• silverwhisper said on May 01, 2007....

  AN, i take it you're the sub in the relationship? i'm glad for you that he's disciplined.
  
  ed

• sweet_cookie01 said on May 01, 2007....

  Well lucky for you he didnt get carried away... even though it is fun be careful...

• AnnonymousNympho said on May 01, 2007....

  Silver - Yes, I would consider myself a sub.  However at this point I'm not exactly his submissive.  He is topping me at times though.   Hm....maybe I need to make a blog entry clarifying what these different words mean to me.
   
  Sweet - Yes, although I had a plan if the bruise had turned out to be bigger.  If you've read other parts of my blog you'll understand my need for discretion.

• silverwhisper said on May 01, 2007....

  AN: ah, i wasn't sure if the nature of your relationship is dom/sub one or not. i believe i understand now.
  
  ed

• AnnonymousNympho said on May 01, 2007....

  Ed - I just make  new blog entry with my defintions of certain words/roles associated with BDSM.

• lioneljay said on May 01, 2007....

  AN, one of the elements in a good D/s checklist has to do with marks - the severity and location of them, in particular. I would suggest that you discuss this issue with your Top before your next scene. As much as you like being caned or flogged with a belt, if you have an issue with bruises showing when you're dressed in street clothes, then that's somethng that the two of you should negotiate before your next scene.

• AnnonymousNympho said on May 01, 2007....

  LJ - yes, we do have clear understanding of what is acceptable.  Our negotioations were done up front.  It's not a matter of of any bruises or maks being seen when wearing street clothes.  It's any bruises or marks at all that might catch the attention of my husband...because after all...I'm having an affair and not interested in getting caught just yet.
   
  Having an affair in the BDSM lifestyle...perhaps I should blog on my views on that.  It might seem more like a public flogging of myself however because as good and as right as if feels I know it's very wrong and very "unsubmissive" of me.

• lioneljay said on May 01, 2007....

  AN, I knew the specifics of your situation but forgot to apply them specifically in my comment. I have a friend who maintains a "can't-show-in-street-clothes" limit which makes a lot of sense to me. People can be gruesomely impolite sometimes, particularly when they don't know what they're talking about.
  
  In your case, leaving no marks seems like an absolute necessity.

• AnnonymousNympho said on May 01, 2007....

  LJ - Yes, I thought you knew but wanted to clarify for anyone else reading.  And bruises/marks that can be seen with clothes on have always been off limits for me.  Luckily clothes cover a multitude of "sins".

• lioneljay said on May 01, 2007....

  Indeed, they do. At least for the eyes of others.

• sweetsoul said on May 05, 2007....

  AN I don't know about you but I find I sometimes have bruises...usually on my legs somewhere... when I've no idea how I got them.  I would have thought that might excuse any incidental bruising from S if you had similar experiences to mine with bruising.

• AnnonymousNympho said on May 05, 2007....

  Sweet - that's what I've been able to do.  I've got some bruises on my left shoulder right now that are from sex with S...but they look pretty innocent.

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