• silverwhisper said on Apr 10, 2007....

  so very, very many in mine, GS. i will tell that tale later in the day.
  
  ed

• gingersoul said on Apr 10, 2007....

  SW....waiting .....:-)

• lioneljay said on Apr 10, 2007....

  I don't know if it's coincidence or simply that once we meet someone we find suitable we start to give meaning to the random events that surrounded the meeting.
  
  Yeah, I'm in a spoilsport kind of mood these days. :p
  

• gingersoul said on Apr 10, 2007....

  LJ.........no, probably you are right.......is the present that gives value to the past then? It might be that we can recognize the signs only when they are neatly laid on in front of us...

  Its like the Russian Babushka dolls...you open one and inside there is another one and then another one inside that one....like the layers of an onion...

  We think: if i didn't go there, if i didn't change my mind, if i didn't answer that call....if...if...if.....

  But its also equally plausible to think: i took that direction because i had to, i chose to call because i coudn't  do differently...i love because i have to and so on......

  Are we plaied by the case or pushed by a force we cant see?   

• lioneljay said on Apr 10, 2007....

  I think that the search for meaning - the very need for meaning - is deeply human and without it we would barely exist. We are driven by this need on many levels in our lives, and certainly our love life is one area where we are desperate to find meaning (if not desperate to find a love life).

• polarheart said on Apr 10, 2007....

  Dear Ginger,
   
  You know where I stand with regards to my spiritual beliefs.  I dont believe in coincidence in my own life, I believe in God-incidence.  I believe that He has a certain perfect will for my life (also a permissible will - but that's another subject altogether) and I strongly believe that meeting my husband the way I did was part of God's plan for my life.
   
  Love and {{{{hugs}}}}}, Polar

• gingersoul said on Apr 10, 2007....

  LJ......."desperate to find a meaning..."...i wouldn't define my surprise in finding coincidences a result of a desperation mode......actually.....finding them brings me a sense of relief, a lightheaded feeling....like when you are on the verge of losing control.......:-)

  Polar......God-incidence is a beaitiful way of put it.......it must be my lack in the faith department that opens for me the door to question of this kind....i once said and repeat many times to my girlfriend who is a fervent believer like you (i told you you remind me of her...) that you believers are lucky.....you dont have to look for answers anymore...everything is spread out in front of your heart to believe and feel...

  i am glad for you and for her since this faith of yours makes you strong and sure...{{hugs}}

• lioneljay said on Apr 10, 2007....

  Ginger, I'm not very familiar with the feeling of losing control....usually I seize it and insist that my partner give it up.

• KayRoseOrchid said on Apr 10, 2007....

  Thanks for directing my attention to that story. I laughed, I must admit =) I thought David Brown was funny: "Did I meet you last night?" ahaha
  Plus his name closey resembles mine so that may be why I really laughed!
  

• mousenphonic said on Apr 11, 2007....

  My whole lovestory is one big coincidence. I had to dedicate a whole post to answer your question here.  Hope the link works.
   
  <*ms

• viciousgrl said on Apr 11, 2007....

  i can honestly say that in my lovestory it was simply and surely, fate's work....
  we had splitten up about 5 months ago, because we had decided that it was best because of the distance ...and i was still not over him...anyway, in a vacation i had to go to a collegue's house, and on the way, i just started thinking about him...wondering if he was int town...i hadn't seen him since we broke up...but i couldn't stop thinking about him...and i wondered if i was ever going to see him again...at one point i said to myself...this si stupid! stop thinking about him, i'm not going to meet him, and if i do, it's fate!...i continued walking for about a minute, and guess who i saw...him! i couldn't belive it!it was like asking fate if it was worth continuing, and she answered yes...since then we're back together, cause he couldn't stop loving me either....we've gone through every problem we faced, and are currently as happilly in love as possible...
  

• missb said on Apr 11, 2007....

  Ginger,
  
  That's such a sweet story. I do believe in predestined meetings and such. I met my bf in taiwan. I was once pondering whether i'd still meet him if i went to china instead of taiwan.
  
  I believe that you will eventually meet the people you're supposed to meet in life. Maybe sooner or later, but you eventually will. Have you seen the Gwyneth Paltrow's "sliding doors"? That movie sums it all up perfectly. If you haven't, i recommend it for you to watch. It's a good one :)
  
  Cheers!
  

• moonriver said on Apr 12, 2007....

  ginger -- the story of how sophie and i met and fell in love has almost no coincidences, as far as i can recall. common friends knew that i was loveless for too long already, while she desperately needed someone to love. then she had a breakdown, and i had second thoughts. friends literally set us up for dates; she was indifferent. my family rejected her at first. many friends thought it was a mismatch, a clash of different upbringings, ill-fated in the end. you could say that we tried to fight against all these odds for many years.
  
  

• silverwhisper said on Apr 13, 2007....

  GS, my response became rather long so i have chosen to blog it separately.
  
  ed

• PooponDrScience said on Mar 04, 2008....

  {{{Huggie Greetings}}} to you GingerSoul,
  My Mom wanted to die and had a lingering pathetic illness. I began praying to God that He take her at the appropriate time ( when I wasn't working, when my kids were well, etc.) Four or five years later, my Mom passed onto the next world. She was 83.
  I was (and still am) miserably married. I wanted to meet a nice man who could be my best friend. I began praying to God to meet a nice guy, thinking it would take 4-5 years for my prayer to be answered. 
  A couple of months later, my mother-in-law went into the hospital. She thought she would die there. She was released from the hospital at Thanksgiving time. I suddenly realized I was free to attend and sing at a music conference in Atlanta, GA. I was in Atlanta 4-5 days. The last night I stayed in the Hotel, I had dinner for the second time with a lovely older woman. For some odd reason, I lingered at the table alone. Dinner service had stopped.  I heard a voice in the dark calling to me from across the room. "Hey, are you Baha'i?" I said yes. We started sort of shouting at each other from across the room and I felt as if sparks were shooting out of my brain and hitting him in his brain. After a few minutes he asked: "Can I come sit with you.?"
  I stayed up with him until about 4 am the next morning. We talked and talked, got a snack at an all night store, and I laughed my head off. We exchanged phone numbers. At first he lived farther away. After about 1.5 years his elderly mother needed a companion, so he moved in with her, and thereby moved closer to me.
  We are still best friends after 4.5 years. I love him dearly and he treats me like a queen.
  
  

• gingersoul said on Mar 04, 2008....

  PODS...what a touching story.......i am sorry to read about your unhappy marriage but i am smiling because you found your best friend and soulmate....

  Soulmates dont have to be only our lovers....actually, all my soulmates have been my best friends....

  You seem to have found yours...:-)  

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