And good riddance really. He was lazy and self centered. But, I've been around bands long enough to know that when things go bad, the dirt comes out.
So all week, things have been edgy. And, unfortunately, my very good friend is the ex-drummer's wife. I hadn't heard from her in 3 days. The last time I spoke with her was via e-mail and we discussed hanging out while the band practiced at my house. The drummer never showed up and neither did she.
A lot of stuff went flying around and my husband and the ex-drummer got into a personal argument. I had a feeling I wouldn't hear from my friend again. It was 3 days later when she e-mailed me asking about our friendship. I told her that I never wished our friendship would suffer but inevitabley, when things like this happen, I never see the wives or girlfriends anymore. I told her I wish to remain friendly but I don't think we'll be seeing much of each other anymore (I prefer not to beat around the bush. I call it like I see it).
So, I think she is gone. It is sad but if it took 3 days to respond to me after this, I don't know if I can tolerate this kind of friendship.
I might be too harsh but it is a protection I put in place.
Anyway, they called off the show for tonight but something interesting happened. It is in a future blog.
Rockerchic posted on Apr 27, 2007
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silverwhisper said on Apr 28, 2007....
that's a shame about your friend, rockerchic. i suppose that even if you did stay friends, your husbands would want to continue their argument through you two though, huh?
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queenparanoia said on Apr 28, 2007....
it must be difficult for you letting go of that friendship. but lets be honest as you say. if she really wanted to be your friend then she could make way for you guys to still see each other. well i'm gonna read more of your posts! -
Rockerchic said on Apr 29, 2007....
ed, I think they already tried. And our friendship did end. So sad!
queen, you're right. But, I know I won't be seeing her much anymore.
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Frlncwrtr said on Apr 29, 2007....
Rockerchic:
I just posted a comment on your newest post.
Anyway, you said the dirt does come out when things like this happen. As Ed said, they would probable drag you and your friend into it.
I think it's great that you call it like it is. The 3 day wait for a response sort of tells you what you need to know.
It's sad, I know. Given light of the way things go with bands, maybe you should not allow yourself to become close friends with the wives in he future - if that is possible.
Good Luck!
freelance
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Rockerchic said on Apr 29, 2007....
I vowed I would not let it happen again...and it won't. My life is my life. I will support my husband with what he wants to do but I will refrain from pursuing friendships with the s.o's of the band. Things seem to change to often. -
Frlncwrtr said on Apr 29, 2007....
It's probably he best choice for you, Rockerchic! -
Boonsketti said on May 04, 2007....
I feel your pain. I am trying to form a band right now, one that will work. I have gone through five failed bands already and I can't buy a beer yet. I am very frustrated. All this personal stuff always gets in the way of the music.
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