• silverwhisper said on Mar 25, 2007....

  i would be surprised and honored by a friend asking such a thing. honored, b/c most of my friends would probably make good sexual partners, but surprised, as my friends also know that i am devoted to my wife.
  
  were i single, i'd be open to the possibility, i think, but only if i could see a relationship of some kind growing out of it--i've learned that after a while, i'm not capable of having sex with someone w/out some measure of commitment.
  
  ed

• queenparanoia said on Mar 25, 2007....

  i'll be a little honored cuz it means he is attracted to me but i will also ne insulted because he won't consider to have a relationship with me.
   
  but it all depends if i will do it. if i'm sexually attracted to him. why not?

• anonymous said on Mar 25, 2007....

  ..whoah!!fuck buddy ha?!..well, being single and raised from a conservative family,i wont go for it..

• anonymous said on Mar 25, 2007....

  ..whoah!!fuck buddy ha?!..well, being single and raised from a conservative family,i wont go for it..

• anonymous said on Mar 25, 2007....

  ..whoah!!fuck buddy ha?!..well, being single and raised from a conservative family,i wont go for it..

• billmac said on Mar 25, 2007....

  I went throu a period of time some yrs back where I had several .I would ALLWAYS be honest up front and never try to use of lie to the woman. I only wanted them to enter in to this arangement of there own free will. They work for awile BUT if one of the partners grows feeling for the other behond fucking then its over! I had one woman aproch me for Fuck Beddys some yrs ago. She made it clear that there would only be fucking and no relationship! I agreed and entered in to the best sex of my life even to this date several years later! I broke the rules by falling in love with her. When I told her I was cut off and DONE! Cant blame her thou I knew the rules going in. billmac   

• missunderstood1162 said on Mar 25, 2007....

  Lioness...is this in real life or a cyber fuck buddy?  sorry just had to ask....either way I'd probably be flattered but consider it VERY CAREFULLY.  I don't know your marital status or anything but it asks a lot of a person, particularly one that is an emotional person in nature, to suspend those feelings for sexual ones alone.  I can also see what Queen said about why doesn't he want a real relationship with me.
  
  I knew a guy once that I would cross paths with regularly.  He was determined to be my fuck buddy but pretty much acted like I didn't exsist the rest of the times.  There really wasn't any buddy about it.  But he would turn up now and then and just blatantly ask for sex.  I bet you can guess how much he got without at least an OUNCE of emotional connection ?  ZIP.  I wasn't asking for a committment or anything but geez. 
  
  Please guard your own heart from pain. 
  And that's not saying don't do it.  LOL.    If you think you can handle it ...REALLY handle it for what it is.  Then there you are. 
  

• SeanRenaud said on Mar 25, 2007....

  Been there, done that rather like it.  A lot of the time, like now, I'm in no mood to put up with a woman (or if I swung that way a guy cus I imagine we bring some drama at some point even if I rarely see it) and her emotional baggage and her drama.  I however don't want to masturbate all the time.

• husbandhater said on Mar 25, 2007....

  I could use a Fuck buddy if I get divorced! I'll get back to you on that front!

• missunderstood1162 said on Mar 25, 2007....

  lol HH....you made me laugh.  I remember that when I was leaving my kids dad.....but it took me a while to want to be with ANYONE at all.

• dazed_and_confused said on Mar 25, 2007....

  ahem. Actually Lioness, Mel, a friend of mine way back in college asked me to be his FB since God knows how long. :P And I refused him...for the nth time, LOL. Well, its not because I don't like him, its the opposite. Its just that it would be very hard to separate feelings of love and feelings of pleasure for me... I might confuse it with the other.
   
  Earlier this month, another guy joked about me and him being FBs :P hahha This time it was Jon, a gorgeous and sexy friend of mine hahah :P But then, I said no for the 2nd time! :P LOL. But I am thinking about it though... and up until now, his offer's expiration date is a bit indefinite LOL. He's way sexy and has that yummy abs... Though, I don't know if I'm ready yet to be anyone's FB at the moment...Well that's coming from a virgin's point of view. LOL. But hey, if I ever get laid and become an expert, well, then bring it on. For now, my legs are crossed... for now LOL
   
  P.S. Both are single guys, and I am a single girl! :P
   
  Cheers!

