• botoni said on Apr 18, 2007....

  This may sound terribly callous and its not meant to be. Wonderful as it is to receive gifts and recognition the solution to not being disappointed is to expect nothing. Then if you get a gift or acknowledment its extra wonderful special!
  Bear in mind ladies. We men are obtuse when it comes to rembering thes things. My marriage was the reverse. I did all the gifts, the surprises etc. After 20 years of marriage my wife couldnt even remember my birthday.

• Swizzle said on Apr 18, 2007....

  I know it sounds superficial. It just really can hurt being the mum of 4 (5 now)  when even your kids can't be led in the direction of making mommy a card.  I just posted this because sometimes, we take our loves for granted.  Even if I wanted to "expect nothing" somewhere deep seeded in my brain is "wow wouldn't it be really nice this year to hear Happy Mother's Day?". You, my dear I fear are the exception to the rule!  I have never forgotten to at the very least make a special dinner for any of the wonderful men in my life. 

• botoni said on Apr 18, 2007....

  Swiz.....I hope what i commented wasnt insensitive. WE all love to receive some special applause on our day. Its part of what makes us feel good and loved.

• Swizzle said on Apr 18, 2007....

  bot- No offense taken. I can see your point and I respect it.  On a side note-sugar pie recipe is up and waiting :-) 

• mom said on Apr 19, 2007....

  I think Swizzle it is all about attitude.  When our anniversary comes I expect him not to do anything other than a card, and he never disappoints me.  When it is valentines day I expect him not to do anything other than a card, and again he doesn't disappoint me.  When we go to bed at night, I don't expect him to be in the mood and once again he doesn't disappoint me. 
  If I ask him to fix something and knowing he won't, then I can be greatful that he doesn't disappoint me. I am one lucky woman.
   
  When I expect him to come home everynight to me, he does.
  when I expect him to bring me a mango smoothie everyday, he does.
  When I expect him to go to work to care for his family, he does.
  When I go to the store and spend money and don't expect him to get mad, he doesn't
  He may not be your conventional type of guy and I don't expect him to be.

• silverwhisper said on Apr 19, 2007....

  i'm big on hugs, myself. :D
  
  i do think that it's about expectations, like mom says, but it requires a desire to think about these things, too, and that's about priorities.
  
  i just wish your husband was a little more romantically inclined, swizzle. :<
  
  ed

• mom said on Apr 19, 2007....

  yeah, swiZzle I wish he was more inclined to be romantic too. :)
   
  Hugs are nice as long as your armpits don't smell.

• dailyachesandpains said on Apr 19, 2007....

  I think I should be the husband!
  I'm SOOOO bad with birthday presents and such.  It's only because I don't get out of the house much.  I do order things, but I refuse to pay for shipping from Hallmark!  He's difficult to buy for, now that I think of it! 
   
  Wait...he deserves it, he forgot to get me something on my first Mother's Day!  LOL!
   
  Daily

• mom said on Apr 20, 2007....

  I should be the husband too.  I would make a great husband.  I am very romantic and want sex all the time.

• Swizzle said on Apr 20, 2007....

  To all- I must reiterate- My husband is AMAZING!!!! Just has one small glitch in his programming.  Maybe it's that we get too caught up in our daily routines that little gestures of love fall by the way-side.  We are pretty busy with all of the boys and he is a very active father. Maybe when all the boys are older the little gestures will be there?
  Daily- I don't care about purchased things, yes they are nice but  it's more about gestures. I think that in most (not all) relationships there is one who does remember birthdays and little things more than the other. It's a balance/counter balance thing. Maybe?
  Mom- Who doesn't want it all the time? 
  

• mom said on Apr 20, 2007....

  Swizzle- my husband!,, and his gestures have become somewhat less than romantic.

• Swizzle said on Apr 20, 2007....

  mom-That's another one we should add to Zayda's IHIW list.  I hate it when my husband acts like a stereotypical woman and does the "not tonight dear..." thing :-D
  Just kidding, I can empathize, I have been there a number of times.  I used to threaten him that I was going to buy some adult entertainment videos or little battery operated friends.

• mom said on Apr 20, 2007....

  Swizzle- lol I didn't threaten him with it, I did it!

• Swizzle said on Apr 20, 2007....

  Mom-rotfl!!!

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