• momsrock said on Mar 13, 2007....

  I would see a doctor.... see if it is common or if there is something you can do to get back to normal. And if you have the same doctor that I do, just seeing him will put you back in the mood.

• botoni said on Mar 13, 2007....

  Welcome.........You re totally right not a normal soul here.  I ve checked the lot.  Trust me we re all just seconds from the looney bin.  Your in great company.
   
  86 days!  Wonderful!  Keep up the great work!.....I m with momsrock.....check with the doc.

• anonymous said on Mar 13, 2007....

  Hey join the club! howeber I will tell you this : your sex drive is still around, you need stimulation and inspiration from someone that exites you to wake it back up....

• MissMimi said on Mar 14, 2007....

  Tori, welcome to SoulCast! And huge congratulations on 86 days' sobriety! Good for you! mr's advice is sound. Or if you're in a 12-step program, and there's someone with whom you feel comfortable, or if you have a counselor, maybe they have some wisdom on the subject.

• ALIENated said on Mar 14, 2007....

  You just need to get all your systems back up online. I stopped drinking
  almost 20 years ago. Best thing I ever did. Now I am horney all the time.
  I was horney all the time before I stopped drinking, too. I think a big
  part of sex is mental. You have probably burned out a lot of brain cells
  with alcohol and the remaining part of your brain is concentrating on the
  chore of giving up alcohol. Try to get your mind off booze and onto
  something else. Seeing a doctor might also be a good idea as mentioned
  above. I used to do a lot of jogging and exercise to sweat out the
  impurities, and it is also good for the mind. 
  
  

• Torilicious said on Mar 14, 2007....

  Thanks for the helpful words and ideas, all....i talked to my sponsor about this, as well as a couple of others in the program, and i guess its pretty common...but FFS i am ready to feel horny again!! LOL....Yeah, i burned out alotta brain cells in my many many years of hardcore drinking, hell, maybe i burned out my body too...hmmm....i will take you up on the doctor idea, tho...a suggestion was also made that taking male hormone supplements might help my libido.  Thanks again to everyone...have a wondrous fantastic spring day!!  Tori
  
  PS..momsrock...send me your doc's number...ROTFLMFAO!!!!!!!!!!
  

• gingersoul said on Mar 14, 2007....

  Tori, welcome here.
  Feel proud of yourself each second of your new sober you. You are doing great!
  Dont worry about your sex life. It will come back. At your age your body just needs some time for compensating the hard load you put on...and yes, go to Moms doctor ......she has turned in a horny hottie since then...LOL..
   
  Stay positive and watch your favorite actors, listen to some sexy music, even some adult movies might set your mood.....
  but most of all.......breathe and feel alive.
   
  Best wishes .....:-)
   
  Psst: love your nickname. In another site my name was Tori.

• secretlife said on Mar 14, 2007....

  welcome to soulcast and congratulations on 86 days! 

  i think your body just is working extra hard right now staying sober, and eventually you will go back to normal with all of your drives.

  so give it time, hang in there, and good luck!

• satyr said on Mar 14, 2007....

  Tori - 86 days - congratulations - and welcome to SoulCast.  Some of the erotica written here might help bring your libido back, but contacting the doc isn't a bad idea either.

• husbandhater said on Mar 14, 2007....

  Welcome to Sc and congrats on the 86 days. I'm almost 30 and my sex drive is down in the crapper and thats with sobriety so I don't know. Maybe you are a little depressed or overwelmed by your predicament? I love my hubby but don't want it near me either.lol When you find something let me know I could use it, my hubby would certainly love it!

• anonymous said on Mar 14, 2007....

  I'm 42 and sober as well. My PCP prescribed me Welbutrin and she said that, that would help me in that area. I've noticed that I go in stages now and I've been with my guy for 17 years. Even though we had crazy long sex when I was using baaaad stuff, I wouldn't trade it for what I have today. For women it's so emotional, and my sweetie & I connect on a whole nother level,,,,but he does get concerned when I don't want to have sex for a week. :^)

• lioneljay said on Mar 14, 2007....

  Welcome to SC, Tori. I've no experience with your circumstances but I suspect that Secretlife and others are correct in suggesting that your body is prioritizing its energy toward keeping your sobriety for the moment.
  
  I'm sure that things will return to a good balance in due time.
  

• bajangal7 said on Mar 15, 2007....

  Congratulations on your sobriety!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 
  Don't worry about the sex drive.  I am in that boat with you and I don't drink.  I think from what I have been reading and my own experience that it is mostly stress related.  It seems as though most women have issue with their sex drive and alcohol or lack of has nothing to do with it.   I am sure just as the switch was turned off it will be turned back on.

• frontanack said on Mar 20, 2007....

  Milk thistle.. in caplets... it will help heal the liver.  Congrats on quitting the alcohol.  Sex is so much more fun when you are not dizzy in the process.  I would not want alcohol or drugs to interfere with that in any way.  Good luck on your recovery!!  Look forward to many moments meeting here. 

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