• minniemouse said on Mar 25, 2007....

  I had an old boyfriend that turned into a "friend with benies" or "fuck buddy" which ever term floats your boat.  We dated for a while and never really clicked romatically, but in the sack...WOW....so we agreed to keep our relationship to what we do best!!!  Oh the good ole days......  I couldn't see doing it with someone that I'm just regular friends with.  Would seem awkward after. 

• MsBradford07 said on Mar 25, 2007....

  I would be surprised 'cause I didn't know that someone looked at me in a sexual way and two I would try 'cause I haven't had sex in 6 months.

• ninjapirate said on Mar 26, 2007....

  I've been in one of those, hopeing I still am haha.  I told myself I'd never do that, but he was to much to resist.  However, I do think we have feelings involved, because our main reason of not having more together was that we live far apart, so having friends with benefits was better than nothing to me.   

• CreativeWoman said on Mar 26, 2007....

  I don't know how I would react to the proposition.  There was a time when I would have instantly said no.  These days, I don't know.  If I were single, a definite maybe if there was a spark.
  
  CW
  

• mom said on Mar 26, 2007....

  I used to have those, except at the time they were called "Bed Partners"  They weren't anything more than a few words and great sex.
   
  Now though, I would laugh and then if they were serious I would be pissed.

• LadyGamer said on Mar 26, 2007....

  I have done the FWB thing. As has been said, if you are honest and upfront, it can work. When it was someone with whom I was very good friends before the sex was introduced, it worked VERY well. But someone who was not already in my tiny circle of trust? Not so much.

   

  Oh and I would feel flattered. First because he must think I'm attractive and second, he must think I am mature and smart enough to carry it off. I know, that second is probably hooey but it works for me.

  *laughs*

• lioneljay said on Mar 26, 2007....

  I find the FWB concept more than a little intriguing - but mostly as an intellectual excercise. I know that if I were single again that I would want to avoid monogamy for a while. This having a few FWB relationships would allow me to range far and wide - perhaps even spending time with some of my out-of-town SC friends. :D 

• freespirit4u said on Mar 27, 2007....

  Lioness, like some others who've responded to your queries, I've been there and done that. I've come to the conclusion that it's very much a physical/personal decision. Was I complimented? Yes, I was but that doesn't mean I took up any or all offers. The biggest detriment that I see in being or having a FB is the baggage that may arise from repeated liasons. I avoid those scenes at all costs, no matter how much I might want to be with the other person. Not all are capable of keeping recreational sex between friends, recreational.

  My two cents worth.

  J

• Lioness said on Mar 27, 2007....

  Oh my, I am really overwhelmed by massive responses.. Thanks a lot guys!  My workload got  me  a  busy for  a while hence the delay in my response. Sorry for that.

  Ed: can I sum it up to flattered? =) From what I gathered, FB is a relationship without any commitments. So, it’s a no.

  Queen:  Sexual attraction is more like it. So, you mean it depends?

  Anon: Well noted. Based on some articles, FB is only applicable for single people. A no.
  

  Bill: Welcome to my blog.  Yup, it is an arrangement all right, and sticking by the rules. You fell in love? It was a heartbreak waiting to happen..  A yes.

  Missunderstood: ups, I missed some important details. This is in real life. I am currently single and have emotional tendencies. Does that mean he only remembered you when he felt like doing it?  It depends.

  SeanRenaud: welcome to my blog! A yes. Women tend to be clingy and dramatic indeed. But as bill said, men are not exempted.
  

  Husbandhater: LOL, we’d look forward to that. I mean the FB, not the divorce. ;-) So that could be it depends.

  Dazed: Hmm... I wonder for how long such legs would be crossed? It depends.

  Minniemouse: welcome to my post! BF turning into FBs? I haven’t thought that would be possible. A yes.

  MsBradford: maybe you just don’t notice. =)  A yes.

  Ninjapirate: welcome to my blog!! better than nothing and too much to resist... Interesting. What if there were no feelings involved?

  CW: It depends if there’s a spark (chemistry/ mutual attraction, I suppose?).

  Mom: I guess the terms changed, but it’s still basically the same? A yes.

