...at least you understand my apprehension.
secretlife--You do have a point here. I do not call my mom by her first name. I call her mom. And if I'm gonna yell out the name Mom during sex, then I've got other issues I need to explore...We'll see what happens Friday first, before I make any decisions about Florida/Mom girl. And yeah, settling for anyone just out of desperation is a dumb move. That's crazy talk. But I also feel like the time has come for me to stop being so picky about my choices. When I was 20, I figured it was okay to dump someone for saying 'totally' all the time. I had years ahead of me to find someone else. But now? Not so much. Does that make sense?
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leadoffkarma said on May 03, 2007....
To be honest my brother did think it was awkward and tried to find different nicknames to call her but in the end she told him thats my name and I am sorry it bothers you. So it did take him a while to get use to it. Of course as his sisters we laughed and joked but hey he is happy with her so we let it go after a while. -
uniquely-ironic said on May 03, 2007....
LOF - I'm going to back you up on the name thing. I haven't dated or married anyone with my dad's name, but I did meet a really nice guy with my ex's name once. He was really cute, nice and totally into me, but I just couldn't do it. Somehow every time his name came out of my mouth it just made me cringe.I have nothing on finding the right one. I'm still figuring it out myself. -
fearing said on May 03, 2007....
e_t - I have to tell you - we call Florida the State of Damnation. It is where my ex-husband found the mistress he left me for. He did this during that summer FL was pounded by hurricanes. Every single time the ex went down there, Florida was hit with a hurricane. When you mention Florida-girl I think "State of Damnation". lol! It will be interesting to see how this plays out. Sorry your life is a source of amusement for me. I really do wish you the best!
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evil_twin said on May 04, 2007....
leadoffkarma--I suppose after awhile the joke would die down and the name thing wouldn't matter. But I think if it were me, I'd probably just call her Sweetie all the time or something. I'd just avoid the name altogether, if possible.
uniquely-ironic--That's another awkward situation. Dating someone with your ex's name. That might actually be worse, depending on how bad the break up was. If it was amicable, it might not be a big deal. It might actually make it easier because you'll never call out the wrong name in bed! But if thinking of the ex makes you want to die, then I probably wouldn't be able to deal either.
fearing--Florida, State of Damnation! That sounds like a really cool horror movie. Or a really bad travel brochure! I don't think the Florida bureau of tourism will be hiring you any time soon. But honestly, that made me laugh and now when I eventually meet Florida-girl, I'm gonna be thinking about that. And also, I'm glad you find my life amusing. Honestly. Because if other people laugh at it, then so can I.
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marysaaka said on May 09, 2007....
aRE FEW iN nUMBeR -
zzz1219 said on May 09, 2007....
yah its kinda freaky or sumthing like me, my suitor (the one i was dating before) before and my boyfriend have exactly the same name ;p -
lyssa said on Jul 18, 2007....
you're a riot!!
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