She........i love challenges too. And, like you, if somebody tells me no....its then that i start my engines. With my jobs it worked many times in giving me the boost to upgrade my professionality, with the daily challenges of life it gives me that adrenaline rush i need to face the problem and eventually fixed it.
When something is fobidden i reach my hand to it....
In love i have to admit that when i was younger i seduced more than one men only because of the challenge of it.....yes, also married men...i am not proud of it..
You might give this quality a negative consideration because maybe you used it mostly in a sexual way. But the root of it is good. Its positive to be challenged by difficulties instead than being crushed by them.
the fact you used this "power" in a way you dont feel comfortable with anymore its a sign you know there at that time there was a deep missing in your soul.... It was your desire to be chosen, valued, accepted, the need of feel special, so special that no man could resist you and would choose you instead than another woman..
Its a dangerous power and feeling..it can make you do anything just for succeed...
Now that i am wiser (hahaha) and burned by my last experience involving this sex battle (battle that i have lost......i am talking about my marriage) i had to face the fact that other women use my same weapon but.....against me.....and a lot dirtier than i could ever imagined....
i understand how sad all of this can be, how full of wrong actions and susceptible only to bring pain in people's life.......
Guess my karma hit me good.....:-)