I'm so confused. I have a very serious problem that needs to be resolved. Please
anybody help me if you can. Here is my problem...
I don't really know how to start except to say that it is about my mother. Yeah, I
know thats not saying much, but I told you...I didn't know how to start.
Ok, some background information....my mother is controling--I don't know if she
feels that way or not, but she is. She tries to control her kids. I moved out of her
house a little over a year ago because she told me I couldn't go to a concert or I
had better have a new place to live when I got back. I moved in with my cousin.
I'm 22 years old, when I moved out I was 21, she can't tell me if I can go to a
concert or not. And then when I was getting my stuff out of the house she took
away the car she had given me because I was moving out. She said that my
brother needed it to get back and forth to school, (what she was really trying to
do was to get me to stay.) Later on after I had moved out she said that she only
said that I couldn't go to the concert because she was mad at me for some
unknown reason.
I didn't move back in, I was living on my own, I was growing up. Some parents
should be prowd of their kids for flying solo, not my mother.
So now you know a little of the background with fights I've had with her. Here is
my problem...
About 3 0r 4 months ago my brother and I traded some things, I gave him my car
audio system and he gave me his old boat. We both agreed it was a fair trade.
Then about a month ago, my mother and other brother (the one who needed the
car for school) wanted to trade the boat in for a car for him. First my mother takes
away my car to give to my brother, then she wants to take away my boat to get
him another car. He needed a new car because (luckily she took the car from
me) the car he had was a piece of s*** and just needed to be junked. But I
wasn't going to let them have my boat, the only fair thing would have been to give
me back my system (I had to practecly steal it from him the first time when my
mother took the car away from me. My guy and I had to cut the wires and get it
out of the car because my brother wouldn't let me touch it.) So I wasn't going to
give in and let them get rid of my boat because I would have got nothing out of it,
and I wouldn't have my system.
I know this all sounds mean, but really I promise its not. I found out a day after this
fight happened that they had enough money to get my other brother (the one I
gave the system to originally) an SUV. He has a Toyota (and it runs good, he
didn't need a car.) And they got my (system stealing) brother a pick-up truck.
So why did they need the boat for a trade-in? I will never know.
Now back to the day before...I was telling them that I wasn't going to give up the
boat and they couldn't take it from me because that wasn't fair. We fought about
that. Then hung up the phone. They call me back a little later and my mother gets
on the phone and says (pretty much this) that she doesn't want them to have
anything to do with me, and that we were going to stay out of eachother's lives.
I spent the whole night crying. I didn't know what to do--first my dad leaves the
family (so I had no dad) now my mother doesn't want anything to do with me (so
I have no mom now either.) I was upset, my guy was holding me--he didn't know
what to say. The next day I vowed to myself to never let her hurt me again.
Ok, cool, I'll never talk to her. They know where I work, so most people would
think that they wouldn't go there. But today they did, my brother with the SUV and
my mother came in to get gas, luckily they forgot the gas key and left. They live
too far away from were I work to come back just to get gas (gas costs too much
now-a-days).
What my question to you all is...What should I do if they come back another day
and try to talk to me? I don't want to talk to them (especially my mother), but I
work at a gas station and people go there to get gas. And I don't want to talk
to her because of this grudge I have with her. I can't see myself letting her back
into my life and her hurting me again. I don't want to deal with that now. I don't
want to handle the stress of that, especially scence I want to try getting
pregnant.
I just don't know what to do?? I need help please....