  LadyGamer: Good friends as an FB. I wonder how it feels like mingling with FWBs... I don’t think I could face them in public, as if nothing is going on. LOL. A yes

  Lioneljay: avoiding monogamy for a while.. hmmm.. Seems like a yes to me.. I am sure some SC members would be willing to, but then, your not being single is an obstacle. =)

  Freespirit4u: welcome to my blog! It seems that going into such an arrangement is not very easy.. There are some danger zones that must be avoided. A yes too.

• ninjapirate said on Mar 28, 2007....

  Nice to be here!  If there was no feelings involved, I'd say no way, at least hopefully hehe.  Of course I'd be flattered though.   

• sheissilent said on Mar 30, 2007....

  All I can add is that I once had FB. He was someone I didn't even really like that much, but the sex was amazing. I think having it out in the open like that before you even start anything can be very liberating.
  I wasn't trying to get him to fall in love with me, I didn't even care if I saw him the following week, and it gave me freedom to actually enjoy myself. It gave me a power I had not had before, because before that, I thought that you should only have sex with someone you are married to or at least in love with, and that sex and love were interchangeable.
  Plus the fact I didn't like him that much outside of the bedroom gave me the freedom to tell him exactly what I thought at all times, which was great. If I wanted to tell him to fuck off, then I did. :)
  So I guess what I am saying is that FB's can be beneficial, if you can handle the fact that it is not a relationship.

• Bronx said on Mar 30, 2007....

  Lioness: I would be proud because I'd know the lady meant it after knowing me so well.
  
  But I'd decline because experience has shown that such relationships usually don't turn out well in the end - too much familiarity, I think.
  
  Friends just don't F... Friends!
  

• The_three_F_words said on Mar 30, 2007....

  FIRST OF ALL, SURPRISED, AT THIS POINT, CONSIDER IT.  MARRIED,YES, FAITHFUL FOR 28 YEARS.  BUT NOW, GIVEN CIRCUMSTANCES, IT MAY BE TIME FOR OTHER CONSIDERATIONS. 

• CamDaMan20 said on Mar 30, 2007....

  Only if I could share this FB with my gals.....
  
  Refuse outright to sneak around just to have a FB and risk the world I happily exist in.
  
  However, it would have to be discreet and kept that way.  Females only.
  
  
  

• anonymous said on Mar 31, 2007....

  This kinda things that is killing our world today. Fucking is reserved and Ordained by God from the begining to be a husband and wife thingy. Outside of that it just brings destruction and pain

• CamDaMan20 said on Mar 31, 2007....

  If ya had any balls you wouldn't have gone anonymous, and if ya don't have any balls on line, odds are ya don't have da balls to actually fuck offline.  Bite Me

• SeanRenaud said on Mar 31, 2007....

  Wow, I'm about to break a cosmic law of some sort.  Go Cam go!!!  Now that I'm done cheerleading.
   
  No what's killing the world is idiots who believe in God and let that belief drive them to fly planes into buildings and prevent medical research.  Its amazing the kind of blatant bravery it takes to make an anonymous comment, I mean damn.

• CamDaMan20 said on Mar 31, 2007....

  Sean, excuse me, did you not mean.......Goddamn.

• komadoa said on Mar 31, 2007....

  I went anon earlier Cam, thereafter created my account.. so here i am..wow.. didn't realize that i will strike some nerves(this is soo cool...)LOL!! Believing in God is not about sending planes into buildings.. its about God himself ..LOVE unconditional... and by that love .. Respect... and in that quote.. respect for ourselves... why destroy yourself through promiscuity... So if you have the guts to cheer Cam, Sean... I wish you have the nuts to save him 2.. bless u/

• CamDaMan20 said on Mar 31, 2007....

  WHATDAFUCK ? Godamnitman get your head out of your ass.  I am very happy where I am at in life without some kinda "soul sucker" speading bullshit in the pastures I am blessed to be grazing upon.  Thus and henceforth....Bite Me.

• komadoa said on Mar 31, 2007....

  Cool it Cam, didn't meant for you to get heated up. If you are happy then fine, n by the way did you do that stuff..?? "gettin your head in your arse..". ?? that must be a scene....!! Peace/

• CamDaMan20 said on Apr 01, 2007....

  Komadoa: Why would you come to a post such as this one..."Fuck Buddy, Anyone?"
  
  And try pushing "GOD" and we kind of people are destroying the world BS ?
  
