My husband passed away on July 19th 2006. I was a bright sunny day but due to the circumstances I remember it as a dark day.We were five days into our two week family vacation and having the time of our lives. We were in penticton BC where they have two lakes and there was one particular lake my husband enjoyed swimming in. Anyways on the fifth day my mom insisted on going to lake skaha and my husband wasn't to keen on the idea but my mom pushed us to go to this lake so we went to that lake she said it was warmer then the other one we had been accustomed to. My mom didn't have a bathing suit so she dropped us off and went shopping. So here we were dropped off we went to find a spot to put our belongings on and get ready to go in. So we got ready to go in the lake we put our son's safety vest on and his little dingy and my husband and son took off a head of me because they were eager to go swimming and I was a little whimp with the cold water. So I was inching my way in and my husband was already out and submerged into the water .  All of a sudden I heard my husband calling my name and I had looked up and to my dismay my husband was flailing his arms at that point I assumed he was playing some water games with my son until I heard call for me some more so I braved the coldness of the water to get to him and my son when I got there my husband had pushed my son out to me and began to panick some more. I had relized he hit a dip in the lake and didn't know how to swim himself out of there I kept shouting at him to tread water but I could see that he was getting quite tired and I was holding my son there was not much I could do. I tried reaching for him and grabbing himI couldn't reach him from where I was and I didn't want to put my self or my son in any danger at that time I had started to panick I didn't know what to do so I started screaming for help and people started rushing to our assistance and led my son and I out of the water while the other people tried rescueing him. I was in major shock as to what was happening I just couldn't believe it never in my life did I ever think something like this could happen to me. Everyone kept asking me questions about my husband to keep me distracted and someone had called 911 the people helping with the rescue were having a hard time finding my husband it took them 5 minuites ti find him and bring him out of the water. They said he had a pulse when they pulled him out. Some people starting performing cpr on my husband until the ambulance came and they had rushed him to the hospital . The people that were with me bless their soles brought me to the hospital. When I got there the paramedic came and found me and told me the docter wanted to talk to me. I was like ok they are going to tell me he survived and that they wanted to keep him overnight for observation but that wasn't the case he came in and told me they tried everything they could do but he didn't survive. He also asked me if I wanted to see him. I was very worried because my mom was out shopping I wasn't sure shed would get the message that we were here. It was very hard to deal with everything all at once. I held my husbands hands and I still couldn't believe he was gone because I could still feel his presence was around even at this time I never shed a tear it took along time for me to register that he was gone and never comming back. My son and I had lost alot that day. The hospital staff had asked if I wanted to call his family back in edmonton they said if I wasn't up to it that the could do it. I couldn't imagine my inlaws hering from the hospital it was to impersonal as hard as it was to do it. I didn't want to stay in penticton even one more minituite I wanted out but I didn't want to leave untill my husbands body had left after we came down as a family so I wanted to leave as a family. I had no idea what to do about funerals. So my inlaws stepped in and helped out financialy and with the planning of the funneral. I only got to pick so much. The casket he was burried in and the church to do it in. And how we arrived at the cemetary. No one had really talked about finances and if i was able to afford such and expensive funeral. My brother inlaws tried helping me find out about the insurance. They also tried helping me get the insurance. Then oneday they decided to have a family metting about the finances and I was feeling abit uneasy about going but I went to show them that I am a grown woman and not affraid to face things. I wasn't ready to make any decisions and they wanted to push me to make rash decisions they did that with everything. So everything fell apart that day. Then my aunt inlaw started contacting me and bit by bit everyone else but my mother inlaw. I believe she still believes I killed and cheated on her son.