• allaroundgirl said on Apr 21, 2007....

  I don't think anything is too personal here. It's your blog and you should feel free to blog about anything you want.

• secretlife said on Apr 21, 2007....

  I think it depends on what you feel comfortable putting out there.
   
  I've certainly put out things equally as personal as your example.  yet i find i'm not always comfortable doing that.  oddly, although this is an anonymous blog, people get to know you and you get to know them, and i'm finding that i'm not as anonymous as i felt at first.  I'm sure this makes no sense...

• mystrongopinions said on Apr 21, 2007....

  Thanks alla...
   
  Secret, you do make perfect sense....I do admit that the anonymous part makes me feel free to share pretty much anything...

• minniemouse said on Apr 21, 2007....

  I agree with secret and allaround....whatever you feel comfortable writing about you should.  But eventually, I do see that people form friendships here, I know I have, and then things are still annoymous, but also not.  The act of writing it out is cathartic and healing, and sometimes you can blog and no one will read it and sometimes just one person will read who has had the same experiences or has a different perspective and can help you in ways that you could never expect.  So, to end my rambling.......blog away.....  :-)

• ALIENated said on Apr 21, 2007....

  I would have to ask if your husband has a tiny penis or whether you might
  be frigid. Of course, only my wife knows if she has had one in all our years
  of marriage. Hey, maybe she has not and she is just a great actress. But 
  then why would she not have left me and gone to Hollywood? Hmmm. I need
  to think about this. 
  
  

• RELICOLONY said on Apr 22, 2007....

  One of the benefits of blogging anonymously is that there are virtually no constraints on how or what you put out and with whom, so to speak!
  
  By the way, can one be just a bit curious about exactly why you couldn't get an orgasm in ten long years?
  
  
  

• mystrongopinions said on Apr 22, 2007....

  I agree minnie....
   
  Alien....none of the above....and yes, women can fake it, unfortunately...
   
  Reli....having had no previous experience before my marriage and with a pretty conservative childhood....the whole sex thing was considered a taboo. for my family...so, of course I was raised to believe that women who enjoyed it...were loose....or bad....
   
  I was raised with a single aunt...and my grandmother....very close minded....and repressed individuals themselves...
   
  Gave up on it...was embarassed to discuss it with my husband....and it was a living hell...
  It was ruining my marriage...I was becoming depressed...and this went on for 10 years.....
   
  Years of unhappy marriage and several therapy sessions later...I was guided towards the book The Female Orgasm by gosh...can't remember...but will look it up....

  In any case, I could orgasm on my own....but, he just couldn't get me there...

   

  I then learned that some women can climax with penetration...others with direct clitoral stimulation...some with both....it's not a one size fits all formula...as I thought at my naive 19 years of age... I thought something was wrong with me...when I couldn't automatically get there...while we had sex...

   

  It took overcoming my shyness, and communicating freely with hubby....to allow us to both enjoy it....

   

  It has nothing to do with size....it does have to do with skill and communication....some insecure men won't be able to handle a women that's not an insta orgasm...where you'll find that those most experienced men...will spend as long as they need to, to please the woman before moving on to his own pleasure....

   

  My husband had not had much previous experience either...so that didn't help...

   

  Luckily, it's gotten better....and I have a pretty healthy sex life now...

• Alyss said on Apr 22, 2007....

  It's not too personal at all but like Secret I have a certain reluctance to put just anything on my blog or comments since various people know me or have got to know me here.
  

• allswell said on Apr 22, 2007....

  i think because this is an anonymous blog you should feel comfortable saying anything. i think it helps you talk about and get advice that if your like me could never ask or say out loud. especially personal stuff.....with that i'm glad to know that i'm not the only one out there that has a hard time having an orgasm with my husband...i've been with him for 15 years and we recetly  have separated  and i have to admitt i hope the next man i'm with can give me great orgasm....i just feel like i'm missing a great sexual experience! 

• mystrongopinions said on Apr 22, 2007....

  Thanks for sharing Alyss...
   
  Alls....I'm sorry to hear about your recent separation, but
  you're right....sex should be great...there's no reason to
  settle....open communication and lots of reading about it
  helped me...also allowing myself to let go of the silly
  taboos...and telling myself that my sex life is mine...and I can either make it awesome or always be left wanting...
   
  You already know which one I chose....Smiles.
  Best of luck to you!

• ALIENated said on Apr 22, 2007....

  I am sorry. Are we discussing that you did not have an orgasm for 10 years or
  your right to talk about it here? I find the first much more interesting. So you
  have had an orgasm now? {assumes first topic is the right topic} Is your hubby's
  penis adequate, but flacid after a few moments of action? Do you find him
  unattractive? Does he just not try often enough? Are the kids in the way?
  Ignore me. I am just horney. Even talking about it helps. I have not had an
  orgasm is days (or whatever the male equivalent is).
  

• mystrongopinions said on Apr 22, 2007....

  LOL Alienated....the two topics correlate....yes, I had that issue for 10 years...and yes, I was asking if that's too
  personal of a topic to bring to a blog...
  Either way...no, nothing inadequate or unattractive about
  my husband...I explained that it had more to do with my
  inexperience and lack of communication than anything else
  and yes...my sex life is healthy now....
  Ever thought about masturbating? Just a thought...lol

• ALIENated said on Apr 22, 2007....

  OK, I did not read all the comments too closely. (A common mistake of mine. Too
  many posts, too little time.) Happy orgasms.
  

• majodah said on Apr 22, 2007....

  I think anything you feel you want to post isn't too personal, as long as you're comfortable with it.

• PeenkEyedDevil said on Apr 22, 2007....

