I have been looking you. Where are you hiding? You, meaning, those good men that respect and cherish their women. Hard-working, caring, and thoughtful. The ones to take to meet your family. Where are you?? Do you know??
MsBradford07 posted on Apr 17, 2007
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silverwhisper said on Apr 17, 2007....
sadly, i think they're likely asking the same kinds of questions on their blogs, ms bradford.
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TinSoldier said on Apr 17, 2007....
Well, there's an old joke which goes that we're all already married or have boyfriends :D ...
But like SW said, they're out there.
What makes a good man can be a difficult thing to judge. Some aspects can be agreed upon by everyone and other aspects can really only be judged by the individual who is looking.
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queenparanoia said on Apr 17, 2007....
theyre taken or gay!yeah i hear you msbradford! where the hell are the good men??? -
lioneljay said on Apr 17, 2007....
They're probably being held hostage in the same place where the universe holds all the good women. The problem, of course, is that once you have been married for a while you have ready access to seeing and finding the good ones but what's the point then, eh?
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MsBradford07 said on Apr 17, 2007....
That is true. -
Ormocanon said on Apr 17, 2007....
Sorry MsBradford, I'm taken already. :) -
hunter_boyce_chandler said on Apr 17, 2007....
MsI have no idea.I'm pretty much booked up for the next 80 or so years.HBC -
Vericona said on Apr 17, 2007....
Good men are like prime parking spaces: Handicapped or taken -
LilStinker said on Apr 17, 2007....
I've got this one figured out... HAHA!!! (I think)You see... the thing is that there are a lot of good men out there (and women) but ONLY the RIGHT person for them brings out the good in them.If you are the right person for them, they will treat you wonderfully. (If you aren't they'll say they love you while they treat you like crap and look for someone else... and this is true for guys and gals...) JMHO. -
skinandbones said on Apr 17, 2007....
I think they probably got lost, having not bothered to ask for directions. -
CreativeWoman said on Apr 17, 2007....
skinandbones...
I love your comment. :-D
CW
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gingersoul said on Apr 17, 2007....
Ok, this is tricky question....:-)
There are good men...I have met tons of them...i even married one. ...
So why am i divorced and single, you might ask?
Maybe because even if you marry a good man there is not guarantee he will stay good forever. You know, their guaranty expires and other women hunting for good men dont care if they are taken....
But I know there are good men out there .....even though in China and not here maybe....:-).
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LilStinker said on Apr 17, 2007....
You're divorced and single because you are no longer willing to settle for mediocre.I married a good man too. (well, my second one anyway... ugh) We were married for 17 years. But in the end? We just weren't right for each other and we never were. We did try. It just didn't work, and okay turned to bad and bad became worse.A man won't stray from you if he really wants you. The same thing goes for women. -
TheNakedProfessor said on Apr 17, 2007....
We were snatched up by the bad women... -
lioneljay said on Apr 17, 2007....
Or just snatched up. -
TinSoldier said on Apr 17, 2007....
The pun! It burns!
(Actually, I love puns. Well played!)
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gingersoul said on Apr 17, 2007....
Lil.... you can bet i am not going to settle for less than what i know i want....:-)
And no one leaves anybody at the end .....what its being left is what two people thought to be at the beginning and got changed along the way.....
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ALIENated said on Apr 17, 2007....
I was once a lump of coal. Over several years, my wife has used pressure to turn me into a big ole diamond. See me shine. Find someone with potential and whip them into shape. You know what to use to whip them into shape, right? However, when the training stops, they usually run away to find a new trainer.
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LadyGamer said on Apr 18, 2007....
Good men don't have to settle for broken goods.
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As to Alienated comment above.
I think picking a mate based on what you can change them into is a poor choice indeed. I have enough work making myself better. Who am I to know what would be best for someone else to be?
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MsBradford07 said on Apr 18, 2007....
That is a great comment, skin and bones. Thanks to all who left comments.
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sweetsoul said on Apr 18, 2007....
There are all sorts of good men out there...it's been my experience unfortunately that most of them are married though. -
skinandbones said on Apr 18, 2007....
It's true. We are married.;-) -
gingersoul said on Apr 18, 2007....
Ok, Skin......don't rub it now.........LOL.... -
skinandbones said on Apr 18, 2007....
