I was just in the same situation as you were in and I felt the same way, but I prayed night after night and I went to class. I talked to my advisor and the department chairs. They gave me a chance 'cause I went to my advisor and talked her and she helped me out. I should've been put out of school, but God kept me in school and I am 1000% determined to graduate. Tonight, I am going to pray that they keep you in school and I want you to do the same. Queen, I know you are a beautiful and smart girl and you will get your education.
{{{{Queen Paronia}}}} IT's O.K.. Now pick yourself up by those boot straps and be the woman you want to be and that we know you can be. You rebound nicely so I know you can do it. Get off your booty and go apply for summer courses if they will allow you. Maybe you can salvage and shoot for a Jan. graduation and walk with the next class in the following June.
You know what you did wrong. Examine your trial and era,learning from your mistakes is what life is all about. As Jay says:"Keep it focused man" and you will get where your trying to soon enough. All in due time my little grass hopper all in due time. And stop thinking of it as waisted time. The reward out weights the risks. And your reward will be an excellent education when you pull this off.
queen: i agree with vicarious. there is a big difference in failing and being a failure.
don't count how many times you have failed.
instead, learn from your mistakes by figuring out a way to do better next time.
msbradford: thank you. i its hard to accept the fact that you fail in your studies. especially if you expected so much from yourself taht you will suceed.
wombat: thank you =)
polar: forgiving myself is really hard because i expected so much from me. but i know i will recover from this and i know God has plan for me. thank you for your kind words. your such an angel.
insanityupsidedown: thanks. i'll remember that.
ed: i cram. i only study when the exam will be on the next day. kinda stupid dont you think??? i know its y fault and i accpet that.
skald: thanks dear.
vicarious: yeah i know we all fail on something. i just cant beilieve i hit my lowest. but i know i'll recover. thank you.
HH: its different here in the philippines. especially for my course. they only offer it once year since only few students take it. but thank you dear.
secret: yeah i know. its just hard to accept i failed three times. once is okay, twice its my fault, three times i'm really fucked up and so stupid. thanks anyway.
ate papel: grabe naka abs cbn ka pala. salamat sa pagbabasa ng pst ko. at salamat nakatulong ang magagandang salita mo. maraming salamat aking ate. at ang gaga ko dahli naman ako woring student. maginhawa nga buhay ko dahil wala akon problema kindi pag aaral ko lang. ang tamad at istupida ko lang kasi. pero wag kang mag alala makakabangon rin ako.
rmuxagirl.: thank you dear. the problem dear is me not them. they are great teachers. i'm just a bad listener and i'm oo lazy to study. but given another chance i'll do my best next time.
kruu:thanks for the video. it ade me smile today. thank you! =)
oh Queen....it's going to be alright....do you know what my job entails....advising students...and handling their paperwork and with part of that is encouraging them on how they can meet their success's while staying sane. I work at a university. So this week is advising week. I've seen students this week in your same shoes. I know how difficult this can be. But you cannot give up.
Sometimes we make the same mistakes over and over and we wonder why on earth something like that could happen. It totally mortifies us. Later we can look back and say I still don't know why that turned out like that but here's what I learned. That I'm stronger than I think I am. I will give you a personal example. I have been married three times. I'm really embarassed about that. Am I pro-divorce? NO absolutely not. Do I think it's the answer when a marriage gets rocky? TOTALLY NOT. I'm horrified to even admit it to people. Worse yet when I was going through it all I was really hard on myself. I couldn't believe me...the girl that was so into romance and love and family and traditions etc could be twice divorced. My poor children. :(
Alas....I have learned to let it go. It is part of who I am and has made me a stronger person. I have learned from those experiences and I don't talk down to myself any longer. We are our own worst critics. That negative talking in our heads can be the most devastating of all. The terrible things we think about. I have given all of that up because you know what. I am worth more than that. I am better than all of that. Those are just details. Crappy stuff happens to every single one of us honey. Every one of us. It's just different crappy stuff. Read my post from yesterday....man I didn't even go into all of it but I was hugely stressed out over some things....some of it has been going on a while...and it feels like it will never end. But I have faith that it will all work out!
Try not to give up on yourself darlin! your a great person with HUGE potential.....this is making you the strong girl that you are....you can get through this.
