Just curious about this, and I'm feeling nosy. I've been pondering the subject of sex this evening, specifically, the dissatisfaction a lot of us seem to have regarding frequency of sexual encounters.
Sometimes for me, I would gladly forego the act of intercourse if I could have the kissing, fondling, and soft touches. I want the emotional intimacy. But sometimes I really do just want to get down to it, hard and fast.
So, what do you think? Every day? Once a week? Twice a week? If the stars were in perfect alignment, and your partner was eager and willing, how often would you want to have sex? Or is it quality over quantity?
MissMimi posted on Apr 20, 2007
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MindfulOne said on Apr 21, 2007....
If I had a sex life I could share...It's intimacy I crave -- emotional moreso than physical. I can pleasure myself physically anytime but intimacy cannot be manufactured by one. -
silverwhisper said on Apr 21, 2007....
you know the saying about men thinking about it once every few minutes or so?
i'm such a stereotype. :D
me, i'd like it once or twice/day. i don't think i could really do more than that realistically.
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MissMimi said on Apr 21, 2007....
I think our record is four times in one day (way back in college), and IIRC, I was sitting a little funny for a day or two. That's definitely quantity over quality. Twice or three times weekly would do me just fine. -
MindfulOne said on Apr 21, 2007....
Maybe I ought to sit funny to get some! -
KayRoseOrchid said on Apr 21, 2007....
such a loaded question!! I wouldn't mind having some quickies during the day, like 2 or 3 times. just all out sex--screw the intimacy {no pun intended ;) }
but if quickies are a no-go, then I'd need some passionate sex at night or wee hours of morning.
so basically, It's either quickies and no passion OR passionate night sex, oh say 3 or 4 times a week. I guess I'd say quantity.
DREAMWORLD?!?!
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mom said on Apr 21, 2007....
at least once a month :) -
gingersoul said on Apr 21, 2007....
Mimi......the record i held proud of the most frequent sex ever had in a row has been with my ex husband during the second year we met each other...we locked ourselves in our first tiny apartment for 2 days with food and drink enough to keep us from going out and we got down dirty and sweaty and kinky, passionate, sweet, fast and slow for 11 times in row.......
Yep, i couldn't walk and think straight after he left but it was damn worth it....LOL..
We used to have sex more than once a day (sometimes quickies in the laundry room or in the car would add up) and long hours at night..... until the last night.
Since now i am not in a stable relationship i cant say how many times i would like to have sex...its all relative to the partner...i like not having a prefixed chart....it must goes with the mood....
But yes...it should be at least once a day.......although i like making love at night.......its my preferred moment....everything is just sexier and sultry and sensual at night.......no interruptions, no hurry.......slow, deep and passionate....and then sweet nonsenses and cuddles before falling asleep........
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mom said on Apr 21, 2007....
Ginger- You are my hero! 11 times? Oh my goodness. WOW! -
Lucytorial said on Apr 21, 2007....
okay in a perfect world I'd love to make love or have sex once a day, as it is I get it maybe once a month until recently that is. I think about sex all the time, at least every hour or so..... I'm with you kayrose.... -
Eilan said on Apr 21, 2007....
My husband and I will go through periods where we'll have sex once (or very rarely twice, if we can manage to steal some moments away from the kidlets) a day for five or six days in a row, then maybe we'll go through a stretch where we won't for two or three days.
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mystrongopinions said on Apr 21, 2007....
It's usually anywhere between 4 or 5 times a week.....and I initiate it mostly...have a pretty hefty libido going on here....If I had my way...it would be twice a day...every day....lol, no kidding. Smiles... -
gingersoul said on Apr 21, 2007....
Mom....well, this is a throphy i should share with my ex.... but i wont....LOL...i like to keep it only for myself.....{hugs}. -
dyingman said on Apr 21, 2007....
Thrice a month.
I imagine if I didn't hint almost every night, it might be never. (She asks me to hint. Don't go thinking I badger her.)
Bless her heart, she wants to want to, but doesn't.
I'd likely quadruple the dosage if I had a wand of lust I could wave.
*DM
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satyr said on Apr 21, 2007....
If I could get good intimacy (touching, etc.) a couple of times a day, I could be happy with sex a couple of times a week. Since I don't get a lot of either, I crave both constantly. -
secretlife said on Apr 21, 2007....
in my perfect world? every day. -
LadyGamer said on Apr 21, 2007....
I miss intimacy AND eroticism. But I've begun thinking about it less and less. Simply accepting that sex is no longer a part of my life seems the best course.
In a perfect world. Once a day would be lovely. Somedays a quickie in a naughty place. Some days passionate night encounters. But at least one time per day.
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Alyss said on Apr 22, 2007....
I crave the emotional intimacy more than anything but I think with the right person it could be more than that. I certainly desire the physical intimacy.
In a perfect world, with the perfect partner I have no idea how often desire would call but I suspect more frequently than it has in the past.