  And, then to exit with...Peace ?....give us a break for crying out loud, were just sharing in  a bit of fun.
  

• Lioness said on Apr 02, 2007....

  Whoa! Seems like it's gotten hot in here. =)
  
  Ninjapirate: That is clear enough, thanks.
  
  sheissilent: Hi! surprisingly, I used to believe that too.. Only to find out that sex and love are distinct from each other. It is hard to fall for a guy you barely like but enjoy his company.. Hmmm.. nice strategy. A yes.
  
  Bronx: Glad to see you here!  familiarity cannot be avoided indeed. A no.
  
  The-three_F_words: Welcome to my post! Hmmm... 28 years, wow, way to go! It seems that our beliefs do change in time.. I wonder if having FBs or FWBs is considered as cheating? A yes.
  
  CamDaMan20: welcome to my post! I see you have a happy relationship right now, great! I am sure some girl(s) willing to become your FB(s) will welcome a unique setup. Definitely a yes.
  
  Komadoa: welcome to my post! I respect your view on this matter, as much as I respect the views of other SoulCasters who have openly shared their  experiences and preferences.  It is apparent that you disagree with having FBs or sex outside marriage. Well taken.
  
  Thanks for sharing your opinion on this guys, I appreciate it a lot. We all have varying beliefs about this kind of relationship, and I did not expect overwhelming response. As always, everything depends on the choices we make, to do or not to do. I hope that this won't be a basis for having prejudice towards others whose belief is different from what we personally believe in. It still boils down to that word: "respect".
  
  NB: sorry, I lack sense of humor. =)
  
  
  
  
  

• one_eyed_spitting_dude said on Apr 04, 2007....

  In college, I had a Fuck Buddy...It was great to beable to call up this girl when I got a hard-on, knowing she was ready to fuck me...no questions asked. She was kinky so that made it alot better...we fucked any many positions!

• one_eyed_spitting_dude said on Apr 04, 2007....

  sorry about the miss spelling on the previous post.

• anonymous said on Apr 09, 2007....

  Everyone single should not live a celibate life. go find yourself one - Its easier than you think!! Fuck Buddy

• passionate said on Apr 09, 2007....

  Everyone single should not live a celibate life. go find yourself a Fuck Buddy - Its easier than you think!! Fuck Buddy

• passionate said on Apr 09, 2007....

  Everyone single should not live a celibate life.  go find yourself a Fuck Buddy - Its easier than you think!!
  
  Fuck Buddy
  

• Lioness said on Apr 12, 2007....

  Hi one_eyed_spitting_dude, welcome to my blog!  Thanks for sharing your experience. You sounded like you had sooooo much fun. Btw, I don't mind misspelled words.  A yes.
  
  Hello passionate, thanks for reading... I am sure your link would be helpful to those who wish to have one. I saw the site. I guess celibacy, as much as having intercourse (having an FB to be exact), is a personal choice.. Also a yes.
  
  I am curious, for those who said "yes", if anyone cares to answer (again).. Is it possible to have more than one FB at a time, and have an FB while at the same time having a serious relationship with someone else?

• CamDaMan20 said on Apr 13, 2007....

  Speaking from experience, I still have fuck buddies I met when we were 12...and yes, you know its possible to enjoy both a serious relationship, and still enjoy the sex of another.

• Lioness said on Apr 16, 2007....

  Hi Cam, thanks for that candid answer of yours! Interesting.
  

• gentlepie said on May 29, 2007....

  before when i was single the idea of an FB enticed me. its next to being safe, (what with all the STD scare out there) presuming that your FB is monogamous, meaning its just you that he/she is fuckin. you can call the person anytime you fill the itch and voila... instant sex! i never found one though. :)  what i found was more than i hoped to find. i found love. we are nearing two years now.. :)

• CamDaMan20 said on May 31, 2007....

  Thats not interesting, what I find interesting myself, is that I can not remember a single female I ever had sex with that was limited to a single incident.
  
  So it doesn't surprise me that I have girls I dated when we were very young teens still as friends who stop by for coffee, go camping w/ us, hell, even take their own children to the same DR's office.  And, yes, we still have sex occasionally irrespective of them having married or are otherwise attached.
  
  Cam..
  

• TheBeastHeMetCa said on Jun 15, 2007....