       I think that only the blogger can decide what it too personal for  them.. 
      I know i came here (changed names to protect the innocent) and intened to let my life hang out....I know that you will and wont judge me by what i say.  And that gagues what i post. I need your judgement. So I post pretty much anything, mostly about my affair because that is what i need to talk about. 
       I know if  you guys think im an aweful human for having an affair (and yes i have begun to say the sky is blue..things are what they are)  you would tell me. But when it comes down to it..whatever you guys think about me at the end of the day..i can mull over in my head  (because you have been honest enough to tell me what you think.) and decide my path.
       I want your honest opinions. That is why im here. To talk about my life with those who wont mince words because they are afraid to hurt me. And because of, whatever friendships i may develop here, i will be able to take your praise or disdain, with a grain of salt and keep walking.  So i post it all. (sorry my pechant for rambling is hanging out)
  PeenkE.

• RELICOLONY said on Apr 23, 2007....

  Glad to hear that things are alright now - a little foreplay, believe me, goes a long, long.... way...to achieving real orgasm!

• mystrongopinions said on Apr 23, 2007....

  I agree Peenk.....not to speak for anyone...but I

  would imagine that we're all here to deal with

  something...or just to be heard/read....I find it

  to be a freeing exercise....thanks for sharing!

  Ditto reli...but even the foreplay needs to be

  what both people want and are aroused by...

  hence the need for communication always...

• AnnonymousNympho said on Apr 25, 2007....

  I started my blog out of a need to annonymously write about extremely personal things (hence my name, lol)  I think each writer should determine their own comfort level of what they are able to write.  Maybe two blogs?  One more G rated and not one so?
   
  About the orgasms...I got married for the first time at the age of 17.  I never had an orgasm with my husband.  In fact, in all my masturbating before that I'd never had an orgasm but stopped just as it was building up so I didn't even know what I was doing, yet I faked it.  I didn't want him to feel bad.  He never touched me below the waist.  Of course since I was faking it and not talking about it things never got better....how could he know?
   
  After I left him at age 23 I started buying books and learning about sex.  I masturbated as much as possible and really learned what orgasms and arousal were all about.  I'm highly orgasmic now and can even orgasm from certain external stimulates that have nothing to do with anyone touching my clit or vagina. 
   
  This was a long way of saying....practice :-)

• defector said on Apr 26, 2007....

  seriously i don't think such stuff was personal. we often seen this kind of article in the aunt agony section of magazines in my country. and its annonymous here.

  anyway.. to the orgasm thingy.. i guess some ladies just suffice with intimacy. it really takes the correct moves and touching the correct place.. my girl was the poor girl who didn't get to orgasm through penetration... hers was purely clitoral.. so every time i came... i move back to fore play (focused on her) with her again.. and she brought herself to her heights together with me.. guess thats another way to compromise...

  the worst a lady can get is that a guy slips into slumber land once he's done.. and the lady is left all alone to fed her own needs.. thats lonely.

• allswell said on Apr 26, 2007....

  hey defector i'm one of those ladies your talking about, my husband (now my ex) only seemed to care about his needs, there was so many times i would come so close and he would either change his position or movement and my almost would go away or he would finish and fall asleep within a minuet and just leave me lying there so unsatisfied. i know i should have said something but even after 15 years of marriage i just was not comfortable talking to him about my sexual needs and what feels good and doesn't....i wonder if i'll ever fill comfortable doing that...i mean if at 33 years old you can't by then, you probally never will....right? 
   
  by the way i think this is the best place to get as personal as you want because i would NEVER be able to talk about or say the things i say on here to anybody!
  so i am so glad i discovered this....i think being able to write my very personal thoughts down is so great! 

• defector said on Apr 26, 2007....

  you are able to talk to someone. its only a matter of fact you wanted to or not.
  

  anyway feeling is just like sex. when it comes to feeling, when you can't put it in person you put it in pen. when it comes to sex, when you can't have a good one with a person, you have it with hand.
  

  So can masturbation curb your urge all your life? is there a time when you really needs a session with someone. will writing suffice? hee.. eventually you will jump into the talking portion or jump onto another person.
  

  my 5 cents worth of thoughts

• mystrongopinions said on Apr 26, 2007....

  Great thoughts....very eloquent defector....wish all guys thought like you...

   

  OMG allswell@the guy changing pace or position...isn't the the most frustrating thing? I've been to the point where I've had to literally scold hubby for doing that...doesn't he get that repetition and rythym is what it's all about? lol

  And let me just say that I wasn't comfy talking about sex either until maybe 3 yrs ago....and I'm 35...so there's hope.

   

• allswell said on Apr 26, 2007....

  Glad to know there's still hope!! Maybe one day i'll have the balls to speak up and tell the man exactly what i want....oh that would be great....lol !!

• allswell said on Apr 26, 2007....

• marysaaka said on May 16, 2007....

  Personal is too personal when you decided not to tell that because your is my business.

• marysaaka said on May 21, 2007....

  I just must apoloize for f....ing up the comment just above, bear with me please, just so amazed so much and alison, when i have to comment behind her i get great cautions and i like that,        personal is to personal when you drawn the line inference to the amound of informations that you will share with another individual

• marysaaka said on May 21, 2007....

  Mystrongopinion, This is a very good post title, alot of time i see the one liners title are for me the hardest to answer, thank you for the post, when and if you run across alison, will you tell her to let me know what she think of the comments that i made to your title post, please.   Thank you.

• lisamay said on Oct 27, 2007....

  nothing is too personal for a blog. more personal the better.
  that the good thing about a blog. you can talk about anything and anyone can decide if they want to read it or not.
  ive just started posting, only one so far.
  
  
  

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