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SoLost21 said on Apr 22, 2007....
I've always enjoyed sex . . . a lot; but with my current partner, sex has taken on a whole new meaning. Sex with him has practically become an obsession. Our schedules are pretty complicated, so we typically have sex only a couple of times a week. At one point we hit a record seven times in a row (I tip my hat to Miss Eleven -- kudos); but that was a rainy night and he didn't have to wake up early to pick his son up at the Ex's. In an ideal world I'd be having it twice a day, one naughty, one nice ;) but with being pregnant, working all the time and chasing an almost-four-year-old around on the weekends, a couple times a week is all we can typically muster. -
KayRoseOrchid said on Apr 22, 2007....
Lucy~it's good to know I'm not the only one! -
Cagney said on Apr 23, 2007....
I definately crave the emotional aspect of it, and my husband just likes the physical aspect. This is an area we have argued about for almost 14 years. He just doesn't understand what I mean by emotional aspect.
I know something bad happened to him when he was a child and I think that has more of an effect on him that he realizes. He equates sex with love.
So there are times we have gone months because we were arguing about it, but there are also times that we have gone once a day for a week straight.
If we could work out these differences than i would say once a week consistently would be great. That is our goal anyways and something we have been working on for almost 14 years, but we are optomistic that we can have it worked out before we die.
He would say multiple times a day.
I know there is a compromise in there somewhere.
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Susmaryosep said on Apr 24, 2007....
How often? You must be kidding! I only get it by "outsourcing" !!And more often only when I go overseas to Philippines............ hahahahahahah -
silverwhisper said on Apr 24, 2007....
"outsourcing"...bwa-ha-ha-ha-ha-ha!
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varada said on Apr 24, 2007....
Outsourcing is the correct word. If opportunity is available any time of the day is ok. Quicky is common. -
Susmaryosep said on Apr 24, 2007....
SW,
It's fun 'outsourcing' believe me... :-)) Wish it could be more often, like everyday? hohohohohohohohoho !
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blastfromthepast said on Apr 25, 2007....
Hubby and I get into it as often as we can. I'd say probably 4-5 times a week, sometimes twice a day, depending on whether our son is due home.MissMimi: To answer your initial question, yep, I'm satisfied! -
Susmaryosep said on Apr 25, 2007....
blastfromthepast,
4 to 5 times a week? Wish I had married you!! That is heaven!!! Now I am lucky if I get "outsourced" 4/5 times a YEAR ..... :-)
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mom said on Apr 25, 2007....
OK I didn't want to sound stupid, but I can't pretend to know what "outsourcing" is. Is it like cybersex? -
Susmaryosep said on Apr 26, 2007....
NO, Its just my way of describing having sex outside your own house, and with 'others' than your spouse? hahahahahah . The reason for 'outsourcing' is obvious, for married couples.. READ MY LATEST POST. :-))) -
defector said on Apr 26, 2007....
i guess if you sex is pretty much routine.. 1 a week is already a hassle.. if you change every other day in the way you make out.. every day is a new day man. so.. i'll put quantity and quality aside. I'll go for variety!! haha...variety suffice for quantity and fulfill that quality portion -
Susmaryosep said on Apr 26, 2007....
defector,
I thought I understood what you were saying, but then again..........;-)
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AnnonymousNympho said on Apr 26, 2007....
If "the stars were aligned" for me.....I would have no responsibilities, nobody depending on me, no job, no nothing. And I would steep myself in sex. I would live sex, breath sex, be sex. All the time. Realistically to keep me satisfied I would say probably 2-3 times per day. Of course, given my situation that's going to happen either. Oh well, such is life, lol. -
defector said on Apr 26, 2007....
Susmaryosep,
Its always a problem of whether sex life with our partner is too routine. you hug. you kiss, you stripped and then you f*** and then you sleep. 2 years in a relationship doing it 3 times a day for 2 full years is 1800 times of intercourse. Thats quantity. and wat makes this quantity quality? its variety haha.. why does individual get sucked into an affair? thats because their couple/sex life is too routine. and once you broke out of that routine.. you get into another routine. affairs does turn routine too. its only a matter of time haha... dunno if anyone of you agree.. thats how i felt.. so the answer to these problems are... add variety to our quantity.. this will not push us to break out of our routines.
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Susmaryosep said on Apr 26, 2007....
defector, Thanks, and all that's said is very true! but my wife is 60+ and had her menopause at 48. After that, she feels it better to forego the pleasure throes of the bedroom for the religiuos calm of the temple.. I have to respect her wishes, and that is the essence of an enduring marriage. So by 'outsourcing', but not bringing home the 'bacon', it's fine with me; I add variety, wife thinks I am saintly, and we have loveydovey marriage. Only problem is sometimes, it's not so easy to outsource, as I can't get any bidders.... hahahahahahahah. So finally I go for the foreign tenders :-)) -
Lucytorial said on Apr 27, 2007....