  FB , Fuck Buddy is a like a thing gay guys like calling their partners, mmm, bend over boy and I will be your best buddy, hold on a second, now, scream boy, oh yeah, tell papa all about it boy, thats a good boy, dont buck your superior, no, no, brace for it now, yeah, oh yeah, now thats a scream boy, I bet they heard you in china, oh yeah boy, now your livening up some now, you now Dad just wants your maggot slime scum ass cleaned up, whoa boy, sceaming and bucking at the same time, your a wold one buddy, hows this, a gag so we keep it down and dont disturb the neighbors, mmm...

   BEAST HEmET GAY LICKS, PYSCHO SEXUAL PRISON SEX...

• anonymous said on Jun 17, 2007....

  maybe Ca will get a big one and just drop off taking scum like you with it, 

• anonymous said on Jun 17, 2007....

  I ve got... 9 that will make you  jingle jingle jingle...~~~~~~~...tingle tingle tingle...<><><><><>...

• Lioness said on Jun 19, 2007....

  hi gentlepie, thanks for dropping by.. from what you said, I gather that you considered the idea, but just didn't have the chance. Congratulations on your 2nd year!! =)
  
  Cam, the convenience of having sex with the girls and now ladies or women is an example of FB that lasts for quite a time and does not necessarily end in a short period, which means that there must be some kind of a relationship established.. Or that's how I view it personally. You must be too caring a guy to be ignored. I wonder if you ever fell in love with any of the girls?
  
  TheBeastHeMetCa, thanks for taking time to read and share your opinion.
  

• CamDaMan20 said on Jun 19, 2007....

  Your a tricky lil lioness....
  
  Relationship or friendship .....both about the same, but on a separate level of each.
  Clearing one has sex with more associates and friends than strangers would you not venture to agree ?
  
  I think the reasons FB's survive a passage of time, is because of a trust that has developed over time.  Trust and respect enough to be discreet and respectful enough not to discuss either yours or the other parties business openly or in demeaning fashion.  Never understood how a man could try so hard to be with a woman only to turn around and dog her subsequently for whatever reason.
  
  Just makes sense you have great sex with those you know and...trust.  Loose either and thats about the end of the line.  I simply refuse to cross that line, thats all.
  
  Cam.
  

• CamDaMan20 said on Jun 19, 2007....

  *clearly....one has sex (plz excuse the error above)
  

• Lioness said on Jun 19, 2007....

  Thanks Cam, I understand what you are saying and am learning from you. Trust plus respect, hmmm...
  
  This might be too advanced. It just amazes me how FBs could go about it, without really crossing the line. I mean emotions can be tricky as well. Constant companionship may be an avenue for developing love or affection, more so that they may be friends or associates.
  
  I just had to ask, having FBs is not all about togetherness. Does it have any disadvantages too?
  

• CamDaMan20 said on Jun 20, 2007....

  Disadvantages...only those you create by getting greedy in my opinion. 
  
  I've known some of these women 20 years now, some more some less.  I do not believe the women whom I engage with sexually  look at me, or I them, as permanent.
  As in couples ya know ? They have their lives, and I mine. 
  
  Perhaps we get to time travel for a moment recapturing some young memories that allows us to escape the moment.  Maybe just a break from the norm.  I care for each of them as more than just friends, yet love them not in the same fashion as I do the Mothers of my children.  I believe its the same for them.
  
  But we both enjoy a trust together knowing we can depend on each other not to bring discourse into each others worlds  for to do so, would eliminate the one we share if only occasionally.
  
  Yea, trust and a deep respect for one another that just doesn't reach the mantle of love, except that of which is given freely in each others arms.
  
  Cam.
  
  .
  

• Lioness said on Jun 20, 2007....

  Cam, 20 years, oh wowww... Thanks for shedding light to this very mysterious set-up called FB. From what I learned from you, if people agree to do a certain thing together, and they love/enjoy doing it, without compromising or messing up with each other's personal lives (respect each other), then the set-up would work and last for, like you said, decades. I am amazed! =)
  
  
  
  

• CamDaMan20 said on Jun 20, 2007....

  Seems to work that way for me, then again, I don't share my secret fishing holes either.  lol  
  
  Cam.
  

• Lioness said on Jun 21, 2007....