Sorry...couldn't resist, and despite my earlier comment...i am flawed...but aren't we all? -
gingersoul said on Apr 18, 2007....
Skin....i forgive you....*wink*
And...certaintly so...and lost and in need of directions.... men and women, i mean....
I like what SW said....most likely the good men Ms is looking for are typing right now in some other post asking to themselves: "Where all the good women go?".
As always, its just a matter of good timing....:-)
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lioneljay said on Apr 18, 2007....
Timing is everything. -
silverwhisper said on Apr 18, 2007....
LG: we're all of us broken in one way or another. some of us are just better at hiding it than others. and in some cases, even from themselves.
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MsBradford07 said on Apr 18, 2007....
Thank you for the comment. -
Boonsketti said on Apr 18, 2007....
Your so-called good men are probably hiding in plain sight, and it is probable that you are blind to their goodness, because this is not the way humans were programmed to find a partner, long-term or short-term. Use your infinitely capable head, and observe your male acquaintances in different ways. -
MsBradford07 said on Apr 18, 2007....
Thank you boon. -
komadoa said on Apr 19, 2007....
I am a man... to be honest .. from my friends.. even seeing my grown up male relatives... a really good man ... is hard to come by... but if you can lead any man to Jesus Christ... wow... you will see a dramatic diffrence... more like a transformation...Honestly speaking i can say that i am a goodman... my relatives do say that the gorl who marries me will be lucky, coz i am loving kind... i do the dishes do the laundry and stuf .. but whe i was introduced to th eperfect man that ever lived, I found myself wanting.. I saw a sinner, a bad person.. because i may do great .. but i can become mean in my heart, i can be jealous.. so i am just soaking up this relationship with Jesus... just getting ready for that relationship with a woman if God wills -
TheNakedProfessor said on Apr 20, 2007....
Unbroken. But can take more options. -
oldog said on Apr 20, 2007....
Well, forty some years ago we wed, and I am afraid I was a dissapointment, as she started rejecting me and trying to remake me after our first and only girl child was born. Exacerbating this, she was in charge while I was on those long, lonely voyages to vietnam. I acquitted myself well as far as work was concerned , and stuck by her till our Daughter was out on her own, and through college. then i took her to the "Used Wifes Lot" where she found that she had no trade in value on a newer model, and no one wanted to take over payments. Gee, half of what I worked so verry hard for didnt look like all that much , and suddenly she was soooomuch more friendly, compliant loving even, go figure That was 20 years ago, we are still together, she knows that I wandered for good cause during a hell of a lot of lonely years. I am old, sick now , and tho' 2 years older than me she looks 20 years younger and a fountain of energy. i cant imagine getting along without her, but probably could make it , wouldnt mind a bit more companionship, but we are different and tend to go about our daily bidness separately. watch different programs sleep separately, and eat differently. I dunno, Am I a good man or a bad 'un? There are a hell of a lot of variables in interpersonal relations...whats good or bad? compatability takes years to understand, compensate, and lots of people never find any jooy at all.... good luck -
MsBradford07 said on Apr 21, 2007....
Old, you are not a bad man. You just need to communicate with your wife more. Do what couples do?? -
majodah said on Apr 21, 2007....
I don't know... all the boys I know are SO immature... -
MsBradford07 said on Apr 21, 2007....
How old are you, majodah?? -
majodah said on Apr 21, 2007....
why? -
majodah said on Apr 21, 2007....
OK! I'm 19, but i'm still in high school because i started school late...I'll be 20 soon!! awesome!
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majodah said on Apr 21, 2007....
I live in a small town
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dyingman said on Apr 21, 2007....
Sadly, the tired old line of married or gay has more than a grain of truth.
It may be a side effect of my heterosexuality but I've felt that the single guys I know have serious problems and the single ladies, while imperfect, are far too good to introduce to the male dregs society has put on the clearance rack.
Hell, I'm not a prize (not much money, very low ambition, arrogant) and my wife figured I was worth changing her name for. Doesn't say much about the competition. If polygamy ever becomes socially acceptable, guys like me might have to start cleaning ourselves up some.
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hunter_boyce_chandler said on Apr 21, 2007....
This has become a very depressing post. I'm sorry for my lack of enthusiasm.
Ms. there are good men out there, they just don't feel compelled to brag about themselves in a blog. They don't sing their attributes in a Hip Hop rhyme about Ho's and Pimps and Gats and Sista's with extra big asses.