Love
Miss
Queen- get the word failure out of your head. You are NEVER a failure unless you quit. You are not stupid. What you did can be fixed. You need to put your studies first before SC. Make your school work your top priority, remember how bad you feel so that you don't make the same mistake and succeed, it is within your power to succeed. You are not a failure or stupid.
*hugs*
You've gotten some great advice in here queen. You gave yourself some great advice too...just let go of the negativity and accept your own challenge! I take it that you have already been given the opportunity to repeat previously failed courses, to remove the old grade? Did you do it three times? There is only one other option, but you had better make sure that you are ready for it. There can be exceptions made for students that show that they are serious.
I haven't worked at a university for almost twenty years, but they are usually pretty slow to change in their governing rules. You may, possibly, be able to petition the Dean of your college, to remove a block of bad grades, if it was due to depression or some real health problem. It wouldn't work unless you were sincere though, and had some proof.
Otherwise, you will just have to knuckle under and finish up, in whatever way you can. There are always options. Do you have a mentor at the university? Someone that is really in your corner, to do their best to make sure that you succeed? If you don't have one, find one. They can make all the difference.
My mentor intervened for me twice, in situations that to me, seemed impossible.
You will make it. Gather your moxie and your humility and get the help you need to succeed. You go girl.
truthsayer
look,i know it's hard....very very hard...i've been in the same boat as you around 2-3 years ago.....but you see,this is one of life's challenge...life is a war and it's very important that you fight it,not brutally but wisely......failure occurs to everyone and it's the first step of success...look at thomas alva edison(that guy who create lightbulb)he failed 9999(some say even more)but in the end he passed...yeah,maybe he's a genius and stuff,but everybody has his/her own strength...i know you've blown tour last chance,but it's not the end of the world....maybe you could continue yoiur study somewhere & use the chance you've got to excel.focus on your study & minimize other activity....when you are studying other stuff may look appealing,but it's nothing really...other people may laugh at you but once you've graduated you will be the one laughing...
look,it's not worth it if you kill yourself...life is full of chance and you just have to grab one and eventually everything is going to be fine...if you want to chnage your life,just try...somehow you'll manage it...dont commit suicide,you'll gain nothing and lose evrything....and think abou your family and loved ones,failing you exam may make them feel let down,but if you no longer alife,how would they feel?
everybody have their own problem,but not everyone choose to kill themselves in the end...you'll make your way out of this,im really really sure..just be strong inside,keep your mind on studies,dont take drugs,live life to the fullest and see everything on the positive perspective....it'll help you...
i wish all the best,an dmay God bless you..(^_^)
Ok! sinabi na nila lahat :)
I'm here just to give you hugs {{ hugs hugs hugs hugs....... }}
listen to them. Failing doesn't necessarily mean you're a failure as a person.
Pick yourself up, which I know you already did, then go on.
skald: youre words maybe simple but it helps a lot. thanks.
mobil: i know i can't blame anyone but myself over this. and if given another chance i'll do my best.
frontanact: thanks for the advice i'll keep that on my mind.
momsrock: hi dear. hey thanks for pointing that out. youre right. i wont give up on this.
CamDaman20: hey that's a good point.i think.
CW: i actually gain some weight because i have been stressing out. and all i do is eat. by the way how's youre business?
agentpit: really? well glad it turns out well for you...
botoni: my new friend. thank you.
mom: dont worry i love soulcast but its not my top priority. remember i took days off from soulcast just to study. thanks anyway...
lioness: ang sakit nga lang kung ilang beses ka na nagfailed di ba? pero ate salama sa iyong suporta.
truthsayer: i'm sorry but its different here in our school. i cant explain them all cuz it takes so many space. anyway i dont have a teache to guide. teachers hates me here.
hotaka: thanks for those words. maybe their something out there for me. who knows? the problem with me is i'm frustrated easily and i beat my self up on this.
faithfuldisciple: true fighter... wow i never thought of that. maybe i am. maybe i'm just waiting to get out...
jad_hamizan: i wont kill myself. i think suicide is a way cowards do. i'm not ready to give up.
yani: luvs you my ate. huhuhuhu sana kasing talino kita...=)
lambovet:wow... really. i'll read your blog later. you osund interesting.
ed: i dont know if that would help...