  Ohh! Good thing you mentioned that before I even blurted it out, I was heading towards that direction. =)

• CamDaMan20 said on Jun 22, 2007....

  Too bad you weren't in the neighborhood....
  
  Cam.
  

• Dandy_Lion said on Jul 13, 2007....

  I'd be okay with it when I'm not in a relationship and not seeking a serious one. If I'm already in a relationship it would depend on our level of commitment to each other and whether we have an open relationship. Will Smith and Jada Pinkett have an open marriage with an interesting twist. Either can sleep with whomever upon the other's approval of the extramarital partner.

  I understand that Smith and Penelope Cruz, co-stars in a recent movie, wanted to fuck. I don't know whether they did but, as I recall, Jada approved.

• Lioness said on Jul 14, 2007....

  Cam: too bad. lol
  
  Hi Dandy_Lion, cool nick. thanks for dropping by!
  
  What if you really wanted to have an FB and she does not approve? Will you continue having it without her knowing it? Will you agree if your significant other will have an FB?
  
  "Open marriage" is still taboo in our country, although I know some are secretly/discreetly doing it.
  

• Dandy_Lion said on Jul 14, 2007....

  Hello and thanks, Lioness. I guess we belong to the same pride. LOL. You can have flings outside of marriage, but will you ever be sated or will you be forever having flings? If you could fuck whoever you wanted whenever you wanted, would you--and should you? If you're married and want a fuck buddy how about instead using your sexual imagination and making your spouse your fuck buddy?

• Lioness said on Jul 16, 2007....

  dandy_lion, those are questions that needs deep thinking, I admit. There'll always be consequences, right? So I firmly believe that FBs are for single, unattached persons, not for married people. =)
  
  I wonder if there are any married people who still have flings? Hmmm..
  

• Dandy_Lion said on Jul 16, 2007....

  I agree that fuck buddies are for unattached singles. I think personals are a hot, fun way to meet fuck buddies. It's hot to be chatting with someone online or on a chat line at, say 9:30 p.m., and then be naked and having crazy sex with them by 10:30 p.m. I can tell you of some hot encounters I've had with women from personals.

• Lioness said on Jul 17, 2007....

  Dandy, I am sure those are interesting encounters. I guess all of us here are open to read what you have to say. *sits up straight*
  
  =)
  

• Dandy_Lion said on Jul 17, 2007....

  One woman I met on a phone chat line. We had phone sex briefly before exchanging numbers, and met about 45 minutes later. Just as we discussed, I waited nude in my living room for her and she came over with a bathrobe and nothing underneath. She was a pretty, dignified-looking woman in her late 30s. As soon as I let her in she dropped the robe and we were both nude, kissing in my living room. What a hot way to meet. We soon headed to my bedroom and 69'ed and fucked each other silly.

  Another time, I met a woman on that line. We chatted briefly and exchanged numbers. I went to her place about 30 minutes later. She let me in. We went to her bedroom, kissed and stroked. Eventually she was riding my hard dick and making noises like a mad woman as I sucked on her tits. She rode my dick as if it were a mechanical bull. It was noisy sex. This woman was horny. She hadn't had sex since her husband died in a car accident two years before. I agree with the country song lyrics, "lonely women make the best lovers."

• Lioness said on Jul 17, 2007....

  Whew! It's getting hot in here! LOL I suggest you write this in a post so that others could interact as well. I think it is interesting. =)
  
  I wonder if you ever met potential girls for a deeper relationship? I was asking Cam earlier if he ever fell in love with his FBs, and he said not. What can you say?
  

• Dandy_Lion said on Jul 17, 2007....

  I did describe some of these relationships briefly in "I Need A Woman." The grade school teacher was sweet, a really warm person, and had a nice butt and a tight pussy. Like me she loved to kiss and touch. It wasn't wild sex, but it was satisfying. I loved doing her doggy style as we tongue-kissed. She got off especially quick by lying sideways across my body and grinding her tight, wet pussy on my dick. It was also hot how her voice became a sweet whisper as we fucked. She couldn't decide what she wanted in a relationship. She was flighty, as people you meet in personals can be.

• Lioness said on Jul 17, 2007....

  Yeah, I came over to read your post. So, tell me, does personals meet or beat its real purpose?