Foreign tenders????????? now we are seriously getting in to some kooky shit here.
I prefer to rely on my dildo if my husbands not up to it, which is a lot these days but thats my cross to bare....
Routine shmootine I don't like it defector variety is definitely the spice of life and quality can be spontaneous as well quantity... If only I could work out which damn switch it is in his head to turn on???
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Susmaryosep said on Apr 27, 2007....
Rely on your dildo? My, what a waste of 'natural' assets? Foreign tenders are 'kooky shit'? You have not seen those ravishing filipino ladies I am sure, but of course you won't be interested, just in your dildo. make sure you use "Energiser" batteries :-) .. There are many ways to turn the switch in his head on, one is NOT to treat him like you treat your dildo! Cheers -
defector said on Apr 29, 2007....
Haha.. try seducing him by being a woman men adore? My baby tried to seduce me once when i'm so tired from and can't get to life when she hinted it initially.. and i gave it to her the whole night. Like i say, the web is a library of life. you want it .. just google it and the know hows starts coming in on your screed. haha. -
Daniel68 said on May 03, 2007....
Once every other day. It really changes my personality drastically, I become much happier. I've gone, since my divorce, a long time with none. 4 months.
It sucks. Or rather... it doesn't suck. No sucking.
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Susmaryosep said on May 03, 2007....
once every other day? Are you in heaven? Wish i could have it once every other WEEK :-(( -
anonymous said on May 04, 2007....
Not real intercourse. Just some oral sex will do. She buries her face in my groins and gropes while I am sleeping. It gives an erection and she is on the job. Similarly I too lick when she is sleeping and search for her clit. She wakes up with a bang and what follows is a session of wild sex. You can do this any number of times. Mood will come automatically. This is repeated almost everynight or during the day when the kids are away in the school. -
Susmaryosep said on May 05, 2007....
Well, I don;t know if you read my earlier comments, but I don't have a "wild" companion. My wife is past menopause which gives her reason to stop the 'nonsense' .. I outsource my 'need' and that's not convenient, to put it mildly.. hahahahah once a month is lucky!
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jimidean said on Sep 13, 2007....
i like twice a day - once in the morning and once at night, and sometimes again in the afternoon. But I don't like routine, so it has to be changed up a bit. It also depends on how tired i am. -
x0_gemini_0x said on Oct 25, 2007....
my boyfriend and i have sex at least 6 times a day!!!! but i think that's mostly because even when he cums he's still hard haha i guess some would say i'm lucky -
varada said on Oct 25, 2007....
Made her to be without undergarments during day and night so that she is easily available and no time wasted in making preparations. Four or five times a day in quicky form was usual. Just a bit of oral sex to keep the craving on. Or just a penetration to keep the heat going and then a detailed affair in the bed. This was the routine. -
depressed said on Nov 08, 2007....
I used to think I could live without it, or not need it often. But I want it almost daily now. Problem: I am only getting it from the vibrator. But at least I always get the big "O". -
Racerboy said on Jan 04, 2008....
I need the intimacy and crave the closeness. If given the opportunity, al least once a day if not 2-3 times a day. But then I bet my eyes are bigger than my appetite. I'd be happy at once a week. But then I could never outsource! -
007Hardone said on Aug 21, 2008....
I want and need daily'n twice on Sunday, if not then I feel on edge till ,,,,, -
BEWELL said on Apr 27, 2009....
On weekends 3 to 4 times, but because of her work and family and my working late maybe once in the middle of the week. so it works out to 3 to 5 times a week. As a man in his early 50's I take good care of myself, I work out drink very lightly 3 to 4 beers a week, do not smoke and get 8 hours of slept. Last week even got ID for beer! LOL!! People say I look like I am in my late 30's and I think sex is a good part of staying young. The intimacy is also what help keeps one young and it is nice to focus on one person. When I was in my 20's yes I had alot of sex but it lack true intimacy and I think that can age you past your years.
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BEWELL said on Apr 27, 2009....
On weekends 3 to 4 times, but because of her work and family and my working late maybe once in the middle of the week. so it works out to 3 to 5 times a week. As a man in his early 50's I take good care of myself, I work out drink very lightly 3 to 4 beers a week, do not smoke and get 8 hours of slept. Last week even got ID for beer! LOL!! People say I look like I am in my late 30's and I think sex is a good part of staying young. The intimacy is also what help keeps one young and it is nice to focus on one person. When I was in my 20's yes I had alot of sex but it lack true intimacy and I think that can age you past your years.
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Edriisxe said on May 04, 2009....
I'd love to have it at least once or twice a day. Preferably at night, and perhaps in the morning. Seems like a great way to start the day with some confidence.I don't lke quickies. They just seem, bland. I want the intimacy, kissing, touching, wetting...i want it all. Goodness I will MAKE time. lol Watch me!!
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