Okay, so after taking a day off and having my family insult me until I cried (in a loving way of course), I feel I am prepared to say that I am justified in my anger.
Why bitch about not caring when bitching gives the same result? To vague? Ok then, why complain about people blogging about the way they feel, when you do the same thing? Who told you that what you went through was so great that everyone else's suffering pales in comparison? You don't like what I write? Stay the fuck off my blog, don't leave me nice comments telling me it will be ok. Don't give a anecdote about the shit you went through, assuming that I want to hear is a story about you.
Don't tell me one thing, and then turn around and say you don't care. Because that makes you a liar. Don't get angry at me for responding to you when you seek me out. I hurt you? Oh really? How? By speaking what I felt was the truth, by telling you something you didn't want to hear...by not apologizing to you? I hurt you? Hmmm, I wonder how the people you told the "truth" to, how the people you insulted and didn't apologize to...I wonder how they're feeling?
In cyberspace, the world can revolve around whoever you want. And if that person is yourself then so be it. But don't get angry when everyone tells you off because they don't see it that way.
The nerve of some people to expect loyalty when they give none in return. The nerve of some people to expect kindness when they show so much hatred. I am no one's mother, so I don't have to be patient and understanding. You don't get second chances just because you were hurt and angry. You get what I give you and if I take it back...well in my cyberspace, I can do that, tough luck.
Please don't assume that because I come across gentle and sweet that I will not bite your head off in a minute. I can be just as vicious and cruel as anyone else. The fact that cared about you enough to respond in a civil and thoughtful way...twice...should have been acknowledged. So please, try and say something vile to me now...please. I've heard it all, I've been there, done that, by people who had much more to hurt me with. I've given you nothing that I haven't given the whole world.
With that said, I'm going back to study for my finals...
tbs230 posted on Apr 28, 2007
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polarheart said on Apr 28, 2007....
TBS, I am as lost about this post as a fart in a perfume factory (LOL) What happened that made you so upset? Or, dont you want to "go there"?{{{hugs}}} Polar -
tbs230 said on Apr 28, 2007....
Polar, I'm just annoyed that people ask for my thoughts but then don't like what I have to say. Blowing off some steam I guess. -
mom said on Apr 28, 2007....
Hugs TBS, I'm sorry you are getting caught up in all this mess. -
tbs230 said on Apr 28, 2007....
you know...I feel much better and I've decided it was particularly rash of me to write this (although I did give it a day). But I don't differentiate between private and public blogging. If I write online, then it's out there for the world.
mom, I don't feel like I'm caught up in it. I was very hurt that what I felt didn't warrant understanding, just an immediate cut off...and since I was told not to comment or contact, I wrote it on my own post.
This is truly the best way to respond I think. You don't have to worry about someone telling you it adds nothing to the discussion because it's your own subject lol.
Yeah, so now that I've written it I do feel better. I'm still a little hurt but I've decide, IRL too, that friendships shouldn't be this hard to maintain. I shouldn't have to worry about saying certain things to my friends.
I'm hungry...
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mom said on Apr 28, 2007....
TBS- you're right, sometimes we need to be heard whether it will do any good or not. Friendships shouldn't be difficult either not if they are real friends. I guess sometimes truth hurts.Glad you have your appetite. :) -
copsunited said on Apr 28, 2007....
tbs..and now you are what? I have taken the time to talk to you. I wanted to
be your freind. You don't want it..so be it. Why make a big deal of it.
I am not sorry you feel this way. I am sorry that you could not talk to me about
it or think for yoursself. It won't happen again..believe me
Old Mumsie is the first to jump in there where her 2 cents is needed most?
Well..okay..so don't talk to me. I shall not miss it..good luck and when the
rest of the hen house turns on you..don't say I did not tell you so...cluck and cluck.
I thought you were a cut above..just another NYer..with a bag to inflate.
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missunderstood1162 said on Apr 28, 2007....
Hi TBS!
You should be proud of yourself for saying what you want to say on your blog. That is what it's for. I am proud of you for sticking up for yourself. Ignoring gets easier every day. Hugs!
Miss
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Zayda said on Apr 28, 2007....
TBS--I think you're right, true friendships shouldn't be difficult to maintain. Like any relationship, there should be give and take and the willingness to at least listen even if you don't agree.
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mom said on Apr 28, 2007....