• Dandy_Lion said on Jul 17, 2007....

  If you do want to get laid personals are a good place to look. Through personals chat or correspondence people can say what they might not say in other situations. It was fun to be on the phone chat line and say in my greeting that I'm nude and masturbating and then see what women responded. Quite a few would, and of those at least one would want to hook up. Even if they don't talk sexually with me but otherwise show interest they're indicating they're horny too. It's also interesting to think that if I had met these women in a social setting I met not suspect they were this way. I've met some rather conservative looking freaks. I'm getting horny thinking about it. I approach personals with an open mind. No, you won't find as many hot-looking women in personals as you might in a night club or other social setting, but women in personals are not all obese, frail, homely or weird either. Many women in personals are simply divorcees or widows returning to the dating world, professional women who are too busy to find men by other means or women in rural areas or other places where their dating prospects are limited.

• Lioness said on Jul 18, 2007....

  Hmmmm. what a revelation.  I believe this place abounds with  interesting people, as you have said. I hope you do not conclude that all women in personals are actually seeking FBs or fun. Maybe others are also looking for prospective partners in life? I've read not a few blogs stating that they've met their future partners thru the internet. 

• Dandy_Lion said on Jul 18, 2007....

  I know that many women in personals are seeking serious relationships. Of course, some too, are seeking "no-strings-attached" fun. I agree that SoulCast does have quite a few people of interest.

• Lioness said on Jul 19, 2007....

  Yeah, I agree with you. Everyone has his/her own purpose, and what better place to find future partners or partners in some activities if not in a place where you get to see their profiles and assess whether both have the same interests. Thanks for the input Dandy.

• CamDaMan20 said on Jul 19, 2007....

  Your going to be one smart kitty off the leash...hehe
  
  Cam.
  

• Lioness said on Jul 20, 2007....

  purrrrr........ =)

• wild-ting said on Oct 23, 2007....

  I'm in the "it depends" and "single" category.
  
  If I am attracted to the person and it's someone I know, I may be flattered. I would certainly want to question him about his expectations.
  
  I have had a fuck buddy. They are not one night stands or a fling. For me it was a sexual attraction. We had sex, it was good but we really had nothing in common except that we liked our encounter. We didn't travel in the same social circles nor were we at the same educational level and economic level. He was muscular and handsome. We held good conversations but nothing spectacular or deep. Over the year long period we learned about each other's lives, checked on each other, had dinner several times, and I would say even cared about each other.
  
  Our main reason for staying in each other's lives was to fuck. That's it. He had a live in girlfriend. I was not in a relationship but dating, and by the end of our "friendship" I entered into a relationship.
  
  My FB and I went clubbing together once a week and usually fucked. He'd get off work and call to come over...and we'd fuck and he'd leave. I'd call him on his days off and say come over and we'd fuck. I'd call him in the middle of the night horny as hell and tell him to come over....most of the time he complied and we fucked. No strings attached and good sex. Nice.
  
  -WT
  

• Lioness said on Oct 24, 2007....

  Hi WT, thanks for sharing your thoughts and related experience here. I know by reading this, one could take a glimpse on how such a relationship works and is sustained. So far, I have not heard ( I mean no one has commented) about having a bad experience regarding FBs.
  
  It's clear that it's a non-committal (open) relationship based on mutual trust and attraction that exists for a reason: pleasure.
  
  Now, I am wondering, how does this relationship end? When both are no longer interested, when the other has found another FB, hmmm.... Does it have to be based on mutual agreement,  or does it simply drift/fade away?? After it ends, what becomes of them? Friends? Acquaintance?
  

• destinydiva said on Dec 02, 2007....

  I have a fuck buddy, and its working out kinda well, we just get together whenever both of us are single, I have known him for years, I used to date his best mate when I was about 15!!
  
  we started out dating a few times, when my marriage first ended, ended up in bed, and tho we never really commited to each other we get together every now and then and hmm hmm hmm  :-)  we do get together and not shag...but not as often as we get together and shag!    we just wouldnt work in a relationship, he says I am far to independant for him he needs to be needed!! :-)
  we even laughed about us being 'fuckbuddies a few weeks ago which is why this post stood out when I was at your blog!
  