They don't drive sports cars with a comb over. They don't practice talking deep while they shop for clothes in boys big and tall.
Ms. there are men out there who love their mothers and want nothing more than to make their parents proud of the spouse they have chosen to carry on the family name.
They are working hard trying to make a career and do not really understand why you women are not interested in them at all.
It is an unfortunate truth that women are attracted to evil hateful abusive men more than they are to kind thoughtful loving men. Maybe it is the fantasy women have about being ravaged by a cave man against a wall until they can't walk for days.
It's a shame that these same women will walk away from a man who is faithful true and loving.
Maybe it is an evolutionary imperative that drives women to relationships that are vile and destructive. I just don't know.
The net result is that there are good men out there that you have ignored.
Go find them.
HBC
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LadyGamer said on Apr 21, 2007....
I don't think so.
Uh uh. Nope. No way. I'm not buying for ONE minute that all the "good" men are just waiting for those stupid females to stop asking the bad men to abuse them.
I DEFINITELY don't go LOOKING for some bad boy to give me a thrill. The "good" ones? Aren't interested in people like me. Used and broken. Period.
There's nothing wrong with that. I'm not condemning. We all have our standards. And I admire people who adhere to theirs.
I think more women should be taught that they can be complete without ANY man. We do outnumber men after all. Men don't HAVE to be nice. They don't HAVE to watch themselves. There will ALWAYS be some female desperate enough to put up with whatever they dish out.
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TinSoldier said on Apr 21, 2007....
"There will ALWAYS be some female desperate enough to put up with whatever they dish out."
See, when I was younger replace the word "female" with the word "male" and I might agree with you.
I always have a difficult time understanding how women have a hard time finding a compatible mate.
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hunter_boyce_chandler said on Apr 22, 2007....
LG,
I'm sorry. You know as well as I do that there are HOARDS of women out there that get off on hateful selfish men.
You are not one of them, I'm sure. That does not detract from the shameful fact that spousal abuse is epidemic and the women who endure it keep asking for more.
You are not being honest If you are asking us to believe for one moment that you would spurn the proverbial "Biff" rich kid with a Jag and yacht who likes rough sex.
There are too many nice guys that get ignored in this reality. Women are attracted to money period.
Men achieve the most attractive women they can afford. Women achieve the most wealthy men they can attract.
To pretend anything else is just self delusion.
HBC
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LadyGamer said on Apr 22, 2007....
Hate to disapoint, HBC, but I HAVE spurned Biff when he proved to be an ass. Money is just a tool like anything else. I don't need a man to get money. I do that by myself just fine.I dare say more and more women are beginning to feel that way as well.Yes. There are still a large number of women who stay in abusive relationships. But that doesn't mean that those of us who don't are blind to the "nice" guys. -
hunter_boyce_chandler said on Apr 22, 2007....
LG,
I believe that you believe what you are saying. Unfortunately in my long ife I have seen very few examples of an attractive driven ambitious woman married to a nice guy who fixs bikes for a living.
How many Women do you know who have a Mr. Mom at home? How many of them are talking about how they've grown apart? How many of them are having affairs?
A woman needs to feel that her choice for a partner is an asset. When she feels that he is no longer a "great catch" he becomes a liability no matter how nice he is.
Just the facts Mam,
HBC
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LadyGamer said on Apr 22, 2007....
Maybe you are right. Maybe all the women men think are worth having ARE cold hearted bitches.
So that makes BOTH genders pretty much screwed, doesn't it?
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MsBradford07 said on Apr 22, 2007....
Majodah: Ok, I was just asking. I hope I didn't embarass you.
HBC: I totally argee with you.
Everyone else, thank you for the comments.
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moonriver said on Apr 22, 2007....
to everyone, esp to msbradford, ginger, and LG:
some good men turn bad
some bad men turn good
taken or not, happy or sad
whether chinese or a cool NY dude
all of 'em grow old and die
sooner or later, but why cry?
more of 'em will step up
as young lads soon grow up
so the lesson here, missy
is be quick but be choosy
so your chances are not all used up.
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majodah said on Apr 22, 2007....
It's fine. It doesn't matter and it's not really embarrasing to start school late! -
MsBradford07 said on Apr 22, 2007....
Ok, it doesn't matter as long as you are getting your education.
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