TBS- also a REAL friend will have no problem saying "I'm sorry, I was wrong" when in saving a frienship. In friendship a person is never above being human and humble. -
sweet_cookie01 said on Apr 28, 2007....
hi TBS... i have been following most of your exchanges... I know it does gets into your nerves once in a while, and its okay to say what you want to say. As i always say each is entitled to his own opinion and one must do his best to respect others opinion even if it doesnt agree with your own... Take care... Hope things will be smooth sailing soon... -
silverwhisper said on Apr 29, 2007....
tbs, i wasn't sure i knew what this was about until i read the comments.
i'm sorry that this had to happen.
so...i hope your classes have been going well this semester?
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PAPERBACKWRITER said on Apr 29, 2007....
Hello tbs,
I am PBW, please call me Paper.
I just want to say, you are admirable, and I respect you.
Warm regards,
Paper~
P.S.
Good luck with your finals!
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chelli said on Apr 29, 2007....
some people use their anonymousness to be jerks on the internet. Just remember that thair meanness is more about them than it is about you! -
tbs230 said on Apr 29, 2007....
mom: I went home and ate everything in sight! Yum! I believe that real friends would jump at the chance to apologize too. I would love to have the opportunity to apologize to someone I hurt and know that I'm heard. Beauty of blogging, no interruptions!
cops: You shut me out, not the other way around. I tried to explain to you how confused and disappointed I was, and you told me you didn't want me to keep in contact with you anymore. Go and read your comment and tell me I misread that.
And while I'm pissed...don't ever categorize me into anything. I am not just another NYer. I am an individual who thinks for herself and thinks before she opens her mouth and speaks. I am compassionate and fair. You approached me, not the other way around. You asked for my honest feelings and I gave them to you. If that is a personality trait that NYers share, so be it, but don't ever assume that you know me because of some geographical data. I'm also from Haiti, so does that mean if I don't like you something bad will happen? Cuz if you're going to stereotype, at least do me the justice of making it something interesting.Oh, and I feel honored that Mom would comment on my blogs. She’s been nothing but kind and generous to me. And she has never shown me any indication in anything she’s said or done that would prove me wrong.
Miss: Thanks. It does feel good to write this out. I’m honored that you wrote here as well.
Zayda: I’ve been discovering this fact for a year. Listening is probably the hardest thing a friend can do. It makes such a huge difference when you know that the person is truly listening to you and not brushing you off.
Sweet_cookie: Hey, welcome. Thanks for commenting. It can be difficult to speak your opinions around friends. But a real friend knows that nothing is every said to purposely hurt them.
Ed: I always try to keep my posts vague. But that’s kind of hard to do when the person is an active member of the community. It’s okay, we all go through this at least once in life.
Tomorrow is the big day! Paper and presentation…Eek! (Another word for you to sound out lol)
Paper: Hello Paper. Thank you. Thank you very much. I don’t know what I’ve done to deserve it, but I’ll take it! J
Chelli: Thanks! I’ll remember that. I have some very cool friends on here who have my back, so I’m not too worried!
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mom said on Apr 29, 2007....
TBS- LOLOL I never thought about that, but you're right no interruptions. I love that. -
silverwhisper said on Apr 30, 2007....
good luck today!
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MsBradford07 said on Apr 30, 2007....
He is just insensitive asshole. -
tbs230 said on Apr 30, 2007....
Mom: Some people just don't realize how nice it is to yell at someone at not have that person yelling over you...I get to say whatever I want before they even know its coming! ;-)
Ed: Well, you know how my day is going...lol
MsB: MMMMHHHHMMM!!!
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PAPERBACKWRITER said on Apr 30, 2007....
tbs...
lol, am I lurker, and since the new feature of SC I can earmark blogs to my heart´s delight. I have read more than a couple of your blogs. I like the way you articulate yourself.
We do learn from one another, don´t we? I have learned a couple from you ; ) ! Ugh details soon!
paper~
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tbs230 said on Apr 30, 2007....
ohh, Paper...you and I are going to be great friends :-) and yes details soon!!
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PAPERBACKWRITER said on Apr 30, 2007....
Yes, that I wish with all my heart too, that I wish!
I have two girls, 7 and 4. You know I read your stand about abortion (to name one detail!); I admire young people who are principled. I wish my daughters would be as strong principled as you when they reach your age.
LOL, I am 35, but sometimes I feel ancient!
Wishing you all the best in your path ahead, dearest tbs!
Yours,
paper~
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tbs230 said on May 01, 2007....
Paper, I can't cook, but I can put cookies in the oven and let them melt...I'll send you some cookies!
You don't seem ancient to me. 35 is pretty young actually. I think it's the perfect age. Being old is a state of mind. My mother is 45, and she's doing more things that I am.
Thank you for the wishes. I'm sure you will know every stone I step on while I walk this path...because I'll blog it all!!! hehehe...
Tai
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