  
  I think if your single and you fancy him enough...why not?
  we have needs that need fulfilling :-)
  xx
  
  

• Lioness said on Dec 02, 2007....

  hi destiny, thanks for sharing your thoughts and experience.  I was smiling on the "...we just wouldnt work in a relationship, I am far too independent for him he needs to be needed!!"  (I can relate-- c",L*) Perhaps that 's the reason why some remain on that level, not wanting to go a step further. But if things would fall on the right place, will you be willing to cultivate a committed relationship with him? Hmmmm.....
  
  
  

• destinydiva said on Dec 03, 2007....

  no, I dont think I would, sometimes when you reach a certain kinda relationship with someone, its hard to let go of, we would start dating and then break up and wouldnt have what we have now.. and I dont wanna give up what we have now...
  :-) xx
  

• Lioness said on Dec 04, 2007....

  Nicely said...there's a saying that goes " there's no breakups in friendship, unlike in more intimate and committed relationships."
  
  Goodluck on your relationship, Des. :D

• celestialspace2001 said on Jan 11, 2008....

  Who's Buddy?
   
   
  Is there a pic?
   
  ;)
   
   

• Lioness said on Jan 14, 2008....

  Hi celestialspace, thanks for dropping by my blog! :D
  
  Who's Buddy? --- Yours, perhaps? If you have any FB experience, you can share it to us.
  
  Pic of whom?
  
  

• Knowledge_Lover said on Mar 01, 2008....

  Oh my, I personally don't think FB's work out because sex - physically - causes women to develope romantic feelings and attachments to their sex partner (just a chemical thing). Personally I know God ordained sex for marriage and only for marriage, but I'm not gonna even start to yell about that, more like - I'll show you that it doesn't work if I wanna do anything (better tactic I think - don't you?).

  Anyways, I'm just gonna answer the question that was asked, because I'm that cool (haha)...

  I would be a little upset - because he would be wanting sex without the strings, like wanting candy from a store without paying for it. I might be a little intrigued. I probably wouldn't do it, but would totally consider it in times when I was out of my mind... it happens a few times a month.

  :)

   

• Lioness said on Mar 02, 2008....

  Hi K_Lover, I wouldn't refute the fact that sex should be within the boundaries of the sacrament called marriage. However, it is a known fact that pre-marital sex, or whatever it is called abound because man is a sexual being. And this need seems to have become so in demand that even people without serious or deep relationships -- FBs do it for pleasure's sake.
  
  "Out of mind". Hmm...  Seems to me that once in a while, your mind is opening up to the idea. I am curious. LOL
  
  Thanks for sharing your thoughts, and yes, you're cool! :D
  

• brat4 said on Mar 18, 2008....

  i would like to have a fb just foir the sake of what it feels like being one
   
  its always ok for adventure sake >>>>>>>rathere than putting your tool into some dirty hole and get those ......STDs

• Lioness said on Mar 26, 2008....

  Thanks for dropping by and sharing your thoughts brat4, I see you are the adventurous kind of person.. The risk of having STDs is indeed high, geez, extra precautionary measures should be undertaken.
  
  
  

• littleangel862 said on Apr 19, 2009....

  yes, it would be an honor to have a friend as a fubu... I'm at that stage of working on my career, and having a steady lover, one who would long to be with me, would be quite pleasurable...i'm 46 and legally single, and would rather have someone who wants to see me on a regular basis, not one who goes from one partner to another...because even if i enjoy sex that much, i wouldnt want to get sick. I would be choosy though........not with the looks, but more with the attitude and way of thinking.....the man should not have this picture perfect figure in his head when he meets me ( coz there are some men who have so many physical requirements for their manhood to wake up), should at least be romantic and not the wham bam thank you mam type of guy, one who wants to have a long lasting relationship not only as a fubu but as a good and trusted friend, one who knows what he wants and goes for it, yet knows how to treat a woman the right way.

• Lioness said on Apr 27, 2009....

  hi littleangel, thanks for sharing your preferences, I bet you have found your "fubu " already? The way I see it, it's still a game of rules. :D 

• celestialspace2001 said on May 06, 2009....

  I've tried an oral sex buddy. It was awkward and had to stop 'cause he was begging to fuck me and it got too pathetic. I ended up "breaking his heart."

• Lioness said on May 07, 2009....

  hi celestialspace, so how long did this last?

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